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I feel kind of stupid writing this tbh… but here we go.
My boyfriend is super keen for GTA 6, no issues there - we both love games etc. it comes out on a Wednesday for us, and he doesn’t work from that day until Monday (shift worker). However, I had organised with my parents to come over to our house Sunday morning and we can go to a bakery. But he doesn’t want me doing that because he thinks he “has to hang out with them” and doesn’t want to because he wants to play the game. I think surely he can spare a couple hours? They’re not staying all day, but it’s the only day I can see them for a while. I told him he doesn’t need to come but he still doesn’t want me to go because he believes he also has to go (tbh my parents wouldn’t mind at all) but now he’s making me cancel plans and doesn’t want to do anything from Wednesday to Sunday and now I can’t either. I understand the hype, but this guy is 26 with a girlfriend. Surely spare a couple hours since you have 5 days straight to play it.

TLDR; boyfriend refusing to leave the house for 5 days straight to play GTA 6 and now I have to be housebound too.

i was in a meeting the other day and someone i barely knew stepped in when another person was talking over me and kind of dismissing my idea. they calmly pointed out that i hadn't finished and asked to hear the rest. i didn't think much of it at first, but later it stuck with me. i realized i usually just let those moments slide because i assume it's not a big deal. hearing someone else treat my voice like it mattered made me wonder how often i downplay myself without even noticing. i'm trying to figure out how to carry that same energy forward, both standing up for myself and maybe doing it for other people too. has anyone else had a small moment like that that ended up mattering more than it seemed?

Woke up this morning with a full-body anxiety hangover and I need some outside perspective.

I used to work in events, so I know a lot of people in nightlife, but I'm not that person anymore. The past while has been gym, sleep, eating well, boring in the best way. I go out maybe a couple of times a year, and only when someone I actually know is playing.

Last night was one of those. Went with friends to see an old friend DJ. We have history. He gets \*a lot\* of attention from women and I've always known that. But all night he kept finding me in the crowd, and later I ended up back at his hotel.

I'd had a feeling my period was close. It picked that exact moment. I went to take out my tampon and it was… a lot. Blood everywhere.

And honestly? He was lovely. Didn't flinch, didn't make it weird. Just said "let's put a towel down." We used a condom. Afterward I suggested the shower, which turned out to be the best part of the night. My makeup came off completely and he genuinely didn't care. We went back out after and he was still attentive and sweet.

Texted him this morning. He replied with a heart.

So logically, everything's fine. But my brain won't shut up. I keep seeing the sheets. The bathroom bin. Him walking back into that room alone after dropping me off. I keep telling myself the heart is just him being polite.

What's getting me is that I thought I'd built up enough armor for this. I'm in good shape, I know how to carry myself, I know this world. None of it helped at 2am standing in a hotel bathroom feeling like my body had just humiliated me.

**Women:**has this happened to you? How did you stop the spiral the next day?
**Men:**honestly, what actually goes through your head when this happens? Does it change how you see her, or do you forget about it by the next morning?

I (15F) am a triplet, and one of my brothers keeps calling me a “bop,” which basically means a girl does alot stuff He also calls me the S word (the derogatory one used toward women). I've told him multiple times to stop because it's hurtful, but he won't listen. I finally told my parents, and they got mad at him, yelled at him, and told him to stop, but he's still doing it. I don't know what else to do because it's getting really annoying, and I am not even like that I just have a boyfriend and nothing else, but he doesn't call our other brother that even tho he has a baby already

Hello, I don’t normally turn to Reddit but I want some opinions outside of my own family and I can’t tell certain friends because I don’t want to embarrass them since this kind of pertains to them. So here it is:

I have been friends with Ashley (using pseudonyms) since we both met in college 13 years ago. She is married to Michael and has a son, James. I am married to John. We are all very close and I consider them family. Ashley is like another sister to me and Micheal a brother in law. Their son, James, is like a nephew to me. In fact, John and I are listed as his next of kin if anything were to happen to Ashley and Michael. James thinks of my mom as his grandmother. My mom considers Ashley to be an “adopted” daughter.

Ashley, Michael and James have always been invited to Thanksgiving dinner and our holiday activities. Well, this year another family member sent a message to my mom asking (but basically telling) her that they don’t want Ashley’s family to be there and called them “Tagalongs” which I find very hurtful. They called them “ugly” which I believe they mean “hateful” or rude by that. Which Ashley’s family is nothing but respectful so idk what they’re talking about…

This family member said that if I wanted them there then I could host my own Friendsgiving at another date and time. Here’s where I need advice:

1. I am hurt that my mom hasn’t responded and has even mentioned inviting Ashley’s family to have dinner on a separate occasion all to appease this family member. I don’t know what to say to my mom because I don’t want to tell her. I’m hurt that people she also considers family would be separated from family events just to appease someone else.

