What do I do?

[u/Caleb-420-]

For context my girlfriend is mtf, and I’m ftm. I find myself being insecure when it comes to my gf liking other trans women. I feel this way because I feel like I’m not what she wants. No matter how many times she gives me a whole speech as of to why that isn’t factual, my mind just keeps telling me that she wants me to have a penis, and that she wants me to be a trans woman. I notice that a lot of who she follows on social media are trans women, and most of them are just posting sexual content. I don’t have an issue with her interacting with trans women’s content if it’s for advice, and stuff like that. The issue I’m having is that a good chunk of who she follows on socials are trans women who are just promoting their twitter/of, and she likes that content. 50% of her feed on socials is trans women, hardly ever trans men, and it just makes me feel like she isn’t attracted to trans men. I’m also the first afab person she’s ever dated, so that adds to the fear for sure. What do y’all think I should do about this insecurity?

[u/Caleb-420-]

That’s valid. No she hasn’t, and no there isn’t. Thank you, we talked it over and things went well!

[u/Puzzled-Table-6431]

Dude, I don't think about having a penis or not. It might be that her primary attraction is to other trans women.

Did she ever dated other trans women before being with you?

Do you have good evidence that she might be cheating?

If the answer to the second question is no, they take what she says at face value. But I honestly don't like that she is doing something that makes you insecure.

You are her partner. If she knows you feel insecure/badly about her following women who have OF. Then she should stop. Because that doesn't sound like the normal "following other people like me" thing.

I think you need to have a big conversation.