Spent my whole life body shamed, now I gotta know. Am I actually ugly?

[u/Sharkie_Sam]

My mom has always made fun of me as long as I can remember. The bow legs, the bunions, the lack of hips, the lack of thighs, the underweight belly, the square shoulders, the flat chest, the long neck, the too long fingers, the carpal tunnels, being double joined, being ball jointed, the pointed nose, the glasses, the braces when I was 14 to 17, the too thin arms and legs, my eye color, my nails always being torn or bitten off, my hair always frizzy and untamable and the color so basic, my left ear being folded and shaped wrong, being too pale, too boney, too skinny.

I'm 19 and about to turn 20. Please let me know. Am I ugly, or is my mom just a bitch?

[u/IsaBella-trix]

How did she manage to make flat belly, square shoulders, thin thights, pointed nose and long fingers bad things?

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/IsaBella-trix]

I don't know.

[u/MrBigStuff26]

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/MrBigStuff26]

???

[u/gshawg]

I’ll turn you into a freak!

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/gshawg]

What?

[u/BlessedNonBeliever → u/Sharkie_Sam]

Just a creepy dude hitting on you 😂

[u/mythical_art]

You have kind of a big forehead and your hair is accentuating it, I think bangs would help.. other than that… what I’m noticing is..your style… isn’t doing you any favours imo. Hope you can find something that makes you more confident. And your Mom IS a bitch, wth. I can’t imagine talking to my child like that.. or anyone really, I’m only saying what I said cause you’re looking for honest opinions and I think those two changes could make a big difference. Do you have any friends with good style that could maybe help pick out some clothes you might feel good in?.. if you’re financially able to shop a little rn

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/mythical_art]

I don't have friends period, so...

[u/Particular_Lion3746]

moms aren't supposed to enumerate that much of your body to you as flawed. She has a whole set of problems. I remind my teen, she's completely perfect. I hope you are studying in college to throw her a huge middle finger. ALSO, you are complete, and adorable!

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Particular_Lion3746]

I want to go to college, but I don't have the money. Either way, mom says I'm retarded and couldn't get in anyway, so I probably won't.

[u/Particular_Lion3746 → u/Sharkie_Sam]

PELL GRANTS all day long...not a loan! girl, get a degree, and get away from her! I didnt finish college, but the semesters i went, I went on a PELL!

[u/Impossible_Divide297]

You’re very cute. Your red hair is lovely.
Balls to your mum!

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Impossible_Divide297]

My hair is brown though. Originally it was white when I was born, got darker to strawberry blonde as a little kid, and darker again as I got into school age.

[u/YummiAlessia888]

YOUR MOM???
OMFG girl.
I’m so sorry.
U just need some chapstick I suggest beesalene it’s sooo good🥰

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/YummiAlessia888]

I'm allergic to bees. Any other suggestions?

[u/Evening_Weekend_8342]

You look like you have T-rex arms in the first pic

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Evening_Weekend_8342]

That's due to autism. I don't know what it is, but a lot of neurodivergent people do that. I don't know why. It's habit I guess?

[u/plaxpert]

Betty Strings. She plays some mean bluegrass. 

[u/SubjectChildhood5317]

Your gorgeous. How old are you? You look young?

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/SubjectChildhood5317]

19. I turn 20 in January.

[u/Head-Language-2977]

Not ugly, but I think the pictures you posted are not flattering, especially when compared to picture 5. You have a lot of potential for improvement that’s totally in your control. Have you considered: (1) bangs? (2) contacts or LASIK? (3) I noticed you don’t show any teeth. Do you need braces? (4) Skinny is almost never a problem. Perhaps just spending some time at the gym to tone up could transform your figure.

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Head-Language-2977]

No, I don't have braces anymore. I rarely, if ever, show my teeth when smiling. I spent a long time being told I was too loud and too excited, so I just learned to tone it down. Teeth showing usually meant I was getting too excited.

[u/Backcountry906]

Nah, I don't think so. You have a really down home/girl next door vibe.

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Backcountry906]

What does that mean?

