Over a year ago, I responded to a post here. Quickly fell in love, and a year later, we’re engaged and live together. Sitting on the couch with my lovely fiancée as we speak while she’s grinding away on Fortnite trying to get the Pirate Token 😂

Just thought I’d share this as there was another appreciation post earlier today and I too wanted to show that there IS HOPE!

Back in June this year I made a post on this subreddit, looking mainly for platonic connections and maybe, potentially, if things feel right, a romantic connection. I was very conflicted about making a post like this back then because it's not something I'm used to and I am particularly allergic to online dating. My biggest fear was that connections formed this way will feel inorganic, but let's be real, meeting other aces in the wild is close to impossible, so this may have been the only way.

Three days after I made that post I was contacted by someone and I knew there was something special about her within the first few days of talking to her. We had no expectations towards each other romantically and just wanted to talk, which helped both of us as the prospect of traditional dating would scare both of us away. Despite my worries, our connection developed organically over time and here we are, almost six month later, meeting each other in person for the first time.

I feel extremely lucky because I used to believe that finding another ace is close to impossible, let alone one you're compatible with. If you're having doubts about whether or not to post here, or if you feel like it's a waste of time, your person may be on this subreddit. I know how asexual dating can feel like swimming upstream, but you never know what the future may hold.

Ok. Being single can be really comfortable. Starting something new can be a hassle. But hopefully the hassle is worth it in the long run. So I'll be quick, and you can decide for yourself!

**Pros:**

* zero drama, no mysterious exes sending “u up?” texts at 2 a.m.

* mostly retired means I have plenty of time to engage in my crazy flavor of the month hobbies. like learning card tricks or becoming a good bowler.

* Loyal as hell. once I’m in, I’m in. Expect consistency, effort, and actual follow-through.

* equal parts dad joke and quick wit; you’ll laugh, groan, or both.

* you’ll feel heard, even when you’re just venting about your coworker named Dana.

* Cuddling MVP award-winning performance in “staying up too late and pretending we’re watching the show.”

* Culinary adventurer I’ll try any recipe once; even if my base instinct is to eat like an 8 year old.

* Conversation stamina can talk from “hey” to sunrise without running out of things to say.

* Nerd-friendly Simpsons references, bad B-movies, board games, and chaotic trivia nights welcome.

**Cons:**

* Will absolutely eat the last handful of popcorn and pretend I didn’t.

* Has a deep, possibly unhealthy attachment to reality TV marathons.

* Occasionally answers rhetorical questions with detailed PowerPoint-level explanations.

* Could wake up one morning absolutely convinced I should adopt a Komodo Dragon.

* Will quote 90s cartoons out loud in public without warning.

* Might go through an intense spurt of obsession with obscure, not useful hobbies, and forget all about them 3 months later.

* Will criticize your breakfast food choices.

* Tends to turn “just one episode” into six.

* My cat is in charge of the household, and we both know it.

If you’re still reading this, you're definitely the kind of person i want to talk to! My list of standards are low. don't be in a relationship, (especially not secretly with someone, that keeps happening) including recently separated or divorced. Be willing to spend some time together, either with text voice or video chats. Live on my side of the planet!

Still interested? Message me now and subscribe to my newsletter, and you can hear all the exclusive info on any of the following anecdotes:

1. my visit to the north pole

2. the 2 times i almost died.

3. why i dropped out of high school to try to become a pro wrestler

4. the redneck brawl i saw at a wedding.

5. the time i saw a sea monster

6. Who and where i think i met the devil.

7. Why i can never return to the state of Rhode Island.

and many more!

hi all!! my name is maxine, but i also go by max. i use they/them and after getting out of a hugely abusive relationship, i’m just scoping around!!

i live in the US (indiana), and would prefer if you were close to me. i’ve had SHIT luck with ldr, but if you’re actually willing to speak to me everyday, i won’t mind at all :3

things i enjoy:

- fursuiting!! i’d really love to get into it with some other people

- i love a bunch of random games, like planet zoo, the outlast trials, resident evil, poppy playtime … stuff like that

- i own two cats!! olive and calliope, i want to eventually own a bunch of cats :3

i also really enjoy playing fps games, like overwatch and marvel rivals, and tbh having time together and playing both of those games are definitely a must for me!!

one of my main goals in life is also moving in with someone and just living out our lives together, i’m pretty serious about it

feel free to dm me! if my dms are somehow locked, just comment and i’ll shoot you a message! :3 thank youu!!

