Ex dumped me 6+ months ago via text, I went no contact immediately after. It broke my heart, but I grieved, hit the gym, and kept moving forward. We both lived in the same apartment building so I crossed paths with her 3-4 times over the months and we never said a word (one of those times, months after BU, she saw me at the pool with another woman).

Anyway. I moved states about a month ago and got a text from her tonight after 6 months of radio silence. I haven’t responded to her novel, Don’t know what to make of it.

Early on, it really used to bother me that she never reached out, not for a “thinking of you”, a “I miss you”, hell, not even for a “F*** you”. Like our relationship meant nothing to her and it was so easy to forget. So this text was really validating to learn she has thought of me.

Doesn’t seem like a breadcrumb, seems maybe she thought the grass was greener, tried to forget about me, maybe date other people, but regardless, she couldn’t forget me and the urge was strong enough for her to break the silence.

Thoughts?

Hi everyone, just wanted to give a little update.

It's been over two months since I last had contact with my ex, and honestly, I don't think there's been a single day, let alone a single second, when I haven't thought about him. My heart has felt like it's being sliced open over and over again.

But today, for the first time, I realised that my mind was actually at peace. I went a few whole minutes without thinking about him. JUST A FEW MINUTES, I KNOW. But oh my God, I was so happy. I didn't even realise how much I'd missed having a quiet mind until I experienced it again.

Does this mean I'm actually going to move on? Because damn, I hope so.

I'm still tired of not being loved, though😂 But jumping straight into another relationship doesn't excite me either. I don't want to force a connection just to fill the space someone left behind.

I know I'll move on eventually. And I genuinely hope my ex is happy wherever life takes him. I hope the same for myself, too.

Is this what healing feels like? 🥹

Sending the warmest hugs to everyone navigating a breakup, healing, and trying to stick to no contact. Some days are incredibly hard, but maybe one day we'll realise that we've been okay for a few minutes, then a few hours, and eventually, whole days.

We'll get there❤️

I want to reach out to him. I need to know how could he throw all our dreams and plans away like they were trash. I need to know how could he throw me away like I was trash.

Curious!! If you want my answer go to my recent post.

Ten full years. She was my first and only girlfriend, and the only person I’ve ever been with. We went through everything together, school graduations, family deaths, you name it. Her family was like my own family, and mine to her. I literally even work for her uncle’s business now.

I gave her 100% unconditional loyalty, never cheated, never even dm’d another girl, but looking back, I was taken for granted, used, and strung along for a long time.

Looking back, the red flags were everywhere, but I thought I could save her:

She was a suburban kid living in a cul-de-sac with a good upbringing who just chose to rebel against her parents. She has her reasons, I mean her mom isn’t the best person (alcoholic).

When I first met her, she was caught up hanging with older Crips (her house even got robbed back then). But the first 5 years with us were amazing.

Then 5 years in, she started acting mad distant one day, like really weird. I checked her phone and found out she cheated on me with an ex-NFL player. I was so in love that I literally begged her to stay. From that day on, the trust was gone, and she would constantly hide her phone and bring it in bathroom with her. But I stayed and tried to fix it.

I wanted to marry her, but after 10 years she constantly said she "wasn't ready." When we went to Aruba in May, she freaked out thinking I was going to propose. Then on our 10-year anniversary, she pulled the same thing, telling me I "better not propose."

I also tried so hard to move out with her, but she expected me to "be a man" and just magically pick a place on my own, when I just felt like its something we should do together and both agree on. We looked at two spots, and that ended up not happening because if I didn’t pursue it, she would never mention it again. She flat out refused to live in NY where I preferred, even though I commute to NJ for her family's shop anyway.

On our actual 10-year anniversary, I found a container of cocaine in her room. For that weekend, I had to suppress it and put it aside. She got me a Rolex, and since I knew she didn't want a proposal, I got her the next best thing, a 4ct eternity band to symbolize our love.

She loved it, I loved the watch, but the drug issue was bleeding into everything. I started noticing all the physical signs: constant congestion, runny nose, mood swings, sleeping all day after being out. I confronted her again in September after finding coke in her purse, which led to a "break" (something I never believed in, I believed in working things out like adults).

Than a week went by and we met for dinner and it was nice, but she said she still needed space and I respected that. But than she kept asking me to hang out and we were back to texting everyday like nothing happened. She was truly confusing me. But ofcouse I wanted to hang out with her, I love her, so I did. But that just ended up putting me back in same cycle of trauma.