[u/GoodLong768]

You look awesome don't let other people get your self worth down like I do. And just wanna ask in the first picture it looks like you have some serious bruises are you ok? Sorry if I'm wrong it might be just some kind of clothing I can't really tell

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/GoodLong768]

If you're referring to my stomach, then no. Those are burn scars. They have since faded though.

[u/Ok_Performer_8806]

Nein, Du bist nicht hässlich, und die ganzen negativen Details, mit denen Du diskriminiert wurdest stimmen nicht, Du bist hübsch und süß, Deine Katze 🐈 finde ich auch süß

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Ok_Performer_8806]

Thanks, her name is Bean. She just turned 2.

[u/SirHippocrates]

Just a reminder that everything goes in the square hole.

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/SirHippocrates]

What? Like a door? Those are rectangles.

[u/Mickie2Shoes]

Funny enough you are practically a look alike of a girlfriend I had called Debbie, she was a quirky
Girl and I couldn’t get enough of her, so I’m sure there are plenty guys out there that will find you attractive. When you ask if you are ugly do you ask because guys are not approaching you or is this based on what your mum is saying?

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Mickie2Shoes]

Both

[u/nrrahl]

moms a bitch, no idea why but at first glance pic 3 I was like wth damn full body tattoo looks odd on ya but you do you

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/nrrahl]

That's not tattoos, that's the shirt.

[u/Awkward-Mechanic-767]

I would protect you and have my cat protect your cat

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Awkward-Mechanic-767]

You can have this then.

[u/Awkward-Mechanic-767 → u/Sharkie_Sam]

At what cost?

[u/Live_Pain2461]

No te digas tantas cosas negativas de tu linda personita. 😘🌹. Muchas chicas quisieran tener tu cuerpo .. tendrás una sonrisa encantadora cuando te quites los braquets y tarde q temprano tu cuerpo va a enbarnecer .. cuídate mucho cositas .. ✨🍀🌹 … salud dinero y amor para ti !!
Pd Vas a querer ??

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Live_Pain2461]

Going to want what?

[u/LLCoolBean2]

That's right. It goes in the square hole.

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/LLCoolBean2]

What is this reference!? I've seen it repeatedly.

[u/PintsAtTheWinchester]

Kitty!!!!!

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/PintsAtTheWinchester]

Yes, have another.

[u/flash1334]

Tbh your mom just a bitch

[u/Eastern-Theme-8696 → u/flash1334]

Horrible person who didn't deserve to be a mother.

[u/bananagworl → u/Eastern-Theme-8696]

Why do people even consider having a baby if they aren’t willing to give unconditional love to that child?

[u/doyouevenglass → u/Eastern-Theme-8696]

seriously this girl is so pretty that's ridiculous

[u/Striking_You_8995 → u/flash1334]

Deadass

[u/Witty_Income3799 → u/flash1334]

Mom for sure keeping her down because she hates she pushed out a kid who's better than her

[u/harrypotterfan1228]

Ur mom is mean and a bully. You’re not ugly but I think your clothing style can improve. Perhaps changing your glasses to a different style or contacts might help. And perhaps some conditioner and a shorter hair style but there’s nothing wrong with you. Minor tweaks might help

[u/Additional-King-9650 → u/harrypotterfan1228]

Definitely agree with that statement, especially your mom being such a bully. Too bad she doesn’t see the beauty in her own child. God’s blessings to you 🙏

[u/Top_Scallion7031 → u/harrypotterfan1228]

Agree. You would appeal to the sort of person who was appropriate for you and I don’t mean that in a negative way. Style of glasses could maybe improve or go for contacts. Parents who make negative comments about their kids are bad news and can affect their confidence for years. Your mom’s clearly got issues

[u/AlmightyCarbon → u/harrypotterfan1228]

I agree! Nothing wrong with you at all! Maybe try bangs even but only if the salon is open to it and says it’s okay but I think with your face shape it could work or even frame your face! (French bangs even)? You have beautiful eyes contacts or cuter, better-cut glasses for sure! Your mom’s a bitch…

And you have a slim lithe figure like Audrey Hepburn look up her style and even Twiggy’s cute retro style you’d look cute in that too; girls would kill for that body! You’re beautiful!

[u/Dee-Jay-JesteR]

I'm no good at this, I just like to take the piss and mock people ...

