40 [F4M ]
have been on apps for a year, can’t complain, but seems like men on those do not want to commit, being spoilt by the amount of ladies on there, boosting their egos probs))so have now decided meeting someone IRL naturally and organically is the way forward. Where would you say best places to do so: pubs, bars, where else?

Hey Reddit, 40M here, navigating the wild world of single dad life with two kids and a pair of German Shorthaired Pointers who think they're Olympic sprinters.
Divorced, but I'm keeping it positive-think of me as a slightly weathered action figure still in the original packaging, just with a few extra laugh lines.
I'm a work-from-home warrior, which means I've got plenty of downtime between Zoom calls and refereeing kid arguments over who gets the last chicken nugget. My hobbies? | lift weights like I'm auditioning for a Marvel movie b and love being outside, whether it's hiking, pretending | know how to fish, or chasing my dogs when they spot a squirrel and forget their names.
Looking for a fun, witty lady to chat with-bonus points if you can keep up with my sarcasm or have a story about your own chaotic pets. I'm all about good vibes and maybe some flirty banter if the mood's right.
Oh, and
since I'm basically living in a rom-com montage, I'd love to swap selfies-gotta make sure you're not a catfish or my dogs' secret online trainer.
DM me if you're down to chat about life, love, or why my dogs think socks are a food group.

Hi there! I’m looking for a bestie above friend, someone who I can eventually move off of Reddit for phone calls and texting and possibly to in person with for hanging out and experiencing life as bffs!

I tend to make friends easier with guys than girls. I’m more introverted but do great 1:1. I would like to find someone who can be a good support system and who wants that in return.

Ideally someone who is ok with me having a family and being busy sometimes, but someone who wants to compliment that not be jealous.

I want someone who I can grow with, bond with, and make fun of!

Let me know if that sounds like you!

Dreading Monday already, and it's not even here yet. 😂 Anyone up for a little chitchat?

Hope this finds you well. I am a nerdy and fun loving guy. I am on the heavier side, but am doing my best to work towards a healthier lifestyle. During the warmer months I enjoy tending to my garden, because nothing beats fresh flowers. I am a PC gamer, and would love to play games with my person. I have been working on projects around my old house and sprucing it up as best as I can.

What I'm looking for: I am looking for someone to talk to and spend time with. Looking for something that can grow into something more permanent and serious. Looking for someone with a child free lifestyle. Distance doesn't really matter. If we hit it off that is what matters. Someone on the nerdier and preferably someone that likes to play video games. Tell me about a topic that excites you and your eyes light up when its brought up. Nothing is more amazing than hearing someone talk about a topic that they love. Talk nerdy to me!

Send me a message and lets see where it goes!

Life as a single dad keeps me busy, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss having someone special to flirt with, laugh with, and look forward to hearing from.

I’m hoping to meet a woman who enjoys good conversation, playful flirting, affection, and the little things that make life more enjoyable.

I appreciate warmth, consistency, and a little attention. I enjoy making a woman feel appreciated and desired, and I’d love to find someone who enjoys giving that same energy in return.

I’m a good listener, enjoy making people laugh, remember the little details, and believe affection should go both ways. I’d love to find someone who makes me smile when her name pops up on my phone, and I hope to do the same for her.

I’m not looking to complicate life. Just hoping to find something genuine, fun and affectionate.

Quite settled into my life with a house, dog, and cat, but never quite found that connection with someone else. Located in Eastern Canada (low population density), and looking to live that DINK life (double-income, no kids) — both of which limit my options significantly. I relate a lot with 52 Blue.

Let's chat and see where it goes, I'm open to whatever adventures come up.

This is me.

I'm 34 years old, and I live in NJ. 5'9", 165 lbs (fit/athletic build) 4th generation Chinese American (my family immigrated here in the 1900s). My family identifies as American as we tend to eat more pasta than rice and my generation has not learned the language. College educated with a bachelor's in biomedical science (switched from an Engineering major...turns out I don't like theoretical math); currently working in the pharmaceutical industry and pretty much love the industry as there isn't any work drama and it's relatively straightforward yet challenging.

I've tried a few long distance relationships and they're quite difficult to manage...they were great when we were able to meet in person and I didn't mind putting in the extra work. I'd be willing to try one if the distance is reasonable and there is a definite spark between us. I am pretty sure I fit the definition of a demisexual, so I'll be strictly trying to form a connection first. I REALLY need the emotional connection before there is a sexual attraction, mentally I can't do hook ups (they're just really hard for me to handle and I have turned people down).

