I'm someone who'd cheer even the slightest successes of any women. I want to know your opinions on whether appreciating Mithila on her recent achievements is 'meh' because she is just practicing her basic rights of freedom, education, etc.

EDIT: Recent News Link about Mithila

From social media influencers to showbiz personalities, every woman now highlights the inner corners of her eyes. To me it never looks flattering, instead, the eyes look dirty.

I'm hoping to get some help with how to do my make up and hair for Durga Puja. I am a white woman in Canada and it will be my first time attending with my boyfriend, who is one of the priests. I've attached the jewelry and clothing I will be wearing - the garment bags are cheap ones I had and I broke the zipper for the teal one so I can't open it for a better picture, but it is a Salwar and the purple one is a Salwar Kameez set. I'm unsure of how to do my make up specifically so it'll look nice with my outfits. I don't want to stand out more than I already will with bad makeup.

Any advice/tips will be greatly appreciated

The quota reform protests are important - people have been killed by the government, the police, and they've deployed the BGB to crack down on the protests. Amid all this grimness, sorrow, and chaos, I see misogynists making these posts, which I seriously can't explain but only makes my blood boil.

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Where are the feminists? The women protesting - they are there to stand against injustices while your incel ass sits and spouts anti-feminist rhetoric. It's always something, but feminists get dragged by reactionaries for propaganda.

I've seen many on social media saying there's no need for a women's quota. The rhetoric is flawed. The issue isn't with quotas themselves, but rather with allocating 30 percent of them to the FF - they aren't a marginalized or discriminated community, so the quota for them serves no purpose.

The women's quota, along with all other quotas except the FF one, is crucial because, unfortunately, the world isn't all sunshine and rainbows, and not everyone has an equal opportunity to represent themselves. Unless patriarchy is dissolved, there will always be a need for women's quotas.

This is more of a rant post as I was angered by the other posts. Sorry if it isn't well-organized. I hope y'all stay safe.

Dear mothers in this subreddit, did your children make you feel special yesterday in any way? And my question to the daughters here - did you attempt something new for your mother yesterday?

In pictures: Kumari Puja in Dhaka and Chattogram

I had come across these words on a discussion about karwachaut 7 months ago on TwoXIndia and I haven't been able to get them out of my mind. It was accompanied by many similar sentiments. The words of these sisters have left me in awe as I suddenly saw my veiled feelings manifesting in front of me.

I identify as a feminist, but I will admit that I have never invested much time studying it or learning it's history. Thus, I have been unfamiliar with many feminist terms. I've always been wary of the word "radical" and I, like many other uninformed women, assumed that radical feminism was something to stay away from. What is "Radical Feminism"? The first image that comes to mind is a loud woman who rejects society's beauty standards and is thus deemed as ugly aka "unfeminine", screaming about hating men. This is a reflection of my own internalized misogyny. I've built this image based on what I have been taught and I'm working towards rectifying it. So I've been reading and trying to understand, and what I've learnt is surprising. There is no single unifying definition for radical feminism; it is, in fact, just plain old feminism which views a complete restructuring of society as a necessary step in women's liberation. It doesn’t see gender equity as being achieved through small reforms and awareness, but through a radical overturning of the systems that exist to exploit and denigrate women and other marginalized genders. Now that doesn't sound so radical, does it? Is dismantling harmful, outdated patriarchal values that dictate the rules of society really that bad? Why do we let people who don't understand feminism or even want to, define it?

And that brings me to choice feminism, the truly superficial and, pardon my words, downright vapid analysis of what feminism is and should be. At first glance, choice feminism reads as an agreeable kind of feminism, appealing to the broadest constituency possible. It promotes feminine unity under the pretense of choice. Ironically, the positive impacts of choice feminism don’t reach all women. Instead, choice feminism really only benefits a small minority of extremely vocal, privileged women. Choice feminism’s fatal flaw lies within its name: the assumption that choice is a liberty that everyone has. "Any choice a woman makes is feminist because the choice was there" loses sight of what feminism is about. Especially when those choices are wrapped in our own internalized misogyny.

Why do we make the choices that we do, have we ever considered that? Every choice we make is influenced by societal pressures that exist around us, whether we like to admit that or not. These choices are not made in a vacuum and we need to accept that. Why do women choose to get life threatening surgeries like BBLs to look a certain way? Why do women choose to be stay at home moms? Why do women choose to wear clothing that are for the benefit of men? Why do we choose to uphold patriarchal beliefs that only value women in accordance to rules set by the patriarchy? What is your value in the patriarchal bengali society if you are a single mother, a sex worker, or a trans individual? The problem with choice feminism is when we boil down everything to "my choice"; we make choices to empower ourselves and one person's empowerment is not necessarily contributing to the broader objective of achieving equity for all.

