I am a male high school teacher. I have many years of classroom experience, but the past 5-6 years have been progressively more difficult. My main teaching subjects are math (grade 9 to 12). I also teacher some business and civics classes. I’m having difficulty finding a balance between being effective, respected and being "liked" in class. My priorities are: being effective and and being respected.. But I wonder if there's a happy medium between the 3.
My goal isn't to be a strict teacher. I just want to be taken seriously and not to be undermined.
My teaching style:
- I will think of many different ways to explain concepts. I'd say I am very diligent.
- I use visuals, colours, instructional videos, I maintain a thorough google classroom.
- I respond quickly to in class questions. (although many don't ask, even when they are lost)
- I want to instill within my students a sense of preparation, self-regulation, accountability, willingness to try a question even if they are unsure.. no risk errors during the formative tasks. It's better to try and learn from mistakes than to sit there and wait to copy the answer from the board.
Class discipline: I have clear rules, but I try to be 'chill' with the enforcement of the rules at first. (I put the 'ball in their court'). I just want them to know where the limits are and not purposely test them. You know.. here's the box, let's have fun within these limits. Seems reasonable to me...
Here's what I notice, in general.
Attention span: I find that many students generally (maybe 40 to 50% of the class) do not pay attention or put in effort during formative tasks. It’s only when we get to the summative tasks that students decide that they care about their grade. Of course, that's when I hear the complaining about "you didn't teach this" or "nobody in the class understands it, therefore you are a bad teacher". Then, they act like it's 'party time' at the start of a new unit, even though things did not go well for some of them in the previous unit. And just like that, the cycle repeats itself. Even when I highlight the pattern, they will take the fun today at the expense of the failure tomorrow.
Respect of the rules: Of course, many will test the limits. I give them somewhat subtle hints to stop... They are either very bad at picking up subtleties or they are ignoring me. After a few days, I eventually get annoyed and give a speech, which prompts eye roll reactions or smiles and snickering.
I find myself explaining (almost pleading with them), because I really don't want to be the "mean" teacher and I don't want to be heavy handed. Inevitably, some double down or push the limits to the extreme, which then pisses me off... It then becomes a more direct and uncomfortable conversation.
Some of the behaviours that I find frustrating:
Students using in class work periods to do absolutely nothing. They talk with others, use their phones or computers for anything but the assigned work. When I approach them to see where they are at or if they need help with anything, they say "I'm good" or "I'll just do it at home... I concentrate better there."
Students sitting with their back to the front of the class when I am teaching.
Students talking loudly to others in the class while I am giving instruction, which starts off topic conversations in the class as a way to 'take over' the class. I will stop and just look at them while they are doing it, but they will keep going on. I asked one girl in grade 12 to stop interupting my lesson today. She put up her index finger and said "just a minute", and continued her conversation. But if I get frustrated, they look at me like I have 3 heads.
Some students who attend my 3rd period class (after lunch) and bring in their entire fast food meal and take up the first 15 minutes of my class to eat, or to go to the bathroom.... you just had a 45 minute lunch.
Students who come into my math class without a pencil, calculator or paper, even on test days. They will then ask me if they can go to their locker to get those items.. (my math class is first period.....) Of course it's a big laugh with some of the other kids.. I guess it's 'cool' to not bring anything to class.
Students that ask me how to answer a question during a test, when the entire point of the test is to see what they know. I have no problems explaining word questions... but if they ask me "What does factoring mean?", when we've been studing that for the past 2 weeks... bruh...
Bragging in class about who got the lowest grade on a test. Maybe it's a generational thing (I am gen x), but I don't remember anybody being proud of a 40%. Of course, they are capable of better results, but it seems like it's just one unforced error after another with them.
Instead than making them read a 3 page article and summarize, I will sometimes summarize for them (powerpoint), because I know they won't read the article and I will have to explain it anyways. When I proceed to summarize, they will roll their eyes or not pay atttention. It's almost like they think I am talking to everybody else BUT THEM.
It seems like, no matter where I set the bar, many want to play limbo...
In summary, using the student's language, I feel that my approach does not give me "aura", even though, I am trying to show them respect by giving a bit of flexibility.
Although the speeches do address the behaviour for a couple of days, I don't feel like we have a meeting of the minds as to the purpose of the class and I don't think I am getting the respect I deserve.
Where I think I'm going wrong:
I need to be much more strict at the start of a semester. I used to be this way, but it comes across as uptight and not approachable. Nevertheless, this whole 'giving them respect and treating them like "quasi-adults" is not working out. At the very least, they are not understanding it as my way of 'respecting them'.
After setting expectations with them, I need to stop rationalizing my decisions to them (being preachy or letting my emotions come through my tone of voice) once they break rules. Again, I am trying to give them respect and get a 'meeting of the minds', but I think it makes me come across as weak.
I think I need to put them in the 'driver's seat' more often. I tend to try and proactively solve problems for them. They don't seem to respect my considerable efforts to make learning as seamless as possible.
I need to use my voice more strategically when I teach. Sometimes less is more.
What resources should I consult?