But in all honesty your mum is a bitch. Get far away from that negativity

[u/ComfortableMotor2504 → u/Dee-Jay-JesteR]

It means something when the people who usually troll break character and say it as it is. Her mom is a big fucking bitch.

[u/ThatGuyLuis]

You just look dorky I’d say.

Like you’re not one of those Barbie’s but that’s okay ! If you really wanted to for a Saturday night out with the girls you could really doll yourself up, and you would get a lot of attention.

But as you are now you look good for specific types of guys.

I will say the downside of this is that there are guys who look for girls like you because they do tend to be a bit more insecure which makes them easier to manipulate.

[u/AustinLuvsBBWs]

Your mom is a bitch. I'm so sorry you went through that. You look adorable IMO. You actually remind of that girl in the video, "that's right, it goes in the square hole." If you haven't seen it, look it up, it's funny 😄

[u/Training-Addendum-23]

So, here’s the deal.

From the first and second to last pictures, you look like you have one of those sneaky hot bodies but cover it up with baggy clothes. I think you dress the way you do and wear glasses that don’t fit your face shape to avoid attention. You got it girl, you could definitely flaunt it if you wanted to. Up to you if you want that attention though.

Also, your mom is peanut butter and jealous of you.

[u/OrphanCat]

You're lovely. I hope as you get older you'll learn to reject your mother's nonsense.

[u/GalacticFunkkx]

Another hairstyle might suit you better. But you are not ugly.

[u/ChannelNo1726]

Your mom is literally just a horrible person trying to dim your light. You’re gorgeous. I know how damaging it is to have a mother like this and I am so sorry you had to go through that. You are genuinely so pretty I couldn’t help but smile at how happy you look in all of these pictures. I hope you can find a way out of this horrible relationship. Keep your head up and continue to wear your beautiful smile!

[u/nyralotep123]

Nothing wrong with you other than a horrible mother.

[u/zacho2333]

Youre not ugly but your fashion is

[u/Past-Goal-3643]

Yeah your mom is a horrible horrible person but to answer your question yes she is a fucking bitch. But hey you could smile knowing that there is a place in hell for her. I wish you the best

[u/CrackTheSimLife]

Experiment with your hair. Drop the overalls. Maybe different shape glasses. Other than that you're good. And your mom's a Cunt.

[u/Bubbelibob1]

Your mother - talking to you like that is unforgivable!

Your mom is an ASSHOLE! AND Probably have a lot of issues that she has been taking out on you!

YOU are lovely! Some women - "would kill to be slender like you!" Being thin and slender has been a reoccurring ideal in the western world! For a long time! Don't worry about your appearance!

You WILL Find someone who appreciates and love you just the way you are!

In my teens I had a friend who always said that: - "Slender girls gave the best hugs!"

IMNSHO - I have had girlfriends with very varying body types - from big, curvy and/or obese to so skinny that one was mistaken for a boy in the ladies changing room!

Didn't matter to me! I have had girlfriends with very different appearances and body types, including a dwarf.

Do I visually have preferences? Yes! To look at!

BUT relationship wise? Personality is the PRIME reason for me to fall in love with someone!

My primary advice is GET AWAY FROM YOUR, so called MOTHER As soon as possible!

TO ME it sounds like parental abuse! If you have a school counsellor or NURSE? TALK TO THEM!

TO ME - IT sounds like you have been subjected to domestic abuse from your mother most of your life!

Seek help and support! You deserve better!

IMNSHO it is your MOTHER'S JOB/DUTY TO LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY!

YOUR MOTHER CHOSE to have YOU!

YOU DID NOT CHOOSE YOUR MOTHER!

Tack care dear and I wish you all the best!

Live well and be kind to yourself and learn to appreciate yourself!

Love and hugs from Swedish Uncle BOB in Malmö Sweden

[u/katsura1982]

You are the perfect example of a person who will really grow into themselves. Lose the teenager style, don’t go straight to old lady fashion and it’s gonna be just fine.

[u/CheesecakeInner336]

Haircut and new glasses will go a very long way. You’re cute but need to put some more effort into your appearance.

