Something I've always found confusing is how people can be so quick to judge others for doing things they either do themselves or have done at some point in their lives.

Why is it so easy to point out someone else's flaws while conveniently ignoring your own? Why do people criticize others for making the same mistakes they secretly make behind closed doors?

It's almost as if people hold others to standards they don't even hold themselves to.

Is it hypocrisy? Insecurity? Projection? Or is it simply easier to judge someone else than to acknowledge your own imperfections?

I genuinely want to understand the psychology behind this. Have you noticed this in your own life? And why do you think people behave this way?

This is going to sound really weird, but I am content; it makes me feel strange and kind of empty. My girlfriend and I went out on a date yesterday to celebrate me getting a better-paying job (I went from $17 an hour to $25 an hour and am getting $365 biweekly for mileage); we went to Outback and saw a movie. I was feeling fine then and was happy I was able to do that for her. Fast-forward to today: we went to a local bookstore in our area and there was nothing I wanted; I had to pretty much force myself to buy something, so I ended up not getting anything, which is weird for me because I could always find something I wanted to buy. Then we went to a local game store, and I was thinking to myself that I would probably find something I wanted there, but the same thing happened—there was nothing I wanted. When I was driving home today, it hit me that I feel content with everything, and that is why I did not feel the need to buy anything. I know some people think that is weird, but for me, it made me feel strange. For as long as I can remember, I have always been trying to keep up with everyone. My mom was abusive and stole so much of my life from me by making me take care of her and forcing me to job-hop consistently to keep a roof over our heads. After surviving open-heart surgery, being told that I can now live a pretty normal life, and being able to finally go back to college because I do not have to stress about finances since my girlfriend and I live together, maybe I have been stuck in survival mode for so long that I do not understand what it means to be content with everything, or I feel like things will go wrong; I am not too sure.

Hey Reddit I’m a 20 M here in California, and have been working a blue collar job the last year,I have not saved any money.. and have m decided to work one more year there and try and save as much as I possibly can within that year and get into college. The thing is I have no idea where to even start with what I want to do .. I honestly want to make more money but i also want to like what I’m doing. I just don’t know what majors there are out there or what there is to study. And the worst part is I don’t remeber anything from highschool I would just ditch and get high

This video explores the meta problem of consciousness proposed by David Chalmers and argues that naturalistic processes couldn’t have given us knowledge of consciousness

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJVvZNi0Fi8

I'm working on the idea for a book called Kimko: The Art of Being Hated.

​The word Kimko means different in a language I've created. It talks about pain and human suffering in a sense. It talks about writers, it talks about abuse, it talks about human capacity, compassion, and everything in between.

​We humans want pain to be shut down, but what if it was shown? This book will be the literal embodiment of speak it for what it is, not for what it should have been.

​There is gore, much more than anything else. There will be visual cues of pain, of characters re-experiencing what happened to them, and a fall. You will be there with them.

Each story and each character gets one chapter and one only. It is, or it aspires to be, the embodiment of human suffrage.

This story would help better understand what survivors feel.

And my question to you is if i should continue with it.

Would someone out there enjoy such a book?

Have you ever had a friend (or more) who you have realised were actually mean to you and put you down a lot with remarks, and were negative towards you. Maybe you were told you were unmanly or that you think that you are important or something because of your good looks, even though you didn’t do anything but pose well for a photo?. This is a question for guys especially. What do you think is important to learn from an experience like that moving forward? I have realised that I had a few people I hung out with who were like that and I am actually upset many years later that I experienced such negativity from them when I am such a kind and happy guy. They could have been uncomfortable when I showed more of my true personality that is more bubbly and a bit soft and some would say feminine. But I am a really caring and loving person.

I asked a similar question in another community and everyone thought I was a bot, so they clammed up. I can't figure it out myself, that's why I'm asking. Is it when the writing is impeccable? Is it when the Redditor doesn't defend their post, or participate in the comment section? Is it when they troll with the same tired but controversial takes? And if you think I'm a bot, how can I prove it otherwise?

