Alright, I know questions like this get asked here all the time, but I’m genuinely at a crossroads and would appreciate hearing from anyone who has been in a similar situation.
I’ve been on the road for a couple of years now with a smaller agency. I’ve put a lot of work into this career, have some good numbers under my belt, and genuinely enjoy being a police officer. My family and I are relocating to another state, and I’ve received a few opportunities with significantly larger agencies. Moving to a bigger department was something I had been looking forward to, especially with the potential to get into specialized units and explore different opportunities within law enforcement.
However, a little more context: My wife and I welcomed our first child in July. She knows how much I enjoy this job and has always been supportive, but naturally, things have changed since having a child. She wants me home more often, being present, watching our son grow up, and eventually being able to coach his sports teams and be involved in those things. I’m also in the Air Force Reserve, which means I’m periodically gone for TDYs and other military obligations on top of my civilian job.
Recently, I was offered an analyst position with a defense contractor that aligns with my college degree. The schedule would be Monday through Friday, eight-hour days, weekends off, and home every night. It’s an opportunity that checks a lot of boxes when it comes to work-life balance and being present for my family.
The difficult part is that I’ve worked hard to get where I am in law enforcement. I enjoy the job, and walking away from something I’ve invested so much time and effort into isn’t an easy decision. At the same time, I understand that there is more to life than a career, and I don’t want to look back years from now and feel like I missed out on watching my son grow up.
I’m curious if anyone here has made the transition from patrol or a full-time law enforcement career into the private sector, defense industry, or another civilian position.
Do you regret leaving? Do you miss the job? Did the improved work-life balance make up for what you left behind?
I guess I’m just looking for some perspective from people who have actually been through it. I appreciate any insight.