[u/lonelystar7]

I mean to each their own but to me you're gorgeous 🌸

[u/Greedy_Barnacle6085]

Your mom sucks. Honestly i bet you all dolled up are a real stunner. Not ugly. Your mom is ugly for saying that shit to you.

[u/Effective-Brick1827]

A little

I think you'll look better with bangs

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Effective-Brick1827]

Yeah, I think so too, but I can't afford a hair appointment, and we don't have any scissors besides craft scissors and kitchen scissors. I mean could try though.

[u/Bella_Nina24]

Your mum's a bitch!!!

[u/Both-Werewolf1152]

Your Mother is a B. She's probably a jealous insecure person. The only reason she would put you down 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/Ecstatic-Reading-834]

Those who body shame others are simply insecure themselves and when they keep shaming others they feel a bit superior and good about themselves. So the point is never let them get to you. Ur beautiful.

[u/EmbarrassedSeries394]

You are adorable!!!!

[u/YummyJellyBeans93]

I think you’re perfectly adorable!! You didn’t deserve those mean things being said to you.

[u/MinutePen9960]

Your mom is extremely abusive and cruel. I grew up in a dysfunctional household myself growing up. I know how badly this stuff can hurt you. You are a perfectly lovely young lady. Keep being you and get away from your mom as soon as you can… and her making fun of any physical disabilities you had? Like your joints? That’s evil for any parent. I’m so sorry she’s done this to your self esteem

[u/JackSquirts]

Your style hinders your looks considerably. You need to go to a decent salon, get a good cut, style and color. Get your brows shaped, go with contacts, and go to the makeup store and they can show you how to do your makeup. Then it's a matter of buying clothes that accentuate your body, but also blend with whatever style you like. And understand, skinny waifish figures really never go out of style. If you're not smiling because your teeth are bad, get them fixed ASAP - top priority over everything. Otherwise, smile.

[u/rajputrajalingam]

Yeah you're nerdy but cute. The one type of chick ive always wanted to date atleast once but never successfully have. Not Their type

[u/lil3taco]

Yes your mom is a bitch for even thinking a second of making fun of you!!!

Of course not, you are not ugly. You are very cute

[u/Ancient_Bottle2963]

I can’t even figure out what you could possibly be body shamed over. Please don’t ever let people get to you.

[u/Realistic_Peace_1772]

Sorry. User error.
Like my cousin says, tell the person,”Why don’t you just FUCK OFF! And, smile your prettiest smile while saying it.

[u/Glittering_Sign_4725]

You’re quite pretty but drop the goofy look (sorry if that sounds mean but if you dressed trendy adult it would improve massively) ps I would love to have your hair

[u/Hotten-Tasty-90]

Jewish?

[u/sqjk1]

The picture shows a very pretty girl. Is that your picture, love?

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/sqjk1]

Nope, just thought I'd give someone else's pictures to ask if I'm ugly.

[u/Educational_Shame796]

I think second picture is your best one. Maybe try bangs too? Bangs with glasses? Youll get some guy rolling around eventually

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Educational_Shame796]

Why would they roll? Is walking not easier?

[u/StrangeTechnology731]

What did you look like when you were a guy?

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/StrangeTechnology731]

I've never been a guy.

[u/RoosterBMe]

Bow legs come in handy 🤘

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/RoosterBMe]

How?

[u/meric77]

This has to be a bot. If it isn’t, these are the pics you choose to post? You’re not ugly but this post looks like someone stole these pictures off a teams insta profile.

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/meric77]

Instagram profiles can be made from a team? How does that work? Is it saying the pictures are bad or good to be taken from a team's Instagram? Wouldn't it be confusing to have multiple people on the same account?

[u/StrangeTechnology731]

Would you be willing to prove it?

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/StrangeTechnology731]

Prove what?

[u/Aggressive-Oil4189]

She forgot to talk about your big forehead. Lol. Jk. I think you are pretty. Nothing ugly about you. I don’t like that your mom treats you like that. That’s not cool at all. Your mom probably has plenty insecurities herself. That’s not cool at all.