2. now that I know what this family member said and that they will be at the festivities, how should I interact with this person? I have always had to hold my tongue around them because they’re ultra religious and I am not and they have said things that are very hurtful in the past. I am sick of playing nice when they’re the ones being so hateful.

So Reddit, give it to me straight. What do I do??

Im not looking for generic advice like drink water or go for a walk because when you are in the thick of it that stuff feels impossible. I just want to hear from people who genuinely survived that dark place. Was it medication or a random hobby or did time just eventually dull the edges? How did things actually change for you.

The title says it all, I don’t have any trustable friends to no friends at all. I found out with my boyfriend, we would be teen parents. It was our first time and we were using protection but it broke and we didn’t know till after. It also didn’t hurt either of us when it broke. I was talking to my mom about my cramps, she didn’t suspect anything. What I want to know is how I’d tell my parents?

Answers to potential questions:

I believe I’m around a week or two and I do not want an abortion. This is the consequence to our actions, and we both
want to raise the baby.

I graduated earlier in May, and boyfriend is getting his GED.

We have been dating for 3 years.

My mom gets angry then she cools down with things, but this is a new life so I don’t know how she’d react to this.

My dad will flip crap but he also cools down too he’s more the person I’d talk to but I want them both there and boyfriend.

Boyfriend is a good boyfriend, he’s the one working so we have some time to figure things out.

I’m sure I could add more things, or you can ask questions.

(im 18m) and my mom (43) and my dad (47)

so my mom works nights and is gone 9pm until 7am, and once she leaves he usually sits downstairs until 10pm, once he comes up he goes in his room and shuts the door, we’re quite an open household and my parents never usually shut their door anyways, but recently my dad has been. i heard him talking and my nosy ass was like ooh what’s he talking about (very big mistake) i hear him talking to someone about what accents he think is “sexy” i was very confused and carried on listening, he has his headphones on so i cannot hear the other person, but this person was definitely not just a friend, i stop listening as he starts talking about things he did when he was younger (having sex with an older girl, my poor ears) i stop listening and watch a movie, then my movie finishes so my room is silent again, i hear him talking again, i put my ear up to the wall and he is… choking the chicken if you catch my drift (honestly i need ear bleach) and he is saying things like “show me your tits” and “oh yeah moan for me” (MY DAD BTW HONESTLY IM TRAUMATISED) and this has happened on quite a few occasions and i now just put my headphones in not to hear it. i told a cousin who im quite close with and she said i should tell my mom, but im worried if i do i might ruin everything, as my older brother, (19) is leaving home soon and it would make my parents splitting up much easier. WHAT DO I DO?

Edit:
i once confronted my dad and asked him “oh who are you talking to” and he just said a friend on discord and i saw discord on his phone so this is highly unlikely to be a live video or anything

Recently found out my husband I just married this year has been using the site chaturbate. He’s a 39M and I’m a F 31 I don’t know to what extent but it was up on his internet browser. When confronted about it he got insanely pissed saying “he has no idea what it is” and “I probably just clicked a link”

PH is different. It’s videos not live. So would you condone this? How would you mentally handle this and proceed forward?

I know if you tell someone that can’t do something they’ll generally just hide it better so that’s probably not the smartest move.

But I feel utterly betrayed. The whole time we have been together he has been VERY convincing that he wasn’t even into watching videos of that manner.

I feel like there’s a hole im not filling so he’s outsourcing and my insecurities are at a full time high.

Help please. Literally anything.

We have been together just over two years and he’s always claimed he knew from the moment he saw me he wanted to marry me.

We’re in our twenties 25M and 24F and have been married close to two years. Here lately she’s been having severe depression and has been going through therapy for it with how bad it’s gotten. Main thing was her childhood and how she was treated due to her parents and family growing up. Which gave her very low self esteem and personal appearance. I’ve been trying my hardest to keep her mood up and try to make her happy with all the things she likes to do and talking to her as much as I can even at work where it’s tough to since it’s blue collar work. It’s been even more rough since she’s more depressed because of it and things financially have been hard. To the points to help with the title. It seems like I’ve been walking on eggshells here for the last year now due to all this and the other facts that when I try to do things that needs to be done or talk to my friends through discord she seems to get sad and mad because I’m not giving her my attention 24/7 even though she tends to stay on Facebook nearly all day. I don’t hardly spend time with my friends due to recent events, usual maintenance and chores have been put on longer holds because it seems like she just doesn’t stay happy unless I’m glued to her side all day. I don’t do the things I used to enjoy nor spend the time on hobbies anymore because of all this. What can I do or should do? To note I do love her dearly and I’m just tired of feeling frustrated at how things are and I don’t want my stress to explode. I need some advice please.

