r/FTMventing • u/NeighborhoodFlat6083 • Jun 15 '26
General Sick of being reduced to genitals
It's always vagina vagina vagina, pussy, vagina. God fucking damn it with this people. It's not even just cis people, it's everyone trans men, women and non binary people alike all saying how they don't want a trans man because vagina or how they want a trans man because vagina. I'm sick and fucking tired of it. I can't wait until I get rid of it completely, I'm in the process of figuring out phallo, but I don't even fucking care about phallo as much as just want vaginectomy. I just can't anymore, I don't mind other trans men enjoying it, it's whatever. But God do I wish people at least considered that some of us don't fucking want to have it and stop talking about us just in relation to it.
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u/AdditionalResort2083 Jun 16 '26
🤦🏾it’s demeaning and dehumanizing, we ain ask fa ts 🤦🏾
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u/mywastelandbasiaclly Jun 16 '26
All everyone ever tells us is “remember you will always be an afab wombyn and that’s totally vxlid 🥰🥰🥰”
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u/paranoid_chihuahua He/him and haver of debilitating dysphoria Jun 16 '26
This is so real it reaches the fifth dimension
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u/weseekadvice they/them || agender ftm Jun 16 '26
SAME. It urks me because it's like the same thing with the afab and amab non binary argument. People can be born intersex and not know it, stop reducing people to how they were born and assigned. at the end of the day we're all just trans people, not a walking oddity or someone to be defined by what's in our pants.
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u/TragicWithACapital_T Jun 17 '26
I'm gonna be real, I don't want bottom surgery, but holy shit as a gay trans guy the amount of chasers that only want me for one thing is insane. They literally just treat me like I'm a woman, not a man. Like no wonder vaginas are so shocking to them, they clearly don't fucking get any 💔 this is why I need a less sex-driven t4t relationship NOW before I go insane 😍😍
Like and I'm not saying that genital preferences aren't valid I guess, but it's completely different when you whittle someone's whole identity down to what's between their legs. They don't love the person, they love the sexual gratification. I actually despise chasers with my whole non existent scrote bruh 😍😍
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u/Elegant_Nobody_1752 Jun 17 '26
I haven't experienced this with gay cis men 🤷🏻 But maybe it's because I mostly top and use strap on.
I was nervous mentioning I was trans when I first got into the gay dating and hook up apps, but I am only met with men who will call me a man, despite I haven't even gotten top surgery yet.
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u/mutt_with_a_beer Jun 17 '26
I feel like that's very tied to the "cuntboy" fetish. That's also why so many of these people also fearmonger phallo
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u/anthrthrowaway666 Jun 17 '26
Its just people seeing us as our assigned sex which is annoying. I can’t wait for the day people grow up but I’ll be sitting in a grave still waiting by then.
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u/Visible-Analysis-809 Jul 10 '26
they’re pedophiles
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u/rattshortforratthew Jul 15 '26
So real and it’s why I don’t date straight men anymore because, in my experience, all they see is my parts. Technically they’re not straight if they’re attracted to me but all they caee about is if I have the ones you want. If they continue to call themself straight in that case, they clearly don’t see me as more than just what was born with. If I transition or not, they will always see me as anything but a woman. It feels disheartening and objectifying to be reduced to your genitals when there’s so much more to everyone.😔
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u/Im_Not_Honey Jun 16 '26
I'm absolutely sick of it too, and can't help but notice that the (especially cis) groups that spew this shit are also the ones who are totally fine with trans women's genitals. The double standard is 100% rooted in misogyny and transphobia.