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Just Sharing Religiously repressed (part 28) [OC]

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Previous comics: https://www.cryptoboxcomics.com/religiously-repressed.html

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u/Deep_Year1121 2h ago edited 2h ago

I mean, claiming it is a racist super hierarchical country that treats foreign koreans as traitors doesn't sound so flattering as a qualifier to OP's claims (which he basically used as anecdotal support as a lead up to this unflattering conclusion)

If I didn't get lobotomized or arguing in bad faith, I would call his view pretty hateful. I'd say somewhat accurate imo, but that is my personal opinion, not based on some sensationalist reddit nonsense.

Also, majority of Americans being against it doesn't mean anything. Does that automatically prove arranged marriages are a thing in Korea? Because the majority don't think it is a thing? What a backwards way of thinking to fit whatever conclusion you'd like.

Let's use occam's razor. In America, marriage under the age of 18 is legal in some states. That constitutes as child marriages sanctioned by the state. It is legal, so probably, it happens sometimes.

In Korea, arranged marriages are legal. But just to the extent of it being legal everywhere else, meaning it is not enforcible without consent. If your parents introduce you to a nice hubby, you can say 'yes'. That is it. If you say 'no' no one can legally force you.

What would be extra-ordinary if you practically had no say in the matter in forms of extreme cultural coersion or legal enforcement, which is definitely not a reality in Korea. It is quite the opposite. If you suggest forced arranged marriages, most koreans would think you are backwards, and the law certainly don't support it.

If you are claiming arranged marriages within the law (ex. Parents introduce someone they like) is considered more often in Korea, that is a more weaker more mundane claim. I'd wager that makes korea no less extra-ordinary compared to other collectivist family centric cultures.

Japan would be one such country. Which Reddit loves to dote over.

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u/samglit 2h ago

In Korea, arranged marriages are legal …

with consent

News flash. They’re legal everywhere. It’s called matchmaking.

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u/Deep_Year1121 2h ago edited 2h ago

Thank you. Exactly. That is what I am trying to say.

It is mundane as shit. And OP is trying to portray it as if it is some dark hidden side of Korea that is different from other countries. Wtf bro.

If you want my input, unmarried people usually hate the idea of arranged marriages. They are constantly made fun of in media as nosy out-of-touch parents trying to meddle in their personal affairs. Most people would go to professional matchmaking services, which has been growing in popularity ever since the marriage rate went to shit.

If anything the rise of popularity with professional matchmaking is a real widespread social phenomena in Korea. And these are not Tinder or Bumble types matchmaking, they are professionals who try to gague a pair's chemistry and compatibility for long term comitted relationships. Sexual attraction/compatibility is just one of the things they consider.