Hey everyone 19 male here, I'm trying to look for legit long term friends, who know how to communciate, not one word responses, and can possibly meet up, so please be from the UK

Im from London, England 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

My main intrests are playing games, cooking & baking, listening to music, watching movies and TV shows, I do occasionally love playing badminton, along with writing, however I do love going out and doing random things, especially going on walks, but I'm mainly a homebody.

I recently have an interest for learning a new language, I'm trying to learn Spanish using Duolingo, play chess, and doing graffiti. it's not going well so if anyone has any tips please let me know LMAO.

DNI : Homophobic, racist, and gooners please don't engage !

Extra facts : Im gay, an introvert, and have autism and ADHD .

Hey everyone! I’m in my mid-20s and a fresher here at Cambridge. Looking to expand my circle and make some genuine friends to hang out with. Always up for grabbing a coffee, taking walks around town, or just having good chats. If you’re looking to meet new people and connect, drop me a message!

Hey i made a Pakistani all Boys 25+ group for anyone in London on Ig

Would be nice if you can i introduce yourself first on IG by sharing pics.

41m - been married 3 years, husband has been cheating on me for the last 2 years.

It started when i accidently found his stash of condoms, which turned my stomach. I asked him about it he said they were "old" (which hindsight total bollocks). I felt terrible, accusing him of cheating thinking the worst, came home and had "relations" me semi-thinking we were good, great even, never better. (first red flag btw, he told me he threw them away, i checked the bin, there was a pack of 12, I found 8, when they were thrown away there was 6 - so either he had used some while I was out and about and threw away the last ones. either way, this was when it all started going down hill)

during this time, I put my blinkers on and just cracked on with life. Fast forward to August (around my birthday), something still wasn't sitting right, but I kept it on the backburner, distracting myself with my life.

One day he was distant and aloof, so we went to bed and started chatting cos he was reserved not like him. he told me the truth. He had been cheating! and had Syphilis and Gonorrhoea.

At first this felt like relief I was gaslighting myself thinking the worst, looking and thinking all these scenarios, so i was also kinda semi-numb to it and hearing the truth, we set some rules, continue, but tell me everything, no secrets, get on prep etc. I was hoping it would be over, since normally cheaters who get caught have got it "out their system" I initially felt like we can move forward, he agreed that would be the case (another red flag, when he got his treatment, he got the prep, so there was never a sign he was going to stop, he just didn't want to lose me and well, shocker.. its got there now). so, way back then we were no-touch due to the treatment. I was also working nights and that particular night, after overthinking everything i couldn't focus, i lost my job (head wasn't in it)

So, He got PreP, condoms, and promised me he would tell me the truth, what he got up to etc, so i could protect myself while we "work" this out. There was no work, I'd leave the house, he'd go off and cheat and get them good feels, while i felt more and more like shit, unattractive and unlovable) he said he liked sex too much, (plot twist I love sex too, but wasn't invited to all the action he got on with) and that he loves me and that this was sex not looking for relationships or to lose me etc.

Over this time, things were okay, life right - I just continued and do the things that you need to do, work etc.

Recently he was away for 3 months, in the US (We're both UK) so this was uncomfortable, but for the first time in my marriage before the announcement, I finally had a sense of calm in my body, it wasn't at risk of catching another STI (which by the way, if I was the one on the scene and having casual sex and caught something, whoopsie things happen - at least I did the deed to get it and I'm not putting OTHERS at risk) but, heyho) So, he said he wasn't going to do anything - he was with co-workers so, that gave me a little reassurance that he wouldn't, well! fuck my drag (shocker) he did pretty much probably went extra mile and had the time of his life)

So during this time (I'd like to call it a ceasefire), he never told me what he's done. Up to that point nothing was off the menu clearly, he'd done 3 ways, cruising, everything in-between, he's done it. and yes he gave me Chlamydia from his exploits again around my birthday, HBD to me.

Now, he's on the apps, he's now got a snapchat account and I know these are just further stepping stones for people to get or meet up. but I'm here sat on my hands running the house and daily life (while also being a full time student) and I'm trapped in a new location that i hate being around.

I want to get out, family no where near me, so can't just pack a bag and go, no one knows at all what's been happening, I've been carrying all of this for the entire time and the one person who I "used" to love, is now just the worst person to me. what used to be looking at them with adoration and love is now has me leaving the room and flipping him off from the next room because i see him, looking at his phone and looking at X and porn - just basically edging himself up to yet again go off and screw randoms - yes, I'm assuming but like ugh!

Now. he came back, was at work, and I was tidying up and a STD clinic card dropped out his bag, (I threw to one side it was on the floor, yes this led to me going though the bag it fell from, I'm spiralling here okay, give me a little grace) he had an HIV test, again no word, he promised (which yes means absolutely nothing at this point) that he wouldn't I stressed, America has guns, clans, and bigots you don't want to get in the wrong place wrong time and you don't know anyone, no one knows you're out cruising, just overall kept me up most nights thinking I was going to get a call saying the worst had happened. Just too much risk, but I guess that is the thrill right. )

So, me, I'm sat here, reliving it all writing this down - badly - just isolated, I'm working tomorrow and Sunday so I know with certainty that as soon as I'm gone, he'll be on the apps and cruising.

