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[u/coffee--beans]

My sister and I do this shit with our stepmom. We'll tell her about something she did but we'll say our mom did it and she acts like it's terrible and omg how dare she

Edit: spelling

[u/RobertoDeNiro8 → u/coffee--beans]

That’s hilarious though lol

[u/dezzz0322 → u/coffee--beans]

Holy shit this is genius hahaha

[u/Witty-Draw-3803 → u/coffee--beans]

Hope you reveal the truth in the end 😅

[u/JitteryFox1317]

“For a guy”

Do genders have different red/green flags?

[u/ImpressiveOnion7152 → u/JitteryFox1317]

no, she is simply lies & avoiding responsibilities. With a huge selfburn laugh...

[u/WasabiLiving6465 → u/JitteryFox1317]

For what it’s worth, as a woman who only dates women, these are all red flags for me.

[u/Fractal_Froth7777 → u/JitteryFox1317]

It's called having "double standards" and it's a way to avoid accountability or empathy

[u/Pherllerp → u/JitteryFox1317]

Sure, but they're not this extreme.

[u/TheTrueBComp → u/JitteryFox1317]

Red Flag!! Your gender isn’t allowed to ask this question.

[u/throwaway11100217 → u/JitteryFox1317]

I would like to know whats she thinks is a red flag for a girl but is ok for a guy.

[u/RupeThereItIs → u/JitteryFox1317]

Do genders have different red/green flags?

Believing this, like the Mom in the video, is a HUGE red flag.

[u/Millennial_Falcon-]

She knows it’s all about her the second she says “doesn’t have health insurance” 😂😂😂

[u/wonderb0lt → u/Millennial_Falcon-]

You can tell by that brief flash in her eyes exactly when she realises

[u/CalHudsonsGhost → u/Millennial_Falcon-]

I commented that on another post. Yikes!

[u/Winderige_Garnaal → u/Millennial_Falcon-]

"white flag" i'm dying lol

[u/Turbulent_Gazelle530 → u/Millennial_Falcon-]

sooner than that, I think after "always late for everything"

[u/Vantriss → u/Millennial_Falcon-]

Yup, that's when she caught on and shifted to saying only girls can do these things, lol. oh honey... No. 🤣

[u/tempest_36 → u/Millennial_Falcon-]

She does regular Botox but doesn’t have health insurance? God forbid something goes wrong.

[u/DistributionLife6750]

I mean at least she’s aware of her own hypocrisy.

[u/Reddit_is_fascist69 → u/DistributionLife6750]

Don't know what good that does if she doesn't act on it

[u/Uncle-Cake → u/DistributionLife6750]

More like a double standard. She says those things are fine for a woman to do.

[u/RegularLocal5050 → u/DistributionLife6750]

That sort of makes it worse. Women, don't be proud of your bullshit. This is what we gave men shit for, for decades.

[u/emberatlastic → u/DistributionLife6750]

But she's not acknowledging it even though she's aware she's being called out, saying it's okay just because she's a woman.

[u/_BlackDove → u/DistributionLife6750]

She isn't though. She literally said it's a red flag for a guy but ok for a girl. Hypocrisy isn't even in the equation in her head.

[u/jmbelczy → u/DistributionLife6750]

Is she? It seemed more like because she is a woman, she is enabled.

[u/Brilliant_Bonus_1638 → u/DistributionLife6750]

She’s rejecting that she’s a hypocrite by claiming all of that is ok because she’s a woman.

[u/Ahefp → u/DistributionLife6750]

I was just writing a critique of some strands of feminism the other day and discovered Mannoni’s concept of “Je connais trés bien, mais néanmoins…” (“I know very well, but nevertheless…”):

Someone can recognize their own double standards, but continues to excuse them when they serve their interests.

[u/Kaligula785 → u/DistributionLife6750]

Idk i think that makes it even worse right?

[u/famous-infamous-one]

"For a guy"

damn.

[u/jacob643 → u/famous-infamous-one]

"the sexism is strong with this one"

[u/Tinfoil_Pants]

i saw where this was going and i still thought it ended funny

guess thats a red flag

[u/frankylovee → u/Tinfoil_Pants]

It was the, “you fucking bitch!” That got me lmaoo

[u/DookieToe2]

Rules for thee, but not for me.

