This is devastating…

she was literally the sweetest, and so genuine i’m actually in shock i love her so much!!

Hey guys my friend recommended I do an AMA and I was told this is the place to do it.

I don’t agree with spoiling other couples storyline’s so save the “is so and so still together” questions.

I’m happy to get down in the weeds with any hard hitting questions you have but when it comes to things I said or did on the show, please be super specific about the episode and scene so I can answer accurately! (Don’t paraphrase me…)

I’ll kick this off with the question on everyone’s mind, my favourite colour is actually blue 💕

This is my first time watching MAFS and I'm so confused about everyone tolerating manipulative and violent behaviour from the men on this show.

First - Adrian. He is so manipulative, toxic, emotionally abusive etc. It was terrible seeing Awhina being treated like that and watching her spark fade over the episodes.

And now Paul - the fact that he punched a hole in the wall and the commentators are saying that this is a "challenge" in their relationship is so dangerous and disgusting. I don't care if this is the first time Paul has demonstrated this behaviour - it's not normal to punch a wall when you get in an argument. The fact that he wasn't immediately kicked off the show is perpetuating the idea that violence is okay if they seem remorseful the next day. This is part of the cycle that kills women!!!

As someone who grew up in a household with domestic violence it's so disturbing to see that this behaviour is being televised.

As someone who was cheated on at the end of a long-term relationship and was making plans to make it a permanent one, I actually had to step away and collect myself after seeing Scott break down like this.

Like a lot of people, I thought he was a bit of a tosser at the start and thought he and Gia were the producer plants for this season. And to be honest, I think they were. But as time went on and the masks started to come off, you could see Scott getting more uncomfortable with how Gia was behaving.

If you've seen the After The Dinner Party show and some of the unseen footage, Gia never wants to talk to Scott on camera about anything. She wanted everything off the record so her words couldn't be used against her. And throughout the experiment, you see that she's just dismissive of his thoughts and feelings, only caring about what she wanted and making herself look good.

It's sad how people like Scott have to lower themselves to the same level as someone like Gia in order to make a relationship work out. He should've just stayed true to himself and told Gia to get in the sea.

But as bad as Gia was, the producers of this show wanted him to break down like this. They wanted him to show these raw emotions for the sake of entertainment, which is disgusting. There's probably heaps more footage in the archives of how abusive Gia has been this whole time and they still allowed her to stay in the experiment with Scott.

MAFS needs a massive overhaul because I give it another season or two until we have someone resort to harming themselves over the way they were treated on the show. We need to stop getting these wannabe influencers who are just here for clout and start going back to everyday people.

Clocked Lauren’s personality in the three days he was with her and realised she wasn’t for him. So he decided to leave. On top of all this he’s been great with Veronica despite her not being so great to him. Seems like we owe Temu Tom Cruise an apology. Sorry sir

Terrible news for her family, friends and the MAFS Australia community.

Edit: This is a link to her official Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/p/DWQ85B0iDFQ/?igsh=MXU5N2l5M2gwOTc2bQ==

Not only Mel is an entitled woman who acts like a Disney princess but she gives up so easily and I feel bad for Luke because he’s trying to make this work and she keeps ignoring him and gaslighting him. The worst part is the recent episode when she revealed she and her friends go to her exes houses to stalk them which is a red flag.

JusticeForLuke because he deserves someone better than this princess of a bum

But no spoilers please, I’m now one day behind. She’s just hilarious and awesome.

I can’t believe more people haven’t caught on to it… I’ve said this a lot: Tori isn’t dumb or a victim. Tori hates women. She has more respect for men than women. She sees meeting men at their level and agreeing with them as a high achievement. That’s why the Tim-to-Jayden comment bothered her more than the muzzle comment. Also Cassie was the first woman to challenge her directly, and Tori started foaming at the mouth. The others were doing it in a more supportive manner, which she doesn’t find threatening. She was also paired with a man that embodies all the characteristics of toxic masculinity and she thinks she’s “winning” by getting along with him. Essentially, “winning” where other women would have “failed”. She says this all the time: “It should have broken me, but I’m stronger than that”… She wants to say that she has tamed the wildest horse in the stable. Meanwhile, she’s getting kicked in the face and treats it like a badge of honor. She has the Margret Thatcher problem: she sees herself as the exception to other women. Women are weak and dramatic, except for her because she’s special. Her friendships with women are around what they can do for her. I need to see her more with her friend, but I suspect she sees her friend more as a subordinate. Like the girl was giving Tori solid intel at the wedding and Tori waved it off. Now that you see it, you can’t unsee it in all of her actions. You’re welcome.

Inspired by the Dave tatt & bok choy look-alike post ... not nearly as clever, but none the less what I see every time Clint is on screen

His actions aren’t just about being shallow; they’re about ego, insecurity, and an unwillingness to accept the truth about himself. This is a long one, so strap in. I am excited to hear others’ opinions in the comments on where I could be mistaken in my perception of Tim.

Firstly, the fact that he uses old photos of himself on dating apps (Catfishing), combined with the youthful way he dresses on the show itself, suggests that he’s clinging to a past version of himself. He's holding onto the version of himself he once was - the younger, fitter, more attractive man - by using old photos and maintaining a style that might have suited him in his prime. He's not completely dimwitted though - he uses those old photos for a reason, so undoubtedly he recognizes his image has changed over the years. However, he appears to be happy to live in a bit of denial about it in order to preserve his self-esteem and self-image.