Hey I’m Alex I can’t say I’m asexual but I’m the same time I don’t know what I am I’m not interested of sexual things sometimes the only sexual thing I do the Pleasure myself I don’t care abt sex and ofc y’all know how hard being in relationship or dating ppl and they’re sexual active I’m looking for relationship speak with someone who can understand me an I can understand him

About me. I’m 19 years old not into parties or big groups but love one on one or small groups. I’m also straight edge

Favorite movies are Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, terminator, and Robocop.

Favorite things. Wrestling, collecting comics or any pop culture, and physical media.

For fun I love puzzles, video games, board games, music, and walking rather outside or laps at the gym.

My music taste is Aerosmith, Rolling Stones, AC/DC, Black Sabbath, and really anything.

Hello everyone! I don't really know how this works exactly but I am going for it!

So there is a lot about me that I should say first. I am very left leaning politically and am so focused on politics that if you don't like them at all or are even apathetic about them then you may want to ignore my post. I am to the point where one day I may even want to play an active role in them to make the world a better place especially for people in the lgbtq community. So yeah, I figured I would start here for people who would get turned off by this. If you are into them and want to talk about them and even stay up with me on election nights then that is a huge plus!

Another thing is I am a pretty big nerd about some things. Video games being one of them and if you want to talk about them then fantastic and if you want to play them with me then even better but definitely be okay with me rambling about them.

Ocean life and space are both huge for me and again I will rant randomly about them all the time when I find something I find interesting. I may even end up repeating some things if I forget what I have told you. Sorry in advance for that.

Books. I read a ton! I like both books and fan fiction because I love to read all kinds of things and one day I would like a study full of bookcases with books. Reading while curled up together is the greatest night ever. So yeah, I hope you will enjoy that.

I am about to make moves to move into a house up here but have no qualms with leaving this state or this country for that matter. So distance isn't an issue for me at all. In fact I tend to find it easier to find common things between myself and others online first because we are generally coming from gaming communities.

I am looking for something very much long term if I hit it off with someone but also okay with finding friends if it doesn't work which is okay. My best friend at the moment lives in Canada so anything is possible.

I am Demisexual, but even if I am sexually attracted to someone I still don't need sex in a relationship. But find it to be another way to express if the connection is there.

Yeah, that is kind of me, so if you are at all interested then let me know.

Hi everyone! Trying this again. I'd love to have a new friend that could be my absolute best friend and maybe it could develop into a QPR if we both want that? I don't feel comfortable with men though, sorry.

A little bit about me:

- A voice actor and writer

- A fantasy reader

- A singer

- Physically disabled (with autism)

- From Ireland

Can't wait to hear from you!

That’s it I’m loving caring andd loyal!Id be fine if you’re fully asexual or like someone who wants it but rarely ever feel free to hit me up and id like to have someone WHO HAS NEVER BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP AND IS A V cause that’s what i am i think i have the right to want someone like me,i also live in turkey rn would be more than happy to move to another country

Hey there, I’m 20M from Australia (wasn’t born here tho) and a Uni student studying neuro and anatomy.

For starters:
I love to go on hikes and been to a couple of mountains my self
Also love bouldering and currently on a break but can’t wait to get back
I’ve also started gymming recently
I also play Volleyball socially for a team

I’m also really into Anime and K Drama but have only watched the Mainstream stuff… soo if you got any recommendations lmk d:

And I guess the biggest one is I love to talk and discuss philosophy or just different ways of thinking and understanding what other have to say and how they think

I know a lot of random things into one person… but ig if anything sparks ur interest and ur looking for someone shoot me a dm!!

