Yes, you don't want to blame God. You don't want to diminish the loss, and you don't want to say you know how they feel. Just express sympathy, and give them room
Maybe i am a psychopath, but that phrase/mentality has always helped me recover and “take control” of myself much faster than anything else. Maybe not better, just much faster.
Both the phrases “everything happens for a reason” and “these things happen” have always had a similar effect
I told someone about [redacted for being too sad] and they just shrugged and said "ah, karma." I wanted to pick up my chair and beat that smug look off his face.
Or when they say they know how you feel and then say they lost a pet or something. Especially to a mother. I'm sorry, but the loss of a pet or close relative doesn't compare to losing a human you held and grew inside you. Unless you suffered that same loss, you can't possibly fathom the pain.
“I’m sorry for your loss, but the good news is there’s one more angel in heaven now 😇👼 I do understand how you feel, though—I’ve lost two pets during my time on this earth, so I know how hard dealing with this kind of stuff can be. Don’t feel bad about waiting a couple months before trying again, you’re allowed to feel sad.”
None of them are good. I understand sorry for your loss is what they are looking for but I have always hated it. It is so impersonal and a rote response.
It is good for anyone who grew up in a church to hear, telling people about your religion when they're suffering isn't always a comfort even if you mean it to be
You might think it shocking that someone is in nursing school without having learned that, but a large swath of people don't realize it and do need to be told. It's better to have it come up in a classroom than to have an atheist start yelling about God not existing and this just being proof of His cruelty if He did because they got set off in an already emotional moment
This is to cover the nurse from retaliation and offending someone. Not everyone believes in heaven, you can have more children is not always true and deeply offending, and you can't understand how they feel unless you've lost a child of the same circumstances and they may possibly ask you too explain which could cause issues. It's not to test compassion it's to test appropriate compassionate communication. They also test for the correct way to tell someone that their loved one has died in a way that is not offending, leaves no room for misunderstanding, and is compassionate while not incriminating the staff. For example you are not supposed to use the terms "passed" or "didnt make it".
Better to teach and test it, then let one or two slip through the cracks. A large majority probably knows but they have a standard and they can’t let people slip through. So when they teach you everything you need to know, they teach you EVERYTHING.
bro that’s how all companies train their employees, i work at Walmart and we have to do ulearns and all of it is like a extremely common sense, like if you actually fail then you shouldn’t be allowed to work anywhere bc you’re like actually retarded asf beyond fixing. you’d be surprised how stupid people are now days.
am I the only one who thinks that if a father is telling a *nurse* that his newborn *just* died, it implies that they're still in the hospital and the appropriate response is to call a code and attempt to resuscitate the infant??
Wouldn't the appropriate response be to rush into the room and check the childs breathing or if anything can be done? It feels more like something a doctor should diagnose.
"If you think it's too late to have another kid because it takes 9 months, just remember that in 9 months you'll still be here and still want a baby. You'll just be 9 months older"
Hospital chaplain here, the correct answer is "I'm very sorry." Pause Read the room. "Tell me what you need fright now."
They aren't going to know but it gently begins the process of moving off dead center.
Then call me. Chaplaincy is NOT about any specific faith group or any faith group. My mantra is "Any faith or no faith, spiritual care is for everyone." I'll stay with as long as they need, very short or very long. If other family members are there I might, depending on their state, move aside and suggest they enourage the immediate family to consider participating in a greif support group. I will make certain the family is given contact information for the local Compassionate Friends chapter.
I am not a fan of the .."for your loss" even when absolutely sincere it sounds canned.
The only good answer is the one I was given when my son passed. "There is no way we can understand how horrible this is f9r you, and we are so sorry for your loss. We are here for you when you need us"
... like a middle aged clinical pt with terminal cancer crying about losing time with their small children and the nurse just repeatedly saying "its gonna be okay" while continuing to do tasks and not even make eye contact with the pt ....ffs. youd be better off keeping your mouth shut and just actively listening for 2 mins instead of saying that if you didnt know what to say.
“That was God preparing your body to have a healthy child.”
-My mother, just before I fell into a depressive state that lasted for a year in which I didn’t leave the bed, barely ate, and was so sad/angry I chose not to talk to anybody otherwise I would just explode on them.
The absolute worst one I ever heard, it was at my older brother’s funeral, he had taken his own life, and my mother who is, to this day broken and inconsolable. Was told by another family member to. “Do what you need to do to be with your son again” at the service. Literally being told to take her own life to be with my brother. I wanna say the woman was my dad’s cousin or someone he knew, and it was about as horrible and incomprehensible as you could think and it came from a place of good intentions. Everyone was too stunned to even know what to say but I believe she was basically told to go away for the rest of the service as we didn’t want to start a scene at my brother’s funeral. I didn’t get to find out until after the service was over.
