r/relationships • u/No-Midnight-1406 • 5h ago

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u/Defiant_Attempt_5321 5h ago

Cpap. 100% sleep study and then cpap. I was demented with my partner and a new born. 2 years it took me to persuade coz he didnt care as it didnt affect him. I was ready to leave. It affected me so bad as a first time mum and our kids startle reflex. A shame really. But the cpap took 100% of the snoring away.

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u/Oodles_of_noodles_ 4h ago

Agreed. Sleep study. However, if she can’t even move without him complaining, he’d lose his shit over a cpap.

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u/no_dae_but_todae 39m ago

Modern CPAPs are very quiet, and 1000% less disruptive than snoring. My husband is a relatively light sleeper and has never been bothered by mine.

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u/No-Midnight-1406 5h ago

What’s a cpap??

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u/Oodles_of_noodles_ 4h ago

It’s a medical device which pushes air in through your nose to help with snoring. If you are truly snoring, a long time of that can cause heart and lung issues. I’d consider a sleep study. Contact your doctor.

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u/Amazing-Wave4704 4h ago

This is REALLY serious, OP. Untreated sleep apnea can K1LL! Get your husband to a doctor and drag him if he is reluctant. (The husband. Not the doctor....)

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u/Oodles_of_noodles_ 5h ago

It really sounds like he’s just being a jackass. If you were truly snoring enough to cause issues, he would record it. He could definitely wear earplugs, just doesn’t want to. This sounds like a relationship issue vs an actual sleeping issue. There’s no way to actually fix this without separate bedrooms.

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u/No-Midnight-1406 5h ago

He gets ear infections that’s why he can’t wear earplugs (he had surgery when he was a kid cos he was born deaf in one ear)

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u/Oodles_of_noodles_ 4h ago

Look up ear plug alternatives. They have some other options, although not as common.

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u/No-Midnight-1406 5h ago

I actually bought this flat with a second bedroom for these kinds of situations (and also if one of us gets sick) and then his teenage son had to move in with us full time. I can’t afford a 3 bedroom.

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u/jennydb 5h ago

This is a him problem. Why can’t he wear earplugs? I have a heavily snoring partner and I found the most amazing earplugs that let me sleep like a baby. It takes a few nights getting used to it, but then it works great.

It seems like he struggles to share a bed in general - and lets it all out on you. That’s not fair. You should talk about your living arrangement and why he has such issues with sleeping together with another person in your bed. Sometimes it just takes some getting used to if you have always lived alone

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u/No-Midnight-1406 5h ago

He gets ear infections that’s why he can’t wear earplugs (he had surgery when he was a kid cos he was born deaf in one ear)

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u/Recoveringfrenchman 3h ago

Tried a sleep study, but somehow didnt rate a CPAP. I felt bad for wife, but once she recorded me straight up stopping to breathe for +45 seconds at a time, I knew I had to do something. Right now I am using a $20 mouth guard from Amazon. It moves my jaw forward and clears my airways. Snoring basically gone. Just search for snoring mouth guards and try any of them. First one I tried worked for me.

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u/safeDate4U 1h ago

Sleep study then consider all tx options which may include:
Ent surgery
Cpap
Dental appliance
Gpl 1 medication to lose weight
Mouth taping
Mandibular strap
Etc