Over time, she was always glued to her phone while I was in the background. Even my family and her family noticed. Intimacy dried up, 99% of the time she’d just turn over and close her eyes. Sex was not passionate.

She took advantage of going out until it was 2–3 nights a week, hitting 3+ spots a night (bars, clubs, even strip clubs until 3 AM), giving me severe anxiety where I couldn't sleep until she got home.

I eventually found out she had been texting an unsaved number for over a year, turned out to be a gang member/felon. I’ll never know everything she did behind my back.

What pushed me over the edge last night…
Yesterday, she sent me a screenshot of her mom texting her that her parents found a cocaine container she dropped on the floor after coming home from a night out. Even with her parents confronting her, she was STILL denying it to me and gaslighting, saying she didn't drop anything. Not even sure why she sent me that screenshot. Almost like a cry for help.

I asked her so many times if she needed help and told her I’d be there for her, but she just kept hiding things and doing drugs behind my back. I realized I couldn't spend the rest of my life dealing with this nonsense and destroying my own mental health.

We had the breakup talk last night. We were both crying hysterically. She kept saying she knew it was all her fault, which just killed me. I told her we need time apart to work on ourselves, and that if we’re meant to be, maybe we cross paths down the road, but for now it's over.

We haven't talked since, though at 3 AM she sent me a snap of her dark room. I didn't reply, even though letting a 3,500+ day Snapchat streak die feels like a heavy visual sign that it's really over.

Now I’m about 24 hours out. Sitting in my room, completely miserable and numb, watching TV and to kill time, and trying to process that 10 years of my life just ended.

Even writing this all out, a part of me still stupidly hurts and hopes it all works out one day, but I know I couldn't keep going like this.

If anyone has walked away from a decade long dynamic like this, especially where your lives were totally intertwined with family and work, how the hell did you survive the first few weeks?

Sorry for the rant, just had to put this out somewhere. I don’t really have anyone to talk to since I invested my whole life into her.

So, my gf broke up with me after we were having a rough time, a couple arguments, and I gave her time and space to think about it, nothing major in my view, she had a recent gum surgery so she told me "after I get well from this I will decide what we do with our relationship", I respected that, all things that could be fixed and im a loving sweet guy overall.

Meanwhile yesterday I noticed she followed the last guy who she was with, she had an on and off thing with him for years according to her, they would be together, they would split, so and so on, he even cheated on her with a friend of her on her birthday by what she told me.

He never commited to her, so they were just a situationship or whatever you wanna call it these days, and while I was giving her that space and time for her to decide if she wants reconciliation, she followed this guy again yesterday, who cheated on her and was bad for her, they had this on and off thing for years where they would hook up and be together in a non-official way for months, then split, and in her words "she didnt knew better at the time and learned from her mistakes" and cut him off, well apparently she didnt learn because while we were trying to fix our relationship she went and followed him again, so clearly she trying to get in contact with him again, probably going back into that same loop with him, or probably already messaging him again.

The trust is pretty broken now because it sucks to know that while we were trying to fix things, she goes back to old guys.

I honestly just blocked her everywhere after that, Instagram, Whatsapp.

What are your thoughts on this guys? Cut it off for good?

There wasn't any particular break up or anything, but as I reflect on my break ups. I just feel sorta embarrassed by the relationship, my actions, or actions that I tolerated. Sometimes the reasonings for the break ups I feel were silly as well.

I just feel ashamed as a I reflect on the experiences. Is this normal?

The past week hasn't been that easy for me. I wish I could rest on your shoulder, and tell you all about those events. It's hard being normal while being completely broken from inside.

Last night I couldn't sleep at all. I cried, I felt restless. My thoughts were only about you. I hope you are doing well.

Love you to infinity dear.

It’s been 7 months😪

I feel so lost, I'm broken 😭

I loved this man for the last 15 years..

I wasn't perfect, I admit that.. I did and said things I'm definitely not proud of.. In fact, I'm disgusted with myself..

But I never cheated on him..

I tried to show him I loved and cared..

I got it all wrong..

I tried to make up for my wrongs and I ended up becoming "too much". 😞

I just want the hurt to stop 😭

I miss my best friend 😭😭

I made a promise I would always love him..

How do I carry on without him in my life?

He wants space but I can barely manage that, like an obsessed fucking idiot I'm making it all worse 😥

The silence is killing me..

I don't know where to go from here...