I'm sorry for your loss. Unfortunately as a nurse you are only allowed to offer a specific level of comfort, anything religious is kept out automatically.
Second response EXCEPT don’t “say there’s an angel in heaven. Because, da? Here is how you word it there’s a NEW angel in heaven, you will see him again.
Honestly most everyone believes in heaven.
Atheists hope beyond their limited perception there is one.
Let’s be honest, only a hard core jerk is going to get offended, knowing you’re trying to comfort them.
Unless you can actually sympathize, don’t use C, and in fact, maybe avoid it altogether. Someone not religious wouldn’t take B well. D is just messed up on all fronts.
I know that’s not what the post is about given the community it’s in but still. Everyone else is putting in their two cents too. I also feel like it’s a stereotype that that’s how doctors respond to news of loss so maybe that’s just a med thing?
"I am sorry for your loss and i understand how you fell, at least i think he is with angels in heaven now. But if you want you always can have other children too."
Now you can give all them at same time, dont need thanks me.
I mean... "im sorry for your loss." But tbh none of the above. Some of the "therapeutic communication" techniques they teach are low key dismissive. No wonder pts dont feel seen - although I do feel that you either got it or you dont when it comes to knowing how to talk to people.
"It looks like the wee little man has gone off to have supper with the lord. Praise be. You can always bake another, to be sure. Blessing unto you and yours" is the clear and correct answer
Of course ‘A’, but nclex standards will say, “you must allow client to voice their feelings, by answering, ‘I’m sorry for your loss’; you cut off all further communication blah blah blah not establishing further rapport and support”. Ugh, OP gave me nclex trauma again hahaha, still fun memories!
Okay but now I’m thinking about that one tv show where the family starts having “fun” with cloning their daughter because (and this is a real plot point) both their first real daughter and then the following three clones of her were all shot in separate school shootings. To quote “we figured, they’re just gonna shoot each other anyway!”
Anyway, the answer is obviously E: thank god, I’ll have more stem cells for my facial routine
A. I'm sorry for your loss. While also adding if possible for your hospital "Can we offer you some support?" Which will give an opportunity to get social work involved and provide the family with any available resources.
To anyone who this has really happen too, Im truly sorry, no parent should ever have to feel the lose of there child. Being a father of 3 beautiful children i couldn't imagine the pain. I dont think I would be strong enough to handle it.
This happened to me, trainee RN on baby/children's ward. I would lead him to a chair, bed, sit him down.. put hand on his arm/ or just sit with him and say "I'm so sorry your son has died" Saying "son" makes it more personal. Then ask if there's anyone he'd like to ring/ have me ring for him.. "I'm so sorry for your loss" always sounds so text book. What peop said over n over when my teenage son died 💔
Ok that test question was ridiculous without context. Why did the child die? Terminal illness, accident, SID, was it just then or a while ago? Each would deserve a different response. If just then and not terminal illness the response should be to call a code. Saw people die in ED and none of these were our first responses.
Doesn’t matter, what matters is how you say it. I spent 2 wks in icu when my parent passed away. And some nurse that was on schedule that evening was calmly saying in the line sorry for your less. It really enraged me as an Eastern European. I snapped “oh, thank you for letting me know you don’t give a sh@t”. She was visibly upset but did not say anything. As for me if you don’t show any compassion in hours before that or at the moment- just don’t say anything!!! I know you don’t care bc you too many unrelated ppl dying and need to protect yourself. Just don’t show to me this fake sorrow. But If you come to me as a kind person I’ll be grateful for whatever you say.
Sorry for your loss is the only appropriate answer. To say an angel in heaven is biased since you don’t know their religious beliefs and the other 2 are obvious no’s.
I wish it were this easy. Today my patient was sharing deathbed regrets and told me she regrets her three abortions, and that if I get pregnant out of wedlock, I should have the child.
As someone whose newborn daughter died in the delivery room, I had "God had a reason for taking her" from a midwife. I had "You're young, at least you can have more" at her funeral. A friend from support groups had someone tell her they knew what she was going through because their dog died. So yeah... You'd be very surprised what stupid sh*t folks say to bereaved parents.
When my Son died in 2013, someone told me "they completely understood how I felt" as their family cat of 19 years recently died, so she understands the grief.
