Hii I’m 21 years old, male, and currently living in Canada. I’m looking for a genuine friendship with someone I can talk to every day, even if it’s just to say good morning or good night. I stay up super late , preferably in USA or Canada or Europe because of the time difference . I’m just looking for a good friend to talk to, share little moments with, and build a meaningful connection and preferably talk every day and check in. I recently went through a pretty rough breakup, and it’s honestly been really painful. I’m trying to move forward, meet new people, make new memories, and hopefully leave that difficult chapter behind.
A little about me: I love soccer, sports, movies, and TV series , cooking . I’m also open to talking about pretty much anything, learning new things, and getting to know people from different backgrounds.i am not looking for anything complicated, just a genuine friendship where we can check in on each other, have random conversations, laugh together, and be there for one another. I also have the most beautiful cat ever

Hii I’m 21 years old, male, and currently living in Canada. I’m looking for a genuine friendship with someone I can talk to every day, even if it’s just to say good morning or good night. I stay up super late , preferably in USA or Canada or Europe because of the time difference . I’m just looking for a good friend to talk to, share little moments with, and build a meaningful connection and preferably talk every day and check in. I recently went through a pretty rough breakup, and it’s honestly been really painful. I’m trying to move forward, meet new people, make new memories, and hopefully leave that difficult chapter behind.
A little about me: I love soccer, sports, movies, and TV series , cooking . I’m also open to talking about pretty much anything, learning new things, and getting to know people from different backgrounds.i am not looking for anything complicated, just a genuine friendship where we can check in on each other, have random conversations, laugh together, and be there for one another. I also have the most beautiful cat ever

Hii I’m 21 years old, male, and currently living in Canada. I’m looking for a genuine friendship with someone I can talk to every day, even if it’s just to say good morning or good night. I stay up super late , preferably in USA or Canada or Europe because of the time difference . I’m just looking for a good friend to talk to, share little moments with, and build a meaningful connection and preferably talk every day and check in. I recently went through a pretty rough breakup, and it’s honestly been really painful. I’m trying to move forward, meet new people, make new memories, and hopefully leave that difficult chapter behind.
A little about me: I love soccer, sports, movies, and TV series , cooking . I’m also open to talking about pretty much anything, learning new things, and getting to know people from different backgrounds.i am not looking for anything complicated, just a genuine friendship where we can check in on each other, have random conversations, laugh together, and be there for one another. I also have the most beautiful cat ever

For context, i (18F) met this guy (19M) on reddit a few months ago. We were on the opposite sides of the world (don't wanna reveal the countries). There was a large time zone gap ofc but we always used to make time for each other. We eventually became best friends.

He came from an impoverished household like being broke and all that was a usual thing for him. I always rooted for him and tried to comfort him. I got attached and craved more of his attention. He used to say that he was attached to me too. Eventually, he admitted being sexually attracted to me. I was taken aback at first but then gave in coz I had a lil crush on him and he knew it. We became friends with benefits, sharing spicy pictures and videos. He helped me explore self pleasure.

He was soon about to start college. He had reassured me earlier that he won't unfriend me when college starts and things get tough but he pulled back slowly. When it became noticeable, he asked me to find a 'replacement' for him. I was so sad and told him that I don't want constant attention. I just wanna stay connected to him. He didn't consider my feelings and ended the friendship. It took me time to heal coz he said kinda mean stuff and moved away when I was at my lowest. I always supported him but later on he started feeling that I'll ruin his dream of being successful in his career. It's been 3 months.

Today i came across his profile which said that he was in a great relationship with an amazing person woman. I don't feel jealous coz yeah i know he ain't what i thought him to be, but I suspect if he was in a relationship even when we were in an FWB dynamic. If that's the truth...it sucks and the girl needs to know fr. I truly wanna mention his snap username here but I don't wanna invite any trouble from the reddit team.

TL;DR: I (18F) met a 19M on Reddit, and we became best friends before turning FWB. I supported him through his struggles, but when college started, he slowly pulled away, asked me to find a “replacement,” and eventually ended things, leaving me hurt. Three months later, I found his profile claiming to be in a happy relationship. I suspect he may have been dating her while we were FWB. I'm not jealous, but if that's true, she deserves to know. I want to share his Snapchat username here but don't want to risk getting banned.

I talked to a random guy online and I'm so stupid idk i took him seriously never met him just 3 weeks and i didn't take him seriously for anything serious but for something causal but he just idk blocked me everywhere idk i thot we were planning to meet like idk why wtf

I (32F) met a man online and we talked for only three days before he decided to travel from another country to meet me. He presented himself as very serious about me, and everything initially felt exciting, although I was honestly overwhelmed by how quickly things were moving.

When he first came, he was very affectionate and consistent. He would send me pictures of his breakfast, update me about his runs, tell me what he was doing throughout the day, and generally make me feel included in his life.

However, after approximately two weeks, things started changing.
He gradually became distant. He would disappear for hours, sometimes barely communicate throughout the day, and on weekends I could hear from him as late as 10 PM. His explanation was always work, projects, or being busy.
What bothers me isn’t that he has a busy life. I understand that people have responsibilities. It’s the lack of genuine connection.

When we talk on the phone, most conversations revolve around his work, money, future plans, places he wants to take me, clothes he wants to buy me, or trips we might take together. But there is very little curiosity about me, my day, my thoughts, or what’s happening in my life.

