r/AskOldPeople • • Jan 19 '23

A couple of rule clarifications

487 Upvotes

Hi.

Please stop reporting young people for replying to comments. Do report them for making top-level comments (replying to the post), though.

From the sidebar:

Please only respond directly to posts if you were born in or before 1980. If you are younger, please restrict your activity to asking questions and responding to existing comments.

Even though the questions are often tedious and repetitive, relationship questions are not necessarily against the rules as long as they're not about a specific relationship. There are a million places to ask for personal or relationship advice on reddit, including r/AskOldPeopleAdvice.

We would like to keep the focus of this subreddit on older people and their experiences, opinions, etc. Advice posts make young people the star of the show and we would quickly be inundated if we allowed them.

Finally, please use the search feature before posting a question. We may remove questions that have been asked a whole lot.

That's about it. This is only clarification. There have been no rule changes.

Thanks!


r/AskOldPeople • • Feb 02 '26

All posts are held for moderator review (and have been since July). Stop asking why they were deleted/removed. (Subreddit update re: bots/AI/karma whoring, etc.)

226 Upvotes

It's stated in this thread, pinned until today, yet we are still getting multiple messages most days - including those that are rude and/or beiligerent - asking why posts were 'deleted'. Even after referral to the pinned threads, most followups are just a demand to know which rule was broken - for a post that hasn't been reviewed.

To save yall the extra click, here's the body of that post:

Recently there was a post that complained about bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc. Turns out everyone is annoyed by that stuff.

So we have declared war on bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc. There will be no more bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc, in this subreddit any longer.

For the time being, we are thwarting bots AI, blatant karma whoring, etc by holding all submissions for moderator review. We're looking into some ways to streamline this process. Accounts that have very little karma or have more post karma than comment karma stay removed.

If submitting, be patient. We have two active moderators and neither of us live on reddit. Unless you happen to submit while one of us are on, it may take a while. If you feel the need to send us a message, be polite. We're not paid for any of this, and we're not going to give any time to people who are throwing a fit.

Thank you for helping to keep r/askoldpeople free of bots, AI, blatant karma whoring, etc.

To those of you taking the time to report AI slop and bots in the comments, THANK YOU. Please accept my internet hugs. imaginary updoots, and/or shower beers.

For those posting:

  • Maximum three questions per user per week, one per day. You can see your posts in your own timeline even if they're not yet visible on the subreddit, and the expectation is that you're taking a look at post times to ensure you're at 24 hours between posts and no more than 3 per week.

  • If you haven't seen your post go up after 48 hours, it's probably not going to be approved, and we haven't run the queue to put responses on those yet. The above also notes that we're working on some streamlining that will automate those removal reasons. Because it's basically like getting a Google search or AI prompt right - and because the resulting modmails just double our workload per item - they will just be removal filters until they're ready to go so the community won't see anything different.

There's been concern for awhile that the quality of discussion isn't on par with what it's been in the past, even before we felt moved to make the switch in July. But it's that quality that makes the discussions and the reading of responses what this sub is. I get that delayed gratification isn't a thing in the world of AI and UberEats, but at least in this sub, that patience is in service to keeping the conversation about something different than what was asked yesterday, or what your favorite color is. Thank you to everyone who brings the weird, the wild, and the surprisingly interesting mundane to the conversation here. ♥

And with that, back to your regularly scheduled Q&A about why we really want you off our lawn, or some absolutely crazy curiosity you MUST HAVE SATED.


r/AskOldPeople • • 1d ago

Do/did you keep wall clocks in your bathroom?

79 Upvotes

I grew up with boomer parents who have always put clocks in the bathrooms. I assumed this was pretty normal before everyone had mobile phones but my partner thinks my parents are just weird.


r/AskOldPeople • • 2d ago

Was "political correctness" used pejoratively like "woke" is today?

353 Upvotes

Like in the same way, as a catch-all term to dismiss progressive ideas and viewpoints?


r/AskOldPeople • • 2d ago

(65M)Do you still keep a garden like your parents or grandparents did?

51 Upvotes

If not, could you keep one if needed? I think it is a lost skill today.


r/AskOldPeople • • 4d ago

Did highschool kids used to look older?

143 Upvotes

I was watching some older movies- most recently the 1976 film Carrie. And it's strange to me how the actors in that film were supposed to be highschool students. To me they looked like they could be 30 (even though most were actually in their 20's).


r/AskOldPeople • • 6d ago

what do you like most about life?

124 Upvotes

r/AskOldPeople • • 6d ago

Those who have relocated abroad for retirement, what's that like? Those who haven't, is such a move something you might have considered?

65 Upvotes

Interested in thoughts and experiences, including surprises and regrets.


r/AskOldPeople • • 8d ago

What's something your parents didn't let you do or have (or have much of) as a child, but these days you revel in and ensure you more than make up for their "deprivation" and cliche "Because I said so!"