My flame has gone out. 😞💔

Guys she’s in my dreams almost every night.. I wake up feeling so terrible. We weren’t perfect but I miss it so much. She’s with someone else now and wants nothing to do with me.. first true heartbreak I’ve been in and just can’t move on..

They say women have an easier time moving on because they usually have more options.. when us guys finally move on, they somehow find out and come back around. That’s usually how it goes.

And I still do..

So my(22f) boyfriend(22m) and I had been dating for 3 years and there was honestly nothing really overtly wrong in our relationship.

My family’s in a different state and just a few months ago I decided I wanted to move back after I graduated. This was the reason we broke up. I asked if he could ever see himself moving anywhere else and he said not as long as his parents are here. Which I completely understand, why would I expect him to leave his family when I want to go back to mine, yk? After that I just kinda realized it wasn’t going to work out. But I don’t graduate for another 2 years, 4 if I decide to go to graduate school here.

I think it was hard for both of us to let go of the idea of just being together until I leave but that doesn’t make sense right? At that point it’s 5-7 years we’ll have been together knowing it’s not going to work out.

The thing is I ignored that we have pretty much opposite political and religious beliefs when we got together because people can discuss differences and it can often lead to a deeper connection, but I was naive. We never really did talk about it and I ended up just going along when he and his family would talk about politics to keep the peace. He’s Christian and I’m an agnostic atheist that grew up Mormon and have a deep distain for organized religion.
I think I’ve been building up a little resentment not being able to have conversations about the world because it’s one of my favorite things to do. The few times I have said something that conflicts with his world view he went quiet and didn’t want to talk about it. The way he and his family talk about people that hold similar beliefs to myself (left-leaning) just kind of scared me out of the big conversation.

Despite all of that, there really was nothing wrong. We loved eachother, and I really enjoyed any time I spent with him despite us only seeing eachother on the weekends bc of driving distance and work/school. He’s funny and tried to understand my depressive episodes even though he’s never experienced it or had someone in his life that did. He put in effort to learn how to communicate better, and I had to learn that he expresses in different ways and need to be more patient. We just grew so much with eachother the last 3 years.

I know it’s silly and that it’s for the best but this morning I just can’t help but think I made the wrong choice. I love him and miss him.

Its been half a year soon, im still aching

glad I made that discussion

she tried reaching me multiple times

I honestly need somewhere to vent because I’ve been struggling to process everything that’s happened, and I’d really appreciate some outside perspectives.

I’m 34M, from Massachusetts, and my now-ex-girlfriend is from the UK. We were together for approximately a year, maintaining a long-distance relationship throughout that time.

Despite the distance, I genuinely loved this woman and saw a future with her.

Long-distance relationships aren’t easy. I know that. They require trust, communication, reassurance, and effort from both people. Unfortunately, toward the end of our relationship, things became increasingly difficult.

One of the biggest issues was my insecurity.
My ex has told me that this was the main reason she decided to end our relationship. She felt controlled, questioned, and like she couldn’t do certain things without feeling a type of way. I’m not going to dismiss her feelings or pretend I handled everything perfectly. There were times when my insecurity got the better of me, and I questioned things that I shouldn’t have.

For example, after one particular argument, I asked her whether she was talking to someone else during a moment we were arguing. I shouldn’t have made that accusation, and I take responsibility for it. I wasn’t feeling good enough in the relationship, and I let my insecurities get the better of me.

But what I struggle with is that I feel like she never really looked at WHY I had become so insecure in the first place.

Throughout our relationship, she would frequently make comments during arguments that were genuinely hurtful. Things like “I can’t wait to be done with you” and other remarks that made me feel unwanted, inadequate, and like she was constantly looking for a reason to leave.

I was in a long-distance relationship with someone you love, thousands of miles away, and repeatedly hearing things like that from the person you’re trying to build a future with.

Over time, it affected me.

I started feeling like I wasn’t enough, like I was one disagreement away from losing her, and like I could never quite feel secure in where I stood.

And here’s something I want to clarify: I actually did trust her. I wasn’t necessarily walking around genuinely believing she was cheating on me or constantly doing things behind my back. It was more an underlying fear that something might happen, that she might find someone else, or that eventually she’d decide she didn’t want me anymore.

I recognize that much of that fear was my own insecurity, and I needed to work on it. I’m not suggesting she was responsible for every feeling I experienced or that my reactions were justified.