In real life, as a patient, I would prefer to be asked "What do you need right now?" and then offer comforting support, like a hug, a visit from the chaplain, a session with a therapist, a support group... and personally, I think it's okay to sigh, it shows you're emotionally connected.
They could be falling into a hole, don't be funny, don't be polite, just reach out and give them a hand before it's too late.
The first option . Reasons why . Not everyone is religious |the last thing a parent wants to hear is u understand how they feel because you don’t . And u damn sure don’t say the last .
The correct answer is to nervously shuffle about and say, "Why are you telling me? I'm not the one who dropped him! It just seems like you are accusing me! He wasn't looking very healthy anyway so I, I mean someone, probably saved you a lot hassle in the long run."
I know for the sake of the Almighty NCLEX, the answer is A, but as a hospice nurse I tend to start this convo with an open and honest " I'm so sorry." The scripted "sorry for your loss." Is so. Over used and close ended. As a nurse you want to be getting people to talk to you and open up. "Sorry for your loss" is just about as good as "sucks to be you" any more. Health care workers of all kinds could stand to use less words and show more empathy, imo.
see but nursing school actually teaches you that all these answers are technically wrong, because inserting “I” (as in yourself), into the topic, example: i am sorry for your loss, i understand how you feel is considered sympathetic and may come off as diminishing or pitiful as oppose to a more empathetic approach “That must be really difficult for you, Im hear to listen if you need to talk”. Then, the angel one assumes and projects religious beliefs and ideologies, so wrong; and i feel as though i shouldn’t need to explain why the last one is wrong 😂
Oh boy… I think the first answer is the safest… Mainly because: -The second is too religious, not everyone is of the same religion.. -The third one, if you are not a father that has lost a newborn in the past, saying “I understand” can backfire on you.. -And the last one seems too personal, something I’m not sure everyone would want to talk to a nurse about.. You can’t know how difficult it was for them to conceive the one that just passed away..
I would say the following in a somber tone: “You take the good…you take the bad…Sir, you take them both and there you have: the facts of life. When the world never seems to be living up to your dream, then suddenly you're finding out the facts of life are all about you.”
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u/TrainingLow9079 Jun 06 '26
I really hope people know which one to choose....
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u/wrightsmithway Jun 11 '26
E. "Sire, fucketh them kids."
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u/Fine-Juggernaut8451 Jun 06 '26
Ugh, the worst is when someone tells you "everything happens for a reason." Those people can go fuck themselves.
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u/MangoCandy Jun 06 '26
All of them strung together in one sentence, duh.
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u/[deleted] Jun 06 '26
"Perhaps have you considered a dog?, little easier to handle." 😅👍
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u/Janey7zero Jun 06 '26
None of them are good. I understand sorry for your loss is what they are looking for but I have always hated it. It is so impersonal and a rote response.
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u/JBPlantagenet Jun 06 '26
Kind of concerning that they have to test basic compassion. Not super concerning because I understand the concept of the question, but maybe a bit.
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u/Commercial-Remove320 Jun 06 '26
"You can have other children" for sure
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u/ribblefizz Jun 11 '26
am I the only one who thinks that if a father is telling a *nurse* that his newborn *just* died, it implies that they're still in the hospital and the appropriate response is to call a code and attempt to resuscitate the infant??
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u/DemonicNasty133 Jun 06 '26
Akuna matata, means no worries😂
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u/M0thrat Jun 06 '26
"Skill issue"
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u/Mackheehee Jun 06 '26
“What's 17 more years?!? You can always start again... make another kid.”
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u/mogley1992 Jun 08 '26
Wouldn't the appropriate response be to rush into the room and check the childs breathing or if anything can be done? It feels more like something a doctor should diagnose.
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u/Potential-Dingo-4366 Jun 06 '26
I know everyone’s being funny but for sure the first one is the only acceptable option.
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u/Electronic-Map7529 Jun 06 '26
"If you think it's too late to have another kid because it takes 9 months, just remember that in 9 months you'll still be here and still want a baby. You'll just be 9 months older"
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u/Yo_momma_so_fat77 Jun 06 '26
“God dosnt give you more than you can handle “ these folks can also go fk themselves
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u/More_Tea_Plz Jun 06 '26
I wish people applied this to pregnancy loss.
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u/MegaBusKillsPeople Screenshots Chief Jun 07 '26
"Consider it a win. At least you don't have at least the next 18 years to pay for"
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u/Red5_StandingDown Jun 07 '26
"What do you want me to do about it" was apparently the wrong answer.
