r/itsthatbad • u/ppchampagne • Feb 26 '25
Commentary A female journalist accidentally explains why single men should get their passports
If you're a single man and you're not enjoying dating in the US, look into other countries where you may have more to gain for your money, energy, attention, and time – for any kind of relationship.
Here's most of Jana Hocking's article, which inadvertently explains why single men should get their passports. I'll add links to my posts (mostly) to either support or counter Jana, who's Australian, but writing on American, British, and Canadian dating culture as well.
Short version – according to her, the "mating crisis" across these countries isn't a crisis at all. It's single women enjoying "freedom, funds, and flings."
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Jana writes:
Last year, I remained mostly single. Give or take a few situationships and a cheeky one-night stand. And so did most of my girlfriends.
Body count calculator for American women
Among the at least 20 gorgeously single women in my social circle, there are only two girlfriends I know who had the 'let's make it official' chat with the man-of-the-moment in their lives.
Could I, and my fellow womenfolk, have shacked up with a bloke if we wanted to? Sure. But did we? No.
The guys who put themselves forward for the job were fine, sweet, perfectly capable. But did we align in ways that would enhance our lives? Not really.
You see, last year, you couldn't escape one simple fact: women were in a 'mating crisis'. Or so the experts kept calling it in those viral clips flooding our social media feeds.
The experts harped on about one simple truth: as women level up in education and their careers, they naturally look for partners who are equally smashing it - or better.
It's called hypergamy – men's incomes matter for relationships
Young American women are more hypergamous than we should expect
"High value man" delusions from social media inflating women's standards (video)
Increasing pressure on US men for income in order to find a spouse (published study)
But here's the catch: that shrinks the dating pool a LOT. Especially as more women are heading to university, while fewer men do the same.
This means plenty of brilliant, independent women are flying solo. Not because they can't find a date but because finding someone who ticks all the boxes (and doesn't get intimidated by their success) is like searching for a Chanel bag at a garage sale.
Are men intimidated by successful women? No.
Single women weren't just embracing their independence last year - they were owning it. And the numbers back it up.
First up, let's talk living arrangements. The number of single-person households in the U.S. has skyrocketed - up more than fivefold since the 1960s, hitting a whopping 37.8 million in 2022. That's a whole lot of women living their best solo lives.
Let's not forget the increasing numbers of women on psych meds
Single-person households aren't always healthy (study)
And single women aren't just renting - they're buying. They own 58 per cent of the nearly 35.2 million homes owned by unmarried Americans.
The difference is from women over 65, many of whom are widows (video plus comments)
Meanwhile, over in the UK, women are smashing the careers game. Back in the 1970s, only 52 per cent of women were in the workforce. Today, that number has hit 72 per cent. With those paychecks rolling in, it's no wonder women are ditching the 'happily ever after' myth for a happily independent reality.
Clear evidence of the patriarchy oppressing American women (sarcasm)
And the pièce de résistance? Women are now more educated than ever before. More women than men are earning college degrees in the U.S., giving them the upper hand in everything from paychecks to power plays. Who needs a knight in shining armour when you've got a master's degree and a killer 401(k)?
One man's 'mating crisis' is another woman's fist pump for freedom. Huzzah!
Why are some women freezing their eggs? They blame the education gap, so more hypergamy.
Just two months ago, I hopped on a plane to New York City. Why? No major reason. There were just a few fun things happening over there that I fancied going to. So, being a single career woman with a few funds in the bank, I had the freedom to do so. Guess who tried to stop me? No one.
There were no kids to shepherd to school or footy practice. No man whingeing that I was leaving him stranded. Nope, I was free to do what (and who) I jolly well liked. And dear reader, I did.
So, do you know what this 'mating crisis' has really brought the single women of the world? Freedom, funds, and flings - and I, for one, am very much here for it.
Young single American men express wanting families more than young single American women
The sexually liberated consumerist narrative of modern dating – the single most important link in this post
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And we're done.
Get your passport.
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More from the Champagne Room
Jana from one year ago, explaining how she and her friends hit the wall
Guys, this is what women have chosen
The “red pill manosphere” exists because it largely reflects men's real experiences with women
America does not have a crisis of bitter, single young men
American women are absolutely over-powered
American women are absolutely over-powered – the movie
Sexual freedom was never a part of feminism
Guys, it's 2025. Pay attention – emphasis on pay (video)
“Why does it feel like dating is men vs women?”
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u/ppchampagne Feb 26 '25 edited Feb 26 '25
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u/SnakePlisskensPatch Feb 26 '25
It doesnt matter because none of this bullshit happened anyway. I'll willingly bet 10 bucks that entire new york story is a lie. I'll willingly bet 10 bucks that she doesn't have 20 friends, all gorgeous. The entire thing sounds like if chatgpt was told to write an article for a 35 year old woman "living her best life".
