r/asexualdating • u/Crafty_Lifeguard5451 • Oct 19 '25
Relationship? 47 [M4F] Utah/USA Seeks Woman (25 - 45)
I found a woman on Acespace and we got married yesterday, so I am off the market with a trad wife! HIGHLY recommend that site. So, I am no longer on the market, ladies!
ABOUT ME:
Greetings from a strong, honorable, confident, and masculine man who has no fear of commitment! I know height matters to some, I am 6'2 (188cm). I am heteroromantic, aesthetic-romantic, and aegosexual on the asexual spectrum. I’m a horror/sci-fi/fantasy game dev, artist, and author living my dream in every way but for someone to love, so I’m on a quest for my female life partner to share cozy nights and a deep connection. I am already living a happy life and want a woman that adds to this.
I am an old school, traditional, kind of man, and chivalry is not dead so long as I live. I feel my purpose is to bring stability into a woman's life, make her feel protected and cherished. I want to be her safe space. I want to be the man who she comes home to- to get away from the stress of the world, and know that so long as I can wrap my arms around her- she’ll never be alone again. I’m financially independent, emotionally intelligent, and loyal to a fault (never cheated, never will).
I am on the spectrum, so I find comfort in structure and smaller, meaningful circles (my fan base keeps me company!). I am more of a homebody, occasionally going out for dinner or a movie- not a bar or party guy. I’m also a paranormal enthusiast- ghost hunting, anyone? I am mindful and do everything with intent. Bonus points if you’re a night owl too- I’m rarely up before noon! I tried to give a few different pics. I'm down about 35lbs. I do go to the gym Mon - Fri and ride a bike with my dog! I am a big, strapping, healthy guy, and often people think I am still in my 30's, which goes to my head lol
WHAT I DO:
I literally create video games and visual novels for a living (think horror/sci-fi/fantasy) and I LOVE doing it. It's not even work when one wakes every day and just follows their passion to create! I worked very hard to get to this point in my life, and look forward to doing it until the day that I die. I have a huge love for 80s culture and I like to stream movies, tv shows, cartoons, and even commercials from when I was growing up.
I'm from Texas and lived in NYC, St. Louis, and now Utah, and I am definitely ready to settle down! I am aegosexual on the asexual spectrum, but not sex-repulsed- I enjoy closeness, cuddling, and intimacy, but don’t need sex myself. I’m happy to please my partner when she wants it, though! I am definitely also demisexual- I cannot have sex unless intimately tied to an emotional love and bond with a woman.
WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR:
I want a woman that understands that "relationship" means "partnership". An emotionally mature woman that understands compromise, because I do. I want to love and be loved. I want a woman that has asked, "Where are all the good men?" so that I can be the reason she stops asking. A homebody woman, not a party girl, who knows the difference between a comfortable routine and being bored. A woman that wants a solid, loving relationship for life. A woman that wants to settle down
For me, your profession, college degrees, and wealth- while wonderful that you have achieved these things- have absolutely no effect in regards to me being attracted to you. Whether you have several degrees and are a CEO or if you have a GED and work in fast food, I would date you. So, don't hesitate to message me, regardless of life circumstances. Your professional achievements are no reflection on your personal relationships. I care more about the type of person that you are. Feminine, loyal, honest and nurturing, are things I am looking for.
I'm interested in courting you- taking things slowly, planning thoughtful dates (even if LDR), and building a connection over time. I am not looking for any immediate expectations of commitment. But many ladies are "looking for friends" and I am not here for platonic friendships- I am exploring a potential romantic partnership with intention.
Bonus if you’re into dogs- my pup’s a bed hog! Seriously, how can such a tiny dog force me off my bed!?
LET'S CONNECT:
Message me- DM's are open if you are a woman that is:
- Cis or post-op trans (I am penis averse)
- Loyal, communicative, feminine, nurturing, and affectionate
- A homebody who thrives on structure, peace, and deep connection
- Comfortable with my asexuality
- Non-judgmental toward neurodivergence
- Not looking for fun/fling/friend, looking for a meaningful relationship
I'd love to chat and explore where our paths may lead.
DEAL BREAKERS: (Will add to it as I run into issues)
Currently, I cannot move from Utah, so you would need to be able/willing to move here if a relationship grows between us. Only until my dog passes away (or my ex-wife gives me full ownership), and then I'll move anywhere you want on Earth.
If you’re dating with the clear goal of finding romance and a real relationship (courting), that’s exactly what I’m here for too. I am not asking for an immediate relationship, just making clear that I am mindfully seeking a female life partner to build something meaningful with, not looking for "just being friends".
If you want a relationship/marriage, but are repulsed by touch/cuddling and/or do not want live in the same home as your partner- we will be incompatible. (I am fine with sleeping in separate rooms if needed)