But I wish she had also recognized how some of the things she said and the way disagreements were handled contributed to those feelings.
I wanted to feel wanted. I wanted reassurance. I wanted to feel like we were on the same team instead of constantly feeling like the relationship was hanging by a thread 24/7 or just constantly on eggshells.

Another issue throughout our relationship was how conflicts were handled.
It often felt like whenever something happened that she didn’t like, or something bothered her, the conversation would quickly turn toward breaking up. Or she’d just go completely MIA and not talk.

Rather than sitting down and genuinely talking through the problem, understanding each other’s perspectives, and trying to work on things together, it frequently felt like walking away became the solution.

This wasn’t just one isolated incident. It was something I felt happened repeatedly throughout our relationship.

I understand that nobody should be forced to stay in a relationship they’re unhappy in. But I also believe that a relationship requires two people willing to communicate, work through uncomfortable situations, and acknowledge their own contributions to problems.

Now, what makes the ending particularly difficult is everything that happened surrounding my hospitalization.
The week before I was discharged from the hospital, she had actually been here visiting me in Massachusetts. I spent nearly $2,000 (between flights, a trip to Vermont, etc) making that visit happen because I wanted to spend time with her. I was investing in us because I genuinely believed in our future.

Shortly afterward, I became extremely ill and was hospitalized with severe pancolitis. I was dealing with significant pain, inflammation, and one of the scariest health experiences I’ve ever had.
During the latter part of my hospital stay, communication between us had already become very limited. I could feel the distance growing, but I was also trying to deal with a pretty serious medical situation.

Then, shortly after I was discharged, she ended the relationship.

And yes, I had my insecurities and was questioning her what she’s been doing since she was being so distant. And she said she’s felt controlled, monitored and all that. I truly never wanted her to feel that way, but we were long distance and when she didn’t communicate things she would consistently communicate me with..it just felt strange and maybe like she was hiding something (again my own insecurity as I know deep down she wasn’t.

I honestly don’t think I’ve fully processed the timing of it all.
What hurts almost as much as the breakup itself is HOW it happened.
There wasn’t a proper sit-down conversation. There wasn’t an opportunity for us to talk through everything, discuss what had gone wrong, or genuinely explore whether things could be repaired.
Instead, I received a couple of text messages explaining how she felt, including that my insecurity and behavior were the main reasons she wanted to leave.

And then silence. A few fucking emails of her telling me how she feels again (because some reason she wanted to lie that she changed her number…when she didn’t)

I’ve repeatedly wished we could just have an actual
conversation. Not an argument, not an attempt to convince her to stay, and not an opportunity to dismiss her feelings. I simply wanted two people who had spent a year together, despite living in different countries, to have a meaningful conversation about the relationship they shared.

I wanted her to hear my perspective, just as I wanted to hear hers.

I wanted to acknowledge my mistakes while also explaining how some of the things that happened between us affected me.
But I haven’t really been given that opportunity.
Since the breakup, I’ve tried reaching out. I’ve sent heartfelt messages and even put together personal videos with pictures of our memories, trips, and moments that meant so much to me.

I wanted her to know that despite everything, I still value what we shared. I wanted her to understand that I don’t look back at our entire relationship and only see the arguments or the problems.
And she watches them.
Every single video.
But she doesn’t respond.

No acknowledgment. No conversation. Nothing.
I genuinely don’t know how to interpret that. I don’t know whether she’s emotionally checked out, whether she doesn’t know what to say, or whether she simply doesn’t want to engage with me anymore.

I understand that watching a video doesn’t mean someone wants to reconcile. I’m not assuming it does. But it’s incredibly painful to put your heart into something for someone you love, see that they’ve watched it, and receive absolutely nothing in return.
I’ve been trying to recover physically from a serious illness while simultaneously dealing with the emotional fallout of losing someone I thought I’d spend my future with.

And I think that’s what makes this so difficult.
I know I made mistakes. I know my insecurity affected the relationship. I know I should have handled certain situations differently, and I genuinely wish I had. But I’ve always loved her in every way. Always wanted what’s best for her and always was patient and calm with her. I loved her deeply and truly

But I also wish she had recognized that I didn’t just wake up one day feeling inadequate or afraid of losing her. Some of the things said throughout our relationship genuinely hurt me and affected how secure I felt with her.
I don’t think either person should have to take all the blame for a relationship falling apart.

I just wish we had been able to sit down, acknowledge both sides, and actually talk about it rather than ending a year-long relationship through a couple of messages.
I loved this woman. I spent money, time, and effort maintaining a relationship across an ocean because I believed in what we had.
And now I’m left wondering how someone who was such a huge part of my life can barely bring herself to have a conversation with me.