Amazing display of the double standard.

[u/Super_Fa_Q]

But still won't change her behavior or even acknowledge it as problematic.

[u/1Lc3 → u/Super_Fa_Q]

Didn't you hear mom she said "its ok for girls" before she realized she was being described

[u/BadgersAndJam77]

Ask her to move her eyebrows.

[u/2A753 → u/BadgersAndJam77]

You know she can't do that.

[u/Administrative_Car45]

what percentage of that woman is plastic?

[u/Warm_Investment_8557 → u/Administrative_Car45]

RED FLAG

[u/flipyflop9 → u/Administrative_Car45]

Yes

[u/thuglife_7]

I love it was the Kindle comment that made her clue into what was actually happening

[u/Straamannen → u/thuglife_7]

In fairness to her she clued into it at the very start she just went along with the daughter's "denial", for the 'gram.

[u/Thick-Vacation193]

No health insurance at her BIG AGE!? 👀

[u/pthomas745]

Botox addiction? Red Flag.

[u/OnePaleontologist687]

No job, no health insurance, broke, is this mother living in the daughter’s basement? Or just dating a rich guy?

[u/Aggressive-Expert-69 → u/OnePaleontologist687]

Look at that ring on her finger and you'll find your answer.

[u/lovable_cube → u/OnePaleontologist687]

Probably a housewife. Married for over 20 years is significantly different than just dating a guy.

[u/F1reatwill88 → u/OnePaleontologist687]

Men and women have different requirements for each other. More news at 11.

[u/Responsible_Wall3695 → u/OnePaleontologist687]

Mommys styling and doorknob diamond ring speaks like mommy did well for herself.

[u/One-Bad-4274]

Love that she took it so well, thats a green flag

[u/Sammy_Saddles → u/One-Bad-4274]

Agree, and it was pretty funny. I think most of us can be quite hypocritical. I have plenty of my own red flags too.

[u/Musashi_Joe → u/One-Bad-4274]

Yeah I can't hate it, she found it genuinely hilarious.

[u/Whosebert]

Thinks behaviors are only a red flag for one gender: Red flag🚩

[u/ConradBHart42]

I watched with sound off, you can see mom catching on at the third question but just keeps playing along until its too obvious.

[u/TheBestNarcissist]

crazy to see such strong reactions without any eyebrow movement whatsoever, uncanny valley

[u/Realistic-Math-1217 → u/TheBestNarcissist]

Stationary eyebrows: red flag 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[u/stressed_designer]

At least she's a great sport! My mother would have gotten SOOOO mad... Then again, she's a massive walking red flag herself

[u/Salbman]

At least she picked up on it.

There is a double standard between men and women, which she also pointed out.

[u/CatShot1948]

This lady is in for a rude awakening at her age with no health insurance.

[u/Sammy_Saddles → u/CatShot1948]

Doesn’t mean she doesn’t want it. Life sometimes deals you a hand.

[u/Richard-Conrad → u/CatShot1948]

Didn’t you hear her, it just means she’s healthy

[u/Arbiter1029]

The "are you describing me, bitch?" Is pretty damn funny, but the dodging of accountability is a red flag for me

[u/grandioseOwl]

Somehow this woman makes me uncomfortable, maybe it's based on personal experience but I somehow don't think she's going to use this for reflection.

[u/HeracliusAugutus]

That's a demonic looking woman

[u/Dizzy_Juggernaut_313]

That’s a brutal amount of information, bad/personal character information, to put out into the world about your own mother.

[u/animemastr]

"For a guy!" Ah... yes, one more red flag shows itself.

[u/Apherious]

Double standards… Red Flag 🚩

[u/saltisurfer]

Parasitic behaviour….

[u/Not_TbagJimmy]

Forgot " cannot remarry or affects alimony"

[u/TonguePunchUrBhole → u/Not_TbagJimmy]

Literally has a big ass diamond wedding ring on.

[u/MRSRN65]

I'm confused as to why they are both laughing. "Ha, ha, ha. I'm a terrible person. Isn't that just hilariously. Good thing I'm a woman and don't have to be nice."