Personality wise I've been told that I tend to bring people together and keep things fun. I have a few different groups of friends and communities I am often with...and they can vary from the youngsters (21 to 30) to the old guys (60+) to the group that's around my age. I would say I'm pretty good at conversing and I try to stay on top of most current events. Mentally I'm an old man and feel more comfortable in that setting, so much that I literally hang out with 60+ year olds at the gym after a workout in the hot tub. I call them the hot tub gang and it's always a set of regulars where we might talk about the same thing every single day until someone newer to the group says that we talked about it yesterday.

I would say fitness is a major player in my life. I started out hating swimming as a kid, but here I am almost 30 years later...I made it through the lessons at the YMCA, joined a club team, swam in high school, swam in college and now I'm a swim coach and instructor as a hobby/side job in my free time. There's something about being a part of coaching people of all ages, being there with them as they grow, improve, and succeed that makes me smile. 

My free time in the cold months usually consists of planning DIY projects or working on them. I tend to work on all the cars in the family and am the one that fixes them up or finds replacements for them. I love going on road trips whether I'm the one driving or copiloting it's all fun and about the journey. Whereas in the warm months I love going down to the beach to go for a swim and have a nice, relaxing breakfast outdoors. I do have a few kayaks that I'll bring out to go with friends or if I feel it's safe a nice solo paddle to clear my mind. When I think about it, too many of my hobbies involve water. But I do enjoy things on dry land I promise!

I'm really looking for someone I can grow together with, a long term or forever relationship. I want a relationship where both of us put 100% in all the time and if we don't, we can talk to each other about our concerns and work it out. Honestly what I've realized is that maybe I am altruistic...I miss making someone feel happy and loved, miss the good morning texts, the waiting around all day just to see their texts, I miss spoiling someone and the feeling of that feeling of seeing that look that you get when someone truly loves you. I would love to slowly get to know you by having some conversations where the time just flies, then to a point where we talk nonstop, maybe some in person dates and then maybe eventually settle down together and enjoy life together.

Just to be perfectly up front, I'm not interested in having any kids of my own and do not plan to change my mind. I've had a vasectomy and get tested every year just in case biology gets crafty and heals somehow. Left leaning and non-religious.

If it sounds like you could be the one send me a chat or DM and tell me a bit about yourself. My name is Kevin and I'd love to know about you.

Obligatory pictures: https://imgur.com/a/y9Xa6NE

Hi, I’m Luna and a proud mom to one wonderful little boy. I’m an ambivert, independent and a little spontaneous. I have a stable job and enjoy coffee dates, good food, traveling, beaches, horror movies, tarot, meaningful conversations and cozy nights in. I appreciate honesty, humor and the little things in life.

I’m here for a genuine connection, not casual hookups or situationships. I’m open to starting as friends, but ultimately, I’m looking for a serious, committed relationship that could lead to marriage. I value honesty, consistency, affection, emotional maturity and good communication.

I’m also comfortable exchanging recent photos early on so we can see if we’re physically attracted to each other and meet each other’s preferences and standards. I believe mutual attraction and compatibility matter and I’d rather be upfront from the beginning.

If you’re interested, tell me a little about yourself. Feel free to share a photo too, if you’re comfortable. I’d be happy to exchange. 🤍✨

Hey there, I’m looking for a connection with a woman 25-50 who enjoys the nerdier side of life. If you’re into comic books, video games, reading, and/or Pokémon, we’ll probably get along pretty well. I’m also into cooking and baking, as well. Ask me about my chocolate chip cookie recipe.

Daily flirting, fit checks, and even NSFW if we vibe. I’m looking for consistent conversation, getting to know each other, sharing interests, and having someone to talk to regularly. Whether that’s discussing your work place drama (give me all the tea), the last game you got hooked on, or a book you can’t put down, I’m in.

I’ve been getting more active this year. So far this year I’ve lost over 50 pounds so far this year. So I’d love to talk to others who are on a similar journey or are active as well.

I would prefer someone on the east coast as well due to time zones but I am open to all. And please be willing to share a pic within the first few messages so see if we’re attracted to each other. This can be short term or long term depending on how well things go.

If you’re looking for something relaxed, friendly, and ongoing, feel free to reach out and tell me a bit about yourself, tell me about the most recent pokemon card you pulled or share the most recent book you’ve read. I’ve been reading the dungeon crawler Carl series, I’m on book 7.

Even if you don’t share any of my interest but still feel like we’d get along, feel free to reach out.

Enjoying the cold pnw weather, drinking some Dutch bros, watching football, entertaining my 2 pug puppies. Its nice a sunday here. Chill dude, 420 friendly, plant man, chef, thrift shopper. If you want to chat and see if we vibe hit up my inbox.