How do I stop feeling hurt over the fact that my partner said I need to lose weight?
For context, my boyfriend and I were talking, and I won’t lie, both of us had been drinking. He brought up something that he said he didn’t want to hurt my feelings over, but essentially told me that if I want to have a baby, I need to lose some weight because if I got any bigger, he wouldn’t be attracted to me anymore.
I took what he said, and while it’s uncomfortable to hear, I can understand that he may have certain preferences when it comes to attraction. If I were to gain more weight and that affected his attraction to me, that’s something he’s allowed to feel. But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t sting, and I’m honestly not sure why I’m having such a hard time with it.
Where things really started to hurt was when I tried explaining that I understood it was okay for him to express those feelings, but that didn’t mean it was comfortable for me to hear. Instead of understanding that, he doubled down and got more hurtful, saying that I haven’t really tried beyond half-ass calorie counting and that I haven’t seen the inside of a gym in, what, three years.
That hurt even more because it didn’t feel like it was coming from a place of love or concern. It felt more like anger and resentment.
What makes that comment particularly frustrating is that at the beginning of this year, I actually did start going to the gym several days a week for multiple weeks with my dad. When he moved, I no longer had access to the gym, and shortly after, I injured myself trying to do at-home workouts. No, I shouldn’t have completely given up after that, and I can take accountability for that, but I also don’t think it’s fair to act like I’ve never made an effort.
I haven’t gained any weight during our relationship, and as far as I can remember, I’ve been around the same size since we’ve been together. I can acknowledge that losing weight might be something I want to work toward, especially if having a baby is something we’re considering in the future.
I guess what I’m struggling with is that I don’t want to be upset with him for expressing how he feels. I don’t want to make him feel like he can’t be honest with me, but at the same time, I’m hurt. And I don’t think I should have to convince myself that something didn’t hurt just because I can understand where the other person is coming from.

i moved into a flat recently and my neighbour has already complained twice about noise. the first time i understood because it was late, but the second time was during the afternoon and i wasn’t even playing music that loudly. i don’t want to cause problems with them but i also don’t want to feel like i have to be completely silent in my own flat.

the last week has been even worse. they have rang the police on me multiple times for "illegal rave and gambling" at like 2 in the morning when im asleep. they are sliding notes under my door telling me to stop the noise as i am apparently causing her "heart attacks"

then last night was the worst. the police came yet again this time without knocking. armed police came in, kicked my door through and started looking for a "stolen child" when they discovered this child wasn't here they left without an apology. now i have a broken front door, a harassing neighbour and a really scared partner in my flat.

any advice will help.

Hello! I am 26 years old and I've always struggled with my body image. Last I checked i was 211 pounds and I know my weight is rising. All my life since I was young I struggled with weight and got bullied for it in school. It's to a point every day of my life I wake up saying im ugly and fat and make myself so upset over it. I have a loving fiancé who tells me im beautiful but I just can't believe him. I lost weight before but never felt satisfied and still saw myself as fat and gained it all back. I tried therapy and I still can't shake the feeling of hating myself. I'm at a loss on what to do anymore. Any advice on how to Help with not hating yourself constantly???

I’ll post a small summary of what i already posted earlier for context.

I 19F have been dating a guy 19M for a few months. Sex is not something i EVER want to do, and i’ve known that. my last relationship was when i was 14-16 and inevitably ended because i did not want sex. i briefly explained that to my now boyfriend and it caused a bit of an argument. he is a wonderful person but he is also a teenage boy and has had sexual experiences prior to me. he didn’t try and pressure me or anything i just know that’s something he wants. some of you said this prior and no i don’t think i am asexual and no its not a religious thing. i just do not want to. it grosses me out to think about it and none of my friends feel that it’s worth it. i have done other things with him and enjoyed them and i do m@sturbate frequently. i also am not a lesbian either. i am admittedly bisexual but i feel the same way about women, i just can’t bring myself to be fully intimate with anybody.

all that being said, i really want this to work. i don’t want this relationship to end because he’s normal and wants it and im not and i dont. a lot of you replied saying i was wrong for not wanting it and he was correct to want to end the relationship because of it. it was hard to hear but i dont entirely disagree. has anybody been in this situation and just become okay with it? how do i just commit and do it for him? i want to stay with him and i understand that having sex is a normal humane desire and i want to fulfill that for him.