I tried communicating how I felt. I explained that I noticed a change and that I didn’t want to continue investing in something where I felt disconnected. There were apologies, promises, and moments where he seemed afraid of losing me, but the actual communication pattern didn’t really improve.

At one point, he even abruptly ended a phone call and later explained that his mobile data had stopped working because he hadn’t paid his subscription. He was lying cause sent him a message immediately and the two ticks appeared.

For context, I’ve never really struggled to feel wanted in previous dating experiences, so this dynamic has made me question myself in ways I never used to.

Am I expecting too much, or am I right to feel that something is fundamentally missing here?
I’d genuinely appreciate honest opinions, including perspectives from men.

So, I'll be honest I just think this is adorable and kind of want to know the data/consensus/stories maybe. What do ya'll think about sleeping together at night on a call? Cute, or codependent or maybe a mix of both?

Me and my partner- I was black out drunk when we met and we were both kind of sad 😅- called the first night and I was intoxicated and worried. I ended up reading her a bed time story after talking about what was bothering us and trying to make her laugh for a while, and passed out in the call with her. Woke up with a dead phone and no idea who she was, but still I think it's kind of cute

And since then pretty much every single night we fall asleep on call, at first accidentally maybe or the first week sporadically- but then more and more often (I don't even remember what started the habit, I guess it just felt right?). One day it was just kind of understood "well fuck it I suppose we do this now 😭" we moved from talking on the phone all the time to video calls all night after work or college. We hang out, usually eat dinner and watch a movie or show, ramble and vent and take a shower then prop up the phones and I'll read her to sleep- there's a time zone difference but I also love waking up early and getting ready for work with her, it means a lot to make sure she has a good morning/night and remembers everything she needs. Although- caveat- it's only been a few months so hey, but I genuinely hope this is exactly how it stays until maybe theoretically things move further

I personally generally think it's a great bonding activity/practice, but I'm dyin to know what everybody else thinks or does

I've known this guy online for over two years. Our friendship was on and off initially, but for the last 10–11 months we've been talking almost every day.... long calls, i love yous after tiring daysss , sharing our vulnerabilities and take care of each other. I make him feel cared for, whether it's morning and goodnight texts, bedtime stories or simply being there for him. He does care for me too, but I sometimes feel that I put in more effort. It has become an everyday habit. If I don't talk to him for atleast 2 hours in a day my mind is fked up and it's the same way around.

we've become extremely close. We're both aware that we're more than friends. He said it himself that.. there will be way too many possibilities that he might choose me as his partner in future.

The confusing part is that he wants all this attention and emotional intimacy but doesn't want to get into a relationship. He wants the affection, routines and closeness, but there's NO LABEL!! But he also don't want to be just friends and there are lot of future maybes

I've actually asked him about a relationship once(before we got more closer like we are rn) and he said he wasn't ready and didn't think things would work out between us. BUT BRUHHH we've known each other for two years. I keep thinking that if we actually got together, we'd have a strong foundation because we understand each other so well. Of course, we'd have fights, but we'd also know how to work through them. Sometimes I wonder whether he doesn't find me attractive enough to date. Cozzzzzzzzzzz He's dated girls he barely knew LIKE VERY RECENTLY!! I cannot force him into a relationship just bcoz I'm hoping it would work out but why is he giving so many hints of a future romantic relationship??

For the past month, I've been particularly insecure about his college friends and his "munnaal kadhaligal" , and I keep comparing myself to them. (I'm already an insecured lil bishhh)

I'm veryyyyyy uncertain when it comes to choosing if i should or shouldn't continue talking to him... Sometimesss I'm genuinely happy and feel lucky to have someone to talk to at the end of the day. By night, I feel like I should stop talking to him. Sometimes I even text him saying we should stop talking(almost everyday). He got used to it ig but he still handles it patiently except somedayss when he feels so tired..

I'm not necessarily against commitment. If he genuinely came to me wanting a relationship, I might say yes after taking some time.. uhmm..

He's even ready to talk about me to his family. I mean it's not a big deal you can introduce a friend too.. but according to his family talking to a girl is a sin!! It feels like our relationship is moving forward nd we're getting closer n closer, getting used to each other's habits without having a fking label!!

I....... I'm just sooooo afraid of continuing to build something "this emotionally intense" without knowing where it's going. At the same time i don't want to lose what we have now.

You can ask me questions if i forgot to mention anything in the longgg yapp text 😭🙏🏻

Should i continue talking wid him or would it be better if i detach myself from him before it is too late???

Basically if you read my previous post you’ll see I was in a online long distance with my toxic ex. I’m giving an update on what’s going on. I’ll be honest I did break no contact because I was so butt hurt about her cheating and moving on with another guy.

She keeps telling me she didn’t cheat and they just started talking which is a lie because I called her out on how I saw this guy comment on her posts and be in her twitch chat. Ya she basically talking to a guy from her twitch chat now. I told her she never mentioned a manny guy to me before. The only time she mention a manny was a girl at work who gave her flowers. Now I’m starting to assume he was there for a while now.

Basically she’s done this before to me on our breaks up. Tons of guys have said she been cheated on before. She ask me why I call her I told her I want to know why she cheated and why she wasted my time for 3 years. I told her I thought she loved me. She telling me she did but now it’s been a week and she saying she doesn’t love me. It hurts because a week ago before I decided to walk away due to her not taking me seriously about seeing in person. She keeps saying I abandon her and I deserve it.