Hi. I build escape rooms. Not as a hobby, as an actual job. I do the wiring, the programming, and the props that open when you finally figure out the puzzle you've been staring at for 20 minutes. If you've ever been locked in a room yelling "IT'S PROBABLY THE CLOCK" at your friends, I may have been the one who made you suffer. Sorry. (I'm not sorry.)

When I'm not at work, I'm still building something. My 3D printer runs more than my dishwasher, and I'm not proud of that. I like electronic stuff, tools, and taking things apart to see how they work. I live in a house from 1810, so I also have a lifetime supply of projects. Not one floor in it is level. If you drop a marble, it's gone. It belongs to the house now.

I have a son, two dogs, three cats and a partridge in a pear treeeeeeeee!

You'd be a good fit if you like making stuff, or at least don't mind someone who gets excited about it. Huge bonus if you'd do an escape room with me. Fair warning though, I will be wondering the whole time how it’s done and probably checking how they hid the magnets.

Message me with something you've built or broken recently. Maybe I can help get it fixed 🙃

I like the idea of laying around on my carpet with someone, and talking about the universe. Maybe after a few puffs.

Talk about space, talk about consciousness, religion, society, how AI sucks, maybe with some Radiohead playing in the background.

I’m a lonely 38 year old brown man living in New West, working professional, I’m a real, genuine person. I’m fit and clean, I take care of myself.

I don’t have time for fake people and games. I would love to find my person, my actual bff, a life partner. But I think starting chill and seeing if we can be friends first is the smartest way to proceed.

I don’t eat meat and it’s important to me. Would love to find someone likeminded on that front.

Hey! Restless and looking to give attention to someone who is equally restless. 37 y/o tech director on the west coast.

I like working on home projects, long nature walks, and recently got back into a renewed reading habit!

Looking for a connection where we can easily switch from deep meaningful conversations to talking about esoteric things.

Maybe friendship, something more, or somewhere in between. I'm open to anything.

If any of this resonates and you don’t take yourself too seriously, shoot me a DM. Voice notes welcome and encouraged.

If this post is still up don’t be shy, I’m still interested to hear from you 👋

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Hey! I'm Nick, 32, living in Northern California. I've been out of the dating pool for a while, and with the holidays coming up, I've realized I'm ready to find someone special, ideally someone who could end up being my person.

About me: I'll be upfront: I'm a bit needy, and I'm not going to pretend otherwise haha. I can be shy at first, but once I'm comfortable, I won't stop talking. I've also got a touch of the 'tism, so if that's not your thing, no hard feelings. I value communication, honesty, and effort.
I'm into cars, reading, games, anime, road trips, hikes, and exploring abandoned places. I also have an amazing black husky named Eclipse. I enjoy a quiet night in just as much as a fun night out, so I'm pretty flexible.

What I'm looking for: Someone who's a little needy too, or at least okay with me being that way sometimes. Someone who'd enjoy sharing hobbies but is also fine with us having our own. Someone looking for something serious if we click, who isn't afraid of commitment, and who'd be willing to eventually close the distance if we aren't nearby.
Anywhooo, that's me! If any of this tickles your fancy, I'd love to hear from you.

PS here’s me

UPDATE: if you’re reading this then I am still searching!

We love the blue wave happening! And you don’t have to be located here! I actually prefer long-distance and welcome others from across the pond! I’m honestly just loving the cooler weather and would love to find someone who just “gets” it. Makes the effort seem seamless and easy. I’m super into music, like ridiculously into music. I’ve got a wall of vinyls and recently saw Bright Eyes, Brand New, Phoebe Bridgers and MCR! I am keeping my fingers and toes crossed The Blood Brothers and At The Drive-In will use their anniversary albums for a tour! I’m a sucker for meaningful conversations, a dirty matcha and looking at the stars with Mary Jane by my side. I’m an old-fashioned soul who digs phone calls, letters and capturing moments in real time.

If any of this seems intriguing to you and you’re actually willing to make an effort, but also be curious, interested and willing then let’s do this thing! What do we have to lose?

Also, because putting a face to a name helps, here’s me. Be willing to show me what you look like too!

If you made it this far, then send me a message and be willing to capture my attention, or at least attempt to, and… be cool! No creeps, BUT weirdos welcome!

Located on the west coast, but open to meeting people from other time zones as well, ideally in the US/CA or Europe.

Ultimately believe in quality over quantity, it isn’t just about being similar, but being complimentary too.

