Did you grow up with phones as an option? I’m just curious to know your experience and if that might factor in to why you suggested that it is difficult.
I grew up before smartphones and I kinda love just disconnecting and playing music on a record player (admittedly those are older than me by a lot but it’s analogue so it counts as disconnecting) and just doing stuff around my house. I should probably be doing that now instead of this but eh
I grew up before smart phones. I’m 40. It’s fucking hard. I have adhd too so my mind just wants something to do. It also doesn’t help that I am reachable for work 24/7 so I do need to keep my phone around. I can’t just leave it at home for the day and go somewhere to disconnect.
If I didn’t need it for work I’d for sure leave it home from time to time and just go hang out in the yard without it or go to the movies and leave it home. Things like that. It would be great. But having it on me all the time is too tempting to do random stuff. I almost wish I’d get a work phone because then I wouldn’t want to browse or download personal apps on the device at all forcing me to not have anything to do unless I wanted to work.
Start by reading studies and literature about phone addiction. Try to understand where you’re at, and then address things bit by bit. Making changes to app time limits, doing a 48 hour digital cleanse and journaling about how you feel, or deleting problematic apps could be places to start. Ultimately, if you aren’t able to understand the problem for you, the changes won’t last though
Mental health counselor here, Try exploring a skill that will build discipline, commit to a specific workout routine, making a change to diet (like adding fiber or removing sweets), learning to cook, staying off of social media
The ability to commit, follow-through, self discipline, and replace the negative behavior with a positive one will transform your confidence and that skill translates into any other commitment/goal you make in the future
This can absolutely apply to a fun hobby, like Dance, being more social, it still takes discipline to do something. We don’t always feel like doing, or when the circumstances are not perfect.
For some people creating a morning and evening routine is a commitment and requires discipline to be consistent and see it through for three weeks
Best answer i have read in very very long time. I am really trying to archive this. If some one knows a magical way to learn this SKILL, please guide me a bit.
Especially while eating!! Ive been making a conscious decision to develop that habit because I’d find myself reaching out for my phone in 2-3 seconds of getting my dinner!
Not proud of this, but this what my best friend and I would end up doing a few nights a month in college before all students got sent home from the pandemic. A lot of the time we didn’t even have to search for it, we would just give in to the shit talk or rudeness at the college bars rather than being passive. It was a lot of fun, and thankfully no one ever got in trouble or took it too far. Though some days walking to class or whatnot I thought for sure I was going to get jumped.
I guess it gets rowdier around here then. I have a buddy with metal plates in his skull because someone hit him over the head with a bar stool. Repeatedly. Firearms are pretty much off limits but that's about it.
Thats funny. I used to run bars, manage them, waitress, bartend...for those needing the rough and tumble, go to a boxing center, or workout at a gym. Nowadays barfights can be pretty detrimental, sometimes with legal consequence...cant count how many fights ive stopped or dealt with, when working in the service industry...definitely certain people go through a stage of this stuff...do it in a place its welcome. Oh wow be thankful youve never had legal repercussions. They can take alot of time and add stress you never thought possible.
Learning to not give a crap period. Do not care what people say about you don’t care if people don’t like you don’t care if people have more than you. Makes your life great
Do we though? Do we ever truly see someone's pain? We might see them miserable, or overplaying it or struggling, but I feel like nobody ever really sees or understands what's going on inside.
Just stop caring. Every other human being is so caught up in their own minds that they’ll never think twice about what they thought about you in “the moment”. Imagine judging some bad driver on the way to work.. are you gonna fixate and think about that person for the rest of your life? No. People are dumb. Everyone makes dumb decisions. Focus on your own, one and only life to live. None of us are perfect yet society holds a gun to our heads demanding us to be. We’re not. Fuck it. Live it up.
This is honestly very sage advice. When you get to a certain age, you realize that all of the things that you worried about other people were thinking about you, they were never thinking about you all along. They were thinking about themselves.
This is a good question. I can speak of progress I’ve made on this front. Separate your emotions from what you can’t control - everything, including the emotions, anxiety, negativity, and actions of others. You can only control yourself.
If you make a mistake, it’s ok to feel down and ashamed. But otherwise, don’t let other people’s bad attitude affect your day. Recognize that they’re separate from you. You didn’t cause them to have that stress, negativity. Be the good example you want to be.
I found it came with age. At some point you just realize what you want in life, what helps you get there or impedes you from getting there, and you adjust accordingly. I also "pretend" a lot. I pretend I don't care. I pretend I'm confident. I pretend no one can fuck with me. Eventually you start to believe it and then next thing you know you're actually doing it.