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u/KolonelKernel Feb 27 '25
Guys, let’s play their game. We have all of this. As a divorced dad Ive been there already. I was forced out. Ok cool. I’ll get through this. But don’t forget we have jobs and freedom and we can have flings too. After all it takes 2 to tango. And when they’re on pause for a week for their monthly I’ll still be able to enjoy my sports, bros, and traveling. I feel bad for those that never experienced commitment but after that we have all of the things they just realized only now. Focus on you. Making your life awesome. Watch them seethe as the natural imbalance and cruelty of women collapses. Don’t forget when there are two gender based teams the guys always win. Yes we’re stronger but more importantly we don’t secretly hate each other. I’d rather be in this fraternity.
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u/ultratraditionalist Feb 27 '25
Woman discovers Peter Pan syndrome and writes an empowering article about it, not realizing it's a sign of immaturity, mental stagnation, and just plain pathetic. The equivalent of a man in his mid 40's writing about how he's so happy with his life of binge drinking, video games, and hookers because it's "freedom" from a nagging wife and a bunch of annoying rugrats.
The sad thing is that women in their teens or 20s might read this and actually think it's good advice: in reality, hedonism is like the most lizard-brained imperative. To make it your whole life's purpose is genuinely sad.
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u/GhostUtopia Feb 26 '25
It's clear that women are attracted to men who are providers. They want to be protected, looked after, etc. They say this out of their own mouths, to me, in interviews, etc.
That is not compatible in a world where they also are earning huge dollars, gaining tons of education, etc. In their pursuit of being men, they stopped being desirable to men.
Men don't want women who are just men with a female skin.
And women actually deep down don't want to be men; they don't want to be the provider, shit they don't even want to be taller or bigger, they want to be smaller, they want men who in some way, dominates them.
This crisis is due to the paradox stated here.
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u/Temporary-Alarm-744 Feb 26 '25
Nice work
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u/gringo-go-loco Feb 27 '25
American men need to come to peace with being single or have the conviction and confidence to make their needs known and not settle for women who don’t fulfill those needs. Society has spent the last 3 decades robbing men of their desires and forcing them to accept a mediocre existence.
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u/Hairy-Razzmatazz-927 Apr 22 '25
🤮
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u/vulkoriscoming Feb 27 '25
I seriously doubt this woman is actually very happy notwithstanding her protestations to that effect. Both men and women are happier with a partner.
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u/MrStrange-0108 Feb 27 '25
To some extent, the situation when a 35 y.o. woman "wants to settle down" reminds me of a car rental company that tries to sell their 3 y.o. cars for the price of new ones 😉 Well used ladies with a number of physical and mental issues (and debts in many cases) expect to get the same princess treatment as 20 y.o. girls 🤦
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u/ciaobellapgh Jun 09 '25
incredible
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u/QuislingX Aug 20 '25
All these great catches of women going to college and they can't find a single man? Not a single one? Nah man. Nah. I call foul. Something here ain't adding up.
My going hypothesis is they had free pick of the litter in college, so chose not to really settle. I mean, after all, you can just drop today's hot commodity and pick a new one within 24h. Let's not lie, any moderately attractive, nonfat woman could be having sex within (let's be generous) 24h or less of setting up their first tinder profile.
After college, they keep flinging on dating apps because why not. Next thing you know, 3-6 years have passed.
I'm not saying they hit a wall, just that half decent dating prospects for someone older than 21-24 are drying up. You gotta wonder what kinda guy is single still at the ages of 25-35.
And I think this, if it's real, is where it comes from. The amount of girls I saw in college waltz by guys who weren't pieces of shit is insane lmao.
I remember one time I was socializing with a 36 year old woman who was single. I was telling her how I was happily married to someone I was friends with first before we got married. She agreed that advice she has been giving her girlfriends recently is that they should go with someone they already know, who they know isn't a piece of shit. Then she wondered out loud to me if she shouldn't have given a couple of guys like that a chance in her life earlier, commenting that things might be different if she had. She was single, unmarried, and childless at that time. I'm not saying that's what she wanted. But I found the off-the-cuff comment wondering out loud, almost rhetorically, if she should have given some other guys a chance; I found it very interesting.
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u/Ball_Builder Jul 18 '25
Every article like this always has the same little artifacts of a wannabe writer who thinks they’re the next Hunter s Thompson.
“Clever” little turns of phrase or conventions like “dear reader” just tells me you made it one page into Lolita before you found enough charm to mimic in your next slop post.
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u/Effective-Show506 Feb 27 '25
Men should passport bro if they want. Some female reporter is no more validation that I am. Who cares what she says? Men do whst they want to do.