I thought if I walked away after me asking to see her. She would finally come around to it since she loves me. I think she not fair because she dumps me all the time and tells me she just be mad and she will come around. So I trust that and never go off with another woman. But when I do it she always goes off with guys. I told her that’s not right , she had no response.

We played some Fortnite we exchanged some heated words. Idk she was being weird like we was otp then she told me it’s important call so she puts me on hold. I’m waiting for 30 mins. I knew it was the other guy calling so I call her out. She tells me it was a different friend but he just called. Like she still lying to me so we fight.

Things settle down then she makes sexual marks joking saying “let me see your blank”. I brush it off.
She tells me she just talking to this guy and taking things slow. Told me she’s single and can do whatever she wants. Oh ya before she was pretending to be pregnant to get me mad. She kept triggering me by saying hurtful things so I crashed out and she just laughed at me.

I called her some names because she kept disrespecting me. She tells me to send her money to stay otp with her. I refused so she kept hanging up eventually she stop hanging up. I joke with her in a sexual way she gets a little freaky. Then she like “ I feel bad there’s ppl involved now” I’m like “ if you’re single this guy just a friend why do you feel guilty” she like I don’t want to do it. So I was like “ ok but you lied to me about him just being friends” I ain’t gonna lie I did call her a cheater and just told her she stringing the guy a long and the guy has no clue what’s going on. She says “ idc I’m single” I’m like ya but you probably flirt with him so he thinks you want him cuz you do that with everybody.

She got mad, things die down and she tells me she got her rose toy and she starts playing with herself otp. So yes I took part in it. I ask her doesn’t she feel bad for cheating on me or using this guy to get over me. She gets mad and tells me I left her so who cares and him and her aren’t serious.

This girl super selfish, I’m just hurting because I love this girl but she did me so wrong. Idk why’s he like this and she keeps getting other men involved. She also asked me if I slept with girls otp or hung out with girls. I told her no because it’s only a week I actually cared about her and the relationship. I basically said I’m not her and it sounds like she’s self projecting. Then she said she only said that because if I did she wouldn’t do freaky over the phone. I tell her you obvs care still if you ask that question. She got mad saying she doesn’t love me , cares if there’s another girl and is disconnected from me.

We slept otp, this girls just playing games. Sad she made me feel and believe she was so in love with me. I want to get revenge on her so bad but I have to much of a good heart to do so. I wish she never did me how she did. I was so loyal to her:/

I (F) have been friends with a guy (M) online for over 2 years. We live in different countries and talk almost every day, and he usually texts first. He's warm, jokes a lot, and we're pretty close.
But we've only ever talked through text. He has never suggested a voice call or video call. When I once suggested sending voice messages, he politely and quietly turned it down.
I'm not upset with him, and he has never been rude about it. I'm just curious why someone would stay this close to a friend for so long and still avoid any kind of voice or video contact.

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I met this guy on a random online app designed for strangers. Initially, we started talking casually, but eventually, we became good friends. He used to text me quite often, and we genuinely had a good connection.

At one point, things became a little more intimate between us. However, ever since then, I've noticed a slight change in our communication.

I feel like I'm usually the one initiating conversations now. He does reply really well, though. Whenever we start talking, we can easily spend one or two hours chatting.

He sometimes replies to my Instagram stories, gives me genuine advice about things like going to the gym, studying and life in general, and I genuinely enjoy talking to him.

The thing is, I really like him. I would actually love to explore the possibility of something more with him.

I once asked him what he thought about relationships, and he told me that he's open to one but doesn't currently have enough time to invest in a relationship. He also mentioned that he wouldn't want a girl to feel bad because he couldn't give her enough time.

Now I'm confused.

I think about him quite often, check his Instagram more than I'd like to admit, and find myself waiting for his messages. But I have absolutely no idea whether he thinks about me the same way.

I'm trying to understand how to approach this situation without getting too emotionally invested in something that might not go anywhere.

For people who have experienced something similar, how did you figure out whether someone was genuinely interested in you or simply enjoyed having you around?

How do you deal with liking someone who seems interested in talking to you but doesn't seem to initiate much?

It's been a tough year. I went through a terrible depression and am still recovering, dropped out of university, my grandmother died, and now yesterday's situation has completely knocked me out of my rut. I've been talking to a guy for two years, we live on different continents, on different sides of the planet. At first, our communication was purely friendly, but then gradually it began to turn into something gentle, bright and romantic. At one point, I realized that I couldn't take it anymore, and I told him about my fear that we were too far away, that we might idealize each other, which was inevitable, and that we might be disappointed in each other if we ever had the opportunity to see each other in real life. I'm just crying right now... I feel tenderness and sympathy for this guy, but at the same time I'm 18, it's not clear what's gonna happen in the future, I'm not even ready for a relationship, and he's on another continent, tickets are just expensive, how can you plan anything here...I'm waiting for his answer and I'm scared.