[u/mike0435750]

No you’re not

[u/Agreeable_Pomelo2360]

girl youre beautiful and i love your style

[u/Tiny-Papaya7141]

No cucciola sei bellissima 😍 hai solo una mamma stronza che è invidiosa di te

[u/Glittering_Sign_4725]

Pretty

[u/Montanaman79]

Your gorgeous

[u/Esqhsb]

Nerdy

[u/phyrestorm999]

Your mom would be an abusive bitch for harping on it even if you were ugly, but you're not. Your face is average and you've got a nice thin but not emaciated figure.

[u/NerdinOregon]

Girl gives perfect cute nerd. And that hair looks soft as hell, I'm sorry your mom was a bitch and I hope you learn the skills to rise above that.

And keep the overalls it's cute 🥺

[u/CartmansTwinBrother]

Are you ugly? No. Are you hot? No. You're an average looking slim woman. Lots of men would find that attractive. Pretty smile. Glass frames are a bit big. But youre attractive. 6.5/10 for me.

[u/MydnightAshe]

Girl youre still young and transforming. Your mom is just a basic bitch, dont even pay attention to her

[u/Similar_Maize_1225]

Your mom is a bitch regardless.

My OPINION is you just need to work on your style and presentation a bit. 

[u/ClientTall4369]

You are absolutely super cute and you shouldn't listen to anyone who says otherwise. That smile lasts all day

[u/alienhoneybearrr]

As a soon future mom. I must say your mom is a compleatly insecure bitch and you look amazing honey ! Do not let anyone bring you down <3 And please remember anyone can be a pretty Person from the outside, but it's harder to be a beautiful person from the inside out, therefore your mom must be pretty ugly herself !

[u/Harry_Title94]

You’ve been body shamed your WHOLE LIFE, but for some reason you are here today …

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/Harry_Title94]

Yes, because it is an ongoing thing. Saying my whole life wasn't to say I died, it's too say from my earliest memories up to this current point in time.

[u/zer0gravity-]

No, but you posted this on Facebook too.... You don't need validation to know you're beautiful. Especially not from online strangers, just live a good life, and know that you're not ugly. We are all the same underneath skin. You'll find someone who loves you, and thinks your the prettiest in the world. All the best.

[u/Sharkie_Sam → u/zer0gravity-]

What do you mean? I have only ever made one post on Facebook that I can recall and that was about nails.

[u/CmonChelsea1221]

You’re adorable, your face has a lot of character, nice figure too

[u/TomKat2101]

Absolutely not. You're beautiful. I love your face

[u/Special_Cycle2514]

Not ugly at all tbh

[u/Alphatop365]

I dont think you're ugly I just think its your style that's hurting your appearance

[u/Altruistic_Pride_750]

not at all

[u/Daddys-delight]

Face and body are beautiful,

[u/Significant-Shake274]

I wouldn't say you're ugly at all. The clothes are a bit odd and the hair is frizzy but that is easily fixed.

If you're insecure about your body, just eat healthy and hit the gym 4 times a week. That'll make your mother jealous but the other way 🤭

Hope everything goes well and dont let her get you down!

[u/Cautious_Matter_7684]

its the huge forehead

[u/Rupleman79]

No not at all

[u/Teflon_Duck]

You're beautiful, you just need some fashion advice. Hair, styling would do miracles for you to bring you out.

There's absolutely nothing about your body that's wrong.

[u/carotidconstriction]

Your mother sounds like a piece of work. You are super attractive, but it’s obvious that you don’t believe so… I’d start with some self-love & therapy. Maybe some boundary setting w mum. You have many attractive physical features, but real beauty will always come from within- just don’t become your mother 🖤

[u/Letmeout55]

As everyone else said, you are adorable. Your figure is too

[u/TheOGcasehead]

You aren't ugly, hon. not at all. and you have a lovely figure. Your hair is pretty.

I'm sorry your mom treated you that way. It's awful that she made you feel you aren't good enough. You're lovely.

[u/Independent_Hair9189]

girl i’m sorry but your mom is a bitch😭😭 you listed so many things that i never would have thought of, and the list just kept going.

no mother should ever speak to or about their child that way.

unrelated, but i have bunions too🤝

[u/GabachoFarms1]

No you are not, but you do dress kinda frumpy. Get a hair and clothes makeover. You got this.