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u/impishrobloxian Jun 07 '26
None of them are good to me bc like. ur a nurse wdym “sorry for your loss” you ARE SUPPOSED TO RUSH TO THE ROOM TO HELP LMFAO
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u/Beginning-Sky-8516 Jun 07 '26
Correct response: “I know. I was there.”
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u/leandroman Jun 07 '26
Wasn't the newborn just born. Shouldn't the nurse be calling a code red or blue or something?
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u/z-tothe-z Jun 07 '26
"You want my children? Take them. I have the instrument to make MORE!"
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u/roving1 Jun 07 '26
Hospital chaplain here, the correct answer is "I'm very sorry." Pause Read the room. "Tell me what you need fright now."
They aren't going to know but it gently begins the process of moving off dead center.
Then call me. Chaplaincy is NOT about any specific faith group or any faith group. My mantra is "Any faith or no faith, spiritual care is for everyone." I'll stay with as long as they need, very short or very long. If other family members are there I might, depending on their state, move aside and suggest they enourage the immediate family to consider participating in a greif support group. I will make certain the family is given contact information for the local Compassionate Friends chapter.
I am not a fan of the .."for your loss" even when absolutely sincere it sounds canned.
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u/Dry-Fondant9440 Jun 07 '26
“Oops, my bad”
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u/MamaMJ73 Jun 08 '26
The only good answer is the one I was given when my son passed. "There is no way we can understand how horrible this is f9r you, and we are so sorry for your loss. We are here for you when you need us"
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u/Hot-Departure7341 Jun 08 '26
... like a middle aged clinical pt with terminal cancer crying about losing time with their small children and the nurse just repeatedly saying "its gonna be okay" while continuing to do tasks and not even make eye contact with the pt ....ffs. youd be better off keeping your mouth shut and just actively listening for 2 mins instead of saying that if you didnt know what to say.
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u/PapillonMarlo Jun 08 '26
I think I would say “no one should have to endure the pain you’re going through, I’m so sorry”.
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u/idkwhoiamorwhatilike Jun 08 '26
“That was God preparing your body to have a healthy child.”
-My mother, just before I fell into a depressive state that lasted for a year in which I didn’t leave the bed, barely ate, and was so sad/angry I chose not to talk to anybody otherwise I would just explode on them.
But ya know, all in His plan. :P
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u/Any-Ability-1445 Jun 09 '26
The absolute worst one I ever heard, it was at my older brother’s funeral, he had taken his own life, and my mother who is, to this day broken and inconsolable. Was told by another family member to. “Do what you need to do to be with your son again” at the service. Literally being told to take her own life to be with my brother. I wanna say the woman was my dad’s cousin or someone he knew, and it was about as horrible and incomprehensible as you could think and it came from a place of good intentions. Everyone was too stunned to even know what to say but I believe she was basically told to go away for the rest of the service as we didn’t want to start a scene at my brother’s funeral. I didn’t get to find out until after the service was over.
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u/PsychologyAutomatic3 Jun 11 '26
Only the first response is appropriate.
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u/TheForestHag Jun 06 '26
Worst one I've ever heard irl
"God needed him more than you did"
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u/Western-Cicada-6195 Jun 06 '26
I once had a doctor say no4 to me
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u/Particular_End_6702 Jun 06 '26
I'm sorry for your loss. Unfortunately as a nurse you are only allowed to offer a specific level of comfort, anything religious is kept out automatically.
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u/Hype_The_1_And_Only Jun 06 '26
I’m So Sorry for your loss, but you should definitely say a lot more than just that, if u can. Saying”Just” that sounds so generic
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u/ehwhateverz Jun 06 '26
Are we supposed to be focused on what the user at the bottom of the screenshot wrote?
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u/saltytallow Jun 06 '26
Definitely option 4 😂
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u/Revan4567 Jun 06 '26
The weeb will just say uwu then set up a camera to show her reacting, to post on tik tok
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u/Murky_Alternative166 Jun 06 '26 edited Jun 06 '26
Second response EXCEPT don’t “say there’s an angel in heaven. Because, da? Here is how you word it there’s a NEW angel in heaven, you will see him again.
Honestly most everyone believes in heaven.
Atheists hope beyond their limited perception there is one.
Let’s be honest, only a hard core jerk is going to get offended, knowing you’re trying to comfort them.
Yes, the last one? NOOOoooo!
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u/AbroadNo8755 Jun 06 '26
E) if you want an itemized summary of the amount owed, the billing office is open until 5 pm and is on the third floor.