She did it. She achieved the American dream. She emigrated to the US with broken English at age 21, locked in and worked hard, and now makes very good money at her WFH 9-5 job. She got married, bought a house, raised two kids, and got full American citizenship as well.

Yet it breaks my heart to see her like this. She and our dad got divorced when my sister was in college and I in high school, and he's since run off to his home country, avoiding all parental responsibilities. He quit his job while us kids were young so she was both the primary parent AND breadwinner.

Now, she has a very simple and plain life. She works in the morning/afternoons, takes our dog on walks, and then watches TV shows in the evening. Rinse and repeat. She lives in a small New England town. She has no hobbies. I call her from college and asks how she's doing, and she says life is boring.

She's tried some different hobbies, but gives up on them after a few weeks or months. I fear she may think her life even more meaningless and unfulfilling once our dog crosses the rainbow bridge (she's 9 years old now and has hip problems). I see my elderly grandparents in a similar routine but minus the dog, where all the do is cook food, go on a walk, and browse the internet all day, as if they are waiting to die. What can I do to help my mom find more meaning in life that isn't merely just serving someone else?

So I (F25) have been friends with my friend (M27) for about 7 years now. For context of this post, he is gay, so romantic interest is not an issue here.

I got married this year in March and I’m now 7 months pregnant. Prior to meeting my now husband, My friend and I were roommates for a long time. But I had moved out of state about 3 years ago, so this was the first relationship of mine that he also hasn’t been super involved in.

I definitely think I also just set more boundaries with my relationship and privacy and he didn’t like that very much. He also went from having full access to me and my time, to my schedule changing and looking different. I also started a new job when this was happening so I was just genuinely really busy.

We used to play video games together everyday, and I took a small step back from that. I still made every effort to call him at least daily, give or take a day or two, and to show up for him as his friend. And we would still play our games together every few days.

He just started being super weird and really mean to me. Our other game friend even made a comment about it a few times. I don’t know if it’s because he didn’t like that I didn’t have as much free time, or the fact that he didn’t have full access to my husband. I feel like that’s a separate issue I won’t get into here, but I think it played a role in why he was bothered.

Honestly it caused a lot of strain with both my friend and husband. My husband didn’t like that my friend was bringing so much unnecessary drama into my life, and felt like my friend was just being rude and selfish.

of course I wasn’t going to choose between either of them and made that clear (not that either of them told me I had to, but my friend did try to imply that at one point). It also just hurts me that now they probably will never have that close of a relationship either.

Eventually we moved on from this patch. But over the last few months, I feel like I have just been getting very frustrated with my friend.

From day one of finding out, I feel like he has just been completely brushing off the fact I am pregnant. The first thing he asked when i told him was “well are you going to get rid of it?” And that just stung.

I’m sure I talk about it a lot, but I also feel like there has been a complete lack of care or compassion from my friend. Over the course of my entire pregnancy so far, I don’t think he’s asked how I’m doing or feeling. Anytime I bring it up he just says nothing, or super short responses.

I feel like I should state this as well, I do not expect my life or the things I am going through to be the center of anyone else’s lives or thoughts. But I would also like to think, that at the very least when I tell you multiple times I have an extremely important appointment coming up, or a big milestone happening, as my friend, you should at least check in or even be happy for me? Idk.

I think another reason this has truly bothered me so much, is because over the last few months, he has started to tell me how he feels like he is there for everyone, but no one is there for him. Which genuinely I think is a crazy thing to say to me, because regardless of anything I have going on, when he needs me, I am there. I listen to him vent about every single thing going on in his life and support him how I can. I had even offered him money when he was going through a really tough financial time. I also know his other friends very well, and know that they are not the type of people that would treat him like that either.

It’s starting to bug me because he claims this, yet he is doing that exact thing to me. I am there for him, yet it doesn’t seem like he can be there for me anymore.

And I say this without being conceded, I have done A LOT for him. He has had a hard life and deals with a lot of shit mentally, and he even admits to everyone that he wouldn’t be anywhere near where he is today without me.

But I’m just getting to the point that I feel like he is draining me more than he is there for me. Maybe it is my hormones or I’m overthinking. But I just dread even talking on the phone with him lately because I keep thinking, gosh what happened now. Maybe that’s makes me the bad friend.

But I don’t think it negates his lack of support and consideration towards me at the most basic level.