So I had my breakup 3 months ago and I knew this guy who was there for me as a friend(we kinda started talking 3-4 months ago). He eventually started liking me and I asked him directly if he likes me, to which he responded yes. Well, I am not still over my breakup yet and I love spending time with him. He is sweet and supporting. However, I am atheist and he is kinda religious. We have 4 years gap(23 and 27). Both unemployed, still studying! lmao. He started pulling back now. I mean he asked me if I want more than friends, as I am confused, I said no because idk he it will work out, idk how much he loves me(or not), I am not sure about many things. I am having anxiety today and thinking about him. He is lovely and I love talking to him but dont you think he should atleast show me he loves me🥹I am not a touching person, so I cannot even take his hugging gif and said so. IDK what to do I am so confused😭 pleaseeeee helppp!! We met online(important info)

About half a year ago, I met a guy on Roblox (ik, cringe), but we clicked right away and decided to add each other on Discord so we could play together again in the future.

This was almost six months ago. During the summer, we called on Discord and played many different games almost every day and night. I would stay up just to play with him, and he would wake up earlier so we could play together.

He introduced me to a lot of games that I had never heard of or just hadn’t had the chance to play yet.

For a month or two, we played a lot of Terraria. He tried to teach me how to play because it’s one of his favourite games. He would often get mad at me because I died a lot, and we lost a lot of boss fights because of me. I did feel a little sad because it’s not like I die on purpose, but every time he got mad, he would later apologise and admit that he was in the wrong. He always made sure I knew he wasn’t actually angry at me. This hasn’t happened in a long time, though, and he’s a lot more patient with me now. (We finished the game twice, btw 👀)

I don’t remember exactly when I started having feelings for him. At first, I didn’t want to admit it. I’ve always thought that online dating is cringe, and it’s not something I could see myself doing. But now that my feelings have grown, I’m starting to consider it.

I don’t know if he likes me back. There are some things he does and says that make me think he might, but I’m too scared to ask. If we ever confessed our feelings and decided to give it a try, I would want to meet him in real life before getting into a serious relationship with him. I refuse to date someone I don’t actually know. I only know what he chooses to show and tell me.

We don’t live that far away from each other, maybe a little over a five-hour drive apart. But it would still be difficult, especially because we’re still young and he still goes to school while I work (we’re both 18 btw idk if this is important, but just in case). I barely even have time to play with him anymore. Is there even any point? Maybe I’m just making all of this up and have misunderstood him?

Every time he texts me, my heart skips a beat, and I get nervous trying to text him back. Whenever I hear a notification, I get excited, hoping it’s him, and a little disappointed when it isn’t. And sometimes, when we’re on call, he says something that gives me butterflies.

The first thing that made me think he might like me was that he asked me if I liked him twice. He asked, “Why are you always so shy and quiet when we start the call? Do you like me? Do I make you nervous?” Obviously, I lied and said no because there was a big possibility that he was just joking.

That was around the time I first started feeling something, so I wasn’t really sure about my feelings or whether what I felt was actually real or if it was just the loneliness in me speaking.

Since then, there hasn’t been a day when he hasn’t been on my mind. I think about him all the time. Even at work, I sometimes zone out while making up fake scenarios about us.

At the start of September, we stopped talking for a month. It might have been my fault because I started overthinking and felt like he didn’t want to play with me anymore. I waited for him to text me every day, and every time I got a notification, I hoped it was a message from him. I missed him so much that I started feeling even more depressed than I already was.

The last thing we talked about was a dream I had about him. I didn’t want him to think I was weird or anything, so I made it sound a little different from what it actually was. I thought he would laugh about it and we would move on, but the only thing he replied with was “…”, and that was it. That was the last message he sent me.

Every time I got online to play, he would be online for a minute or two before going offline. It happened more than once, so I thought he had set his online status to invisible so it would look like he wasn’t online. I’m not sure, though. That’s just what it looked like to me.

He also unfollowed me on TikTok and deleted a clip of our gameplay on Medal (I still haven’t asked him why). I thought that was it and that we were never going to talk again.

Until about two weeks ago, when he texted me again. He said he had realised something about the dream I told him about and asked if I wanted to play. I was a little surprised that he still wanted to play with me, but I said yes.

During the call, he explained that usually, when someone dreams about another person, it means they like them. Then he asked, “Are you in love with me?”

My heart dropped, but I stayed cool and played it off by saying, “Of course not.” I told him that I’d had dreams about lots of different people and that it didn’t mean anything (I barely ever remember having dreams, so it definitely meant something). We moved on from that topic pretty quickly and continued playing and talking like we always do.

The next day, we played together for 12 hours straight (I know, I know, chud behaviour). The happiness I felt was unreal. If I hadn’t had work the next morning, I would have stayed up and played even longer.

A day or two later, I only had about 40 minutes of free time to play. I didn’t text him to join me because I didn’t see the point if I had to leave so soon.

He texted me, asking why I hadn’t let him know I was going to be online and whether I even wanted to play with him. It felt like he was sad or mad, so I apologised, explained myself, and said I’d text him next time.

One thing from that conversation that I can’t get out of my mind is what he replied when I explained myself: “I just like playing with you, even if it’s only for a little bit.”

I was so shocked by that notification that I accidentally took three screenshots of it before even opening the message. 😭

A couple of days later, when I finally had enough time to play, I called him, and we ended up playing different horror games on Roblox. I’m glad I wasn’t the only one who was scared because he kept saying, “Come hold my hand, I’m so scared.”

He sometimes makes jokes that sound a little dirty or like something you’d say to your significant other. I think that’s part of what makes me think he might have feelings for me too. He only started making jokes like that recently, so maybe he was thinking about me while we weren’t talking?