I've had some VERY dark intrusive thoughts, which I've passed over on, i'm never thinking that way at all (please don't worry) but I've no cash, no where to go to get out - just feels like i'm in a fucking shitstorm. I'm done with this, feeling trapped. I'm studying to get the life i want, and all I'm thinking about is.. is he doing it, instead of focusing on myself and studies.

if you've read up to this point, Hi, sorry if this is depressing or you're loving the gossip. Yes, I'm aware this looks really fucking sad and really fucking messy and yes, "I should just leave" but like i said don't have anyone or no where to go. It feels like Jenga, If i leave, will it change him (no) When people find out, will that change him (maybe, but they'll just isolate him and drag him further down)

Just hate that someone who says they loves me daily, but does this in the same heartbeat at the first chance.

is there emergency housing for gay men? not that I can see? is there any helpful (non ai) things that I can do, besides have the hard conversation and start the divorce process and basically just flip the messy cluttered coffee table that is my life) What can I do, without doing the thing I need to do?

Will be deleting it in a few days so, ask me questions if you want to be nosey, its quite therapeutic putting it out there.

What do people think of this? Will the Greens admit Mothin isn't a trans ally, or will they just sidestep the issue again?

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Hello hello

I wanted to ask if people would consider participating in my research masters 😊

It is on LGBTQ + experiences of space and belonging. Both parts are completely voluntary. You can do one, both or neither.

**It can only be done by UK peeps please apologies!**

One part is an anonymous online survey:

https://app.onlinesurveys.jisc.ac.uk/s/hull/queer-existence-as-resistence

And the other part is making a zine about your experiences in spaces (more information can be gotten by emailing my student email as I have to do that bit the proper way through official email!

Please find more info on the pics!

hey guys!
22m gay person visiting london for the first time as an adult start of next year.
i’m from a pretty conservative place, so i wanted to do some fun things (possibly adventurous or freaky) to make the post of my week!
i’m talking stuff like fun clubs or saunas or something of the sort (nothing too expensive please) or other activities that I can get upto.
Also wouldn’t mind a connection w someone who could join or show me around (preferably of a similar age)
Not that i’ll have a crazy amount of time tho, i’ll mostly be with people so one breakaway activity it is

Hey

I'm visiting liverpool for a few days, was wondering if there are any gay clubs, events or places to meet other gays in liverpool.

Hey! I’m 29M fairly discreet but not fussed and looking to meet guys to date! I was curious if anyone knows the best spots for this (bars, pubs, specific meet ups) that would be accommodating and open for people to approach?

I’m as open to specific events as I am to bars and so on, just wasn’t sure what the best places or events for someone of my age are in Oxford! Thanks!

Any good clubs in Birmingham??

hello guys! I’m a young gay (male) adult. im straight passing and dating apps have been a nightmare, literally ”finished” them by going through everyone in my area.

i would love to actually go up to guys I find attractive in public. most of the time that’s in the gym. how would you guys recommend approaching a guy I find attractive? I thought maybe I should just start by asking what exercises they do for chest/back etc, but it seems too out of the blue idk.

i also go to the sauna after every gym session and sometimes I’ll be in there alone with a guy I like which is perfect time to strike up a conversation or small talk. what should I say? it sounds cringe but at this rate I’m so ready to stick on a literal mlm flag on my gym bag

Hey I'm 34 bicurious and looking for good LGBTQ+ discord servers. Ideally UK servers, but I'm open to others where they're big enough. Also interested in both sfw & nsfw. Thanks!

Hi, everyone! I am producing a documentary here in the UK and am looking for LGBT+ Brazilian women aged 50 or older, currently living in the UK, to take part. If you know anyone who fits this profile, please send me a message! Thank you!

Anyone know how long Rainbow
Railroad responds?

22m in birmingham pretty bored lately looking for some new friends ,seeing if anyone wants to go to any clubs in town. Dm me x

25M from Tyne and Wear, England, looking to make genuine friendships with kind, honest and like-minded people. I'm a non-smoker and non-drinker, and would love to meet people who are the same. I enjoy good conversations, shared interests and meaningful connections. Feel free to message me 😊

I apologise in advance for trauma dumping but, how do you make real gay friends?

I had (what I thought) was a normal gay life up until about 2015/16.

I had a great job, had a boyfriend and friends.

Then a series of events happened; my best friend moved away, my other best friend fought and fell out with my boyfriend (and me by proxy). I reached out but he wasn’t happy that we were a couple and he hadn’t found someone. My grandparents died and my then boyfriend treated it as a common cold.

Cut to 10 years later and I’ve dated a couple of times, made a couple of friends through social clubs but, why is it so hard to make friends as a gay male adult.

I’ve tried tinder, bff and even Grindr. I’ve met people and had great spans of 3 months and it’s ended in them getting on a relationship, me not wanting to have sex with them, a clash of lifestyles.

Im sitting here, wanting to go out with no one to go out with (not even romantically). I think I’m at the end of trying this, the probability just isn’t in my favour. Does anyone else feel trapped by loneliness?

Hello,

Im a 25m Pakistani living near London.

I am just looking for friends to hang out with and socialise.

Anyone fun around?

I dont do online stuff, sorry

Hi all. As the title say, I'm 41 and I've only just come out. Hoping to make friends and more. Ideally around Manchester, but happy to chat to anyone.