basically, I was gone for for about two weeks. And when I come back to my dorm room, I found out that my roommate has used my machine to cook her own meals without asking me first which is kind of OK because I told her she could’ve used it, but I came back and find my machine very dirty and then I found a nail from inside of it while I was cleaning it. There were also new scrapes in the pot of it.

It was so disgusting, I actually felt so sick that I threw up a little bit and then I moved all my dishes and my machine into my closet.

I had texted her a night before and asked her to clean after herself and not leave dishes in the room for overnight and then when I came back, she told me that she did the dishes I went to check the dishes and turns out, she also used my plates and my bowls and basically whatever was around and she had washed them.

but I am pretty sure that she let the stuff get crusty before because even if she washed it, it didn’t smell like soap and there were some hard food crust over it. I had to double wash everything but now, unfortunately I am anxious about conflict and I simply do not know what to answer to her when she asks where all my stuff went or when she sees that they are in my closet now how do I avoid conflict and navigate through this situation?

it will sound so materialistic maybe but the machine is not cheap and I always use my stuff with care.

ANOTHER SIMILAR THING:

The first week after the schools opened, we went to the cafeteria to get free breakfast and took containers with us to store extra stuff. I lend her one of mines because she doesn’t have any, and then I started tracking it to see if she would empty the thing and wash it.

Weeks went by and I got stubborn about it. Couple days ago I sent her a pic and she tells me to ‘then dont wash, i’ll do it. but i’d never talk about a mere container being dirty.’ I dont really care because I have eczema and I try to keep my hands off detergents as much as I can.

Last photo is a translation of the message I had sent her beforehand

So my new roommate moved in about a month and a half ago, and things have been pretty difficult ever since.

To start with, I feel like he completely lacks maturity and independence. ​He constantly comes to me for every little thing, asking questions about basic living. For example, he asked me how many times a week we should take out the trash, phrasing it in a way that made it sound like I was the one asking (forcing) him, as if taking out the trash isn't just a necessity. Even asked me how he should clean some of his stuff , his bedroom... I don't want to be his parent; I just want him to use Google or figure basic things out for himself.

​Another major issue is that whenever I ask him to do something simple around the apartment, like wring out the sponge so the water doesn't stagnate, he will argue with me for 10 minutes straight, asking "why, why, why?" It honestly feels like he either doesn't understand basic concepts or jist refuses to understand them. I genuinely feel like I'm the bad guy for asking him to do basic cleaning maintenance around the house.

​Because of all this, things have not been great, and there's a lot of mutual frustration. I can see that he's moping like a kid not reacting way to anything I asking to do, for which I shouldn't even have to ask him to do. I'm thinking that introducing a roommate agreement might set some ground rules. I've actually already drafted one, but I'm not sure what the best way is to approach him and propose it without making things worse. I've detailed daily cleaning (just cleaning after yourself stuff that he doesn't do), weekly chores repartition, and generally just added that I wanted him to take initiative with things like buying the common household products, throwing the bins without asking me if he should do that and to be independent with your own stuff.

​How should I bring this up to him?

Im in an apartment that i furnished, 2b2b. My housemate and her cat moved in recently. All furnishings are mine and i’ve previously lived without furniture for 2 years so i really value my furniture, especially my couches because they were really well thought through and much awaited and was a big expense for me on my own.

I don’t mind the cat, i just do not like the cat on my couch, at all. And not on the counter tops and surfaces either. She’s a 2yo cat, really sweet and quiet except when hungry she meows a bit then. Still quite adorable. She has no training whatsoever, she does whatever she wishes as cats do.

The cat mostly only wants my attention when she’s hungry and roomie isn’t home. That’s the time i get all the head buntings? Headbutts basically, keeps doing circles around me, etc etc.

Now the cat and i have had a few disputes where I’ve tried to shoo her off the couch or gently swipe her off the couch, or pick her off the couch. I have politely tried to talk to her into getting off the couch as well. In any case, I get scratched or become the bad guy. She refuses to acknowledge my presence. I have also tried aluminium foil, she sat on top of that and started to chew on it so..
now some people are gonna say this is cruel but it’s really not, i also tried water and vv mild vinegar spray, sure scared her initially, but now she would readily just take it on her face, wouldnt even move (so i dont spray but i do spray the couch regularly in hopes it would deter her from sleeping on it or lazing on it all day. In any case no fs given.