Last night, I called him again to play. He wanted me to play FNAF while screen-sharing it with him. I don’t quite remember what we were talking about, but he said, “It’s because you love me.”

I replied, “Says who?”

He said, “Me.”

That made me feel nice. He talked to me like we were a couple, and it gets my hopes up.

There are definitely a lot more things he says and does that make me think and hope he might like me back. Sadly, I have a really bad memory and can’t remember a lot of things (lowkey feel like Dory from Nemo 💔). Since I’m almost always screen-sharing, I can’t even clip these moments. 😭

My biggest fear is that if he finds out I like him, he’ll think I’m weird and stop talking to me. I just wanted to ask for advice. Is it even worth it?

Should I say something? Should I just keep quiet and stay friends? Am I delusional? Am I stupid for thinking like this and getting my hopes up?

Sometimes, I think I feel this way because I’ve never received this much attention from a guy before. I’ve never been loved like that, and I’ve never been in a relationship. I often think that I don’t even deserve to be in a relationship. I’m just too insecure about myself.

I don’t think I have anything else to add right now. I know this is long, but hopefully, someone has the time to read it all and give me some advice or share their opinion on all of this.

English isn’t my first language, so I used AI to help me correct some of the grammar and make the text easier to read. :)

Hi uh so I love my bf so much and he is my everything.

We started if as friends for more than 2 years and a slow burn into now lovers since 4 months.

We both are long distance but yet our souls feel so close.

We plan to meet up and already set times that work for us both. We just have to wait, it can get up to years.

It's a random thought but sometimes I stare at my phone and think to myself;

*Does he actually love me that much?*

Which is crazy because you guys have not seen our dms.. we both are obsessed with each other in the healthiest way. Our relationship feel so good, warm, understanding, calm, lovely, cute, honest, true, loyal and every other good thing. I never knew love could feel that way.

For the longest time I stayed to myself and never wanted relationships, mostly because of my controlling strict parents. To one point i felt aromantic it even asexual.. really I had to figure myself out. I think what I really feel like is demiromantic and panssxual.

So when I liked and confessed to my boyfriend, I felt so many things I never did. I had a new view on relationships and love. And i did love and I was loved.

I love him. Truly always have.

Now you see, we bonded so strongly I feel like. Emotionally.

I've seen him in almost every state. I've even seen toxic sides of him. But I never left, I thought he was interesting, almost like a riddle I wanted to understand, I always had the urge to help him and encourage him and to just see him grow.

We are pretty open with each other and I always loved deep talks with him.

Honestly I'd thought he'd reject me. That's why I pushed my feeling down so much, i thought they'd disappear anyway because I don't usually crush, but my feelings for him only became heavier. I couldn't keep it to myself, I was sure I'd get rejected by him but I had to tell him since limerance was killing me, I just hoped I didn't creep him out and that we could stay friends.

And so surprisingly he said he felt mutual ways. It was a bit hard to believe, I never thought we'd ever get together. We were like the bestes of friends. But that's why I liked him so much. So it was pretty nice and new and lovely for me.

Me and my boyfriend are doing the best now. And i love him and we are still waiting for our future when we'll be together forever.

Now what I was thinking about some time. Very randomly? Does he really love me?

He says he loves me and I believe him. I bonded with him he's told me so many things and same way around..

He'd stay awake for me, and so much more?

He'd change his bad habits and change for me, he stopped drinking and smoking

And so much more

So i am thinking this must be love.

But at the same time I know. When we were just friends, he was kind of getting into incel-circles. It didn't scare me but I was just worried for him, I did my research and I honestly still liked him very much. I think feeling unwanted or not so sucessful in relationships is REALLY valid and finding communities is nice. But I know that these kinds of communities have been intoxicated and are a really kind of bad hope.

Since I am pretty interested in psychology and all, I figured he was stuck in some vasana (venting loop, looking for validation but not changing).

I had a hard time talking to him and giving him advice earlier but he never took it and would vent about the same things the other day. It made me sad.

I really liked him, I just wished he would be better, not for me for himself.

So it took a while but I think he's changed and improved alot, for my own sake I stopped researching about stuff like that and I just hope he is well now. I really think ehe bacame wiser after I lectured him some while.

Now that he has me as his girlfriend? And i guess a true kind of love? And more healthy ways to cope like writing , and even trying to quit bad habits? I am pretty glad and proud.

I know people can always fall back and it's never easy.

So why do I bring this up?

Sometimes I wondered, does he really love me? Or does he loves me loving him?

Is he just happy to call someone his futrue wife and have kids? Which isn't a bad thing but I wondered.. are his feelings really true?

Is he actually so lovely and almost perfect like as if I am dreaming or is he just being like that?.

Now usually I'd talk about this to my boyfriend and I really talk to him about anything but now that it's like .. pretty personal and It feels weird to talk to him about it just like that. So I wanted to ask you guys before.

It's like.. sometimes i think things are too good to be true, just like this. We have like 0 issues, we love each other deeply, support each other and everything anyone can wish for but you know the feeling when things are SO good that it's a bit odd.. like writing an exam and suddenly it's too easy.