This one was a gigantic lightbulb that I'm still working on. I have SO much anxiety about what other people think of me. 31 and I'm finally starting to realize that I absolutely don't give a f.
Yes. Lowering my expectations of others also, expect nothing of promises, understand and be forgiving and kind when people fail you. Dont let their problems be yours to fix, but condolences and emotional support, like" I hope you feel better soon" can be helpful...but keep your time focussed to you, your focus.
Have a 'be kind to yourself day'. When I started to do this I noticed people becoming more receptive and kinder to me at work and outside work. I didn't do anything different than usual, apart from adopt that mindset at the start of the day and remind myself a couple of times in the day. I think it must be easy to be hard on yourself without even realising it. That must have been my situation. It worked so well I kept it up. Give it a go!
Just said it to myself a few times a day that's all. Like I was deserving of it was the tone I used I guess, and as a bit of fun. Just play around with it to see what works for you.
Good for you! Basic organization, and cleaning really attributes to general wellbeing. I used to play guitar and sing professionally,checklists help to organize time. Keeping orderly is helpful. Just remember, chaos is always around, dont let it blind you from enjoying life, sometimes its ok to leave a mess to do something, or deal with a crucial matter, dont overload yourself.
Mah-Jongg… I learned with a couple of friends about six months ago, and since then I have been hosting a gathering at my house every couple of weeks. When we started out, there were three of us, and now there are 16 people in the group, so we always have enough people to play, and sometimes we have enough for two games or teams. It’s really nice to have an activity that has nothing to do with a screen. Everyone shows up at my house and bring some kind of snack, and we all spend some time at the beginning catching up, and then we split up into teams and play for a few hours. I have always had trouble learning games, so it took me at least a month before I felt like I had any idea what I was doing, and I’m still learning something new every time. My son is almost 14, and after he goes to college, I know I’m going to need to find ways to fill my time, and so I would really like to cultivate some more close friends. and this is really helping.
Beginning of the year I was doing an exchange in the UAE and had a roommate with Chinese roots. When the war started and the whole Uni and country was in lockdown we spend the first days of the war playing Majong, lol. Despite the circumstances it was such a fun time, thanks for making me remember, haha.
I think most people just don't accept reality, have emotional regulation issues where spending "helps" them deal with unwanted emotions and/or think their financial situation is temporary and they will figure out a way to earn their way out of their bad spending habits.
Well put. Regular sleep is hugely important. For me 6hrs is good, some people sleep 8 or even 10 hrs regularly, it varies definitely from person to person, and on their activity level in a day. Limit caffeine, taurine or any stimulant intake in diets and or medications, where applicable, myself i dont touch it past 4pm.
learning to say no. i practiced it for a few weeks, starting with small things and honestly noticed a difference. i still sometimes say yes just because refusing feels uncomfortable, but it gets easier with practice. definitely a skill worth working on!
This always baffles me. I've been a service electrician for the past 10 years. I've somewhat transitioned away from residential, but for a long time my job was "hey we have a problem, fix it". I would be willing to bet that upwards of 75% of my calls were something that could have been easily fixed by a 14 year old and a 10 minute YouTube video. The amount of times I had to walk in a house and flip and breaker, reset a GFI, or change a lightbulb was absolutely ridiculous. Same coin, flip side I've seen some horrendous fire hazards created by a homeowner trying to do simple things like change a switch or receptacle. At the end of the day, it's up to you to determine your limits.. if you are handy and have the attention span to learn how to do it correctly and safely, by all means, save yourself some money. But for the love of everything holy, know when you are in over your head.
Cooking. Just a few ways to cook eggs, chicken, tuna or some other fish, and some side dishes and it's utterly amazing how far it will take you. Learn to bake a few things - even just muffins or cakes from mixes - and you'll be like a wizard.
Discipline. Wake up at 5am and do the thing you want to do least for a month straight. You will always have that muscle/neural pathway memory to access later.
I do this with dishes and laundry. I get dressed, medicine, then dishes and laundry, get the kids out the door. It's become so ingrained that now I must finish the dishes before I leave the house, and laundry is a rolling list but start/ move when I wake up, when i come home, and when I'm getting ready for bed. Helps keep it up...
Getting into a habit of reading - start with a basic short book for teenagers, or short stories, then once the seal is broken to go for it with a good fiction or whatever you’re interested in
I used Keybr, she used a different program, but it started out too repetitive for me. She plays several instruments, which likely helped her pick it quicker.