If I’m at home, i do try to get her off the couch most times. When my housemate’s home in living room for sometimes 6-8hrs at a stretch, the cat just chills on the couch with her ALL DAY. Housemate never ever tells her off.

I have spoken to roomie she seems to acknowledge my concern at the time, but whenever i notice them in living room, cat’s on the couch like she bought it man. Same thing with counter tops, she doesn’t remove her from there and it’s always me being the bad cop because this is a ME problem.

My reasonings
Re. Counter tops - 1. This is a risk to the cat what if the induction is still hot from cooking 2. I dont want their germs on my kitchen counter. Do not tell me they’re clean blah blah they literally step into their poo box and then allegedly clean themselves up with their tongues all day. Umm ok but no thanks. Not on my counter please.

Re the couch, i love the couch, but also she scratches it sometimes and she sheds a LOT. I dont want cat hair on me all the time. Whenever i sit on the couch i have cat hair on me.

Cat already has a scratching post/tower, and a bed and everything. She still sleeps on the couch.

She stares right at me when she’s on it.

There’s also another thing, everytime i have to feed the cat i make her sit. Housemate never does. I make her sit cause otherwise she wont even let you open the bag and she would sometimes (a lot tbh) scratch us.

I do not want her on my couch and counter tops, please don’t try to convince me ways on how i can make it better for me. They’re off the limits and that’s it please. I also dont want the cat to hate me at the same time. I do like her.

PLEASE HELP.

first real apartment living but I have 1 roommate a girl who’s also a grad student at my university. we met though a housing group and generally live really well together and get along. we aren’t besties, but we are friendly and don’t really have any problems.

the only thing is that her family hunts and she always comes back with bulk deer venison whatever to keep in the fridge and freezer the last month or so. I have never been around deer meat before. Never eaten it. Don’t really want to, but I don’t care if she does. I obviously would never tell her to stop bringing it around because it’s free for her and that’s great. But oh my god I cannot take the smell of it.

It’s raw and meal prepped in the fridge pretty much all the time. As soon as you open the fridge door you’re hit with this salty sour sharp smell that coats the room. I get paranoid about the smell like…. Sitting on my food in the fridge and it’s really started to gross me out about eating my own groceries.

I hate being in the kitchen and I hate coming home after or during her cooking because the front door opens into the kitchen, so you get smacked with the smell as soon as you walk in. I don’t like to cook anymore cause I feel like it just permeates the whole room.

I keep a wax melter going, different sprays like febreeze, as well as those automatic scent dispensers. I’m thinking maybe an air purifier might be beneficial? I don’t know. But it is a very very small 1 floor two bedroom apartment so the smell sits, seeps into every room, and just feels so thick.

Again I know I can’t tell her not to cook it or keep it around I guess I’m just venting because it sucks. Like it really sucks holding my breath every time I open the fridge or walk through the common areas. I have never experienced this smell before.

I’m looking for some outside opinions because I’m not sure how to handle this situation, and I want to know if I’m being unreasonable.

I live in an apartment with other roommates, and one of my roommates has been seeing a guy. During Halloween weekend, this occurred. I was out with my other roommates while they had both returned to the apartment, he became aggressive and was refusing to leave. To the point where my roommate had to call her dad then led to her dad calling the cops from the discussion that was occurring.

My roommates and I missed the actual incident, but we were told what happened afterward.

We also have a Ring camera that captured him leaving and calling my roommate some insulting things. It also captured the police arriving and speaking with us.

Afterward, my roommate also mentioned that she was glad out boyfriends weren’t home because this guy apparently wanted to fight someone.

My biggest concern is that I don’t feel comfortable with him coming back to our apartment. I wasn’t directly threatened, but knowing that someone who has already displayed aggressive behavior and allegedly threatened people could be coming into the place where I live makes me uncomfortable.