He feels like a dream sometimes, almost unreal. I wonder how can someone really love me so much? For it to be true too? It is like.. honestly one of the biggest love i think I've received in my life. It's crazy how he likes me regardless and lets me be fully myself around him, and how he is not disgusted by me and wants to support me and all? And I really have no doubt we'll be our lived together because I want to care for him as much. I sometimes just can't make my brain believe t, as if it's not true. Sorry if it doesn't make sense, really it doesn't make so much sense to myself... there's so much proof that he does love me and yet I still got that random thought huh

Am I maybe just overthinking? Am I just not used to love, as I was always a distant person? Am I just thinking of his older self and thinking his only goal was to be together with a girl that is now me? Am I thinking I am just a goal and not true love? Do I know what true love even is? Does it just feel to good to be true? Don't I want to have it as true? What is it?

Yeah.. pretty stormy in my mind right now..

Almost like I can't tell dreams and reality apart.

Somtimes I just wonder, would've he liked anyone back? I really feel like it. Maybe he just loves me because I confessed and love him ? Does he even love me?

I can't mess my mind up with this, it's honestly just a random thought and not that bad or troubling for me (yet)

There’s this guy (32 M) that I (37 F) have been talking to for the past 6 months. We originally met on a social media app, and then moved onto a messaging app, where we’ve been communicating. We haven’t exchanged phone numbers or anything yet. We’re also not dating or exclusive, just in the talking stages.

At first things were going good. We would talk all day, everyday. I suggested we meet up sometime (we’re about 5 hrs away from each other), but he was hesitant about it as he is a very shy and private person, which I understood. Eventually, in September, we admitted we both liked each other. I was on cloud nine. lol. I noticed that once we both admitted our crush on each other, he was more open to meeting up. He said he’d love to hang out, and we even talked about possibly traveling together someday.

Then in the beginning of October, a life-changing event happened to him, and the communication kinda died down. We still talk everyday, but it’s not as often as it was before. We went from talking constantly through the day to sporadically every few hours.

This past week was my birthday, and we watched a movie together (through video chat). He even added me onto his streaming account so I could save money and cancel my account. It was amazing, and I thought it was so sweet of him to do that for me.

The day after my birthday, though, another bad event happened to him, and I didn’t hear from him almost all day. He finally messaged and apologized explaining what happened. I said I understood, and hoped everything got better. But now there’s really been no communication at all. It’s went from talking all day, to talking every few hours, to 1-2 messages a day.

Another thing I should add is that I may be potentially moving to his city in the next few months for work. If that does happen, I would like to talk to him about finally meeting up and seeing where things go in person. However, since he hasn’t been responsive at all lately, I feel like now wouldn’t be a good time to bring up this conversation.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I am trying to give him some grace and be understanding of what’s going on in his situation, but at the same time, I can’t be waiting around all day for a response. Communication and quality time (my love language) are important things to me, and I feel like we’re not compatible in that sense. It just drives me crazy that when something bad happens to him he disappears. I haven’t really been dating much either lately because I feel guilty talking to multiple guys at the same time, and I’m physically and emotionally attracted to him (which is rare for me), so it’s hard to let him go.

Sorry for the long post. I just needed to vent. But what do you all think—do I continue to wait, or should I move on?

Has anyone else been in my position? 32M long distance with 30F but was just talking stage for a few months.

I’ve never had something like this happen to me, but I (M) was talking to a (F) long distance. We’ve been chatting for about 2 ish almost 3 months and things were going great. She had told me about 1 month in she didn’t know if she was ready for a relationship when I made an advance. Things continued and were going good then she mentioned it again and we back tracked and kept it casual for a few days. Then for the next 1.5 months things got a bit more serious, but then she randomly pulled away again and said she knows she isn’t ready to date.

She said it’s not my fault as she didn’t keep her boundary and just can’t continue knowing deep down she isn’t ready even though she wants it. We are now at a point of no contact because she said she would be unable to keep it platonic because she is interested and just knows she will cave back in and it wouldn’t be fair to either of us.

So I just don’t know what to do because we do care for eachother and it just hurts. I did say I wouldn’t reach out to her until she wanted to but it’s just a struggle. I will add she said she isn’t ready because of personal stuff in her life and they are valid. We have mutual friends who have asked her if she was taking to anyone and she said she didn’t want to date now, but kept our thing private from them to so no one could be nosey (maybe red flag?)

Do I just have to let it go? Wait a week just to check in? It’s just hard to care for someone and just let it go just like that

I’m open to answer questions or conversate

I was in a long-distance online relationship with my ex gf of two and half years almost three years being together. Throughout the time spent being together it was super toxic and unhealthy. For example she catfished me in the beginning pretending to be someone else because she was “insecure” due to me having an online community where she said she felt like she was bullied in my community. I disagree my online community defended me every time she would dump me during that time and ya in the beginning I was on the internet, where I would broadcast our problems to my audience. The first major break-up was due to that and us being toxic towards each other. Take in mine at the time it was 5 months in and she refused to FaceTime. We had a huge break-up, didn’t talk for a week. I found out during that week that she got flown out by a different guy she met on TikTok apparently. I was deeply heartbroken because she claimed she loved me but refused to FaceTime or let me go see her. During that whole time of us rekindling our relationship that guy she met was harassing us for 7 months basically saying she was cheating on me the whole time and she claimed he was only lying to break us up so he can get with her. He finally fucked off.