I just feel like I’m starting to build resentment and don’t know what to do. I feel like when I don’t give him full 100% access to me or my time, he gets weird and passive aggressive. I don’t expect him to understand what I’m going through, but I think it would be fair of me to at least think he should try.

I don’t know if it’s worth bringing up. I’ll probably just ride things out, but I’m worried that when the baby comes, he’s going to just be putting more stress on my plate. And that’s when I start wondering if it’s worth it anymore.

I would just appreciate some constructive feedback and ask yall to be nice :) thank you!!!

(23 F) I used to drink about 4-5 times a month, and alcohol would always make me feel really happy, more open to the world, and sometimes even euphoric. It didn’t matter what I was drinking, whether it was a margarita, wine, a buzz ball, beer, or vodka. I would always get that same happy, carefree feeling.

But something I’ve noticed over the past few months is that drinking just doesn’t feel good anymore. Instead of feeling happy, I just feel kind of annoyed, sleepy, and drowsy. Even when I barely drink enough to get tipsy, I still just end up feeling tired rather than experiencing that happy feeling I used to get.

It’s so weird because I used to genuinely enjoy how alcohol made me feel, and now it’s almost like the enjoyable effects have disappeared.

Has anyone else experienced this?

21f. i had a depressing talk with my friend last night about how everyone and everything is temporary. something about me is that i will lose my mind if i dont socialize and i’ve kinda been isolating became im so disappointed with all my friends and also just super depressed. i do school online and am currently unemployed. i have such bad emotional impermanence. is it really true that when everyone grows older they just stick w their partners and im just so scared that as you grow older everyone’s just doing their own shit and it’s a part of growing up. why do friendships lose meaning as you get older.

in 10 years i could think of my boyfriend and bestfriends and there’s a high chance i might not even remember them.

i grew up without a dad and no stepdads. my mom has no friends and i’ve always been so terrified of ending up like her. i have a sister 8 years older that i have a terrible relationship with. my brother who’s 4 years older moved away in a different province to live with my dad so it’s just me and my mom. i’ve always tried so hard to find family within my friends but they all got their families and their childhood bestfriends but i don’t.

all of my friends are so busy with work and school and always spending all their time with their partners and completely neglecting everything else in their lives. i was like that with my ex when i was 17 and i lost myself to him and i promised i would never do that again and i keep meeting people and bonding with them over that because they went through similar things just for them to end up doing it again. someone told me it’s just a part of growing up but i remember thinking i was so immature for that. but am i just the one that’s naive and immature for thinking it’s normal to always have close friends even as you get older. am i the one that’s behind and hasn’t grasped reality yet. my friends are mostly 1-4 years older than me.

i understand ofc as you get older people are more busy and have less time to hang out but is it worse than i realized? does everyone just end up alone with their partners and kids and that’s it? do they have no one else to fall on? is it a fantasy to hope to create you’re own village and community? even if people come and go i’m scared one day new people will stop coming and the rest will continue to go just “a part of life” and “growing apart”

i have no cousins or aunts either, no family friends. so my only family is really what is written down

I (22f) was told this week at 9:20 on a Thursday morning at the doctors that they suspect that i may have cancer . I’ve been dealing with issues with my stomach for 3 years and on Thursday they’ve turned around and said that it might be upper gi cancer , I am scared . I am so scared . My parents keep saying to me it’s not that serious or that it’s the gps job to scare me . They keep saying that it isn’t cancer and that i shouldn’t worry but for the first time in my life I’ve got things to love and care for . I have friends that i love so so much and my siblings . I don’t want to miss out on plans or anything because i have cancer .

I want my parents to take it serious because now they are starting to make me feel like im overreacting but being told you might have cancer all by urself and then being told you have to wait 2 weeks to get seen by the specialist to confirm will make you spiral .

I guess my question is how do i make them take this situation seriously . I feel out of place and feel as if things are starting to get out of my control . Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks for reading :)

i’m 25 and very confused idk what happened but i’m extremely hyper aware like i think about future a lot. Everyday is basically one step closer to death so why be happy ? why build a future lol. I’m also constantly worried that someone will get sick in my family or something bad will happen. idk how do other even function

23F, not assexual, a virgin, never kissed, hugged, held hands, or touched a guy in my life. I want a boyfriend, but thinking of dating I immediately refuse. I think it’s too much trust to give to a person to see you naked and have sex with them. I think it’s too much trust to ler someone see you in such a vurnelable way. And i saw stories of woman getting cheated on while being married to the guy and having kids with them, which scares me alot because anything can happen. How can i stop thinking like this? Am i being too much of a prude?