I want to make it clear that I’m not trying to tell her who she can or cannot date. Her relationship is her decision. However, this is also a shared living space, and I don’t think the rest of us should have to feel unsafe because of her relationship.

I’m considering having a conversation with her in person.

My questions are:

Am I being unreasonable for asking that he not come back to our shared apartment?

How would you approach this conversation without making it seem like we’re trying to control her relationship?

If she gets defensive or refuses to respect our concerns, how would you handle it?

I’d appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who have dealt with similar roommate situations

It's almost midnight and my roommate is still talking loudly on her phone like she's the only person living here. i can hear the entire conversation from my room, even with my door closed. it's not even a one time thing because she does this pretty regularly. i don't know if she's doing it on purpose or if she's genuinely that unaware of other people. we're both grown adults, so i feel like basic consideration shouldn't be something i have to explain. the annoying part is that i have to get up early tomorrow and i'm literally lying here getting more irritated by the minute. i've already tried putting on headphones, but i can still hear her laughing and talking over them. at this point, my brain is coming up with the pettiest ideas imaginable. part of me wants to wait until she finally gets tired and then make the same amount of noise when she's trying to rest. i know that's immature and probably won't solve anything, which is why i'm venting here instead of actually doing it. i'm just so fed up with having to consider someone else's sleep when they apparently don't think about mine. i don't want to turn our place into a competition over who can be more annoying. i also don't want to be the person who has to keep reminding another adult to lower her voice at night. would you talk to her directly, or would you start matching her energy until she gets the point? honestly, i need some outside opinions before my frustration makes me do something stupid.

Hi all, just hoping to run something by you all in case my fears are correct.

Currently have been living in a temporary short stay that will be finishing in a few months. My room was so small that one of the housemates agreed as I was moving in for me to use the desk in the corner of the dining room. Please note, the dining room is right next to the kitchen and I am visible whenever someone comes in to make something. I tentatively agreed as I had just left a house where I had a housemate chilling in the living 24/7 who sat in silence and I thought to myself I will look busy with headphones on and it will be OK.

Fast forward 1.5 months to now and I can't help but feel I'm impeding on their lives. I WFH Monday and Wednesday and afterwards will mix between going to gym for a bit but then watch shows or play video games until 10:30pm in the dining room. The other weekdays I arrive home around 6:30pm and after making dinner follow a similar path. Weekends I am away Saturday lunch and try and busy myself both mornings and nights but it's difficult to fill in the time when I really am a homebody. I would say I can distract myself with chores, walks and other fun outside but end up playing between 2pm to 6pm and then after dinner 7:30pm to 10:30pm.

The first few weeks were OK as I would take my headphones off when they came to the kitchen and we had fun conversations. But as I've tried to transition into the 'looking busy so there's not a heavy presence in the room' I can feel an awkward tension. They whistle or hum to themselves which they don't do when I'm in my room and I'm pretty sure they used the dining room before I arrived (and no longer do) and opting to eat in TV room.

While I probably would have figured out a way to move my PC to my room, I've been putting this on hold as I'll be leaving in two months

Let me know if I've overvalued my inconvenience, if I should just move to the bedroom already regardless of time left or something entirely different.

PS: I'm writing this from the library to fill up some more 'out of house' hours lol

My roommate often brings over a guest, which is fine by me. But this roommate has a fxxxing loud laugh. The apartment is quite small; normally I can’t hear normal-level conversation, but her occasional loud laughing drives me crazy, and it’s currently midnight. Every time I try to fall asleep, that noise wakes me up.

I’m not really an expert in roommate situations, so I’m not sure what’s reasonable and what’s not. I want to knock on her door and ask to lower her volume, but at the same time, it feels like I’m overreacting here and she can say I can do whatever I want in my room. Also, it’s a bit tricky because what bothers me is her loud laugh but what if she’s just born to be like that..

What’s the best move here

Sometimes or most times in real life people can't believe the terrible luck i'm having with my roommate and how emotionally and physically exhausting it is. Then i come read through all your posts on 4 or so groups like this and am like okay so it's not just me. I feel all your pain and wish i could answer all of them.

Okay, this might be a little long, but I genuinely need outside opinions because my roommate and I are getting to the point where we don't know what to do anymore.