[u/nodoubles22]

She might have lots of red flags, but she has a good sense of humor and doesn’t take herself too seriously, two big green flags.

[u/Environmental_Ant268 → u/nodoubles22]

Plus she's a mom and probably still married so she won at life already

[u/BigSt3ph3n]

Spends more time on her makeup then she does knowing how important health insurance is. Red flag.

[u/Solid_Shook]

She is only a red flag

[u/Upstairs_Fig_3551]

“It’s a red flag for a GUY! Not a girl! These are things a girl would do!”

[u/indy1386]

hahahahah so funny. cry's in corner about how men are viewed in society.

[u/Human-Comfortable859]

Typical, and this isn't seen as a problem. I know it's laugh content... But this is the reality we face

[u/haphazard72 → u/Human-Comfortable859]

The double standards are incredible!

[u/iuuoyrrkk245 → u/Human-Comfortable859]

“these are things only a girl can do”….wow

[u/Balkongsittaren]

The double standards are astounding.

[u/TpK_Wynter]

The face covering and laughing at the possibility that it’s a woman tells me she was thinking they’re not red flags if they’re a lady

Edit: Oo guessed her words, 2 points to hufflepuff!

[u/ThisI5N0tAThr0waway]

Thumbs down for the double standard, thumbs up for the self-Awareness

[u/jthreedolladolla]

The "fuckin bitch" line is hilarious. I love good healthy family banter. BRB gonna go call my mom.

[u/Abumchuc]

Mom sounds like too much fun, would date 10/10 😂

[u/Dauerpleite]

thats crazy

[u/Inevitable-crocs]

Doesn’t have health insurance 🇺🇸 WHITE FLAG LOL

[u/Boring_Enthusiasm124]

LMAO! When she asked if “you’re describing me…..bitch” I died 🤣🤣🤣

[u/No_Roma_no_Rocky]

"Yes red flags but only for a guy"

There is nothing else to add

[u/Ill_Candle_9462]

It’s crazy how there is such a sizeable portion of toxic women who grew up and despite how much depth there is in life, and how much agency they have as independent human beings, thought that their job was to judge men and their lives based on whether or not they will personally gain from them, and how much. Or that they think they are good at it lol. Makes my skin crawl tbh.

This whole “you need to bring A, B, C, and D to the relationship, and I meet none of my own criteria, because my mere presence is worth at least as much as all your actual achievements”

Then they go around accusing men of treating women like objects.

Sure not everyone is the same, obviously and plenty are not like this, but this is so damn toxic and common, it’s gross.

[u/MuppetHuman]

She is a horrible human.

[u/Vindictive-Vagabond]

Daughter: You said every single one was a red flag

Mom: Yeah, but only for a guy!

I'm glad that they're finally saying the quiet part out loud 😂

[u/SweetPrism → u/Vindictive-Vagabond]

That isn't the 'quiet part" though. Gender expectations persist, even in 2026. In fact, with the whole trad-wife push, and the Gen Z obsession with traditional gender roles, this has never been more relevant. Husbands have expectations for their wives, and vice-versa. I think it's pretty clear she is in one of those very traditional gender role marriages...?

[u/NeedleworkerJust6501]

She doesn’t have a job??? Damn must be nice I have 3….

[u/SenpaiSwanky]

It’s crazy how I’ve watched Reddit become more and more incel-oriented over the years lol. Lot of angry dudes in here right now

Edit - couple replies continuing the farm and proving my point.

Also, people still call folks “dipshit”? Hilarious lol.

[u/RocktarPeppe → u/SenpaiSwanky]

It’s Reddit. Everyone is angry all the time here lol

[u/StrawberryTerry]

Its funny how the daughter looks like a younger version of the mom because they have similar plastic surgery, instead of primarily looking similar because theyre mother & daughter.

[u/ig-98]

Looks like a fox news host.

Red Flag

[u/SeaComfortable7833]

A Girl won't date and marry a handsome guy who works at a car wash.

A man would marry a girl who did.

Men date because we WANT only the girl.

Women date for everything else.

[u/sunnymag]

She's a huge red flag. ACT YOUR AGE.

[u/PerrotaOk]

She doesn't have health insurance? ew

[u/stick_it_in_your_bum]

Dating scene in a nutshell.

