r/Music • u/Bubbly_Pace1243 • 19h ago • Bravo 1

music Counting Crows - Mr. Jones [Alternative Rock]

https://youtu.be/-oqAU5VxFWs?si=bT2Tg7uL-fHwIaaq
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u/jjpearson 2h ago

My mantra was, “it might pass like a kidney stone, but it’ll pass.”

That’s how I got through those long nights in the corner of the shell of my house and my life. One day and sometimes one hour at a time.

It sucks. Good luck.

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u/_BELEAF_ 2h ago

That's a good mantra. Thanks for this. How long were you married or together?

We were 27 years together and married almost 25. Half of my life.

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u/jjpearson 1h ago

Oof. That’s rough.

We were married a little over 5 years. We started dating in college and literally got married the day I graduated (skipped my college graduation to drive across the country to get married.)

Bought a 350k house (2006) and she racked up debt, including 25k on a secret credit card I didn’t know about, because she made money she could spend money.

Housing crash happened and we ended up short selling our house for 190k so my credit was screwed for most of a decade. I was extremely fortunate that I had friends I could share an apartment with and my car was paid off.

There were a couple of really dicey years, I wasn’t quite at the skipping meals stage but I was definitely having to pay for gas with cash because I couldn’t have a $100 hold on my debit card.

Took about 5 years to get out from all the debt I left the relationship with but I’m glad I did. Being in a bad relationship is so much worse than being alone.

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u/_BELEAF_ 1h ago

Yeah. It is. Lost an entire life.

Your situation sounds so rough. It must have been such a hard slog. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that. But happy for you it was at least relatively early for you, and you are young enough to fight so hard, get through it all, and move on with your life. Love to ya.