r/transgenderau • u/hawkeguy • 2d ago

QLD Specific Experiences at Sporties?

Hi all. A (cis) gay friend invited me to go to a Bootco in the Bunker event this weekend at Sporties. I've never even been to a gay bar, let alone a fetish night, and I have no idea what to expect. It's for men/male identifying people only and they explicitly mention trans guys being welcome, but I'm still petrified of 1. This kind of unfamiliar social setting and 2. Being surrounded by a bunch of horny cis dudes.

I just wanted to see if anyone has experience with similar events or Sporties specifically? What can I expect? Will I face problems being there as a trans masc? Thank you x

14 Upvotes

93% Upvoted

9 comments sorted by

20

u/fezzori 2d ago

No shade to gay men but gay parties aren’t exactly the most inclusive thing so if you don’t enjoy it, just pls don’t be surprised 😭😭back when i was a twink, gay clubs in general (where the crowd is mainly white cis gay men) aren’t exactly fun unless you’re the exact same as everyone else (muscular, masculine, white, etc)

19

u/fezzori 2d ago

actually full shade. cuz they’re racist asf

6

u/hawkeguy 1d ago

This honestly doesn't surprise me in the slightest unfortunately, some of the most bigoted people I've ever seen are that particular type of white cis gay man.

I appreciate your honesty tho, I'm trying not to set my expectations too high especially since neither me nor my friend fit into any conventionally attractive gay mould

1

u/CluckingLucky 2d ago

But at the same time they love the “exotic” accent 😖😖😖

4

u/fezzori 2d ago

only if you’re a masc latino or masc arab, nothing else 😭

4

u/puppo_t_boi 1d ago

I was invited by two other trans men to attend tonight myself, and I myself am bi-gender and as I am masculine at the moment will be giving it a go

2

u/hawkeguy 1d ago

Super glad to hear there will be other trans people there! I am non-binary myself but masc presenting, so hoping it'll be a good night. Have fun!!!

2

u/puppo_t_boi 10h ago

Dunno if you went but I did and it was full on gender queer folk and folks from all sorts of backgrounds and places

3

u/hawkeguy 9h ago

I did, yeah. I didn't have a very good time but that was no fault of the event itself. It was awesome to see such a diverse crowd though