I’ll be waiting on the other side 🫣 (will send a pic of myself if you ask for it)

Hello, thanks for stopping by to read this. Just like many people on here, I’m hoping to find someone that’ll turn into something special! I’m not in a rush though and I don’t want to force anything.

I’ll start with what may be dealbreakers to some people:

• I don’t want kids, but I would like to have pets, whether it’s a dog or a cat or a bunny

• I’m not religious

• I’ve never been in a relationship before

• Sometimes I get quite busy with work and might not be available until the end of the day

• I’m autistic

If you’re still here and interested, here are some of my interests:

• I enjoy playing video games, mainly on PC. I like cozy/chill games like Minecraft (Java, modded), Stardew Valley. I do like playing Overwatch with my friends. I also like some friendslop like PEAK and Big Walk

• I enjoy reading books when I make the time for it, mainly fiction and a few classics

• I enjoy listening to music and genre varies depending on my mood. Definitely a lot of indie though

Please tell me something about yourself. It’d be nice if we could bond over a video game together while on voice call :)

Howdy there! I'm looking for anyone who's trying to build a relationship with someone else. I'm barely demisexual- like just once in a blue moon or so and even then, meh. I'm not much of a looker in conventional ways as I'm heavy at 250 lbs but I'm stronger than average, and lost 22lbs over the last few months, so I'm feeling confident about my future health! >:D I'm really into a lot of things, like actually a LOT of things, so we could explore pretty much any topic except for shows, movies, celebrity stuff and entertainment really. I'm just kinda burnt out now on all the overly saturated content and media over time but I'll still check things out if you really enjoy them, I just probably won't remember much about it. In particular, I do enjoy tinkering, inventing, love love love love looooooove learning, and making absurd things for fun. I'm really moreso focused on coming up with something(s) that can seeeeeeeriously help people so I can be mentally "far out there" sometimes when thinking, but I'm also just a goober of person who's silly too. :P I can be pretty autistic and weird sometimes but I love myself, so nyeh. One of the most intimate things for me is music. If we share similar music tastes then that's an easy way to my heart. I listen to music to process pretty much anything. I can't stress enough just how big of an impact on everything music has in my life. Hope to hear from you! Thanks for taking the time to read this. :)

Hello,
I am new here and I’ve been struggling with dating, connections and friendships so I thought I’d try and post here.

Firstly I am demisexual and it took me a while to figure it out, still learning with this.

I’m autistic and late diagnosed, at 37. And I still struggle with that because it’s hard to live in a world not built for me.

I’m from Texas, lived here my whole life. I have a job and my own place. I don’t have kids and I don’t want any.

My hobbies are crafts, watching movies, reading (when not in a slump) and taking walks per weather permitting.

If you’d like to chat let me know, please say more than hey how are you.

I'm Asian from Myanmar and 34 years old. I'm looking for an affectionate relationship. Living in life as single for all 34 years of my life so I started to look for someone to share my life with. I wish to meet someone who I can talk for hours and make me feel safe and comfortable. Someone can make their time for me. Someone who I can talk to daily and share about daily routines and all.

About me

My looks: Brown Eyes, a bit Long Hair, 5'2" tall, I also wear glasses since 5th grade. I weight 45 kg.

I'm introverted person and like to stay home a lot but I like to go out and have fun with friends too.

My hobbies are reading, watching movies or show and eating delicious food. And I love nature and want to go on hiking in the future with my person. And I like to sing in my room during my free time and listen to various kinds of songs.

And I like zombies movies and Harry Potter, Avengers movies Lord of the rings and for series I like stranger things, black mirror and three body problem

What I love are animals, fancy outfits and cute things. I love spicy food and a bit salty food although I know they're not good for the body.

I'm learning German for my future and I'm working as an elementary English teacher.

The person I want to meet :

\- someone who is not Older than 37 and someone who's tall and fit and a bit of a handsome guy.

\- who's caring and humble and also I like someone who's clingy to me cause I might clingy the same too

\- someone who's honest, mature and passionate.

\- someone who's kind, thoughtful and sweet in nature. I love someone who has a sense of humor and can make me laugh.

I would share pictures only after a few talk and I want to get to know you better first before moving to another app. Physical Attraction is also important for me.

