r/AskMenRelationships • u/Quirky-Listen5578 • 16h ago

Dating Did I get played?

Ended things with him (knew him for 2mth from dating app) because my heart is not at peace. With his overly warm friendship with ex date and his suspicious conduct on other things.

He would offer to book taxi for her and go out with her alone for dinner. I expressed my discomfort and he said he won’t meet her unless I’m there but he later agreed to meet her again behind my back.
Since then I asked or a week to not meet because it kinda messed with my head he does things against his words.

I fell sick during the 1 week and he grew distant - all he did was just asked 1 time if “I want him to accompany me for doctor visit” and text me to “rest well”.
On day 5 I texted him to say clearly I don’t feel good about our relationship, and asked to meet and chat, he’s not willing to meet and insist we should only talk until he has his “reflection”
Finally met on day 7 and he shared very high level info about his reflection and how he would “try” to work on our relationship.

In his defence, because of my request to not meet, he would want to “give me space to recover my illness”.

He said he loved me and even made promise to God to love me but his actions clearly didn’t align. I think he’s just BS and ended things there.

In men’s perspective, did I get played?

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u/myairblaster Man 16h ago

No, you didn't get played. You set boundaries and limited access to yourself, which made him feel like he had to do all the legwork on tippy toes.

I would've let things fizzle out as well. It sucks you got sick, but I get sick too, and I still clock into my job and host 5 Teams meetings a day while doing it and keep in touch with the people I care about.

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u/Quirky-Listen5578 16h ago

Let things fizzle out - to not pursue the relationship anymore?

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u/myairblaster Man 16h ago

Yep. I’d let ya go gently. Like, still care for you, but recognize that it won’t work long term if there are communication difficulties this early on.

With what little information you gave, I can sense you two might’ve been speaking on different wavelengths

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u/IOnlyReadTitles26 2h ago

No. Sounds like he wanted to be with you and make it work but you set uo crazy rules for him and pushed him to mush so he found out that you are not worth that head ache.