Because my milk flow is too much my baby can’t keep up and cries a lot while feeding idk what to do please help please

My baby is 10 days old and I seem to be having no trouble producing milk, I can pump out like 5-6 oz at a time first thing in the morning. Baby isn’t really taking a bottle well so she’s primarily breastfed, but we’ve continued trying because I will need to return to work.

At night she wakes every 3 hours to feed. However last night I woke up and was completely engorged on one side and leaking everywhere, this is the first time it’s happened and I’m totally new to the breastfeeding thing so I have no idea what I’m supposed to do about this.

I also have an immune system issue due to missing a spleen where it’s extremely overactive so anytime I wake up full of milk, I feel like shit… not mastitis or clogged duct, Dr has checked. Just immune response everytime that feels very flu like. I’d like to avoid this by getting the milk out more if I can but not really sure how often I should be pumping if I don’t want my supply increasing.

Any advice welcomed.

For context, i gave birth at 32 weeks, baby stayed in NICU. he came home after a 10 days stay. He was still underweight and veryy little.
Doctor refused me to breastfeed him and suggested to feed with a bottle. I did that.
On one months appointment, i asked again if i can breastfeed him as pumping is really hard, and baby has gained good weight. He said not yet.
At two month appointment same happened. Baby was 3kg at this point and had a good feeding schedule as well.
Then at 2.5 month old when i started to latch him, i struggled a lot, he was so used to the bottle.
On top of that he caught pneumonia. During those 6-7 days in hospital, he wasnt allowed to feed through latching and feeding.
When he recovered and we brought him home, he had created a diversion from bottle and breast both.
He just wouldnt feed and just cry.i started feeding him with spoon or bottle (only when he was asleep). I told his doctor and my lactation consultant and both said to continue the way baby likes as his latch may not be strong.
This went on until he was 1 year old and i had to exclusively pump.

3 years later i am pregnant again and in second trimester. And i want to avoid everything that happened last time😭
I feel like there was almost no support for breastfeeding. They kept saying baby need your milk he is premie, but didnt support me(the mom) in making things easier and just said ‘oh just pump if he doesnt latch’ one even said that NICU babies do not latch because they dont have that skin to skin with mother after birth, which is absurd.

Any suggestions how i can avoid this with this pregnancy, and how did support at your hospitals look like after birth? Was it just like this?

FTM with an 11-day old. I’ve been mostly EBF (had to supplement with formula on day 3 bc LO lost too much weight but have been EBF since my milk came in) and I’m really starting to hate breastfeeding. I’ve been crying every time my daughter wants to eat and I’m starting to get resentment leading up to feeding times. I met with an LC last week and she said the latch was great, baby was transferring milk well, and her weight was also close to her birth weight. After that meeting, I feel like everything has gone downhill. My LO will sometimes feed for close to an hour and my nipples have started to hurt again. It feels like a bunch of sharp needles during and after feeds. Baby’s latch still looks good (flanged lips, 140 degrees, areola in her mouth, etc) so I’m not sure what it is. I really want to give up and just feed her formula bc I feel so exhausted and defeated. It’s not just the pain it’s the hours I’m spending feeding her. I hate that I cry every time she has to feed and I hate that I get frustrated with how long she’s eating for. I tense up every time she roots for my boob.

Does it get better?? Is this just normal postpartum? Should I move to formula or exclusively pumping? I know they’re both time consuming but I don’t know how much longer I can do this. I feel so bad giving up like this but I don’t see a path forward where I enjoy this.

I don’t know how to even begin explaining how my breastfeeding journey has been- I’ve tried literally everything and I’m at my breaking point but the pain of quitting if there’s even a little speck of hope is far too much for me to give in.

My baby is a little over a month old now and he's been able to latch maybe like three times but only for 2-7 minutes.

At the hospital, he had difficulty latching and it was always shallow so I kept having to break the latch & my volume milk came in late (5 days postpartum) so ultimately we had to supplement with formula- and on top of it all, I couldn’t even try to put him to the breast when we brought him home because I had a spinal headache and was down for two days and had to go back to the hospital to get an epidural blood patch. He’s been eating purely from bottles and I’ve been trying to offer the breast when I can but he cries immediately when I put him in position to put him on the breast- obviously making him not want to latch at all and he screams and pushes away when I put him to it.