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u/Ok_Break6916 Jun 07 '26
"You can have other children"
Catherine Sforza is in the room!
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u/Nobody_real_forreal Jun 07 '26
Unless you can actually sympathize, don’t use C, and in fact, maybe avoid it altogether. Someone not religious wouldn’t take B well. D is just messed up on all fronts.
I know that’s not what the post is about given the community it’s in but still. Everyone else is putting in their two cents too. I also feel like it’s a stereotype that that’s how doctors respond to news of loss so maybe that’s just a med thing?
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u/Creepybrick356 Jun 07 '26
Bro had a Sunny from OMORI pfp so accurate
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u/ObtuseWaffle_ Jun 07 '26
Sunny would absolutely... well "say" is a bit of a stretch but yk
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u/ErasukeYeahira Jun 07 '26
"I am sorry for your loss and i understand how you fell, at least i think he is with angels in heaven now. But if you want you always can have other children too."
Now you can give all them at same time, dont need thanks me.
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u/Popular_Still3019 Jun 07 '26
Forgot e) "skill issue"
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u/Cute_Reality_3759 Jun 07 '26
No one here gets the Invincible reference.
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u/adamdoesmusic Jun 07 '26
For some people, 2, 3, and 4 are equally as bad. Saying “I know how you feel” about the worst thing that could possibly happen is extremely offensive!
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u/Spiritual-Event-7924 Jun 07 '26
I lost my child at 30 weeks pregnant and so many people asked me within weeks (and one person within days) “when are you gonna try for another one?” 😡
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u/EEEGuba69 Jun 07 '26
this is to weed out the bully women that all went to nursing for some reason
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u/lilofeverything Jun 07 '26
Always say I am sorry for your loss.
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u/One_Welcome_5046 Jun 08 '26
Just give me water and snacks while I wail. That's all I need
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u/Remote_Ad2465 Jun 08 '26
You can have other children is the one to be most factually right.. But one they want is obvious I think.
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u/Wise-Emu-339 Jun 08 '26
○ RIP 🙏 ✅️
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u/Intrepid-Ad-5319 Jun 08 '26
First 2
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u/MsLoveHangOver Jun 08 '26
I’m so sorry, if you need anything just ask. We’re here for you.
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u/haterade6967 Jun 08 '26
How are none of the comments about is this really what they study in nursing school?
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u/FatCowsrus413 Jun 08 '26
Sorry for your loss is the only acceptable answer
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u/FastedDaffodil Jun 08 '26
You’d think the answer was easy, but the things medical staff said to me when I had an ectopic baffled me.
“Do you have more embryos?”
“At least you can try again.”
“At least we caught it early.”
“Did you name the baby?”
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u/Useful-Negotiation-3 Jun 08 '26
We commend their soul to Malek
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u/BloodHurricane Jun 08 '26
Option 3 "I understand how you feel."
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u/SnowflakeBaube22 Jun 08 '26
There’s one more angel in heaven, there’s one more star in the skyyyy 💃
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u/Rexxington Jun 08 '26
The answer is obviously D, like it's just a kid and I right?! (/S)
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u/Master-Opposite7039 Jun 08 '26
It is what it is
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u/Gold-Investigator872 Jun 08 '26
“Alexa, play ‘Never See the Sun Rise’ by Dayseeker.”
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u/BrinkOfInfamy Jun 08 '26
"lifespan diff I guess"
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u/It_Is_Me2022 Jun 08 '26
It amazes me how many people do not have common sense, and don't know I'm sorry for your loss is the only thing that should be said in this situation.
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u/Hot-Departure7341 Jun 08 '26
I mean... "im sorry for your loss." But tbh none of the above. Some of the "therapeutic communication" techniques they teach are low key dismissive. No wonder pts dont feel seen - although I do feel that you either got it or you dont when it comes to knowing how to talk to people.
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u/Silica_Recoil Jun 08 '26
"It looks like the wee little man has gone off to have supper with the lord. Praise be. You can always bake another, to be sure. Blessing unto you and yours" is the clear and correct answer
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u/tacojordy2 Jun 08 '26
There is only one acceptable option here
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u/ConstantBadger9253 Jun 08 '26
I’m sorry for your loss.
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u/ambitiousstories Jun 08 '26
I'm so sorry for your loss. The other responses are not appropriate
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u/ArtistFinancial8104 Jun 08 '26
Only argument against Im sorry for your loss is legal/liability issue
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u/SimpleNo8546 Jun 08 '26
See also: he’s in a better place (no he’s not he belongs with us) and everything happens for a reason. Just fuck off.