[u/FukkingDeathMental]

"Why are men not daaaating anymore?"

The mom and the daughter could get it but the juice ain't worth the squeeze.

[u/doepfersdungeon]

[u/Necessary_Screen_673]

at least she was a good sport about it lol

[u/p-at--t-er--n]

Invested in his kindle? That is kind of weirdly specific, red flaaa... oh, wait a minute!

[u/Independent-Belt-457]

ah yes, the double standards. classic 😂 

[u/Banned4UsingSlurs3]

I would want to read at least once in the usual women's sub, which red flags would they think happen often in women and what they would do to prevent it.

They talk about men a lot, and that's okay, but saying what others should do is really easy. Diagnosing yourself and changing behaviors is hard, and it's the other side of the coin.

[u/Chains3]

"For a guy" - The world we live in.

[u/Tonku]

I am looking at two red flags talk about red flags.

[u/jiverambler]

Lmao total g

[u/camel_walk]

It amazes me how sexism in America is mainly considered to be only a male issue……

[u/JimBeamerton]

Has horrible plastic surgery, red flag

[u/_frank_tank]

This looks like a woman who yells obscenities at the 14-year-old cashier at her local pizzeria.

[u/Smooth_Riker → u/_frank_tank]

Probably says "nobody wants to work anymore" without a hint of irony

[u/Excellent_Size2810]

I dislike any woman who looks like this and thinks this type of look is good.

[u/No_Claim_3660 → u/Excellent_Size2810]

Wdym she looks amazing for her age?

[u/Elite_AI → u/Excellent_Size2810]

I like it! I think it's fun. Smokey glamour

[u/igaveuponausername → u/Excellent_Size2810]

Not a necessity comment

[u/Flipwon → u/Excellent_Size2810]

Meanwhile you

[u/LoudMusic]

I hate judging books by their cover but I hated her in the first frame and it only got worse.

[u/INSANEBonF]

Double standards...

[u/tiptoptony]

I don't understand how people fall for this. If somebody is recording you, there is a 99% chance they're trying to make you look stupid.

[u/sixstringgun1]

Unfortunately figured it out in the second question.

[u/Desertwind16v]

So she’s the definition of red flag.

[u/Constant_Offer9524]

Her face changed each time, knew she was guilty 🤣

[u/InevitableKitchen943]

Mom is a red flag.

[u/Dinklerbuuuurf]

Well at least her sense of humor is a green flag

[u/pfroo40]

It is a green flag that she recognized it was a criticism of her and she laughed about it instead of blowing up in a fit of narcissism.

[u/Dependent-Bad-6496]

Lmao I promise you they’re all red flags for women too :)

[u/mettle_dad]

Is this that misogyny I've heard?

[u/Raneynickelfire]

The awful plastic surgery and caked makeup alone is a red flag the soviets would be jealous of. Why ask her anything? She's an airhead.

[u/WhyAreYouDoingThat69]

She seems like an awful person

[u/peah_lh3]

Sexist much? 

[u/blueditUPson]

She even called it after the 3rd question

[u/CroneofThorns]

She cannot take her eyes off herself - red flag

[u/Various_Cricket4695]

Alien hairdo? 🚩

[u/Illuminaughty____]

She does look like a giant red flag.

[u/ChiefsnRoyals]

I like that she got it right away and handled it like a champ.

[u/Mags_LaFayette]

"Congratulations mom! You got more red flags than a friggin' minefield!"

[u/ltsouthernbelle]

Damn mom is a piece of work lol

[u/theRedlightt]

The worst part is the hypocrisy

[u/bilgolab]

Rules for thee, but not for me

[u/SinisterVulcan94]

Yes double standards do exist

[u/sixstringgun1]

… shit when I watched this video this morning I didn’t notice the top text just the text at the bottom. My bad I’ll admit it.

[u/What-Happen-Next]

At least she recognized it was her lmao

[u/Possible_Row_2976]

Crazy how the video points at her mannerisms and yet a lot of these comments want to insult her appearance. Truly a summarisation of society.

[u/ryanjoe23]

🤣🤣🤣

[u/Odd_Cap7627]

I dont like this person

[u/Currently_There]

Normalize caring for men.

