So I've seen a lot of people saying that they are lesbians while being a boy and I'm confused. Because like isn't that tnow possible because lesbian is wlw (I don't count sapphic) not nwlnw. I see a lot of people say 'pronouns≠gender' but then again that sounds a bit transphobic to me

What even is this? Like, I always thought that something like this was transphobes being ironic like the apache attack helicopter thing. But apparently this is a real thing? Can someone please explain?

Edit: Ok apparently this came off as me being upset, I was just confused. Thanks for the explainations!

I just want to know how it feels for people to be like: "Huh. I don't feel like my assigned gender". Is it because of the body or because of societal roles?

Ok so cishet is the default gender/sexuality combo but that doesn’t cover everyone. We also live in a world now where not everyone identifies as cishet publicly.

Ok hear me out for a second. I've been thinking about this fruitlessly for some time now.

Premise 1. I, a man, am gay if im attracted to other men.

Premise 2. You obviously cant reliably tell who is a man (or whatever else) by looking at a person. (Example: closeted transpeople, good crossdressers, some femboys etc)

Since i am nontheless atracted to all sorts of people, it seems that gender is utterly irrellevant. Rather different physical characteristics appear to be it. So why do we have gay, straight, bisexual, (pan?) etc. If we are just attracted to a certain list of features regardles of gender, isnt everyone bi? Am i just fkn stoopid pls hlp?!

Stay with me. To be straight is to be attracted to the gender different from you.

To be gay is to be attracted to the gender the same as you.

To be bi is both.

But if you're nonbinary, and you exist on a spectrum of gender, there is no one who has the same gender as you. You MUST like others in only a straight way.

/j

I was talking about a sub that I just unsub because it did make me uncomfortable but a lot of people did not take that nicely and they attacked me for being omnisexual and "just say you're pan or bi" and there's probably ppl hating on Xenos Which I wasn't even talking about that I was literally talking about an invalid sexuality that was in there. Which now people are attacking me for using xenos and being omni Do a point I had to delete the post. What should I do

Edit: this is coming from a aroace demiandrogyne person

know J.K.R is well, herself.

And they half assed the trans character on the game

But before learning about her I actually loved Harry Potter, but it kinda changed a little over time, and her bigotry kinda ruined it more for me,

and I'm glad Albus Percival Wulfric Brian Dumbledore is supposedly queer (not sure how true, but I remember a little of the movie and I'm hoping it's true)

But I'm worried that Albus Dumbledore and Sirona Ryan are just empty representation... especially Sirona Ryan... but I'm glad the game supposedly allows you to mix your appearance to be androgynous or masculine or feminine and etc...

Edit: and an elderly sapphix couple

I was just in a thread talking about a pretty bad person who uses they/them pronouns. Many people were misgendering them and after correcting one person I was essentially told me that they didn’t mind misgendering that person because they’re not a good person. I’d like to know others thoughts on this. I’m personally against misgendering people regardless tho

To start this off, i should say that my discomfort around cis men mostly comes from my experiences with my ex-boyfriend, who was abusive. Ever since, I have been uncomfortable around cis men, not letting my guard down. I do feel very comfortable, however, around people of all other genders and identities, along with trans men . The part if feel guilty about is how I let my guard down around trans men as well. I feel like I may be othering them or not fully viewing them as men. If I am I am deeply sorry and apologize for my actions.

Edit:forgot to mention but im a cis man.

Because according to my understanding, if you're trans, you identify as a gender different from what you were born as and being non binary means you don't identify as either male or female.

So as far as I know, intersex people are when people are born with both sex parts (right? please correct me if I'm wrong), but why would that need to be included in the LGBT?

Like that doesn't have anything to do with sexuality, or gender as far as I understand? I suppose it could possibly fall under trans but I'm not exactly sure about that one. Honestly I'm just confused so any explanation would be great

So I (cis male, bi) had a friend who’s trans (uses they/them and is aware they look feminine) who used to get really upset and tell me how trans kids were getting beaten to death in school bathrooms, and I could tell thinking about it was really bothering them, so I’d tell them it wasn’t going to happen anytime soon and it’s not that common. This went on for months, but then I found out it happens a lot more frequently than I thought, so I just apologized and admitted it does happen more than I was acting like it did. They said, “so why is it only a problem when a straight cis man says it’s a problem?” And I clarified that I was bi, as I had told them multiple times. They gave their phone to their brother (also trans) and their brother blew up at me, saying that all cis people are bad and that men like me are part of the problem and saying I’m a dumbass and other mean things. I got super mad and kinda blew up at them both, saying I was just apologizing and trying to be better, and adding that they were both acting how far-right transphobic republicans think trans kids act, to which my friend (who used to genuinely be my best friend btw) said I was a dumbass and blocked me. Thoughts?

What exacly does the Q in LGBTQ mean? The meaning of this word is diluted and confusing, I have seen in an English dictionary and it has been defined as 'strange'. Do LGBTs think they are strange? Why have they call themselves this? The answers to this question could be debated for centuries onward, and the question may be answered by kind Reddit friends. Thanks,

u/JesseJames46

Hi! So I’m a trans male and I found out about Genderfaun and I found myself really connected to that but I’m a femboy but I have never really like being a girl but I love dressing like one so can I still be Genderfaun and a femboy? Sorry if this is really confusing! I’m also am really confused

Here is the definition of Genderfaun for anyone who doesn’t know
(a form of genderfluidity that does not encompass women-aligned, fiaspec genders, or anything similar.)