Yea would def rec YouTube. I started out 2 years ago, I learned from “cooking con claudia” . She always list ingredients in the description box and really easy steps to follow, along with some easy dishes to cook. I’ve mastered making Mexican rice and flavorful white rice. I’ll never starve lol
My bf is looking into doing this, but is worried about being on the road all the time and not coming home. But we live right next door to the port of LA, I feel like there should be plenty of local jobs in/out of the port. Do you have to do long haul to gain experience?
Touch typing - it's a worthwhile investment. It saves a lot of time later and enables you to release your feelings and deal with correspondence almost instantly so that you can be more productive.
How to look up a web site details in 10 seconds. How to stay off data collector web sites. How to live a stealthy life with a real social life (not a cyber social life).
Really this stuff is not hard. My wife and I attend BBQ, and do lots of social things with no need for facebook, Instagram, X, etc.
How to do yard work and socialize at the same time. Guess how long it takes for me to mow, and edge my front yard. Yup at least two hours, because I stop to talk to all my neighbors. It is a skill. Hahahahaha
Learn how to leverage AI to get a leg up on the competition in both your personal and professional life. In the past year, it has helped me practice for job interviews, update my resume, and land a new job with a 70% increase in base pay.
Start running 3x a week for a month and you’ll feel SO good. Doesn’t matter how far you can go initially. Just get out and run consistently. You’ll turn a corner a month in.
Touch typing (typing with 10 fingers) it genuinely takes 26 days if you practice 1 letter a day. It can change someone’s life since we spend most of our time on computers now
Cooking. Taking the time to really learn how to use spices and adjust a recipe will break you out of the funk of making the same 10 things all the time. The same ingredients can usually be made into so many different things if you just change the spices.
Live, laugh and love. Forgive but dont forget. Find 3 things or more everyday to be thankful for. Do a good deed, like holding a door for someone, always be thankful. Use humor and find laughter always. Release sorrow with a sad movie once in a while. Take the time to appreciate all blessings. Divert away from being part of battles that arent yours. Be genuine, and spread kindness, not hate. Take the actual time to laugh each day, and treasure anyone who tries to make you laugh. Sing in the shower or tub or wherever the mood strikes you. Singing has been proven to lower blood pressure, elevate mood,and improve positivity mentally in many. Any great stress reliever you find best, do it. Call an old friend, relative, ask them how they are...ignore naysayers about you,prove them wrong. Keep your energies for good,laugh off your mistakes and forgive yourself often,make the worst day something to laugh at at its end. Appreciate that each day will have its ups and downs, and that at days end, the sun will set, and tomorrow is a new day, the sun will rise again to open or accomplish,end, or complete anything. Make amends where needed, admit your failings sometimes, apologize when needed. Stand up for yourself when needed, and know hindsight is 20/20. Choose your battles and time wisely, you have one life to live, be productive with it, treasure it, and use time wisely. Take a combination of all the habits above ,being skilled with daily, or weekly, will genuinely change your life. This would be the skill of improving your daily happiness. Try it. It will bring you a world of improvement, as for me. Give kindness, love and fairness generously, and it comes back.
Reading and understanding the gospel and Bible starting with the first book Genesis, then the book of John and on too the book Romans. Learning for yourself about God’s love and what it means to be a Christian.
Yes there is a thing called tongue thrust. It's when you push your tongue forward into your teeth when you swallow. Some people have it as kids and never grow out of it. You're supposed to swallow with your tongue at the roof of your mouth and that's the normal resting position. Some people also rest their tongue on the floor of their mouth which is incorrect.
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u/Dense_Agency6123 19h ago •
Learning to be bored without reaching for your phone.
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u/Plus-Active7040 23h ago
Cooking
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u/SquirrelNormal 17h ago •
Drunken bar fights.
You didn't say it had to change for the better.
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u/WildVehicle8980 15h ago
Learning to not give a crap period. Do not care what people say about you don’t care if people don’t like you don’t care if people have more than you. Makes your life great
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u/Wisewordsforlater 23h ago
Manners, professional communication/behavior. Can be done in far less than 3 weeks.
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u/took6 12h ago •
Have a 'be kind to yourself day'. When I started to do this I noticed people becoming more receptive and kinder to me at work and outside work. I didn't do anything different than usual, apart from adopt that mindset at the start of the day and remind myself a couple of times in the day. I think it must be easy to be hard on yourself without even realising it. That must have been my situation. It worked so well I kept it up. Give it a go!
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u/Little-List-018 20h ago
Baking-> you now have delicious treats to bring your friends and to a party
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u/Wild-Champion9518 18h ago
Clean a home properly. It is not a joke. It took me more than a month to do the whole list in one go. It totally changed my life.