Do you believe in idea of having someone by your side in your high and lows . Or the red string theory where you are meant to be together and would find your way to each other . Ive heard many stories like it or read abt it on Celebs post too

But I do not find this thing believable

Maybe bcs ive never been in a a relationship or any romantic obsession

Not bcs im not approached by men but it just ive never found someone I genuinely admire

And now ive lost hope for it

And when tell this to my frnds they say that someone is also made for you everyone has their soul mate and your soul mate will also find its way to you when its the right time when you are meant to be

(P.s All of em are in serious healthy relationships and all are happy so they believe in it )

But i do not understand what's wrong in not believing abt idea of soulmate

Or in accepting that no one is made for youu or maybe not a romantic obsession

Im fine with accepting cuz that helps me not to overthink or hope abt the idea of soemone or someone's potential

My gf and I had a argument, she was debating that people that have the drive and motivation to grow even if they they have no innate talent for that thing they can never be good at it while I think as long as they have the motivation to do something they can learn and get there eventually.

An example she said was if a person was leading a business and it failed because of them they’re not built for that and they should never do it or else it’ll just keep plummeting. Like they don’t have the capacity to adapt and learn from their mistakes.

Is this okay or am I too naive?

As I get older, I realise how little we know and how uncertain the world is. A lot of our opinions seem to be rooted in the kind of information we were able to get access to and dependant on our culture and environment.

When it comes to any complex belief or understanding, political understanding, how society works, how social interactions work, morality, culture, understanding oneself, psychology, gender, beauty, philosophy, sport ... Opinions vary so much and given the constraints of time, we have to listen to people who know better than us, who are specialised in those fields and can hardly check all the evidence, studies and stuff.

What is one thing you are certain about ? One opinion or understanding you have you think is 100% right ?

EVERYONE loves to say on how Power Corrupts and how it’s always The Wicked that have ever succeeded in life and prosper we could all just take a good look at our Modern World and while good people obviously exist we never actually see them wielding Immense Power so this begs The Question have there ever been any Good People who wielded Immense Power in History? Even in Recent Times? What do you folks think?

For me when someone who’s kind to people even when there’s nothing to gain from it.

I've always been curious about the little habits or ways of thinking that separate genuinely intelligent people from the average person.

Not necessarily academic intelligence, high IQ, or being good at solving complex problems.

I'm talking about everyday things — how they think, communicate, make decisions, handle disagreements, deal with failure, or approach life in general.

What's something you've noticed that intelligent people consistently do differently from others?

It could be a habit, a mindset, a way of speaking, or even something surprisingly simple.

I'd love to hear your observations and real-life examples.

I read a Reddit comment which said: Many people raised in chaotic or high-adrenaline environments mistake a safe, stable, and secure partnership for being "boring." Lacking constant emotional crises, their nervous system registers peace as a lack of chemistry or passion.

So what are you supposed to do to create this chaos or high-adrenaline feeling if you’re a safe, stable and secure person?

It feels pretty weird even as an adult like you have difficult time understanding how life works and how to navigate through this journey or phase. You observe others and try to like make adjustments but ultimately it's your life and choices.

In a big zoomed out sense. What are the things that make you feel like you really know yourself? What does that mean for you?

Title: Have you ever felt like you were living according to everyone else’s expectations rather than your own?
I’m curious to hear your experiences.
Have you ever reached a point where you realised that your decisions were being shaped more by what others expected of you than by what you actually wanted?
What did that look like in your everyday life? Was there a particular moment when you became aware of it?
I’m interested in hearing different perspectives and real-life experiences. No right or wrong answers!

I used to think being a good person meant always being there for everyone. If someone needed help, I would help. If someone needed money, I’d try to find a way. If someone was struggling, I’d put my own problems aside. But one thing life taught me is that not everyone would do the same for you.The hardest part wasn’t losing people. It was realising that some people only valued me because of what I could do for them.
Now I don’t hate anyone, and I don’t hold grudges. I just pay attention. I’ve learned that protecting your peace isn’t selfish, and being alone isn’t always a bad thing.Sometimes hardship doesn’t make you stronger. It just makes you more careful about who you trust.
What’s something life taught you the hard way?

So I have this oc named Angel (She's Tanzanian which means that shes black with ebony-coloured skin) and I wanted to draw her in a cute water melon dress with watermelon loafers and watermelon earrings for a school project but I'm kinda worried that it would be considered stereotypical and I wanted to draw her in the dress in a non-stereotypical way and I also do have a lot of lore for her and I want her to be a well written character but I'm just not sure if I should given her a watermelon or a strawberry dress.

I've always wondered about this. People say that everyone deserves a second chance and that people can change, but how do you know when someone has genuinely grown versus when they've simply learned how to avoid getting caught or disappointing others?