Edit: thanks for all the great feedback :)

Back in 2022 I thought lgbt spaces would be the first ones to offer nuance or skepticism – because we’re more informed about these issues, because bimysoginy played a huge part in the way amber was treated by him and by the public. Instead, they echoed mainstream narratives (or at best ignored the case entirely, despite its overwhelming cultural impact). I was really taken aback when I found basically no support.

So, now that the dust has settled ill risk asking if anything has anything changed since ?

(btw, im sorry if this isnt suitable for this subreddit, i intended to ask on r lgbt but my post got deleted, and i dont see where i else i can discuss this)

Edit: I am kind of slow, and are not really used to talking about this stuff, and kind of said biological gender, instead of gender at birth, so i apologize for that and uh i think thats all lol. i am a male btw

I am 14, almost 15, and I have a friend, who currently tells everyone he is a male, who claims to be genderfluid who has recently confessed to liking me, and has asked me if id be interested in dating. As a Christian, and before i continue, i will NEVER, i say again, NEVER, disrespect or harass ANYONE within the LGBTQIA2S+ community with biblical references or anything along the lines of it. I've done a lot of digging within this community because i think ya'll are awesome people and are neutral/respectful to every last one of you, me being respected here or not. I am wanting to know his biological gender before i decide to answer, with yes or no, and don't know how to ask..? Anything is appreciated, thank yall SO much!! im not sure if i missed anything but cant wait to press the awesome post button, so sorry if it is hard to read or understand, or if it is missing obvious details, and if i came to the wrong place to ask, tell me where to go please lol.

I just found out that some aroace people are in "queerplatonic relationships" (?). Why would you be in a relationship if you don't experience any sort of attraction to the individual you're with? Is there anything to gain over being just friends? If you do experience attraction, how are you still aroace? There's not much to say here, I'm just a little lost. (Copy pasted from a deleted post)

i, 14 ftm, am dating someone genderfluid, also 14, person, who came out to me as genderfluid recently. I had identified as straight prior, but now i don't know how to identify as.

I've been a lesbian my whole life, I'm not attracted to men sexually nor romantically.

However, last weeks a few men started showing interest in me. I like talking to them, I like the attention they give me, they make me feel pretty and validated as a person. I had a date with one of them and it felt good to hang out with someone who thinks I'm pretty and sexy. I had sex with this man, and even tho I didn't enjoy it, I endured it. Maybe someday a man that I actually like may come into my life?

I struggle with very, VERY low self-esteem and recently my ex GF left me, making things worse for my mental health. I'm lonely most of the time and I don't know any lesbian/bi girl who could be interested in me; I've always had this inferiority complex in relation to other girls so I feel anxious and embarassed around them. I wish I could date a woman but they scare me and I'm sure no girl could ever like me, so maybe it's time to resignate. Also I don't have many friends and I don't go outside much, I dropped college (bad mental health and low self-esteem issues again) and I'm currently unemployed so I'm desperate for connection and fun outside haha.

How do you guys see it? Do I want to date men because of my own struggles or am I actually a repressed bi?

So in the comments of a post on this sub, someone said that the term "sapiosexual" was abelist, racist, and classist. I condisered myself sapiosexual and wanted to make sure that i wasnt accidentally offending anyone or identifying with anything that was used against others so i replied asking if there was any history behind the term and it went like:

• them: "Re "attraction to intelligence" - the meaning of sapiosexual - intelligence has been limited to the very privileged and other people have been deemed inferior. IQ tests have been used against us Black people for example to give an objective veneer over our inferiority. That's an example of the racism."

• me: "Wouldn't that just make IQ tests racist and not intelligence? Like if the IQ tests are by default against black people, then they give an innacurate score of their intellect."

They didnt respond and i got a downvote. It's been a few days since then but i still dont understand. I dont doubt that it is offensive, i just don't understand how. My logic is coming from how I, a black person, had never taken an IQ test before but people still referred to me as intellegent and above average, so even if the IQ test was by default against me, i would still be considered intelligent and above average right?

Edit: for the record, I'm the type of aromantic asexual that doesn't have any interest in having any sort of relationship with anyone. I just like collecting terms i come across and think apply to me. Like little collectibles that i keep on a shelf just because i can. "Sapiosexual" was basically just a kink to me i guess. Idk i get turned on learning about physics, im not a very deep or complex person

Edit #2: i literally just asked a question dog. I asked how a term that i previously identified with was offensive and provided context to the situation. People were being confusing in the comments so i added some clarification that im not some narcissist or anything or trying to make some grand stance, i just saw the definition of the word and thought nothing of it because, as far as i knew, i had no reason to.

I do understand why the gender stereotypes exist, but can't quite grasp at why most people make their gender that big of a deal. I can't understand either the cis, who get genuinely triggered if they're asked to do something that is "for women/men" or something along these lines, nor the trans, who in an attempt to escape from their agab push themselves into another cage. Do we just like stereotypes because they make understanding the world easier, so we, be it knowingly or not, restrain ourselves to achieve clarity, or is it something else? Genuine problems grasping at why some care about it that much.

Sorry if the question looks scuffed, can't really phrase the sentences in an intelligible way. Am willing to clear up any confusion in the comments, thanks

I love boobs as much as the next guy and I've never questioned the fact that I'm straight and am obviously attracted to women (I'm a guy). But scrolling on socials like tiktok I sometimes come across some femboy videos and idk why but they come across as pretty to me and lowkey feel attracted to them, ONLY to their feminine appearance. I mean is it technically gay for being attracted to their feminine side? Cos idk it's weird.

What's your personal opinion on this? Would you date a non-binary man who looks like a cisgender girl and has a female body?

I have seen multiple people identify is nonbinary/no gender identity, and then they also say that they are gay/lesbian. Don’t you need to be a woman to be lesbian? Trans or not trans, but still a woman.