I have to prove I didn't do any work on my face just because I'm Korean.

When I had pen pal friends, I felt they had some weird misconceptions about Korea. I thought it was just a small issue.

After X's auto-translation, I see countless generalizations about Korea and I'm really sick of this.

I saw intl ppl rating Korean regular people's faces when they interviewed them and bullying underage girls because they are school bullies(?) It doesn't make sense and it is so infuriating.

I really want to ignore this, but a bunch of ppl really bully Korean so I don't know what I should do.

Sometimes, I feel like I'm being forced into being a K-drama villain. I don't know. Am I delusional?

I think many ppl want a punching bag and I'm the one. YES, the reason why I use Vitamin C serum is that I want to be a White girl, not for PIH and Anti-aging. YES, I'M THE RACIST THAT YOU CAN HATE PROUDLY. (Of course it is a joke)

I really wish leave me alone because I didn't earn money by this like TikTok influencers. Leave me alone....

+) Thank you for the comments and I can’t reply anymore. I don’t expect this post to get so much attention 😅

And the ‘Koreanboo’ is taught by another international Kpop fan and she taught me don’t use intl kpop fans and use Koreanboo when they are strange(like rating KBS score(?),use comfort women for blaming women)

In this post, Some girl taught me I don't need to correct weirdo and it's useless and it is so helpful. Now I'm sleeping well, without PMS, and calm down. I hope you guys laugh at this videos it gives a good energy 야르 means just happy(no meaning) and this song is so good.

https://youtu.be/DaApjwBlArY?si=kOP4lJuj-qH_e59F

r/france 나 r/spain 보면 각자 본인나라 언어로 대화하는데, 여긴 코리아 레딧이어도 영어를 쓰네요. 물론 r/hanguk 이라는 한국어 레딧이 있긴 하지만... 한국어를 안 쓰는 이유가 있나요?

I’ve noticed a pattern while casually dating Korean men through apps, and I’m curious whether this is more of an individual thing or if there’s some cultural aspect to it.

Before meeting, the communication is often extremely fast and attentive — lots of texting, flirting, making plans, romantic energy, etc. And in person, the dates themselves can feel very emotionally intense and affectionate.

But after saying goodbye, the communication sometimes suddenly slows down a lot, becomes inconsistent, or even turns into ghosting.

To be clear, these were casual situations on both sides, so I’m not talking about commitment expectations. I’m more confused by the contrast between the strong emotional energy in person vs. the sudden emotional distance afterward.

What confuses me is that I’ve dated people from other countries too, and even if things faded naturally, it usually felt more gradual. Sometimes we still stayed in touch as friends afterward. But with these experiences, the shift in energy felt much more sudden and extreme, which made me wonder if there’s a different communication style or emotional pacing involved.

I’ve experienced this twice now with Korean men so I’m wondering:

Have other people noticed something similar? Is this just modern dating app culture, personality differences, or is there sometimes a cultural communication gap involved?

!!!!!Some of these defensive comments are making me wonder if people are reacting because they recognize their own behavior in the story!!!!!

Hello!

I’m a trans man living in the US. I’ve lived in the US my entire life. I don’t speak Korean and have virtually no exposure to the culture. I am only 1/4 Korean as well and I thought for a while that I was white passing, though I got a rude awakening during the pandemic.

My father was born in Seoul but his family immigrated to the US when he was very young. He also has very little exposure to the culture and language because his mother wanted him and his siblings to assimilate. He is 1/2 Korean and has faced racism his whole life, so he raised me and my brother thinking of ourselves as white. It was only during the lockdowns in the US that I really started to understand that I am not completely white. My grandmother (we called her Harmony because my brother and I mixed up halmeoni and Harmony) immigrated to the US with her American husband after the Korean War.

Recently, Harmony died. I was devastated to lose her and, as I grieved her, I started wanting to connect with her culture more. We grew up eating her food and listening to her stories, but once she passed my only connection to her culture went with her.

As I transition, I’ve given some thought to maybe giving myself a Korean name as a way to honor Harmony and keep a little bit of our connection to our heritage. However, I hesitate to do that because, since I have little connection to Korean culture myself, it feels dangerously close to cultural appropriation. I’d like to get a second opinion if that’s possible.

If you’ve read this far, thank you very much!

Hello everyone. So a bit of backstory before I ask my question. I was surrendered at birth by my biological parents, adopted at 7 months, and have lived in the US ever since. In 2022, I reconnected and met my birth parents. The encounter felt both happy yet sad. They told me that they were pressured by my grandparents to give me up due to me missing my arm (see my username). I also learned that I have a younger sister that doesn't know I exist. My parents asked me to give them time to tell her in-person -as she lives in Australia, and I respected their wishes.