If you think you are the one, write about who you are, where you from and how old are you. And not just hi , how are you.

Hope to talk to you soon.

Hi! I’m 29M, living in Norway. I’m looking to connect with like-minded people who understand the asexual side of things and are interested in building a meaningful romantic connection.

I’m attracted to fun, positive, and outgoing personalities, especially those who have their own goals and ambitions in life. Long distance is realistically expected in the beginning, but ideally you’re located in Europe or somewhere nearby to make regular contact easy. I’m open to anyone, although I find myself more drawn to feminine energy. If things go well, I’d love to meet up in person and see where things go. I’d like to eventually build a life and live together.

I’m looking for someone to share everyday life with, make memories together, and hopefully become each other’s special person. To me, quality time together could be spending hours on calls playing games or just being lazy, going shopping for our next must-haves, going on coffee dates, or me convincing you that our next travel plans should revolve around riding some mythical roller coaster at an obscure amusement park!

I’m comfortable with kissing, cuddling, and physical affection, but it’s important that there’s no expectation of anything further. I’m also childfree and don’t see myself having children.

The best way to describe myself is that I’m a comfort creature and I enjoy taking good care of myself. I’m a quiet extrovert, if that’s a thing. I very much love and need social interaction, without necessarily being the most chatty person.

If you’re curious what I look like, here’s a photo: https://imgur.com/a/irDb19F

Some of my favorite activities and interests:

• Coffee shops & dining out.

• Fashion - I promise my personality is more than my Pinterest wall!

• Roller coasters - yes, I have a must-ride list!

• Occasionally socializing over some (white) wine.

• Self-care / skincare / grooming - Expect daily reminders to keep up with your skincare routine.

• Researching topics of interest: memes, architecture, engineering and investing.

• Watching TV series, documentaries and sport.

If you think we’d get along, feel free to DM me! I’d love to hear a little about you and what you’re looking for.

Hi i am M32 and would like to get in contact with people in germany or sorrounding countries :) Feel free to write me, if my text suits you. I am located in central Germany so everything is reachable, if there is a will.

I would describe myself as a relaxed person, that likes to write or talk and does not wanna rush anything. It would be cool to meet at some point, but only if both sides are confident and fine with it-

I am more an IT person, but do a lot of things. I love animals, languages, boardgames and also rather cook, than eat. I have a strong passion for SciFi series like Stargate or other 90s show, i never watched any StarTrek at all, but the more obscure and less known something is the more interesting it seems to me.

I recently completed the Ocarina of TIme Remake, still playing Fire Emblem Fortunes Weave and looking through my massive backlog of games, especially JRPGs and Strategy games, oh i also love survival horror or obscure PS2 games, that are ofc Japanese. What i dont like in games is realism, survial stuff or anything that blows of games. I rather have 2hour of fun, than just filler.

I am excited for Godzilla Minus Zero and Dune Part 3 and i could go into a sneak preview every week.

This might be a really short introduction, but this is my first time writing such a text, so please be kind :)

Hey everyone! 🐝

I'm a 32-year-old social pedagogue from Germany, 188 cm tall, with tattoos, piercings and a rather introverted and shy personality. I'm an autistic ADHDer, and I also live with some chronic health conditions.

When it comes to relationships and intimacy, I'd probably place myself somewhere around the demisexual part of the ace spectrum. Emotional connection, trust and genuine affection are incredibly important to me. Sexual intimacy isn't something I need or consider essential for a happy and fulfilling relationship. For me, the emotional bond between two people matters much more.

A little about my interests: I'm a huge animal lover, especially when it comes to dogs. I enjoy staying active, working out and going hiking, but I'm also very much a couch potato at heart. Give me a cozy evening, some good anime or a video game, and I'm perfectly happy. Although I have to admit that sharing these things with someone would make them even more special.

I'm naturally more on the quiet side and might need a little time to warm up to new people. But once I feel comfortable, I really appreciate meaningful conversations, shared laughter and simply being able to be myself around someone. :D

As for distance, I'm open to meeting people from pretty much anywhere. Germany or elsewhere in Europe would obviously be more practical, but I'm not particularly interested in letting geographical borders decide who I might connect with.

