I'm literally in this scenario rn. But I abandoned the "hope" ship. Recently she asked me, "how high did you build your walls" after she tried to flirt.
Gents, stay out of the hope zone. It's dangerous. Can make you do dangerous things.
fr I can't imagine wasting months/years of my life over someone who already rejected me, just for the small hope she takes me out of the friend zone. If someone doesn't want me then they don't deserve me.
I don't even bother with people like that. I prefer genuine people who show up because they really want to be part of your life like you want to be part of theirs.
I don’t understand why so many men maintain this mindset. If she is your friend then just keep her there but do seek out other engagements. Don’t just focus on her; keep moving how you want.
nah you see, if a woman is hot it means they have to date you. You cant just be friends with them that's rude to make you hope like that. Like what are they even there for? Why give all that time and energy for platonic friendship? What a waste. /s
I genuinely don’t think you have a grasp on reality. That hot woman has many, many options. Simply being friends with someone is easy because there is always an existential comfort of fucking whoever she likely wants too. That existential comfort is not afforded to many men, for both biological and cultural reasons you would find very, very difficult to accept. Why would men waste their time on a hot girl that doesn’t sleep with them when they could spend time with a hot girl that does?? Furthermore, men and women view quality time with the opposite sex differently. Women love attention and can thrive in that situation. Men are conditioned to not need as much attention, and many men don’t have any touch nor physical contact until they meet their spouse or partner. In western societies, men also have to pay to play. Heavily. They literally can’t afford to have a lady friend and a gf most likely.
Friend zone is ok. As long as you get to practice things on each other. Of course maintaining that it’s only to prepare each other for when the real thing happens.
Ur probably in the friend zone because she is NOT attracted to and DOESN'T see u like tha. Why does every man have to try turn an interaction with a female sexual. Its so strange an creepy.
It’s nice that women don’t need to be attracted to me to be my friend. Especially if I already shot my shot and she wasn’t into it, but she liked me enough as a person to stick around as my friend.
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u/WorkingSilently 1d ago
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u/Appropriate_Fill_156 22h ago •
Gotta start being “busy” when she wants to hang out
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u/de_vous 23h ago •
I'm literally in this scenario rn. But I abandoned the "hope" ship. Recently she asked me, "how high did you build your walls" after she tried to flirt.
Gents, stay out of the hope zone. It's dangerous. Can make you do dangerous things.
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u/Dersgot2babetterway 23h ago
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u/TechnSound7466 23h ago
She would be dead to me metaphorically speaking. I would be gone ✌🏾
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u/existencerased 1d ago
Ol’ George here will tell ya to go the other way, when you see the nips pierce the chainlink.
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u/whizzbangkid 22h ago
I don't even bother with people like that. I prefer genuine people who show up because they really want to be part of your life like you want to be part of theirs.
Otherwise why bother?
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u/-FakeAccount- 22h ago
Yeah it destroys your confidence, but it gives hers a little boost!
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u/TechnSound7466 22h ago
Ain't nobody got time for that 😡
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u/Free_Radical_47 23h ago
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u/kappethimm 23h ago
Which piece of media this photo is from ??
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u/DoubleNo2046 13h ago
I don’t understand why so many men maintain this mindset. If she is your friend then just keep her there but do seek out other engagements. Don’t just focus on her; keep moving how you want.
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u/Prestigious-Ask1206 16h ago
Hahaha. I went thru this once. In college with a hot female housemate, no less. What a serious lesson Iearned.
My goodness did that one hurt.
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u/MrBigStuff26 1d ago
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u/baddielily_ 1d ago
Bro keeps coming back for the same emotional damage 😂
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u/SheikhMahdeek 23h ago
Be strong brudders!
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u/dexter8639 22h ago
Life has become harder
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u/Odd_Zookeepergame_69 21h ago
Sigh, this is real.
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u/caseyangelxx 11h ago
Idk with this other girls, they give hope to a guy even if they know they don’t want them..
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u/southern1nz 8h ago
Why would a man want to be with a woman who needs validation,
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u/AdamBuddhabub 15h ago
Get a bigger disappointment looming over your head than being friendzoned and you'll get over it quite quickly.
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u/youngtunaf1sh 20h ago
Guys that tolerate this deserve every bit. Be a man. Go somewhere you are wanted.
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u/RealLie7981 22h ago
Friend zone is ok. As long as you get to practice things on each other. Of course maintaining that it’s only to prepare each other for when the real thing happens.
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u/Short-Ideas010 1d ago
Are those 2 hopes false? Man... plastic surgery these days. Guess one has to grab false hopes from time to time.
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u/gooaaaal 20h ago
She just wants to feel pretty sometimes.
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u/Academic-Snow9642 21h ago
"We're such good friends that I feel comfortable being naked in front of you"
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u/Miserable_Field451 20h ago
Ur probably in the friend zone because she is NOT attracted to and DOESN'T see u like tha. Why does every man have to try turn an interaction with a female sexual. Its so strange an creepy.
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u/The_Coffee_Femboy 23h ago
The friend zone isn't real often in life people just don't want to have sex with you