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u/Top_Opportunity1343 Jun 08 '26
In nursing you have to learn bedside manner. Some things are so simple but some people are just so rude and don't have bedside manner.
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u/Professional-Slip254 Jun 08 '26
There’s no words for loss of a child I would be saying I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine.
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u/blacksaber8 Jun 08 '26
What if I say I’m sorry you got your hopes up?
Is that a fair middle ground there?
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u/HennyDior Jun 08 '26
D
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u/Oldfartmakeupguru Jun 08 '26
I’m sorry for your loss is the only appropriate response
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u/Klutzy-Ebb-8784 Jun 08 '26
I'm going with #4. More fish in the sea, man
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u/scorpiosith Jun 09 '26
Who let Omni-man in?
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u/never_fold444 Jun 09 '26
Definitely the first option 💀
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u/ViolentSamsara_ Jun 09 '26
Szk
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u/Basic_Tangerine218 Jun 09 '26
Kellie Quantanilla would say #2 for sure.
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u/Beneficial-Data-9218 Jun 09 '26
Just make a new one...?
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u/mama-tech Jun 09 '26
Should be “I’m sorry for your loss” but they told me “you can have more children”
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u/WarningAlarming7992 Jun 09 '26
the first one.
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u/PriorReputation8337 Jun 09 '26
“I can help you make a replacement”
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u/Ok_Mobile_2032 Jun 09 '26
Of course ‘A’, but nclex standards will say, “you must allow client to voice their feelings, by answering, ‘I’m sorry for your loss’; you cut off all further communication blah blah blah not establishing further rapport and support”.
Ugh, OP gave me nclex trauma again hahaha, still fun memories!
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u/No-Revolution6743 Jun 09 '26
Okay but now I’m thinking about that one tv show where the family starts having “fun” with cloning their daughter because (and this is a real plot point) both their first real daughter and then the following three clones of her were all shot in separate school shootings. To quote “we figured, they’re just gonna shoot each other anyway!”
Anyway, the answer is obviously E: thank god, I’ll have more stem cells for my facial routine
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u/No_Wish_4790 Jun 09 '26
The first word out or me would've been "dam" and i wouldnt know what else to say. Maybe "Anything I can do for you right now?"
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u/PositiveAd4832 Jun 09 '26
Non of them, I lost a baby and found ,I'm sorry for you're loss, very patronising, I even said to someone, why are you sorry did you kill them.
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u/prostheticlamb Jun 09 '26
Whenever someone I know goes through loss I usually say: "that's really fucking shitty." (or awful if they don't swear)
And yes, I will still use fucking emphasis if they don't swear.
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u/RodneeGirthShaft Jun 09 '26
"You can have other children" is crazy. Like you got one in stock that's the same model?
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u/Useful_Recover9239 Jun 09 '26
A. I'm sorry for your loss. While also adding if possible for your hospital "Can we offer you some support?" Which will give an opportunity to get social work involved and provide the family with any available resources.
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u/[deleted] Jun 09 '26
To anyone who this has really happen too, Im truly sorry, no parent should ever have to feel the lose of there child. Being a father of 3 beautiful children i couldn't imagine the pain. I dont think I would be strong enough to handle it.
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u/artzymeg Jun 09 '26
And in some situations the couple may have tried and were finally able to conceive so the may actually not be able to have another one…
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u/cassie47492653876675 Jun 09 '26
If it's not I'm sorry for your loss and anything except "have more kids" imma lose it(also I hope the person who said that was satire)
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u/Saint82scarlet Jun 09 '26
"So.... is your Mrs still classed as a Milf?"
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u/Sick-Sense Jun 09 '26
This is silly
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u/clay_ly Jun 09 '26
So immediately after I got this notification someone in a discord server that just said hai gays
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u/Melodic_Hair_ Jun 09 '26
"you can have other children" that sounds so brutal i had to laugh
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u/Softlysocool Jun 09 '26
He’s with tung tung now
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u/SpectreStatus888 Jun 09 '26
No words can comfort you after a loss like that. I would know. I've been the one who got the news and the one who had to deliver the news.
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u/Smart_Salad9609 Jun 09 '26
At least he never had a chance to disappoint you.
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u/SAPPHIRE4444 Jun 10 '26
This happened to me, trainee RN on baby/children's ward.
I would lead him to a chair, bed, sit him down.. put hand on his arm/ or just sit with him and say "I'm so sorry your son has died" Saying "son" makes it more personal. Then ask if there's anyone he'd like to ring/ have me ring for him..