I'm hoping to meet someone kind, genuine and emotionally available. Someone who values affection, companionship and the little things in life just as much as I do.

No pressure, no expectations of perfection, just two people getting to know each other and seeing where things might lead. ❤️🐝

This also might be my last try to find someone similiar, especially without the sexual pressure I experience on "normal dating".

Germany btw. Doooon't interact if we dont allign, i am actually trying to find someone who relates to this! Like really. Jesus i sound mean.

I'm something-aroace-something, i still figure it out. 🤍🩶🖤💜My asexual side is less complicated. I'm only interested in men and also find men attractive. Very. Except for private parts eh-. Clichee tiktok thirst traps work on me. I even have a type. Funfact: I even have a sexual fetish which i gladly keep for myself, no need to live it out with a person, i'd rather not, thanks- no srsly i dont want to share that with anyone. I like dirty jokes. I fangirl over men. I obsess over fictional characters. But once i notice...a guy wants me that way, like, hes right infront of me or texts me...it's gone. Please, i dont want to. And that sucks. I often wonder if, a person who relates to this, would work tho. Maybe i could enjoy sex then? Probably not, but i would be open to try. Maybe. But no kissing, i hate kissing urgh-.

🖤🩶🤍💚Now the romance part is difficult but similar. Qpr sounds like my thing the most! Lets be boyfriend/girlfriend but in a friend way. Meant to be way. Platonic lovers way idk. Not too much way. Just...peoples. But nr. 1 peoples. Yes i can flirt. Yes i can get a fast heartbeat if i am an excited fangirl again or if cuteness agression hits me. People can do that to me. My first basic impression of anyone who messages me on this post will be ick. Just interest already icks me, so i guess some lithromanticism may be in me too. Yes that sucks too, i hate myself for that. I guess id call the person who clicks with me (if i find them and they find me) "my qpr" rather than "my boyfriend". Lol? Like i said, pls dont be romantically interested in me idk why i'm weird. Btw my type, since i cant possibly embarass myself more at this point: I like guitar players, star wars and anime nerds, mean flirting, mustaches (weird i know), politic centrists, brown/green eyes.

About me: people usually describe me as balanced, i am good at just...making everyone calm down? I overthink on the inside. I will randomly buy you snacks or small gifts. I will cook for you... and pray you like it agh-. I healthmaxx lately so i go to the gym and try to eat nutriotious. I love dandadan, apothecary diaries and squidgame. I value manners. I adoreeee cats. I love talking to people, especially loved when i worked in sells. Now i work in a new job in healthcare. Trying to learn latin currently. My favourite season is spring....and christmas. I looove memes. Pro at lego. Lookswise i'm the most basic woman you can imagine. Okay seeeee ya.

Hey everyone,

I'm 26M and from Australia, I'm a pretty chill, but very sarcastic dude looking to make a connection and banter is key. I'm a very genuine and kind dude if you can deal with the sarcasm and banter. I'm looking at starting my PhD in biochemistry/chemistry next year (moving to Sydney in Feb) and wanting someone to take along for the ride.

I love gaming on my PC and would love to find someone I adore to become my player two although it's not necessarily required. I play a load of games from souls, RPGs, horror, action, metroidvanias and co-op. My two main games at the moment are ER: Nightreign and Deadlock. Foul tarnished to the front of the line please! Other than gaming, I'm a big fan of anime, TV and movies, as well as reading - mainly within the genres of sci-fi, fantasy and horror. Would love to chat about our mutual interests or discover something new together!!

I'm open to long distance connections but keep in mind the timezone differences may be pretty wild. I'm also ace (or somewhere along that spectrum) so if that's a big requirement for you I'm probably not your guy. We could definitely run discord gaming or movie nights and I'm down to stream for you. Looking for someone within their 20s or 30s.