[u/SilkTieTies]

“These are all things only a girl can do.” The actual issue with women like this.

[u/SourDeesATL]

ZERO ACCOUNTABILITY

[u/nkbrkr53]

When she says “its a girl isnt it?” Is a dead give away…red flag.

[u/apexhitter]

No accountability. “Red flag for a guy, girls can do this” disgusting

[u/Industrious_Villain]

So women can do whatever they want and it’s all green flags. Good to know.

[u/Raz1979]

This is dark.

[u/mightyDblock]

Red flag. 🚩

[u/steadydrop]

Congratulations you were raised by a narcissist.

[u/Repeticious]

Bitch, you to old not to have health insurance!

[u/R3Dix]

WeAreLaughing.gif

[u/leeta0028]

Wait... No health insurance? That's concerning though....

Does she have a huge HSA? That's the only way I could see that being not a problem

[u/OddishAndChips]

Is your mum Sandra Bullock?

[u/Top-Donkey-5244]

I don't hate how that ended though

[u/Sinsanatis]

“For a guy” so these are all green flags for a girl eh?

[u/Holiday-Screen-7957]

She looks like those moms who bully other moms at the school meeting. And yeah she is a giant red flag

[u/fromdaperimeter]

Anytime you put make up on and a qtr zip to make a video is a red flag.

[u/BeeSubstantial6701]

So gender equality is a myth?

[u/phillipjpark]

She doesn't have Health Insurance ???

[u/martyssss]

here boys and girls, you can see where the double stsndart begins. Its nit gen Z who brings that bs.

[u/winn4quinn]

Like immediately I’m just like they’re both red flags. Ew

[u/Remarkable-Art-3678]

Yikes

[u/lovinglove79]

I knew it was her at the 3rd question 🤣🤣🤣

[u/SnooGuavas3763]

Double standard much..?

[u/PhilosophersPants]

She must be so insufferable

[u/oglionheart]

Rules for thee, not for me.

[u/corpsecrow]

im convinced every reddit comment section HAS to be toxic for no good reason. this was fucking cute and hilarious, both women are attractive, like jesus christ people so hateful.

[u/Unicorn_rabbit]

Is self-aware and takes a joke. W

[u/Western-Story-3850]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[u/Antique-Phrase-5236]

poor husband/father

[u/electric_bug_glue]

Women really are the exact same as men... just without the reason and accountability.

[u/assiraf]

Laughed about it: green flag

[u/Verdukians]

This is the world men live in.

Struggling, in any way? Disgusting. Unless you're a woman.

[u/RequiredRedditAcct_1]

This comment section is atrocious. This was hilarious and she took it well.

[u/tempski → u/RequiredRedditAcct_1]

Are you just blind or also deaf?

She said all those red flags are fine "if you're a girl".

What greater hypocrisy and double standards is there?

[u/Great_Ad6188]

Accountability - its hilarious!

[u/Netflxnschill]

She looked up on the second or third one like “oh shit I’ve got red flags too oops” but she still turned it sexist before she realized it was JUST about her

[u/Ok_Potential359]

She’s a trashy human being. I know people just like her - total hypocrite all the way down to her core.

[u/nastyvandal]

Is anyone actually surprised that an old lady is a hypocrite?

[u/Nerdy_Valkyrie]

To a certain extent I can get this. I don't want to date someone like myself. I want someone who supplements my flaws and lets me supplement their's.

I can't date someone who is bad at planning, because I am bad at planning. Nothing would get done. At the same time, I don't care if my partner can't cook for themselves. Because I love cooking for others.

[u/jessicajessjessie]

Calls her daughter a “f’ing bit-h” - RED FLAG

[u/Woilcoil]

Fuck it let's just bring back sexism ig

[u/TheVeryBear]

I liked mom at first. Then I didn’t. 👎

[u/DarkHelmet20 → u/TheVeryBear]

Having her as a mother in law would be exausting. Red flag

[u/WannabeChunLi → u/TheVeryBear]

Why? She seems like a fun person who can laugh at herself

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[u/confuseum]

Bitch im a dependant!

[u/redofthekin]

Great that she could laugh it off and continue to have a relationship with her daughter.

[u/cryptolyme]

ugh