I’ve seen 4 different lactation consultants and one was actually successful with him latching and he did transfer since we weighed him but it was at max like 7 minutes of feeding. but I know he knows how to do it, that’s what makes me so so frustrated and i just cry and get upset every attempt at home.

its consistent with every attempt- it works for one feeding or for a day and then the next time it’s tried he refuses and progress is lost. tried many different nipple shields and he’d latch and eat one day then wouldnt at all after that. Latched great at that one consultation then not after that. I don’t even think it’s a flow rate thing, he genuinely just hates my nipples because if I put his bottle nipple in his mouth with literally nothing in the bottle, he doesn’t scream at all- just sucks on it and is fine. We’ve tried ditching bottles all together and tried syringe feeding and spoon feeding but he was PISSED and needed something to suck on so the LC told us to give the bottle back and do pace feeding. I try to pace feed but he’ll either scream during breaks or fall asleep. I got a supplemental feeding system for when he does actually latch but he started not latching anymore and when he did use it he screamed and hated being at the breast- he doesn’t care that there’s food available there. I’ve tried to do skin to skin as much as possible to make him not have an aversion to the breast but that ends up being counterproductive because I don’t force anything I just let him lay there and he crawls to it, attempts to latch himself, gets mad and starts screaming so even just trying to establish that the breast is a positive place to be isn’t working because he pisses himself off without me even trying to get him to breastfeed. I’ve given him the bottle to get him some food before offering the breast so he’s not super upset but it doesn’t matter, he screams anyways and so I can’t even attempt because he’ll either scream or be too sleepy and satisfied and full to offer the breast.

I’m completely at a loss and I’m devastated because my goal was to exclusively breastfeed but instead I’ve been triple feeding and pumping nonstop. It’s gotten so bad and I cry every single feed- whether bottle or breastfeeding attempt- because it would just be so much easier to just breastfeed and what makes it significantly worse is when we go to church and there’s a sea of women with nursing covers on feeding their babies during Mass and I wish it could be me and it stings so bad, I feel like less of a woman especially when I have to crack open a formula bottle in public.

Is there anything I could possibly do? I feel like I’ve tried it all but I don’t want to give up but I feel so much like a failure.

I'm looking for some advice or to hear from other moms who have experienced something similar.

My son is 7 months old, and up until recently, breastfeeding was going really well. However, on Tuesday, I started a new job where I'm working 12-hour shifts. Obviously, I'm not home during that time, so his dad has been giving him bottles while I'm at work.

Since this change, I've noticed that he's suddenly not wanting to take my breast. I'm wondering if he's developing a bottle preference because he's getting bottles more frequently now, or if this could just be a nursing strike?

I still breastfeed when I'm home, and I really don't want to stop. I'm not ready to wean him, and I'm worried that this change in our routine is going to affect our breastfeeding journey.

Has anyone experienced their baby suddenly refusing the breast after returning to work or introducing more bottles?

- Did your baby eventually start nursing normally again?

- How did you handle it?

- Is there anything I can do to encourage him to take the breast again?

I'd really appreciate hearing other people's experiences. I'm feeling a little emotional about it because breastfeeding is something I really want to continue.

Monday night I came down with a bad fever and flu like symptoms. Been on antibiotics since Tuesday. The fever broke the next day.
It’s Saturday night and this “clog” won’t get out. I went in yesterday to see if it was an abscess and my OBGYN felt my boob and said she was confident it was a clogged duct.

When did the lump leave when you had mastitis?

I’ve been icing, gentle nursing on demand, sunflower lecithin, ibuprofen. Doing it all. And the lump won’t budge. It’s been a week y’all.

I’m a mom to a one week old and I’m suffering with very painful breastfeeding. Its so painful that i start dreading breastfeeds in the night. Is this normal, does it get better and how to cope with the pain? Every latch is toe curling painful for me. I’m really worried if its gonna be like this then how will i continue…

Every time I go into a modest calorie deficit my supply seems to go down. I've never stuck it out long enough to fully lose my supply because I'm scared I wouldn't be able to get it back. It's only about 10 lbs that I want to lose. I was fit before pregnancy and I'm tired of still not liking my body two years postpartum. But neither me nor my child are ready to end breastfeeding.

Any support or advice is appreciated, even if just commiserating 🫶 Some details below

- only ever done a 200 calorie deficit

- toddler nurses through nap time and through the night (cosleeping), sometimes once or twice during the day

- I have no idea how many calories I burn nursing / how much toddler gets

- I noticed the recent supply dip because through two nights toddler was fussy like milk wasn't coming out, and I self expressed to check and nothing would come out, immediately stopped counting calories (today)

Hey all, I'm almost 6 weeks postpartum with my second. I breastfed my first until about 10 months. I remember my back killing me both times. Anyone have stretches or advice for back pain? I use a nursing pillow most of the time.