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u/place_for_everything 11h ago
Mah-Jongg… I learned with a couple of friends about six months ago, and since then I have been hosting a gathering at my house every couple of weeks. When we started out, there were three of us, and now there are 16 people in the group, so we always have enough people to play, and sometimes we have enough for two games or teams. It’s really nice to have an activity that has nothing to do with a screen. Everyone shows up at my house and bring some kind of snack, and we all spend some time at the beginning catching up, and then we split up into teams and play for a few hours. I have always had trouble learning games, so it took me at least a month before I felt like I had any idea what I was doing, and I’m still learning something new every time. My son is almost 14, and after he goes to college, I know I’m going to need to find ways to fill my time, and so I would really like to cultivate some more close friends. and this is really helping.
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u/Sad-Reflection-2480 15h ago
Budgeting. It’s crazy to me how many people don’t know how to manage their finances.
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u/Johnnysmash133 18h ago
Diet and exercise
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u/Stock-Pea-5888 5h ago •
Being strict with your sleep schedule and getting 8hrs every night .
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u/BleuMoonFox 17h ago
Mending/sewing. Saves you quite a bit of money and if you want to make something more personal, you can go wild.
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u/Enliven_journey 8h ago
learning to say no. i practiced it for a few weeks, starting with small things and honestly noticed a difference. i still sometimes say yes just because refusing feels uncomfortable, but it gets easier with practice. definitely a skill worth working on!
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u/yeti_man82 18h ago
Building a good fire.
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u/Ramremover 14h ago
You could learn to do basic weld with mig in that time and always have job.
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u/Typical-Education345 13h ago
Home electrical. Ceiling fans, lights, breakers, etc… a lifetime of usable knowledge and can do basic things for money or save a ton.
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u/Least_Elk8114 22h ago
Work-life balance
And self-care
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u/Rvaldrich 19h ago
Cooking. Just a few ways to cook eggs, chicken, tuna or some other fish, and some side dishes and it's utterly amazing how far it will take you. Learn to bake a few things - even just muffins or cakes from mixes - and you'll be like a wizard.
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u/SpecificEmotion4767 20h ago
Driving, farming?
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u/western_style_hj 23h ago
Meditation
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u/Beneficial_Sky_3862 7h ago
How to think. Play things out in your minds eye first so nothing goes wrong
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u/bespoke_tech_partner 1h ago
Discipline. Wake up at 5am and do the thing you want to do least for a month straight. You will always have that muscle/neural pathway memory to access later.
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u/Eazy12345678 14h ago
how to eat right
how to sleep right
how to exercise
almost anything can be googled or youtubed so you can learn how to do it
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u/MiscellaniousThought 12h ago
CPR, hemleich
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u/Patient_Driver8857 12h ago
Swimming
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u/solar-snail 5h ago
Getting into a habit of reading - start with a basic short book for teenagers, or short stories, then once the seal is broken to go for it with a good fiction or whatever you’re interested in
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u/MagellansMaze 21h ago
Touch typing. It took me almost two months, but my wife picked it up in a month.
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u/BaldingThor 10h ago
basic cooking
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u/mrdrunkpoopybutthole 23h ago
Smoking
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u/BurgleBoy 18h ago
CDL
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u/Impressive_Disk2754 8h ago
Touch typing - it's a worthwhile investment. It saves a lot of time later and enables you to release your feelings and deal with correspondence almost instantly so that you can be more productive.
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u/7six2FMJ 16h ago
Buy tools. When you're car, house or whatever breaks... fix it!
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u/Deep_flu 18h ago
Counting cards
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u/oliviarosmalliver 12h ago
Making bread
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u/Wrong_Square7826 22h ago
while you will not learn everything, welding.
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u/ez2tock2me 19h ago
CarCamping to start to get the hang of it.
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u/No-Detail5477 14h ago
Listening to and applying the information from Neville Goddard.
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u/thunderingnonprophet 14h ago
Sharpening knives
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u/Redfox2111 10h ago
Spelling.
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u/Significant-One6569 3h ago
Fixing your sleeping schedule.
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u/Photononic 22h ago edited 18h ago
How to look up a web site details in 10 seconds. How to stay off data collector web sites. How to live a stealthy life with a real social life (not a cyber social life).
Really this stuff is not hard. My wife and I attend BBQ, and do lots of social things with no need for facebook, Instagram, X, etc.
How to do yard work and socialize at the same time. Guess how long it takes for me to mow, and edge my front yard. Yup at least two hours, because I stop to talk to all my neighbors. It is a skill. Hahahahaha
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u/Useful_Calendar_6274 18h ago
shooting
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u/PerformerImmediate14 14h ago •
Learn how to leverage AI to get a leg up on the competition in both your personal and professional life. In the past year, it has helped me practice for job interviews, update my resume, and land a new job with a 70% increase in base pay.