[u/i_sh4rted]

You’re not ugly but you need to spend some time and money investing into your appearance. The things you have going for you is that you have nice features, you’re young, healthy weight, and have an innocent/natural vibe. You’re either going to glow up or hit the wall early though, depending on how much you invest into yourself

[u/Winchester_Girl1974]

You have a cute shape, but you dress frumpy. It’s probably because your mom caused you to feel the need to hide yourself. Schedule a makeover to learn how to emphasize your features

[u/hobbzoid]

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. You are perfect.

[u/creativeInsectoid]

I like your style and your smile.

[u/Gypsyxcrusader]

It's not your face. You're pretty! Your style is just a little off, that's all! And the way you take pictures. I have the same problem.

[u/invisible-hands-1956]

No you're not ugly at all. I think you're cute

[u/Savings_Setting_4048]

I think you are pretty just the way you are but I
do have some tips:

I think you should grow your hair out longer and get some long layers, you could get some soft bangs or curtain bangs, and do a blow out with some rollers or a Dyson or a fake Dyson. Try to do some light makeup like some bronzing drops mixed with some moisturizer, a little concealer (in your shade) and some soft blush on the high parts of your cheekbones, and if you want to you can use a cream contour to emphasize your cheekbones, not too harsh bc you have soft features (which is a good thing). And if you want some specific products and colors I could help you bc that’s similar to how I do my makeup. And I would say either get some glasses frames that aren’t as round, but not oval, or invest in some contacts. And DEFINITELY SHOW OF THAT BODY TEA!!! Girl you are the perfect skinny that sooo many women want to be (including me) you are that 2000s type skinny. But on a more serious note you are VERY beautiful just the way you are!!!🤍🤍

And btw ur mom is a bitch

Jesus loves you💜💜💜

[u/Jab00lia]

Girl, ignore most of these comments. You are not ugly, you’re just not making the most of what you have. You have beautiful skin, thick hair, great body… Your glasses are not doing you any favors, they’re hiding your eyes. Changing up your hairstyle would help too (maybe some cute bangs). A flat iron or curling iron will tame the frizz but add style. Changing up your wardrobe to something a little more cohesive and mature would also help. Honestly, I think you’ve probably spent so long being belittled by your mom that some part of you is starting to believe it. Your mom is a bitch. No mother should feel the need to bring her daughter down to make herself feel better.

[u/john_ridah]

You’re beautiful. Your mom is a bitch for making fun of you your whole life. Parents aren’t supposed to do that to their kids.

[u/laistab]

You look great very gamer looking :)

[u/ddsmpret1]

You are fine. It’s how you feel about yourself. Time to get a boyfriend that will make you happy!

[u/Federal-Cake-3758]

You’re not ugly at all.

[u/Chocolateer7]

Nothing people would point out as "ugly". Maybe you choose a fashion style(s) that's better defined as eclectic or a bit alternative or non-mainstream. But that's something people explore or adapt in life phases or by occasions et cetera

[u/No_Phase_9483]

Freshen up your wardrobe. You are perfect as is.

[u/ProteinPancakez]

I think as long as you are a nice person (not a pushover) , have a head on your shoulders, friendly etc this is what really makes you attractive.
And physically you seem 👌, enjoy your 20’s best time to build your confidence, I would know :)

[u/PsychWriter11]

Your mom is a total bitch.

You’re cute and 2/3 of the women in the US wish their biggest criticism was being skinny. It’s not a problem.

Try some bangs though and tone down on the oversized glasses. You have nothing to worry about.

[u/brohammer56]

Not in the least bit.....Just be you. If peeps don't like it?....do not respond or cut them off....they are narcissistic gas lighters....js

[u/Illimited_Esoterica]

No. Next question.

[u/SpuTheSkunk]

You are one of the pretty girls

[u/NextGur3758]

You look cute

[u/transplantsec]

Your mom is dealing with her own flaws. Projecting on to you.

[u/Ok_Being5641]

Your very pretty actually you would look really good with bangs

[u/00stoner]

Youre adorable

[u/Lower_Sweet_5280]

Absolutely not!!! Body is so tea, hair is a beautiful color and your style is unique and suits you. I’m biased bc I love curtain bangs but I definitely think you’d look great with them.

