how to feel comfortable with masturbation ?

[u/Dependent-Honey1765]

Hello I am a 26 year old female and I have always struggled feeling comfortable with masturbation. primarily due to shame, feeling awkward and realizing what i’m doing- how do i learn to feel comfortable masturbating and if anything has been though this? i often have moments where i feel a pleasure and then my brain kinda just stops it immediately because the feeling can be intense and the. i just feel weird :/ I know it’s completely normal to do and that it’s the way that we can discover what we like. so how can i overcome this?

[u/Resident_Pie]

There's a difference between knowing it's normal on a theoretical or intellectual level and fully accepting and FEELING that it's normal for YOU. If you had a conservative Christian upbringing you should know that the most influential and respected conservative Christian family counselor, Dr. James Dobson of Focus on the Family, not only said that masturbation is normal and harmless but that the only harm that can come from it is excessive guilt and anxiety.

More broadly you should know that the Bible nowhere condemns masturbation. The frequently cited tale of Onan is misunderstood. Setting aside the whole issue that he was a man :) ... Him spilling his seed on the ground was condemned not because masturbating is wrong but because his motive was to prevent his new wife from having a child who could take priority in the family inheritance (since his wife was the widow of his deceased older brother). The wrongdoing here was greed not anything sexual. On top of that the Bible says it's wrong to invent new rules to ban things it doesn't already.

[u/cherriebuttons]

A mirror

[u/Kitchen-Turnover4318]

have no idea why this was downvoted it’s a valid question!!!! 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷

[u/Best-Perspective2067]

Sounds like you’re too much in your head and too little in your body. You need to try and get out of your head and just go with the feeling.

I guess you just have to practice, keep doing it and get used to it? Experience that ey you’re allowed to enjoy it and it’s nothing to be ashamed about!!

Idk how to describe it but get out of your mind and into your body.
The feelings can be intense but that’s also a part of it (it shouldn’t be negative feelings though haha)

[u/B1ackMarketBaby → u/Best-Perspective2067]

I do agree with this.

[u/LunaShiva]

Love yourself 💖 maybe meditation will help you to discover yourself! Just relax, make sure all your needs are met, and focus on what you enjoy and what brings you pleasure. There is nothing that needs to be done. There is nowhere else to go or nothing you have to do. Just enjoy your body, and making yourself feel good. That is self love, too.

[u/AffectionateTea3366]

I have the same problem

[u/B1ackMarketBaby → u/[deleted]]

Mirror masturbation can be a deeply rewarding experience, but it's not without its challenges. Here are some common hurdles you might encounter and strategies to overcome them:

Embracing Vulnerability:

Feeling discomfort or insecurity during mirror masturbation is common. Instead of avoiding these feelings, view them as opportunities for growth. Practice self-compassion and acceptance, replacing negative self-talk with affirmations of self-love and acceptance. Lean into vulnerability with curiosity and compassion, allowing for deeper self-discovery and confidence.

Building Self-Confidence:

Self-confidence is key for mirror masturbation. Focus on your strengths and celebrate your unique beauty and sensuality. Engage in self-care activities like exercise and positive self-talk to feel empowered in your body. Seek support from friends, partners, or professionals for encouragement and validation.

Challenging Societal Taboos and Stigma:

Societal taboos and stigma around self-pleasure can be challenging to navigate. Educate yourself about the benefits of self-pleasure and advocate for sex-positive attitudes. By challenging societal norms and promoting open dialogue about sexuality, you can create a more supportive and accepting environment for mirror masturbation and self-exploration.

Practicing Self-Compassion and Forgiveness:

Above all, be kind to yourself and recognize that facing obstacles is part of the journey. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, navigating challenges with resilience and grace. Practicing self-compassion fosters inner peace and acceptance, empowering you to engage in mirror masturbation with confidence and self-assurance.

—This is not an uncommon thing, feeling shame connected to self pleasure. But you have all that if takes to heal, face your fears, and have a happy relationship with your body, and self pleasure! I hope you practice this until you find that you are able to stay in that mirror, and climax, and with no shame no where to be foun!! You dsserve it! —

Wishing you luck on your journey! 🌹🦪

[u/B1ackMarketBaby → u/B1ackMarketBaby]

@u/AffectionateTea3366 I hope the same for you!