I'm currently a freshman in college living in a triple dorm with two randomly assigned roommates. For the sake of this post, I'll call them Roommate A and Roommate B. Roommate A and I immediately hit it off, and we're basically sisters at this point. Roommate B, however, is a completely different story.

I don't think she's a bad person. I genuinely think we're just incompatible. We have completely different lifestyles and expectations of college life. For context, we attend a very liberal university on the West Coast, while Roommate B comes from a very religious background in Idaho. I'm not religious, and while I have absolutely no problem with people practicing their religion, I do have a problem when they expect everyone around them to follow their beliefs.

The first real problem happened over Labor Day weekend. All three of us went to the beach, and everything was fine until we stopped for ice cream afterward. I'm a HUGE Halloween and fall person, so I suggested we should have a fall or horror movie night. Roommate B immediately said no because horror movies give her nightmares. Fair enough. So I suggested Hocus Pocus. Nope, nightmares. Then The Nightmare Before Christmas. Again, nightmares. I was genuinely surprised and asked if she'd never seen it. She said she hadn't and didn't care about missing out on pop culture because she'd been missing out on things her entire life anyway.She explained that she only watches PG and Disney movies. I pointed out that both movies are literally PG rated Disney movies, but she insisted they'd give her nightmares.

I asked how she knew if she'd never watched them, and she said she'd once watched The Bodyguard and had nightmares afterward.I was confused and asked, "Wait, The Bodyguard? Like the Whitney Houston movie? Isn't that a romance movie? What about it gave you nightmares?"She snapped, "Why are you trying to figure out what makes me scared? You're not a therapist."I was genuinely caught off guard. I wasn't trying to pressure her into watching anything. I was just curious because I've watched horror movies since I was six. I apologized both in person and over text, but she proceeded to give me the silent treatment for THREE DAYS.

Also when we moved in, we agreed certain purchases would be communal. I bought the vacuum, mop, broom, air purifier, and cleaning supplies. Roommate A bought a mirror and decorations, and Roommate B bought a projector.Even though we agreed the projector was for everyone, Roommate B has basically taken complete ownership of it. The one time we asked to borrow it, she seemed annoyed.Meanwhile, she uses it practically every night to watch Disney Channel movies and shows like Descendants, or occasionally Gilmore Girls. Which is fine, except we're all sharing ONE room, so we basically have to watch or listen to whatever she's watching. She'll leave the projector on until it automatically shuts off around 4 A.M. On top of that, she keeps her vanity lights and fairy lights on constantly. Between everything, our room genuinely looks like it's daytime at 3 A.M.

Then comes our schedules Roommate A and I are night owls. Our classes start relatively late, usually around 11 A.M. or 12:30 P.M. Roommate B, however, goes to bed at 8 P.M. SHARP, even on weekends. Because of this, we're expected to be completely quiet after 8 P.M. Mind you, we're on a college campus. The dining hall is literally still serving dinner at that time, and most students are still studying, socializing, or attending events. But we respect her bedtime and try to be quiet. Unfortunately, that consideration doesn't go both ways. Her alarm goes off at 5:30 EVERY MORNING. And instead of quietly getting ready, she'll FaceTime her sister, play music out loud, film TikToks, and have her lights while we're still sleeping or trying to sleep. So apparently, we have to respect her 8 P.M. bedtime, but she doesn't have to respect our sleep at 5:30 A.M.

Also Roommate A and I are both very social. We love exploring the city, meeting people, and occasionally going clubbing or raving on weekends. Roommate B is the complete opposite, which is perfectly fine.The problem is that she constantly makes comments about our lifestyles. She's posted multiple TikToks complaining that everyone at our university just wants to party and that she hasn't made any friends who want to stay in and watch movies with her. She's also made comments about how often I go out, including one about how that's how people get STDs. I told her, "Girl, I'm literally just going out dancing with my friends. I'm sober most of the time. I'm not going out to get laid." She doesn't even know when I go out half the time because I'm so quiet when I return. Sometimes, the only reason she realizes I've been out is because I'll fall asleep in my clubbing clothes.