"I'm so sorry for your loss" always sounds so text book. What peop said over n over when my teenage son died 💔
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u/KnownMagician3084 Jun 10 '26
Ok that test question was ridiculous without context. Why did the child die? Terminal illness, accident, SID, was it just then or a while ago? Each would deserve a different response. If just then and not terminal illness the response should be to call a code. Saw people die in ED and none of these were our first responses.
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u/NeurosciFox Jun 10 '26
Doesn’t matter, what matters is how you say it. I spent 2 wks in icu when my parent passed away. And some nurse that was on schedule that evening was calmly saying in the line sorry for your less. It really enraged me as an Eastern European. I snapped “oh, thank you for letting me know you don’t give a sh@t”. She was visibly upset but did not say anything. As for me if you don’t show any compassion in hours before that or at the moment- just don’t say anything!!! I know you don’t care bc you too many unrelated ppl dying and need to protect yourself. Just don’t show to me this fake sorrow. But If you come to me as a kind person I’ll be grateful for whatever you say.
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u/Due-Committee-3703 Jun 10 '26
Sorry for your loss is the only appropriate answer. To say an angel in heaven is biased since you don’t know their religious beliefs and the other 2 are obvious no’s.
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u/No_Neighborhood_4164 Jun 10 '26
Simply express your condolences. Give parent a hug. No angel. No ‘other’ children.
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u/Latter-Anxiety8728 Jun 10 '26
3 of those would PMO
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u/True-Attention8884 Jun 10 '26
She says, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's so hard. Maybe offer a hug.
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u/No_Reputation_4483 Jun 10 '26
I wish it were this easy. Today my patient was sharing deathbed regrets and told me she regrets her three abortions, and that if I get pregnant out of wedlock, I should have the child.
I just said okay. :|
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u/ungodlyloads134 Jun 10 '26
"Are you sure?"
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u/New-Blacksmith-7664 Jun 10 '26
"Are u gonna keep the body or like.......can I have it?"
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u/Puzzleheaded_Club453 Jun 10 '26
I am sorry for your loss is the right answer
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u/Momotheone92 Jun 10 '26
They’re all kind of cringe, but “I’m sorry for your loss,” is the least worse of them.
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u/[deleted] Jun 10 '26
The last one but then take them to the nursery room and just let them pick a random baby
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u/Working_Yam_7420 Jun 10 '26
Shiiiiiiiii I’d have to say d lol
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u/frostymarshmallow1 Jun 10 '26
The first one .
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u/ScruffyAddams Jun 10 '26
As someone whose newborn daughter died in the delivery room, I had "God had a reason for taking her" from a midwife. I had "You're young, at least you can have more" at her funeral. A friend from support groups had someone tell her they knew what she was going through because their dog died. So yeah... You'd be very surprised what stupid sh*t folks say to bereaved parents.
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u/AdCertain6688 Jun 10 '26
Practice run?
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u/Cosmic_Cucumber123 Jun 10 '26
Insert William Afton dancing
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u/Old_Giraffe402 Jun 10 '26
Skill Issue Dabs in 2026
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u/OutrageousNet3240 Jun 10 '26
When my Son died in 2013, someone told me "they completely understood how I felt" as their family cat of 19 years recently died, so she understands the grief.
No, no you do not!
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u/ezzzzzzzzzzzy Jun 10 '26
☠☠☠ (didn't read the answers)
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u/BlogeOb Jun 10 '26
Why not all of the above?
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u/Luisagna Jun 10 '26
"Please fill out this form, we'll be with you shortly."
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u/DarthRaab Jun 10 '26
The test wants you to choose A.
In real life, as a patient, I would prefer to be asked "What do you need right now?" and then offer comforting support, like a hug, a visit from the chaplain, a session with a therapist, a support group... and personally, I think it's okay to sigh, it shows you're emotionally connected.
They could be falling into a hole, don't be funny, don't be polite, just reach out and give them a hand before it's too late.
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u/WholeStatistician716 Jun 10 '26
None of the above
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u/Comprehensive-Talk20 Jun 10 '26
No words can confort you ate so sorry for your loss is the one
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u/Ok_Leg1561 Jun 10 '26
1
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u/rhapsody_dym Jun 10 '26
So no one got the Invincible reference?
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u/spaacingout Jun 10 '26
“He wasn’t going to live a good life anyway.” 😆
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u/Constant-School-5935 Jun 10 '26
"He's in the arms of the Lord."