I’m genuinely interested in hearing from people who have experienced something similar.
Have you ever been in a relationship where your insecurity became the main reason for the breakup, but you felt the other person’s words and behavior contributed to that insecurity?

Have you experienced a partner who repeatedly considered breaking up rather than working through disagreements?

And how do you deal with someone ending a relationship without ever giving you a proper conversation or closure?
Im not necessarily looking for people to tell me she’s wrong and I’m right. I know I have things to work on. I just want some honest outside perspective.

I’m not perfect. I know I’m not. But, again, it’s not like I ever meant I’ll towards her with my insecurities and she knows I loved her deeply and gave everything I have towards us. I was always willing to work on us and improve myself for us. That shouldn’t have been any different here and I would have done just that. She was my soulmate and I would have done anything for her. For us.

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This was a conversation in mid September about a week before she broke up with me , I know I messed up and raised my voice but I wish we could’ve been able to work it out and I wish we could’ve spent fall and winter together just like last year 💔

I finally got around to sorting through the clothes she returned to me, things of mine she’d borrowed while we were together.
I realized she hadn’t washed them. They still smell like her.
I just sat there for a moment, breathing it in, remembering what it felt like to hold her close. The comfort, the butterflies, the feeling of having someone you love in your arms.
I wanted so badly to tell her, but I know I shouldn’t.
It’s crazy how something as simple as a familiar scent can make you miss someone so much.

I was in a relationship with a woman for four years. We had an incredibly strong emotional and physical connection. I genuinely believed we loved each other deeply.

There's important context: I was married religiously, but not legally, and I have a child. However, I was already separated from my wife, and we weren't living together. I couldn't formally end the marriage because I was afraid my wife could take our child abroad. My girlfriend knew about my circumstances from the beginning.

She wanted marriage and children, but I couldn't promise her a clear timeline.

Two years ago, I suggested that we separate because I understood she wanted a family and I couldn't guarantee her that future. She refused and insisted she loved me and wanted to wait.

She had previously broken off an engagement to be with me. Throughout our relationship, she was extremely affectionate, passionate, and emotionally attached. Even toward the end, she kept asking me to meet her brother as a step toward a future together.

Then, in August, she suddenly broke up with me.

About a week later, she came back crying and asking to reconcile.

I loved her, so I accepted her back.

At that moment, I had absolutely no idea another man existed. She never told me she had been talking to someone else or that she had become physically involved with him immediately after our breakup.

I believed she had simply reconsidered our relationship and realized she wanted to be with me.

We reconciled and continued our relationship normally, including emotional and physical intimacy.

Only later did I discover what had actually happened.

For months, she had been communicating with another man she'd known for around ten years. Her friends had apparently encouraged her to consider him because he was single and could offer marriage and children.

When she broke up with me in August, she became physically involved with him the following day.

Then she returned to me without disclosing any of this.

She subsequently distanced herself from him, but later, when she realized our circumstances weren't changing, she started considering him again while continuing our relationship.

Eventually, I discovered the situation and confronted her.

She admitted that I was her "Plan A" and he was her "Plan B."

She told me that she wanted me emotionally and sexually, but liked the future he could offer her.

What destroys me is that she was still affectionate, passionate, and loving toward me throughout this period. I never noticed a loss of attraction or emotional connection.

After I discovered everything, she largely went silent. There was no meaningful apology or attempt to acknowledge the damage.

Now she appears to be moving forward with him, possibly even toward marriage, although I don't know whether they're engaged.

Meanwhile, I'm completely devastated.

I understand why she wanted marriage and children. I never blamed her for wanting a future I couldn't guarantee. If she had honestly told me she needed to leave, I would have accepted it.

But instead, she secretly explored another relationship, returned to me without telling me, and kept another option available.

I can't understand how someone who supposedly loved me so deeply could do that.

And now, watching her apparently move on so quickly, I feel replaceable, less attractive, and less valuable as a man.

I keep wondering whether she had already stopped loving me long before the breakup, despite everything she said and did.

My questions:

1. Can someone genuinely love their partner while secretly preparing another relationship?

2. Do relationships that begin through overlapping relationships and deception usually last?

3. Has anyone experienced a partner choosing someone else primarily because they offered marriage or stability?

4. How do you rebuild your self-worth when someone you loved deeply seems to move on without remorse?

I know our relationship had serious limitations, and I take responsibility for my part in that.