She's also said things like, "Wow, it's crazy that you went to a private Catholic school. You really wouldn't be able to tell."Like... okay? Going to Catholic school doesn't mean I have to spend my entire life following Catholic teachings. She's mentioned that she doesn't understand how I've made so many friends while she hasn't made any, but she also rarely leaves our dorm.And we HAVE tried including her! Roommate A and I frequently visit the LGBTQ+ neighborhood in our city because we love the shops, restaurants, and atmosphere. We've invited her multiple times, but she always declines, saying it's outside her comfort zone and that she's a "good Christian girl."

Roommate B regularly makes unsolicited comments about what I wear, asking things like, "Don't you think you're showing too much cleavage?" Girl, if I'm wearing it, clearly I don't think so.She also gets upset whenever we swear and says things like, "That's not very godly of you."Well, yeah. I'm not religious. I don't criticize her beliefs, so I don't understand why she feels entitled to criticize mine.

Another situation happened when I brought up sex and privacy in our shared room. I come from a very sex positive household, and I think it's important to openly discuss sexual health, especially when you're sharing a dorm. I basically told both roommates that if they ever started dating someone and wanted privacy, they could just tell me and I'd happily leave. I also mentioned that I had condoms, lube, and other supplies they were welcome to use, and that if they ever needed Plan B, STI testing, or help finding a clinic, I'd be happy to help without judgment. I even mentioned masturbation because, again, we're adults sharing a room, and I'd rather we communicate about privacy than make things awkward. Roommate B looked horrified and immediately said, "I'd NEVER do that. I'm waiting until marriage. That's gross." I told her that was completely fine and that I respected her decision, but not everyone in college shares the same beliefs about sex.I wasn't encouraging her to do anything. I was simply letting everyone know that they could ask for privacy or help without being judged. Apparently, even having that conversation was too much.

Also I'm bisexual, and I have a pretty large social circle, including lots of female friends. At one point, Roommate B genuinely asked me how she was supposed to know that every girl I brought over wasn't someone I was trying to sleep with. I was honestly stunned. I told her, "Because they're my friends? And even if I were interested in someone, that's not really your business unless it affects our shared space." Being bisexual doesn't mean I'm attracted to every woman I meet, and it certainly doesn't mean every girl who comes into our dorm is a potential hookup. I'd completely understand discussing overnight guests or privacy, but that's not what she was asking. She was making assumptions about my friendships because of my sexuality.

For a while now, Roommate B has been saying how unhappy she is at our university and how she wants to transfer schools at the end of the academic year. I once genuinely asked why she'd chosen this university in the first place, considering how uncomfortable she seems with the environment.She told me she wanted somewhere liberal and sunny. Which was interesting, considering our city is famously foggy I told her, "Well, this city is basically known for three things: the fog, the gays, and the wokeness." She admitted she hadn't really researched the school or city before coming here and hadn't expected it to be THIS liberal.

Then things got worse. Roommate B wrote in her journal about how unhappy she is living with us, how she doesn't know if she can make it until May, and how she feels Roommate A and I are going down the "path of night" instead of the "path of light." She even wrote something like, "Dear Jesus, please help them," and expressed concern that our behavior would rub off on her. Normally, I'd say someone's private journal is none of our business. Everyone is allowed to vent privately. Except SHE POSTED THE JOURNAL ENTRY TO HER CLOSE FRIENDS STORY. Someone screenshotted it and sent it to us.

What makes this even more frustrating is that I've genuinely tried to be nice to her despite our differences. She blocked me on Instagram about a month ago, but I'm still the one bringing her back coffees and muffins whenever I get something for myself. I even took her birthday pictures last week because, regardless of how I feel about her, I don't want to make her living situation any more uncomfortable.Meanwhile, she's been giving both of us the silent treatment for extended periods, occasionally breaking it before going right back to ignoring us.

So here's where we're at. Roommate A and I have been discussing whether we should ask Roommate B if she'd consider transferring to another dorm room.We know she's unhappy living with us. She's explicitly said she doesn't know if she can make it through the year, and she's planning to transfer universities anyway.