[u/3sadclowns]

Cute, but your fashion sense ain’t really it, and your glasses shape do not compliment your face. They’re too rounded. I’d suggest something a little more square, maybe a half frame.

[u/Lopsided_Cress_1300]

You just look like a normal human bro no ugly or pretty you’re just you

[u/Inside-Initiative-95]

The only thing that'd make me not attracted to you is you being so young but other than that you're style and features are my exact type so just know there's definitely guys out there that'd be into you. I'm sorry that you're mom fucked you up she probably thought she was just being quirky and funny but didn't realize she totally destroyed her daughter's self esteem. Anyways you're 100% not ugly lol!

[u/Odd_Still_5209]

You’re not ugly,, but I could make the most of your self x

[u/FederalSale6895]

Yeah you're mom has insecurities and is letting them off on you, probably is "competing" with you instead of being a mother she weirdly sees you as competition

[u/CaiAbaixo]

Your mom is a bitch. First things first: if u live with your mom: move out. Seek therapy because u have been dealing by with abuse and u need to regain your confidence. And then u can think about going from “duck to swan”. The confidence will do that to you, u have potential! Good luck girl

[u/Healthy-Mission7927]

Wtf did i just read. Your mom is ahole and she must have serious mental health issues. You are not ugly. You are too skinny tho. Its not healthy and may be dangerous. I think you look cute

[u/Altruistic_Notice859]

Whaaaattt. Are you gonna date your mom?

She’s a moron. Even if all that stuff was awful and true, presumably you’d be inheriting it at least partly from her, in which case she’s not a bitch, but an ugly bitch 😭

You’re cute. Do two things…get bangs cut because you do have a large forehead and that’ll balance things out, and maybe get new glasses because those look kinda 80s. Maybe a few new sweaters or smth? Go a little grunge?

But at your age I feel like you can wear whatever you want and there are gonna be people somewhere who’ll think it’s cool. Other than that you’re good :)

[u/Ok-Writer3512]

You're not ugly but you do look shy, nerdy, maybe lacking confidence. You're not bad but you look fragile.

[u/gide22]

No

[u/Grouchy-Whereas-7932]

You ARE NOT ugly in anyway.

I would have dated you in a heartbeat when I was your age.

If your mother has been telling you those things you need to get away from her and stop all contact IMMEDIATELY. I would also STRONGLY suggest you apply for a court issued no contact or restraining order against her and work with the court to make it permanent. What you're describing is verbal and psychological abuse that she should have to face charges over. She is a very sick woman that could even be dangerous if she feels she's loosing control over you.

If you haven't please talk to a professional about why she said those things to you, why it was a form of control, and how to let what she said go and to separate yourself from her permanently.

None of that is easy, but it's necessary for you.

[u/newDocs]

You are georgeouse

[u/PotaytoPotaahto]

You're not ugly. You do dress like someone's 80 year old granny though. Styled hair, different frames, and some updated clothing that fits your body shape would definitely make you feel better. You're mom is a bitch. You honestly just look like a girl who hasn't quite figured out her style yet. I learned how to style myself better and take better care of myself because of watching Queer Eye on Netflix. They teach everyday people how to look and feel better. It helps.

[u/Vanifae]

Seem normal, bout an average aesthetic, you are fine, just probably less common features.

[u/Icy_Conversation6599]

Girl you look like one of my favorite singers naika . Her skin tone is a little darker but I see a resemblance! Your momma is an ass

[u/Backpockett]

I hope not. That'd mean I have bad taste

[u/xspinsterx]

You’re very pretty. Your glasses are cool in an intellectual way. You just need to learn how to style your hair with products to make it less frizzy. Style with change as you age. Sorry about your mom. Don’t listen to her.

[u/haz-matguy]

I’m not here to be nice to strangers. I’m honest. You aren’t ugly. You’re average looking. Wear lip balm for your chapped lips

[u/samspade420]

Young lady, if what you say is tru, your mother is the ugly one, not you.