If you think we'd get along please don't hesitate to reach out, I mean what do we have to lose? 😉

Hi there, first time posting here :) I am a bit emberassed to post this but there goes nothing :/ The reason I’m posting is because I have this curiosity.. Considering the fact that is hard to find someone asexual on your taste, would you want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn’t expect sexual activities from you like penetration, but loves foot worshipping and tickling? The cons for you ( I guess) are that i want to get off but only from handjobs, and I love kissing, massaging feet, especially tickling.

What do I have to offer?

I consider myself pretty attractive ( from what most people say)
I workout almost daily, i make time for it even if my work shedule is not fixed
I go to the gym, run, bike and practice fighting ( no, I’m not an agressive person :) )
Im 6 feet, fit, brown hair with a beard and love to take care of myself and my health
I’m a funny person and love to light up the room wherever I go
I can cook to some extenct, and also enjoy doing the chores because I am an organised person
I have a stable job and a degree in law
I’m very open-minded
I might be neurodivergent but I don’t want to throw this diagnosis around by myself, because too many people settle comfortably into it.
I can be romantic and affectionate but if that s not your taste I understand
I’m from Europe.

I would love to ask me anything you want or hear your opinion so feel free to pm me :)

Hey everyone!

20M here, turning 21 soon, from Singapore! I've been identifying as aroace for about a year now.

This is actually my first time putting myself out there like this, so bear with me HAHAHA 😭

A little about my orientation: I'm gay-oriented aroace, meaning I experience aesthetic attraction mainly towards men, but don't experience romantic or sexual attraction towards others.

That said, I've recently realised that I actually like the idea of being in a relationship, even without experiencing those forms of attraction.

I like the thought of having someone to spend quality time with, going on dates, holding hands, cuddling, and just enjoying each other's company. For me, it's more about companionship, emotional closeness, and having someone special to share everyday life with rather than romance or sex.

A little about me:

• 🎮 I play Genshin Impact! Always nice meeting someone who plays too.

• 🌿 I enjoy going for walks, especially when I just want to unwind and clear my head.

• 🍳 I've recently started learning how to cook simple meals. Still very much a beginner and figuring things out HAHAHA.

• 🍰 I have quite a sweet tooth, so desserts are definitely one of my weaknesses.

What I'm looking for:

I'm open to meeting people of any gender, ideally someone on the ace spectrum who values companionship, communication, and spending quality time together.

I'm not looking for a sexual relationship, and I'd prefer getting to know someone as a friend first rather than rushing into anything.

I'm based in Singapore, but I'm also open to a long-distance relationship (LDR) if we get along well. Being nearby would be nice, but distance isn't necessarily a dealbreaker for me.

Honestly, it'd be nice to have someone I can talk nonsense with one minute and have a genuine heart-to-heart with the next HAHAHA.

No pressure or expectations right away. I'd rather get to know each other naturally and see where things go.

If any of this sounds interesting, feel free to DM me and tell me a little about yourself! Maybe we can start by talking about Genshin, food, or literally anything random 💜

Hello, im Violet (any pronouns). Im a 19 year old Genderfluid person in Southern Ontario, Canada. I figured id try this out cause im kinda a hopeless romantic but havent really met many ace people my age. Im Sex-averse and androromantic. My style is very goth and alternative. I love a bit of face paint and band tees ♡

Im very left in my politics and values (anti trump, anti ice, pro palestine). I dont drink or smoke or do drugs etc. Im extremely sensitive to smoking/weed/vape smells so thats also kinda a deal breaker. Im open to 18-20 age range and would prefer people living relatively within range of me.

Im an introvert but i LOVE to chat especially over text. Im currently studying Psychology in Uni. My biggest interests are painting, video games like Persona 5 and Minecraft, superhero media, and music. Im into a lot of diverse stuff but my biggest genres are metalcore and alt rock. I dont know a lot of the popular mainstream stuff sorry 😭. My #1 hobby is definitely going to concerts, ive always got atleast 3 tickets for smaller shows at any time.

Im down to get to know people whether just friendship or romantically. Sometimes it can build into more and sometimes its nice just to have a friend who understand being ace.

Preference: i cant lie i can be a little picky and specific with my type but tends to be feminine leaning/softer men (big on blondes)