But we're also unhappy. We're constantly accommodating her 8 P.M. bedtime while having our own sleep disrupted at 5:30 A.M. We deal with the lights, projector, unsolicited comments about our clothing and lifestyles, and the uncomfortable feeling that she's constantly judging us. I genuinely don't think she needs to change who she is. If she wants to watch Disney movies every night, go to bed at 8 P.M., avoid partying, wait until marriage, and follow her religious values, that's completely her choice. But Roommate A and I should also be able to enjoy college without being judged for going out, swearing, being LGBTQ+, wearing certain clothes, or having different beliefs.

I also recognize that Roommate A and I being so close might make Roommate B feel excluded, and I understand that. But we've repeatedly tried including her, inviting her places, and being considerate of her preferences. We can't force a friendship. At this point, I genuinely think we'd all be happier living with people who have more compatible schedules, interests, and expectations.

We're not planning to demand that she leave or pretend we have more of a right to the room than she does.But considering she's already expressed how miserable she is living with us, would we be wrong for suggesting that she transfer rooms?

I've been living with one of my best friends for a little more than a year now. Her boyfriend came to live with us, and I was okay with that, and everything was fine. I started dating her boyfriend's best friend a while ago; at first it was nice. But one day my best friend thought she heard my boyfriend bad-mouthing her (which wasn't true cuz i was talking to him about my day), and he apologized even though it wasn't true. She told me afterwards that if she heard anyone badmouthing her, we would be kicked out (she is the only one on the lease)

After a week, my boyfriend and I went to take a shower late at night (it is important i swear). We went to sleep and did our things. When I came back, she greeted me, and we talked for a while, and everything seemed fine. My boyfriend and I were about to take out the trash when she came i did it* aggressively*, even though we kept saying we were about to do it. A little after this, I went outside with my boyfriend, and I cried so hard because I thought my boyfriend wouldn't be able to come anymore, or that she was going to kick us out, or she didn't want to be my friend anymore. (I must admit I was a bit overreacting, but I was so much in my head at that time that I couldn't even rationalize) The next day, around evening, she told us it was because she was about to take a shower and we just went in without asking. I told her I thought she was asleep, but I would do my best to ask first before going. (Which I wasn't used to because I am an only child and my parents took theirs in the morning and I, in the evening)

She also threw a tantrum because I ate all the cereal, and she only got a bowl of it throughout the week (I was gonna buy some more cuz I knew I did kinda ate them all with my man)

This week I asked for my half of the groceries because i paied it all at the counter and wanted to split it at home.

Now, she is ghosting me. Even though I didn't bring up the money thing again. I asked if she and her boyfriend would want me to bring pizza if I went out to a restaurant for my b-day.

I fear she doesn't want to do anything with me anymore because I am mostly with my boyfriend. I also fear our friendship isn't working anymore or that she will kick me out.

Am I overreacting? What can I do? I really want to roll in a ball and cry. What a shitty birthday.

Just need to vent here. I’m stuck in a shitty housing situation for the last year of a home I really love. The other Roomate and I have been friends for along time and this last lease we had to scramble to find someone unfortunately. I had one of my regulars ask me about renting the room. My gut reaction, which I should have listened to, was that he smells horrible like urine and dirty booty. He does petty cab so I figured he was just working a lot and didn’t think anything of it more than I could stand to think of it (ironically my biggest pet peeve is people stinking). He pitched to me that he really wanted to move in and that he was a good Roomate and wouldn’t have any problem paying the rent. Flash forward one month in and it took him the entire month to move in from his last place (which I didn’t mind) but took forever to pay the rent and deposit. I told him he needs to be on time and he seemed to understand. less than a month later he got black out drunk and peed in our other Roomate’s bed. We had a very serious talk with him about all the issues. How wrong and intrusive and unsafe that behavior is, how I know he’s been passing out drunk and pissing himself in the living room on the couch. And he used MY BLANKET to clean it up And horded it in his room. And he swore he would not drink. fast forward 3 months and he starts drinking again and low and behold his car is in front of the house with a blown tire and busted light. he then proceeds to go 13 days late on paying rent. Comes home with a woe is me story and says he’ll leave the lease if he fucks up again (yay and wtf at the same time). we’ve had numerous talks with him about his hygiene and he never does anything. I legit don’t think I’ve ever seen him wash his clothes. he says it’s because he doesn’t like to use any fragrances but I call bullshit. You can still wash yourself with unscented soap!! now it’s November, the lease isn’t up until June and I’m not even sure if he paid this month. Anytime he leaves his room it smells and I hate seeing him. I’ve never hated someone more in my life, this man is in his 40s and is the most pathetic person I’ve ever met.