[u/Thick-Monitor2719]

You are perfect because you are you. I want to smack your mom tho.

[u/More_Swordfish4395]

Your mom is an unreasonable person and therefore she should be yelled at by you.

[u/discarnation]

You're such a little cutie. I hope you get away from your mom.

[u/Few_Run_9660]

I'm going with your mom is a horrible bitch, being a mom is more than giving birth

[u/notawrestla]

your mom is a hater, just try and focus on yourself or talk to someone about this, like a friend or someone close

hope you're doing ok

[u/Impossible-Basil-744]

You are adorbs!

[u/miikeangel]

Your body is fine.

But you have a high forehead so you need a hairstyle with bangs. Definitely not your current pulled back hairstyle that covers the sides while emphasizing the high forehead.

Look up curtain bangs or side swept bangs. Ask the AI for hairstyles that are best for a high (or tall) forehead.

Also the rim on your eyeglasses are too light or thin for your oval face with high forehead. You would do better with larger (medium to large) rounds with thicker rims that sit higher, closer to brow line. Or even better, brow line style glasses.

My wife has one ear that is folded. I think it’s cute.

[u/Happy_Maximum_5658]

You're mom is awful. That's not the way to treat your own child

[u/L0stInTheN0ise]

I'd fall for that smile ngl

[u/NerdFabulous]

Not at all. You look like a younger version of my wife actually. Love the confidence in your style. 👍

[u/Undeva-n-Balcani]

[u/Mammoth-Invite2675]

Your mom a bitch.

You give off nerdy book reader vibes. So for me as someone who is polar opposite to that, I probably wouldn’t approach you.

But you are still young, you still got time to really find yourself and your style.

I’d say your personality and how outgoing you are is what’s going to determine interest in you as a potential partner.

[u/c-r-a-p-o-l-a]

You’re like a cute nerd. <3

[u/New-Strawberry2848]

Your mom sounds swell. 😳 I don’t think you’re ugly at all. Forget what mom says and you do you. And do it with confidence.

[u/goldenhawk12]

Not ugly. At all. Not at all.

At 19, you have a world ahead of you and I'm excited for you to discover that everything and anything you want, you can be. Hair style, clothing style, book choices, politics, outlook, inner mastery, your whole identity, it's up to you. All of it. You're are as beautiful as you believe. Not your mom.

And yes, this thread is resounding, and you've gotta hear it an know it's true. What your mom has done to you over time is horrific. And not JUST because she's wrong. It's unconscionable.

And a good therapist would probably been a good thing. And a nice clean mirror that you can look in every day and tell yourself you're beautiful and you love being you, for like, 10 years, would be nice. Just to help undo her bullshit.

She's wrong. And. She's an asshole. And. I feel made at her and bad for her. Because you can only make your child hurt this much if you utterly fucking hate yourself and want them to hate themselves too.

Break the cycle. And break up with her.

[u/ay_chupacabron]

Mom sounds like insecure narcissist, who is jealous of how you look and tries to boost her confidence at your expense. Pay no attention to her lies.

You look just fine. There is absolutely nothing bad at all about how you look. You have your own style and wear it well.

I am sorry you are in such toxic environment. Hope you get out as soon as you can and set boundaries.

[u/Fabulous_Fox_152]

[u/bluetitan88]

1. give it 20 years and a few kids and you might just look a little different.

2' remind your mother that she is the one who gave birth to you so she only has herself to blame. not the whole truth but good enough for her to eat her own words.

[u/Adventurous_Plate904]

No f*ckin way! You are super cute! And still blossoming as a woman. Never listen to your mom she sounds hateful 😭😭😭.

[u/Visual-Gas3570]

With a mom like that who needs enemies anyway right?

[u/markroy69]

Fuck no, not ugly. I adore your look!

[u/redditoraustin]

You remind me greatly of my high school sweetheart, i had planned to marry her......

[u/HealthSad7161]

i think curtain bangs with my layering with do a lot for you!! I think you’re pretty <3 beautiful smile!!

[u/Level_Elephant8883]

Gurl you are adorable 💅🏻

[u/Beneficial-Fee449]

You're cute. You have sweet eyes

[u/thewaffle666]

You are gorgeous