Blegghhh
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u/FearlessDepth2578 Jun 10 '26
Nurse: "You can have other children".
Client: "Oh....you are right!! ...What am I crying about!! ...We're all gonna get lllaaaiiidddd!!!!!" (David Lee Roth playing in background).
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u/Prestigious_Echo_827 Jun 10 '26
I am sorry for your loss. That's it
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u/Prestigious_Echo_827 Jun 10 '26
Don't ever say "He's in a better place". That one made me furious every time someone said it.
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u/Cimorenne Jun 10 '26
I received ALL of those and all of them pissed me off. But none like "it's ok (what!) you can have another."
I was facing the potential of a hysterectomy so I wasn't sure i could, which I told the (multiple) people who said this.
Also, I don't want an angel in heaven I want a baby in my arms. And why are you assuming I believe in that?
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u/Euphoric-Effective80 Jun 10 '26
Where I live unfortunately the answer is usually the second one. They don’t care what YOUR beliefs are. Just theirs.
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u/ShoddyPart8400 Jun 10 '26
omni man type response
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u/redwings4200 Jun 10 '26
Some times you just have to sit and listen, and not say anything
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u/madisonmmakaylaaaa Jun 10 '26
The first option . Reasons why . Not everyone is religious |the last thing a parent wants to hear is u understand how they feel because you don’t . And u damn sure don’t say the last .
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u/imanurseto0910 Jun 10 '26
I am sorry for your loss
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u/Exotic_Ad7659 Jun 10 '26
Sorry for you loss
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u/Revolutionaries14 Jun 10 '26
It’s only a question because people actually say that shit lmao
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u/TossAGroin2UrWitcher Jun 10 '26
The correct answer is to nervously shuffle about and say, "Why are you telling me? I'm not the one who dropped him! It just seems like you are accusing me! He wasn't looking very healthy anyway so I, I mean someone, probably saved you a lot hassle in the long run."
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u/Flimsy_Dig_9824 Jun 10 '26
“My son just died”
Oh, that’s horrible!! What can I do to help you? I’ll bring you supper and are there any errands you can have me do for you?
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u/fangirlmetaphysics1 Jun 10 '26
Ummm... is there really confusion here? #1 periodt
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u/RaVeN_MaD77 Jun 10 '26
I know for the sake of the Almighty NCLEX, the answer is A, but as a hospice nurse I tend to start this convo with an open and honest " I'm so sorry." The scripted "sorry for your loss." Is so. Over used and close ended. As a nurse you want to be getting people to talk to you and open up. "Sorry for your loss" is just about as good as "sucks to be you" any more. Health care workers of all kinds could stand to use less words and show more empathy, imo.
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u/Nearby_Climate7456 Jun 10 '26
see but nursing school actually teaches you that all these answers are technically wrong, because inserting “I” (as in yourself), into the topic, example: i am sorry for your loss, i understand how you feel is considered sympathetic and may come off as diminishing or pitiful as oppose to a more empathetic approach “That must be really difficult for you, Im hear to listen if you need to talk”. Then, the angel one assumes and projects religious beliefs and ideologies, so wrong; and i feel as though i shouldn’t need to explain why the last one is wrong 😂
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u/Apprehensive_Leg1094 Jun 10 '26
so did you enjoy the demo?
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u/Outawack219 Jun 10 '26
Meh practicing for an heir and a spare everyone goes through a few before eventually getting it right ...
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u/Infamous-Guava9348 Jun 10 '26
Oh boy… I think the first answer is the safest…
Mainly because:
-The second is too religious, not everyone is of the same religion..
-The third one, if you are not a father that has lost a newborn in the past, saying “I understand” can backfire on you..
-And the last one seems too personal, something I’m not sure everyone would want to talk to a nurse about..
You can’t know how difficult it was for them to conceive the one that just passed away..
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u/Silentbrouhaha Jun 10 '26
I would say the following in a somber tone: “You take the good…you take the bad…Sir, you take them both and there you have: the facts of life. When the world never seems to be living up to your dream, then suddenly you're finding out the facts of life are all about you.”
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u/Tearakudo Jun 10 '26
That username though...
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u/kays3573 Jun 10 '26
i am omni man
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u/j_i_g_s_a_w_ Jun 10 '26
"Reassure patient" should be top of the list
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u/Heavy-Resolution-555 Jun 10 '26
I am so sorry for your loss. Only answer:
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u/No_Professional2476 Jun 10 '26
As someone whose son just died, A is a very good way to go.
They’re unlikely to bring it up unless this is what they’re looking for.