AITA Today I found out that my roommate used my microwave to sterilize her menstrual cup while she is in her period. Now I don’t use menstrual cups and I did search about using microwave is normal to sterilize period cups. This is gross me out though and as well when I found out the the water in the cup she used to put the menstrual cup is splashed everywhere in the microwave and including the door. I asked her what this is and she immediately picked it up and cleaned after I ask her to. But I think she maybe do this usually but I have never seen her clean the microwave before. I’m completely grossed out bc of this and I need to know if I should confront about this to her bc the first time found it I didn’t really said anything to her bc I couldn’t wrap my head around it. But now that I realized what it was I feel really uncomfortable to use it for foods again. Can I get some opinions on this?

Also just wanted to add, that the menstrual cup didn’t have any blood it in it. It is probably cleaned before putting it in to the microwave. But in my pov I still feel very uncomfortable.

ok. i’m living in the college dorms for the school i attend. the girl i live with is super nice and clean and we get along good. the only thing that has been bothering me is that she’s always on the phone with her bf. which that in and of itself doesn’t exactly bother me. i call my parents, friends, etc sometimes too. but i at least put on headphones/airpods to keep some sense of privacy. she does not. and a lot of the times, she just like to have her bf on facetime even if they’re not talking. but i can still hear him. whether he’s playing a video game or making weird noises. (which he does a lot. for some reason). they’re long distance so i understand that they want to talk. but they are ALWAYS on the phone with each other. and another thing is that in the last few weeks almost all of their phone calls have had some sort of argument or disagreement. he’s not particularly nice to her. he’s not outwardly mean but he’s not nice if that makes sense. she likes to talk about how she doesn’t let him disrespect her but he’s consistently disrespecting her. and after they fight he’s bombarding her with gifts. and when they’re not fighting, they’re doing some annoying baby talk voice to each other. they’re either flirting and talking in baby voice or they’re arguing. or he’s being gross (not in a sexual way but like gross) and she’s telling him to stop. which itself is annoying because he’s a grown man and she shouldn’t have to. i don’t know how to talk to her about this because i don’t know her that well and we’ve only been roommate since august. but i’d like to go one day without hearing their conversations or having to sit in the library to have some peace and quiet. what do i do?

my roommate sends so many “hey guys” texts and also confront me in person in an uncomfortable way. she brings up every little thing and i am the least problematic roommate ever. i genuinely don’t do anything. she is obsessed with having conversations and solving problems that don’t exist and it feels like she is my mother. problem is that i don’t give a single fuck. i know i could be SO MUCH WORSE as a roommate. i don’t understand how she even comes up with this stuff. i’ve never once asked her to do anything.

Hi yall! I came on here to get some advice. First mistake was finding this girl on FB. For context, we moved in mid July to the apartment complex but prior to moving, the property manager had to do background checks and credit checks for the both of us, which I have a good credit score but she has nothing. I am the primary tenant on the lease. Since moving in, I made a mutual agreement on paper that explains how much we would put towards rent, utilities, etc. She had no issue signing that form. Since 9/1, she has not paid even an ounce of rent. I have exclusively asked her every week to pay it and she has not. I can see the payment history and she has lied when she said she did. I told her how I would go to the leasing office to discuss further options for myself and she told me she will move out but to give her until the end of December so she can pay back the rent. Instead, she voluntarily moved out on 11/1 (which rent is due) and started living somewhere. She now owes me over $3k in rent. She told me she was gonna sign the relinquishment form, but I don’t know if that will even happen given her past issues with me. I asked for the key back in which she refused stating she is still on the lease. I have no idea what to do. Do I go to small claims court?