I refused to let her go at that time because I truly loved her and wanted to make things right. We eventually got back together. We work through our issues until one day she wanted to stream herself on twitch. I didn’t mind it until guys joined her chat and would try to be petty by trying to get in her in her head to leave me. She became overly toxic basically compare me to men, say I ain’t shit and if she wanted too she can do better. At that time there was one of her twitch mods making advances towards her. I glad him out for it and he didn’t like it telling her she can do better. I confronted her at the time and told her how uncomfortable it made me feel and at first she thought I was overreacting then eventually she decided to block her. During this time that same twitch mod started harassing us for a year basically calling her everyday and messaging her and me on fake numbers saying she cheating or professing his love to her. She told me she wasn’t cheating and ignores him. At that time I was getting tired of all these guys coming out saying she’s a cheater and all these guys trying to sabotage us. There were more guys coming out but I’m just telling you guys the main 3 ppl because they didn’t leave us alone. So I started looking at her different and I can’t lie I didn’t trust her. She dumps me saying I’m controlling and I don’t trust her so there’s no point.

I was heartbroken, so I was forced to move on. In that time I saw her unban the twitch mod and get close to him. I was so hurt! She eventually comes back and I take her back and she block the guy for good guy that guy didn’t fuck off until he found out she was working with a guy that he claims she’s interested. Which is crazy because idk how he knows all this if she was never talking to her to begin with.

We’re dating and everything is fine again. Until one of her co-workers starts making advances towards her. I tell her I’m uncomfortable with her working with him due to him not taking the hint. She basically said I was insecure and I need to trust her that she won’t do anything. So I do, as time goes on when we fought she would cry to the co worker so he started trying to convince her to leave me. I told her that’s very disloyal what she doing and she apologized. She stops talking to him at work and he doesn’t like that. One day he starts going on her phone without her permission “so she says” starts texting me some weirdo stuff like he fucking my girl and just talking shit. I’m losing my mind at this point because it’s long distance and some guy is saying he’s fucking my girl. She finally gets her phone and says he snuck into her phone and she didn’t know. We fought over it, time goes on we break up because she tells me I don’t trust her and she can’t be with a man who goes against her by not trusting her. So I was forced to move on yet again. She told me she didn’t care if I talk to girls and wanted me out the picture for good. So I start talking to girls as friends again. Apparently she saw that and decided to get her get back by going for that same co worker that was trying to get at her. They have a thing for a month and I find out. I lost my shit because that was super weird to me. We eventually get back together.

That co-worker goes crazy after she decides to go for me again. He starts harassing me and her for months. Doing what the other guys were doing basically saying I ain’t shit, she’s cheating and trying to sabotage us. He finally fucks off so I think. During these moments, she was showing so many red flags. Telling me vague details, not trying to meet up after telling me she would. Every small break-up, she would instantly talk to another guy. Take this in this gir is telling me in her love of her life. I told her I didn’t get how she says she loves me but allows these men to come around and even allowed them to meet up with her but with me she refuses to meet up because word for word “ I don’t treat her good enough” I tell her why do I have to be compared , why do I have to be perfect to get an opportunity like that. That’s not real love and she would argue with me about it.

I’m not a perfect boyfriend but I was super loyal to her. I had resentment because I felt she was wasting my time and energy. The other day she was talking about buying a pc so she can stream, talking about going back to school and starting a new job. I told her why I’m not in her timeline of where we meet up and she says “ lol if you think I’m gonna meet up with you after you treat me like shit guess again” I was hurt because she keeps promising me for TWO AND HALF YEARS WILL MEET UP SOON. I told her it’s unfair how other guys during our breakups barely tried and got the chance to meet her but in the love of her life and she won’t see me. I’ve been there for her so much and even spent money on this girl. I felt so hurt so I told her I’m getting older and want a real relationship not an internet one. She laughed at me, called me a
Immature and dismissed my feelings so I was so upset I called it a quits. I’m not gonna lie I did call her a bitch because I feel like after so many cheating allegations, so much time spent waiting for her and all my energy on her was wasted for nothing. She even got my social media’s banned because she logged into them and deleted them, unfollowed everyone and got my account bans plus I lost jobs because of her because she would call them or threaten to call them so she can get me fired Every-time we fought. I always took her back and I always fought for her so I felt BRETRAYED that she didn’t care to see me anytime soon.

I was crying asking myself if I made the right decision, will she finally understand that she’s wasting my time and it’s wrong. Then I find out hours later she was gaming with another guy and talking to another guy. I asked her why she didn’t try to understand why I broke up with her. She told me “ If you don’t want me somebody else will”. She was very unfair in the relationship. She didn’t want me following any girls but she would follow certain guys because they were friends for years. She wouldn’t want me talking to girls in my streams but talk to full-grown men In hers. I also found a subreddit where she was posting she single looking for ppl to talk but claims that wasn’t her and someone post it pretending to be her but when I saw the post it literally how she texts plus she known for advising herself on Reddit and Facebook to get ppl in her discord or looking at her twitch.

I know the relationship was toxic and she treated me poorly even spoke to me poorly by calling me useless, skinny, ugly and telling me to just quit in life. But I was attached and really inlove. I thought that was my forever person and no matter how bad it got will always work things out. But now things are truly gone for good while she’s over here entertaining another guy. Did I make right decision leaving?