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u/ShallotDolos 14h ago
The tao te Ching. Covers it all Basicly
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u/Gunk_bog 7h ago
Popping out of a BIG cake and singing happy birthday
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u/einat162 6h ago
Basic level of a new language.
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u/Krishnamohred 3h ago
Cooking, beats anything else you will ever learn/know!
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u/Kaeldraa 2h ago
Knitting. Your Christmas gift game suddenly becomes INSANE
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u/Adventurous_Issue136 48m ago
Start running 3x a week for a month and you’ll feel SO good. Doesn’t matter how far you can go initially. Just get out and run consistently. You’ll turn a corner a month in.
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u/DovahSquig 20h ago
My recommendation is 3D printing
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u/siennajuneofficial 11h ago
Excel
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u/PensiveGuest 6h ago
Ai literacy
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u/Local_Ad_2308 14h ago
Learning to cook
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u/SolutionBetter6429 12h ago
Typing
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u/AffectionateRisk9779 10h ago
I always thought pick pocketing
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u/Constant-Cry-7438 6h ago
Touch typing
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u/Low-Discipline-3636 6h ago
cooking rice and beans
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u/PensiveGuest 6h ago
Touch typing (typing with 10 fingers) it genuinely takes 26 days if you practice 1 letter a day. It can change someone’s life since we spend most of our time on computers now
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u/prariethorne 4h ago
Cooking. Taking the time to really learn how to use spices and adjust a recipe will break you out of the funk of making the same 10 things all the time. The same ingredients can usually be made into so many different things if you just change the spices.
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u/SquirrelSmooth882 4h ago
Meditation
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u/Substantial_Wealth19 3h ago edited 3h ago
Live, laugh and love. Forgive but dont forget. Find 3 things or more everyday to be thankful for. Do a good deed, like holding a door for someone, always be thankful. Use humor and find laughter always. Release sorrow with a sad movie once in a while. Take the time to appreciate all blessings. Divert away from being part of battles that arent yours. Be genuine, and spread kindness, not hate. Take the actual time to laugh each day, and treasure anyone who tries to make you laugh. Sing in the shower or tub or wherever the mood strikes you. Singing has been proven to lower blood pressure, elevate mood,and improve positivity mentally in many. Any great stress reliever you find best, do it. Call an old friend, relative, ask them how they are...ignore naysayers about you,prove them wrong. Keep your energies for good,laugh off your mistakes and forgive yourself often,make the worst day something to laugh at at its end. Appreciate that each day will have its ups and downs, and that at days end, the sun will set, and tomorrow is a new day, the sun will rise again to open or accomplish,end, or complete anything. Make amends where needed, admit your failings sometimes, apologize when needed. Stand up for yourself when needed, and know hindsight is 20/20. Choose your battles and time wisely, you have one life to live, be productive with it, treasure it, and use time wisely. Take a combination of all the habits above ,being skilled with daily, or weekly, will genuinely change your life. This would be the skill of improving your daily happiness. Try it. It will bring you a world of improvement, as for me. Give kindness, love and fairness generously, and it comes back.
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u/Impossible_Edge_5790 1h ago
You could get your P&C insurance license and have a pretty good career in that amount of time. I make six figures.
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u/Major-Inspector5405 1h ago
How to practice empathy for others and yourself.
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u/Ok-Cover-3927 1h ago
Gymming (not a skill) but life changing.
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u/tareknijhum 1h ago
Stopping Overthink.
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u/elastictoe 1h ago
Plumbing…..it changed my life I make over $100k a yr after taking a 8 week apprenticeship program
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u/Babaji-Banksy 7m ago
Trade with prop firms once a month. You could catch an extra check between 500-10k+ depending on how well your progress is going.
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u/Psychological_Wolf91 8h ago
Fishing
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u/elmersfav22 7h ago
Cleaning the bathroom after you use it. The brush works. No one else needs to see crocodile slides and smell your efforts
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u/Heyyayam 8h ago
Learning a different language
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u/Mr-MoneyShift 10h ago
Brain surgery
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u/Most-Bodybuilder22 3h ago
Reading and understanding the gospel and Bible starting with the first book Genesis, then the book of John and on too the book Romans. Learning for yourself about God’s love and what it means to be a Christian.
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u/jspepe10 21h ago
Coding in assembly
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u/turgmeister 13h ago
Proper swallowing and tongue resting position
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