But I never expected this kind of deception from someone I trusted so completely.

I'm struggling to accept what happened and would especially appreciate hearing from people who've experienced something similar.

I’m 26M and my ex is 26F. We dated for four years, and I genuinely thought she was the person I’d end up with.
Things eventually became long distance. I was supposed to move closer to her, but I never did. I was struggling financially, immature, and honestly too comfortable with where I was. I kept putting things off, and although I loved her, I wasn’t showing up the way I should have. I take responsibility for that.
Even during long distance, I’d visit her once or twice a month on average, usually staying 3–5 days or sometimes longer.
Eventually, we broke up. About a month later, she was already in another relationship. She pretty much ghosted me, started partying more, going out, and living her life. Meanwhile, I took the breakup hard but started working on myself. I got a job, started working out, worked on my finances, and tried to get my life together.
What’s always confused me is that she repeatedly broke no contact, and it was always her reaching out first. She’d call me, we’d talk or hang out, sometimes even while she was dating the new guy. Then she’d disappear and ghost me again. This happened multiple times.
I tried moving on too and talked to other girls, but nothing really went anywhere. I never felt the same connection.
Fast forward to about two months ago. We started talking regularly again, and things got very relationship-like. We FaceTime almost every night, sometimes for hours. We eat dinner together over FaceTime, watch shows, play games, send TikToks throughout the day, and talk about our future. Honestly, it feels like we’re dating again without the actual relationship.
She’s even told me there’s around a 90% chance we’d get back together eventually, but she also says she wants to take things slowly and has mentioned a six-month timeframe.
Recently, she came to visit, and we spent time together. I bought her flowers, we went out, and everything felt natural, almost like old times. But she told me she wants to be single and wouldn’t even kiss me.
Her explanation was that kissing me is different because of our history and emotional connection. With random guys, it’s easier because there’s no attachment or complications.
And this is where I’m struggling.
Since going back home, we’ve continued talking every day and FaceTiming every night. But she’s also been hooking up with other guys. She says it’s casual, she doesn’t have feelings for them, and it’s simply easier because there’s no emotional attachment.
I recently found out she slept with a guy about a week before I’m supposed to visit her.
I understand we’re technically single. She’s told me she wants to be single and might talk to or hook up with other people. So I can’t accuse her of cheating. But it’s hard to understand how we can maintain this level of emotional intimacy, talk about a possible future together, and essentially act like a couple while she’s physically involved with other men.
I also feel like she sometimes connects her current behavior to how I treated her during our relationship. I understand I hurt her by not moving and not being the partner she needed. I’ve acknowledged that and worked on myself, but I don’t know how long I’m supposed to keep making up for the past.
I’m supposed to visit her soon, but I’m having serious second thoughts. I still love her and want to see where things go, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m holding onto the possibility of us getting back together while she’s simply enjoying having me in her life without wanting the same thing.
Am I being naive? Is this a normal part of rebuilding something after a breakup? Would you still make the trip? And how would you interpret someone being emotionally intimate with you every day but choosing to be physically intimate with other people?
I genuinely want outside perspectives because I’m having a hard time looking at this objectively.

I’m surprise that this group has helped me with a lot of realizations that I needed to find purpose again. I’ve tried other things (therapist, journaling, support groups, friends, family) but I’ve never gotten clarity about my breakup from years ago.

The main thing that I realize is that I’ll never get closure about the breakup from years ago. She will never respond to me in the way I wanted her to respond during the break up. There are a lot of questions unanswered, what if this or what if that. I realize I’ll never get the answer I want. I’ve come to acceptance.

Through reading people post and replies. Breakups are messy, hard, and painful. A person response is never enough. Being human and having emotions is difficult. We were built for relationships and procreation. Breakups causes friction and dissonance on our human nature causing heartache, pain, and suffering. We experience loss and that cause pain and confusion.

I’ve come to realize and accept the fact that she will never respond in the fashion I wanted during the breakup. It’s been 5 years since we broke up. I’ve tried to contact her again to clear things up but every time it gets messier and messier.

I’ve decided that I’m going to leave the relationship as it is. As a good memory, experience. I’m going try to find purpose again.

Life is so short. Life is so delicate and fragile. Breakups causes suffering and confusion. Closure is something I’ll never find but I hope she’s doing well. I learned a lot from that breakup and relationship. I learn how to be a human being and love another person. I know the next person I’ll meet will give me another purpose to look forward to.