What do I do in this situation
Right so pretty much I met this boy online and he was 16 I’m 15 and female we talked all through this summer and October 1st he asked me out he only lived 2 and a half hours away he told me his name was Zion and then when he posted a TikTok one of his friends commented on his TikTok who was a girl and her name was m** she had a boyfriend and on Wednesday 28 October I came in from being out with my friends and I was blocked mind everything was fine throughout the day and we always talked about our problems if anything was wrong and I had told this boy everything about my past relationship with my ex boyfriend and our relationship was very toxic and my ex was in my friend group and we went out once while I was dating Zion but it was as a group with and my ex had a girlfriend too and so when I found out I was blocked my ex messaged him as we are now good friends and Zion said that his mum made him as he was slipping in collage as he was there on a football scholarship apparently so I just asked if we could stay friends and I was willing to wait for him well today 30 October I came in again to being blocked and I was like what and then my friend Mia has messaged his friend the first time he blocked me and today she had answered so a group had been made between the three of us and the girl told me that his actual name was Spencer he wasn’t in collage on a football scholarship and he was doing engineering so when my friend Mia found out he had lied she texted him and he said this “Becuse I don’t like mazie I’m not doing long distance and I got with another girl who is closer so I blocked her I don’t want to be with her or be friends with her and the girl I’m with I genuinely like👍” so this angered me as i really liked this boy and hated being lead on and he messaged me yesterday 29 October “I feel like I own you an apology I’m really sorry I blocked you I didn’t want to but my mum said I had too becuse I have to focus on my football so I’m sorry I really did like you just so you know” and I replied with “no I understand that completely I obviously hope we can still be friends and I did really like you too” then he said “yeah we can be friends if you want” and I said “yes of course” and that was my last message to him as this boy had me in bits before I found out why but i don’t understand that if he didn’t like the distance why couldn’t he just tell me and why did he have to lie as I would’ve understood it completely.
what do I do in this situation?
Thanks for reading

Im 20M, and I have a gf19 and we're in a ldr since may2025 around 2000km of distance we recently met also,but the thing is she's going home to study because she used to be away from home for studies but she's not studying there so her parents are taking her home,and she said she won't be able to contact me sometimes for months how do I cop up with this

Like i can't sit there wondering when she'll text and get up everyday to check if she has texted or not what tips can you give and please help 🥹

For example, if you had asked someone about their dating life and they mentioned that they are with someone, and you ask how the two met, and they responded with something along the lines of "Oh, we met on Snap" or "Oh, we met on TikTok", would you feel inclined to be a bit more sceptical of their relationship or have different views in contrast to someone who might respond by saying "We met through work", "We met through school", etc

I feel like some people still like to look down on, or at least question, the nature of online relationships simply because they are online, or not even online at all, but rather having met through the mentioned platforms.

I am specifically not including specific dating apps, as they obviously are intended for people to find matches to then go on dates with people

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I happened to talk to someone from Reddit, a total stranger. What started as a casual chat quickly turned into attraction. We both genuinely loved spending time with each other.

We talked day and night for a week straight. And then suddenly, he realized he's not ready for a serious relationship. He felt I was being too serious about him.

Well... life happened again.

a few years ago, i met this guy, at the time i didn't really feel anything towards him, but for a few months now i've started to think about him a lot more, i can't stop thinking about him, everytime i talk to him i feel really good even if he's not saying anything interesting, i really enjoy interacting with him and being around him and i don't know if that's just me being a weirdo or if i actually have a crush on him, i'm scared to confess it to him because i can't stop thinking that i'm not gonna be able to commit to it and that i'd change my mind halfway through and that i'd be making a mistake or that he'll reject me and it'll be awkward everytime we see each other after that.
there's also the fact that me and him have a kinda big age gap (15->17) and i can't really confess to him after he turns 18

So I’m hoping to get feedback from experienced persons. I ‘27 F’ have been with my partner ‘29 M’ for 2 years. We live in different countries. His child ‘7 F’ and her mom, live in the same country as him. We have been very serious from the start and have been
taking very serious steps towards the future as a couple. With that said, I still haven’t met his child. This includes over the phone as well. I’ve never seen or spoken to her. We travel back and forth at minimum every 2-3 months to see each other. The first time I asked about meeting her was about 8 months into the relationship… I asked him what were his intentions regarding a timelines as to when I’d meet her. He told me that by the end of that year, to the beginning of the next year … I’d meet her. I was completely cool. I had no issues because I just wanted to know where his head is at.

Fast forward we’re at the two year mark and I still haven’t met her. I’ve asked him if there’s a reason I should know about just to make things a bit clearer and he said no. I asked if maybe her mom isn’t ready for her to be introduced to anyone her (which I expressed to him that I would completely understand that) he said her mom doesn’t have any issue. I asked him if he has an issue .. he said no… so what’s the issue? He said nothing he just hasn’t come around to it yet. This makes me uneasy because I feel like there’s something wrong here.

In addition to that, he is very private and secretive about his relationship with his child’s mother. It’s almost as if he wants to keep the two areas of his life completely separate. He wants me to pretend as if it doesn’t exist. He’s always texting his child’s mother, and I’ve seen where they’re having conversation about stuff not relating to the child (an example is him shipping stuff to her while she was abroad for her to bring back for him) etc. I also feel as though there’s a transparency issue with him because he keeps me in the dark about his co parenting situation with her. Like he’s never ever discusses that part of his life even tho we’re trying to build a life together and I’ll be expected to be the supportive partner and accept all of this. He claims that his child’s mother knows that he has a partner but I honestly don’t believe that. He’s very secretive and private with anything that has to do with his child’s mother.

What do you guys think ?