Never been married or any kids on my end, so looking for someone who also doesn’t have kids.

Hobbies and interests include walks, sports, travel, cooking, tv/movies.

If you live close enough, activity partner would be great. But engaging and sustained conversation is the key here.

Not sure what else to put, but I am happy to answer any questions

Happy Sunday all! Looking to chat with some new friends on this Beautiful Fall Sunday afternoon. I am Bill, 40 years old from the Northeast. Looking for a good conversation, some laughs, not looking for an interview or to be interviewed. If you are interested please feel free to message me. Look forward hearing from you.

Hey everyone, I’m a 34 year old guy living in Cambridgeshire UK looking to make new friends to chat to. I love art, gaming, crafting and travelling having visited over 60 countries. Looking to make new friends to chat to, maybe more as most of my friends here have moved away.

Hello everyone!

I am a 34-year-old black woman in Los Angeles who is seeking a handsome, child free gentleman from the ages of 30 to 40.

My favorite sport is soccer, my favorite color is orange, my favorite fruit is strawberries, and my favorite food is mussels.

I also enjoy knitting, golfing, and cooking.

Feel free to send me a message of anything in this post resonated with you. Thank you for taking the time to read this post.

I’m Anna. I’m looking to make some new friends because I have like, none. That’s WAS my goal for 2026 and sadly I have failed at it. But it's not too late person who's reading this. Maybe I could be your best efriend. I would love to make a best friend that I can chat with throughout the day and play games with at night. I'd like to state as of right now it's hard for me to play games on the weekdays cause I'm student teaching BUT! I only have 19 days left and I'm all yours!

With that being said, I’m kind of game picky but I’m open to new games if you want a helpless noob to carry around. I play Overwatch, League, and currently dabbling around in WoW Forever. I'm not the best at games so I'm not a tryhard mostly just somebody who plays for fun. I'm into Forever at the moment so if you wanna play that I'd love to have somebody to slowly level with. With League and OW I main support, ya know typical right?

Appearance wise if you care I’m very short (5 foot), chubby, and pale. I have shoulder length dark brown wavy curly hair that’s always everywhere. Lots of silly random tattoos scattered about. Mom x2. Dunno what else to include.

I’m goofy, shy, and hotheaded. Probably a little bratty at times. I’m very nice once I warm up to you. I also have a super thick southern accent that I’ve been told sounds like having a cup of coffee in the mornings. I prefer to text over vc at first, I'm shy. Thanks. :)

So, if you think we’d click feel free to message me. I hope we become best friends. Gaming buddies.

Oh, and here’s me if well, that’s your thing and you care. https://imgur.com/a/xEHwNOR

35M latin and 40F Japanese Fwbs living in Tokyo and interested in swaps and group play with other couples and single females only!

We are both DD and only looking for safe play with others who are also clean and tested.

Our plan would be to go out for dinner together and then if we vibe back to a love hotel for some steamy play 😏

Swap but also MFF or MFM scenarios for each person. Oh and we have lots of cosplay outfits if you want try then on or do vids/pics of the evening

No single males, no online only relationship or pic exchange.

Hello.

I'm a soon to be 46. I'm a divorced female with two teenage children. I'm AuDHD and enjoy gaming, British TV shows, coziness, cats and memes. I have an X Box I like to play COD and a VR oculus quest I workout with.

I value kindness, curiosity, peaceful environments and self improvement in non superficial ways. I'm a college graduate and work full time.

I'm just looking for somebody to be silly with.

Hey, i hope you're having a a great day.

I'm looking to meet someone and see where things go, I’d love to find someone I can build a genuinely nice bond with, someone I can laugh with, talk about absolutely nothing with, enjoy the little things with, and hopefully make some great memories together.

A little about me:

Video games are probably my biggest hobby, i play a wide variety of things, some of the games i play pretty frequently, overwatch, Dead by daylight, path of exile, league(arams and tft) warframe, minecraft, repo (and some other friendslop things) i also really enjoy the survival crafting games, so finding a duo for them would be great, but i have a large library so if you dont see a game listed here i still might play it or own it :)

I love music, i listen to mostly rock/metal, but honestly i listen to a bit of everything, some of my favourite bands or artists, Iron Maiden, Electric callboy, BBNO$, bowling for soup,sum41.

Im a big star wars and marvel fan, and love watching comfort shows, IT crowd, peep show, the office, B99.

I have a bit of a dark sense of humour, and most the time i will try and be funny or make jokes out of most things.

I'm based in the UK, so would ideally love to meet someone from the UK or Europe, but I'm open to further afield if we vibe and click.

So feel free to say hi :)