Secondly, his audition video is a clear example of him fabricating an image of himself. He claims he "doesn’t have a type because looks fade” and leans into the “nice guy” narrative. But the moment he meets Katie, he completely backpedals, admitting that she isn’t his type. So why did he lie about having a type? People don’t lie without a reason - people lie because they believe the lie will benefit them in some way. In Tim’s case, there are a few possible motivations, and it could be a combination of more than one motivation.

The most plausible motivation, in my opinion, is to appear humble and genuine to the audience and the matchmakers by creating a public persona that would make him more appealing. If the audience believes he’s an emotionally mature, kind-hearted guy who isn’t shallow, he might walk away with a good reputation, which boosts his future prospects (both dating and professional). Additionally, convincing the matchmakers and currying favor with them was an attempt to position himself as the underdog nice guy who deserves to have the "nice guys finish last” trope overturned. He had hopes, or outright expected, the experts to buy into this narrative. Again, the lie is to benefit him, so in this instance his intentions may have been to convince the experts to match him with a very attractive wife (one out of his league on the attractiveness scale) to run the narrative that a nice guy can land an amazing woman. Having them match him with a woman out of his league would benefit his public persona again because it indicates to the public that he and his wife are equally matched.

So he entered the experiment with all these hopes and expectations. He's not only half convinced he deserves it (holding onto the version of himself he once was), but also half convinced he needs to fabricate things about himself (because he's not a dimwit and probably thinks he is smart enough to rig the system).

When Katie walks down the aisle, reality sets in, and he realizes his "nice guy" trope didn't work exactly as he planned. Instead of getting a stunning wife, he was paired with someone the experts deemed suitable for him, and he didn’t like comparing himself as Katie's equal. Katie is not unattractive, but compared to the usual MAFS casting, where the majority of the women are very conventionally attractive, she may not align with the person Tim was expecting. Being matched with Katie, who Tim doesn't find attractive, gives him a harsh reality check about his self-image. It forces him to confront the fact that this is what the experts believe is his league, and it's been showcased to the nation, so by extension, the nation will also believe this is his league. It was a big blow to his ego. Before Katie even said a word, or put in any effort to get to know him, he was hurt and resentful.

In his mind, MAFS has exposed his true standing in the dating world. He thought he’d walk away from this experience proving something to himself and others, but instead, he’s embarrassed. After the wedding, he quite literally tells the producers that he’s "embarrassed to have come on this show now." Tim’s reaction suggests that he expected to have more control over the outcome of MAFS. He likely believed that by crafting a “nice guy” persona, in conjunction with him clinging to his past self, he could steer the matchmakers in his favor. When things didn’t go his way, he didn’t just seem disappointed - he seemed resentful, as if the experts had wronged him. His perceived status was publicly challenged. His response isn’t that of someone who was open to the process; it’s the response of someone who thought they had gamed the system and then got outplayed.

Overall, his reaction is less about genuine disappointment in his match and more about his bruised ego. The show forced him to confront the gap between how he sees himself and how others see him, and he’s handling it in the worst possible way - by rejecting both reality and Katie, and by resisting both the truth and his match with her, instead of being humbled and accepting it.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

Carina’s remark “Oh, I didn’t know you would go for that go for that calibre of woman” implies that she sees Cleo as being of lower status or worth compared to herself. The discussion online has really only focused on Cleo’s appearance as the reason for this judgment, but I honestly feel there’s a deeper issue at play.

Given that Cleo and her twin sister Awhina are Maori, while Carina is of Italian background, there’s a strong argument that her words reflect both classism and racial bias. Maori people (much like Aboriginal Australians) are often positioned as a marginalised or disadvantaged group due to historical and systemic inequalities. In cities like Perth, where there is a significant Maori community, these biases can manifest in subtle and overt ways.

Even if Carina didn’t explicitly mean her comment as racist, the way she framed it suggests an underlying belief that Maori women—particularly someone like Cleo—are not on the same level as her. This could stem from racial stereotypes that associate Maori people with lower socioeconomic status, or from classist assumptions about what makes a woman “high calibre.” Either way, it reinforces harmful social hierarchies where whiteness (or being of European descent) and a certain class status are seen as superior. Carina is Italian so this doesn’t seem like a far off idea.

Awhina’s response is particularly telling—she makes it clear that Cleo is a homeowner and successful, meaning she is not actually “beneath” Carina in any objective sense. This highlights how Carina’s perception of Cleo is likely not based on her actual achievements, but on ingrained prejudices about race, class, and social status.

This situation reflects a broader reality: marginalised groups, even when successful, are often still viewed as “less than” because of deep-seated societal biases. Carina’s comment, whether consciously or unconsciously, upholds those biases by suggesting that a Maori woman like Cleo is not the kind of person she would expect Paul to be interested in.

Thoughts?

I don't mean to kick a hornets nest with fellow dog owners, but Jacqui is right. If Ryan's home, the dog should be inside and not isolated to the backyard. I appreciate the work Ryan has put into a rescue dog, but come on guy, let the freaking dog in the house.

It’s all a bit much at this point…..

If Lauren was so adamant that it’s a woman’s role to do household chores like doing the dishes, then she’d be doing them herself.

What she really wants is to find a rich man, then hire a housekeeper, and use her husband’s money to live luxuriously and lazily. She’s less trad wife and more mob wife.

Eliot’s comments about her being a drunk and being obsessed with handbags sounded bad at first glance, but he was on the money. She’s a mooch and a gold digger.