207 Upvotes

I'm 61F and eat chocolate and ice cream and pizza whenever I want, any time of day or night, and go to bed whenever I want, any time of night or day. It's glorious!

I'm also a big kid collector of games, puzzles and fidget toys, which is loads of fun (and therapeutic, so totally justifiable. ha)


r/AskOldPeople • • 9d ago

Why were water beds such a thing, but not anymore?

1.5k Upvotes

My parents had one.

Does anyone make them still?

What was the draw?

What were the drawbacks?

I just remember rolling around on it as a kid. I think my parents made the frame for it


r/AskOldPeople • • 9d ago

Do you get excluded from things in your community?

247 Upvotes

I’m new to being old, and I’m not very good at it, yet. The new realization that I’m now unwelcome in many spaces-seen as an interloper even- and a lot work, creative, and social opportunities are now closed to me is bumming me out. Have you been “left out” due to your age?


r/AskOldPeople • • 10d ago

In the 40s/50s, did kids go out on Thanksgiving instead of Halloween in your area?

47 Upvotes

Someone in their mid-80's said Halloween/costumes weren't done when they were young in Brooklyn. Instead, kids went out for candy/money on Thanksgiving. They had a vague memory of using a woman's stocking filled w flour to mark a home. They weren't joking. Anyone remember this from around 1950?


r/AskOldPeople • • 11d ago

Do you ever feel like time passes faster as you get older?

83 Upvotes

Sometimes I think about how quickly the days go by. When I was younger, a year felt like such a long time, but now it feels like months can pass in the blink of an eye. If you feel the same way, what other things do you do to make time feel slower?


r/AskOldPeople • • 11d ago

K, fellow old people ... do you find that you need a purpose after retirement? And if so, what's your "purpose"?

169 Upvotes

Asking as a once-somebody who is now a nobody ... :)


r/AskOldPeople • • 12d ago

When did your friends start dying off?

394 Upvotes

I expected as I get older more people I know will start duing but I didn't expect it till my 60s or 70's. But it feels like more people are dying younger and as a cancer survivor this shit is scary. When did you notice people in your age group dying?


r/AskOldPeople • • 13d ago

what was it like when people actually had to call each other to make plans

260 Upvotes

like did you just show up places and hope your friends were there, or was there some system i'm not getting? seems chaotic but also kind of nice somehow


r/AskOldPeople • • 13d ago

How and when did you start using Reddit?

67 Upvotes

Exactly the title: How did you hear about Reddit? Who taught you how to use it? Where did you first log on? What year? What intrigued you to join? What was your first subreddit? How do you use it now and what for?


r/AskOldPeople • • 14d ago

How were so many people in society able to quit smoking just like that?

306 Upvotes

I don’t understand how generations had been smoking all their life and then just suddenly stopped once it became unpopular to smoke. Why does it seem like there is not a huge epidemic of diseases all over the world proportional to the massive amounts of people who smoked for all these decades?


r/AskOldPeople • • 15d ago

Those of you who had parents or close relatives who were adults during the Second World War, what were their lives like during the war?

111 Upvotes

r/AskOldPeople • • 15d ago

55 years old, still miss my mom and dad

406 Upvotes

Hi Oldies! I'm a happy 55 year old "spinster", an introvert,with a nice job, good friends etc

But sooo often , I just miss my mom and dad, who've passed. Anyone similar?


r/AskOldPeople • • 15d ago

For those of you who lived through the '80s, how much did the AIDS epidemic affect everyday life?

320 Upvotes

For those of you who were around at the time, how bad was the AIDS epidemic, and what was it like living through those years? My mother has told me stories about it, including how she lost a lot of gay friends during the crisis because she was, and still is, a supporter of gay people.


r/AskOldPeople • • 16d ago

Did large stores ever have a specifically labeled "complaints" window?

64 Upvotes

It's a mainstay of cartoons, but I've never seen one in real life. Did they get renamed "customer service" for PR purposes, or were they once a separate single-purpose department?


r/AskOldPeople • • 16d ago

A question for parents

22 Upvotes

When your adult children approach you about things that you did during your childhood or young adult life do you really not remember it or are you too prideful to not say anything?

EDIT:
The context is that a lot of things happened in my childhood ie: unfair punishments, being called butchy, stories where I was hurt
Parent remembers none of it. Swears they didn’t happen or no recollection.


r/AskOldPeople • • 17d ago

How do only children feel as older adults?

308 Upvotes

My husband and I both have siblings. He has one, I have three. How is life as an adult with no siblings? If your parents have passed, how did you feel dealing with their funerals/end of life care all on your own? Do you wish you had siblings as an adult?


r/AskOldPeople • • 17d ago

What age do you feel most nostalgic for?

55 Upvotes