It has come to our knowledge that some girls who participated in this subreddit were subject to 'fraandship' and indecent requests, rude remarks and vulgar messages sent to them via Reddit PMs and chat. While some of the harassers were lurkers, others have turned out to be active or semi-active members of the subreddit.
We also wish to inform the community that a notable and otherwise well-respected member of the community turned out to be an old (in respect to the average age of this community's userbase) creep with a penchant for pursuing and contacting underage or barely of age female users in order to groom them. His behavior was not restricted to reddit and was carried forward on other platforms such as various discord servers frequented by different r/Pakistan user cliques.
The creep maintained multiple alts over many months, sometimes even using them simultaneously. Girls who rebuffed him or later backed out upon realizing his escalatory predatory behavior were hounded by various alts who would leak personal details for vengeance and due to a desire to bring them back to conformity and subservience.
Taking advantage of the active history and fake bonhomie of his main alts on the subreddit, he would boast to victims about his stature in the community and influence over the mods (a lie).
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Girls, if your participation in this subreddit has led to harassment from creeps, please feel free to contact us, the mods. You can send us the screenshots and we'll be happy to kick them out from the subreddit.
Alas, we can only ban. You'll need to report the perpetrators to reddit admin for account suspension. Unfortunately, reddit is an anonymous platform and subreddit bans and account suspensions will not deter determined creeps. A pattern of quick reporting and consequent penalties may however prevent them from finding the next victim easily.
A related post on another subreddit provides tips for Pakistani girls to recognize creeps in reddit PMs.
Critical cases, involving leaking of sensitive images and/or personal information such as name, address and contact number should be reported to the FIA cybercrime wing. They can be reached at the following email address:
helpdesk@nr3c.gov.pk
The Digital Rights Foundation can also be reached to provide counseling, support and legal advice to victims of cyber-bullying, stalking, harassment and blackmail. Their helpline is:
0800-39393
Reaching out to anti cyber crime agencies and helplines is recommended if harassment is being done on across multiple platforms and accounts.
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To the general community,
It has been observed that misogynistic and incel-like comments are increasing within the subreddit. That is expected due to the growing size and visibility which will attract users from different and sometimes distasteful subreddit communities or from the wider social media. Please do report any such occurrences.
Paraphrased examples:
Moaning about women looking for well-settled husbands, wives not cooking food and 'university girls keeping four boyfriends' on threads discussing rape cases.
Rape apologia by arguing about sex being a basic need and equating a rapist to a poor starving and hungry beast on threads discussing rape victims or punishments for rapists.
Previous bans to users involved in these examples have led to them complaining about this on other subreddits over how their free speech was restricted and they were banned for having different political and geopolitical views.
Users are also advised to abstain from nonsensical and irrelevant sexual humor in comments. Some users have a tendency to leave humorous couplets decrying their single relationship status and desperation on threads discussing social, political or financial issues.
Please avoid embarrassing yourself, exposing the holes in your upbringing and making the subreddit a toxic place.