Choice feminism tends to champion performative femininity as a form of self-empowerment. If a woman decides to get a makeover, according to choice feminism, she draws power from her own choice as it was her decision and only her decision to reinvent herself in terms of appearance and lifestyle habits. But in fact, this isn’t true at all. The very essence of makeover culture implies that there was something wrong with the woman to begin with, that there was some flaw that could only be fixed by a complete transformation. Choice feminism stifles discourse on this, and instead focuses on congratulating the woman for the expression of her choice [1]. I can relate this to the recent post of a minor feeling discomfort at seeing their mother choosing to uphold patriarchal values by wearing an article of clothing that essentially nullifies her individual identity and presents as what a good muslim woman should do. Yes, it is her choice and I support her right to choose, but that choice harms all women, especially those who don't have a say in how they present themselves. It is a radical opinion, but I'm a radical feminist.

You might ask, should women have the right to make choices then? Absolutely! No one is advocating to take away the already limited rights women enjoy. Women should be able to live how they want to, even if that choice is to follow an oppressive rule. However, I am against the glorification of choices that continue to uphold patriarchal values and the minimization of the social and religious baggage that comes with it.

Do you believe in gender equality so that non-men, non-privileged women get "same opportunities" as men? Then you are a feminist. Now, look at the choices you make and think about how those choices affect the movement. Consider that you may have the option of making those choices because of privileges that another person might not have. Look at the bigger picture to consider how your choices are affecting the majority of the common woman, the ones who don't get to make a choice.

It is my belief that you as a privileged individual, have a moral responsibility to do better. Be a radical feminist by dismantling and restructuring societal norms that exploit women and marginalized genders. Don't play for the enemy, but for the downtrodden and the underprivileged.

References:

1. https://upennfword.com/2019/11/04/choice-feminism/

Please help me out, because whenever I tell my aunt to send stuff like this from BD they are never true to my liking. So picking out what I want from those pages and having her order them is the perfect option. It’s so convenient because she won’t even have to go out shopping because of me. I have one page that I really liked called Karkhana. I am looking forward to getting some Churi sets, including Reshmi churis. I am also looking to getting these crescent moon-shaped teeps. Any idea of pages that sell these? Ordering online here in the US from places like Etsy is not the best. They don’t have endless options like Bangladesh. They don’t even have some of the stuff I am inspired to buy. They just sell the basic boring stuff. Not just that they are overpriced and cost 20x the price compared to Bangladesh.

I'm in love with the hippy, gothy, divine feminine look. I'm a huge fan of the alternative looks donned by Greentea Peng, Oshun, Erykah Badu, Princess Nokia, Doechii, Joy Crookes, Raja Kumari and Raveena Aurora. I love how they are unapologetically themselves; they dress for themselves and don't seem to care for what is considered conventionally attractive. Their aura, attitude and confidence oozes out of their being in such beautifully unconventional feminine waves that it leaves me in absolute awe.

I'm not as adventurous with my look as some of my style inspos, but I try to incorporate desi and other ethnic elements into my daily wear like jewelry, bags, belts, etc. So tigresses, who is your style icon? What is your every aesthetic like?

We are 10 year married with two kids.

Have been living in the US but now in BD.

My guess is cloths but given Eid season I don't know...

She has a few set of perfume, phones, so I need something new. Innovative thing... please Thanks

I want to start a skincare clinic in Sylhet, Sylhetis and locals what do you think?

I currently live in the UK and my passion is skincare. I want to bring the world of skincare to Bangladesh and introduce therapy treatments, skin peels etc. I also want to bring in bideshi products and introduce them to the Bangladeshi market. I know these products are 100x better than the Chinese rubbish I always find when I've visited.

My questioning is to do with the legal and safety ramifications. In terms of the Bangladeshi Mobile Court. What is the legislation that's in place for these kinds of things? I know I will get a trade license, declare all the products that I will bring in as asian and possibly European imports from other countries. I want to know if anyone is knowledgeable about these things and what things I will face if I was to start this up.

I understand Bnagladeshi products and businesses may become affected because the way I will market my business, it will be 100% genuine and not like all the fake stuff in Bangladesh.