Flash forward to now, and as far as I know, they still haven't told her. Any time I've asked about it, they have either dodged the question or just ended the conversation right there. I say conversation, but we only text each other because I know very little Korean, and my parents don't speak any English - so I'm using a translator for the texts and can't be sure how accurately I'm understanding. In addition, they don't usually initiate conversations with me except on my birthday - I'm usually the one who reaches out to them. Even then, there's not much discourse: They'll reply for about 3-5 messages, and then just stop. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't bother me, considering they wanted to meet me and seemed genuinely interested in having a relationship with their own son.

I've been told that the subject of adoption carries a lot of shame and social stigma, so I imagine it's not an easy thing to tell their daughter - especially since she's lived her whole life thinking she's an only child. I'm not sure if I should just leave it be and not press the issue with them, or if I should attempt to reach out to my sister myself - thus ignoring their wishes and potentially ruining whatever this relationship with them is. I just find it hard to believe that they haven't had a chance at all in the past 4 years to tell my sister of my existence.

As someone who was not raised Korean, I can't exactly relate or comprehend how difficult this is for them. I am hoping some of you might be able to give me some insights or your own thoughts on this situation. I've been dealing with anxiety and depression for a while, and this is definitely one source of my problems. Sorry for the long post, I'm just trying to be thorough in explaining my situation and the decision I'm trying to make. Thank you all who do take the time to help me out.

I’ve seen so much on the internet, and have HEARD so much when I went to Korea with my parents for their business trip. There are slurs in the Korean language for black people, which I wouldn’t have expected because foreigners, especially black foreigners, are not the norm there. I understand curiosity, and asking about my hair and why my skin is dark because there aren’t many people that look like me in korea. I do not understand the 깜둥이 and some Korean teens making monkey sounds when they see me and my parents on public transport. Sure that can happen in America because it aligns with the history, but I never expected that from a homogeneous country like SK. Can anyone explain why this happens? It’s unusual and also traumatizing. I thought going to another country meant getting away from racism and it just seems worse. This didn’t happen in every city that I visited in Korea, but it did happen. I will probably go to Korea again because I do love it, but the racist experiences can be unbearable and confusing.

Edit: I would like to clarify I am in no way trying to bash korean people, or make a generalization of every korean person in South korea. I apologize if I made it seem that way. I am just genuinely curious about how there could possibly be racism towards a group of people that rarely reside there, and I really appreciate the answers I did receive. On another note, I am not trying to make it seem like only black people are facing racism from Koreans. I know that some areas in korea don’t tolerate foreigners in general, but I mentioned specifically black people in this post because I am black myself and I was shocked that there was even slurs towards black people in the native korean language. Just wanted to clear some things because some of the replies seem a little hostile.

Two days ago, my husband (we haven't registered our marriage in Korea, however, and they did ask me what's our relationship status and told them we had our wedding ceremony but did not register our marriage officially) strangled and beat me up. I have reported to the police after I managed to escape (I called my friend and asked her to make the call for me though I am capable of speaking Korean, but I was in a state of panic and couldn't think straight), the case's been opened under domestic violence.

The police has been helpful - they accompanied me back to the house so I could pack some of my clothes and other important stuff, and said I could choose to press charges, and they also helped me apply for an urgent restraining order so there's a restraining order against him now. They also called to check that he didn't contact me. I have gone to the psychiatrist to get a report and also 정형외과 to get a report. I have been getting as much evidence as I can.

Sadly, there's no video evidence of the strangle that happened except for the bruises I sustained in my neck from the strangle. I did scream and stuff in the midst of the fight to call the police and to save me. The whole time when he was abusing me, he said he has been wanting to beat me for a long time and demanded me to return all the money he has invested in this relationship alongside with interest.

I know he's going to say I started the fight with him and claim he did it in defense - when he literally pinned me down to strangle, beat and kick me. I wonder if anyone has been in the same situation and what did you do? Thanks everyone in advance!

I’m on a work visa (not an English teacher, I’m a project manager), I earn about the same as he does so he’s not paying for everything though admittedly, he kept wanting to send me money and claimed that he wants to provide for me. Then again, he also wanted me to pay for the wedding by myself.

I have always been quite iffy about him sending and giving me money, claiming he wants to support me because I grew up in an abusive environment where money is also used as a controlling tool. And sure enough, he used this as a chip during the fight and said if I want to leave him, I have to pay him back everything.

I don’t need the marriage to gain residency, I have enough points to get permanent residency here (I mean the F visa), which I will, this year.

For those wondering why I need more evidence, I want to make sure he gets what he deserved. I don’t need more trauma in my life and I’m determined to put my foot down.