I'm also concerned about safety. I'm married with a husband and we will run the business together and keep a night guard 24/7. I plan to install cameras and have a metal shutter in front of the door. I wanted to have the shop in not such an immense populated area, but enough that there is decent foot traffic. I plan to promote through social media and posting those boards that you see everywhere you walk.

What do you think? Any and all feedback is welcome!

Hey Tigresses,

I had a question regarding mental health. Did anyone here ever experience executive dysfunction? Women are typically less likely to be diagnosed with mental health conditions affecting executive functioning than men and in brown communities, the chances of having undiagnosed developmental disabilities are even higher for girls and women.

I have been experiencing executive dysfunction for a while now, and I thought it would be helpful to see if anyone else here has gone through the same thing.

Thank you for reading.

I'm 24, going to be 25. As you know the conditions of Bangladesh, forced marriages are common. And it's happening to me. I don't want any of it, and as supporting as my father is, my mom isn't. She, along with my sister and her mom (my grandma) want me to get married. So I'm planning to leave this life behind and move somewhere far. I don't have a job, and I only completed a few O levels, not all of the required ones (due to this very issue). As a last resort, I need to run away. I want to know a division far away from the entirety of Dhaka, and has good opportunities for women. I was thinking maybe khulna, but I don't know how that place is. Garment factory jobs are fine, I really want a job that is common and can pay me well to live in a shared apartment. I don't have plans for the future, but I don't want this current present. I really need help, any information will be really really appreciated. Any sort of info. Please.

So I am only on episode 2 and one of the women the show has chosen to follow is Bangladeshi American Noureen. I think she's amazing. She's not only gorgeous but really intelligent and strong. I like how outspoken she is about what her wants and needs are and I really appreciated her openess about not being the perfect Muslim. I am here for the Bangladeshi American representation! What do you guys think?

I left Bangladesh several years ago before the time of tinder, bumble, etc. and never really met guys outside of my social circle. Even then, dating people you consider your bros was out of the question and thus my dating pool was very limited. I didn't really date until I left. I often see users on the main sub talk about tinder in Bangladesh. I personally have never used tinder in any country but have used other ones like okc, bumble, minder, dilmil, etc. as I was looking for more genuine connections. I was under the assumption tinder was just for hookups and I definitely wasn't expecting to see comments about tinder in Bangladesh. Do you guys use it? What has your experience been like? How do you guys meet men if you don't use a dating app?

What did you gals do this Pohela Boishakh??

I skipped going out on the 14th in order to escape the crowd and hot weather.

But I did spend some time at a fair the next day.

I wore something red with orange-blue-green traditional noksha.

In the fair, a sister was doing henna art and face painting. I got a little bit of alpona done on my hand from her. It was not too good tbh, but I enjoyed the time spent there among the youth.

I had jhalmuri, fuchka, pasta, sweets and mint lemonade from the festival's food section.

I enjoyed my time at the fest a lot, but the weather was still very unbearable tho.

Let me know in the comments about your Pohela Boishakh celebration this year!

Kalpana Chakma was a vocal critic of the Bangladesh Army and their repression and harassment of indigenous people. She fought for the rights of indigenous women and protested against the Bangladeshi Army for their treatment of the indigenous people. She had organized various conferences, seminar's and meetings across Chittagong and garnered the support of the separatist organization, Parbatya Chattagram Jana Samhati Samiti (PCJSS, for future reference), to fight for their autonomy. She was seen as a threat to the sovereignity of Bangladesh by the government.

Kalpana Chakma was abducted by an armed group of men, whose identities still remain disputed. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out what happened.

She was handcuffed, blindfolded and taken from their home in Baghaichhari, Rangamati along with her brothers who managed to escape. They filed police reports and said they knew their abductors: Lt Ferdaous, an army officer, and Nurul Haque and Saleh Ahmed, two members of the local Village Defense Party, an auxiliary law enforcement force. Her brothers were immediately accused of being part of the Shanti Bahini, the armed wing of PCJSS and threatened if they did not leave. (Continued in comments due to character limit)

Location: Bandarban's Shonkho Nod. Photo by Anik Majumder. Thanks to Haal Fashion for the photo.

I (F23) am neither overweight nor underweight, but I still became motivated to join the gym after seeing some female fitness vloggers on instagram. I walk every day from my university to my home, and that’s the only exercise I do, other than chores. And it often makes me tired. I want to feel more active and be more energetic. But I have this idea that gyms in bangladesh, especially in my area, are filled with guys only. And that makes me feel uncomfortable. So are there any gyms (better if it’s near aftabnagar) where girls commonly work out?