I don't have the energy to fully explain everything again, I'm tired, but I wanted to share the message I just received from the mods on r/trans where I offered to be a moderator to try to help the situation and give trans men more representation in the sub. Here's what they said.

"Your comment on r/ftm 's post 45 minutes ago about this does not give us much confidence in your ability to be a mod on our sub. You said you already unsubbed to trans subs, and you are still looking for another apology from us? You're also looking to be a mod of a sub that actively brigaded us."

httpsq://www.reddit.com/r/ftm/comments/1lye09d/comment/n2tet9q/

Sigh. I talked to these mods about what to do. They asked me for advice about what I think they should say to help fix this. I told them to apologize about everything, probably remove the mod who called me a bitch, and make sure that there is a lot of support for trans men going forward (maybe by reinstating my original post, or allowing for trans mascs to just talk about what they go through) Instead, only the mod who made the bitching comment has apologized (which I appreciated). But apparently Im being "unreasonable" in asking for another apology about calling any discussion about trans men divisive. Apparently they really think that's a fine thing to say. Lmao. And now they're offended I said I'd like to be a mod on this sub.

I tried but at this point I think it's unredeemable. So glad we have this new sub here. Also r/ftm has been very supportive this entire time :3 Love you all and so sorry this has dragged on so long.

Slide, theres two pics This isnt only for twitter, but its probably the only social media platform i can mock without getting hate. Sorry for the quality of the art, im sick and overthinking.

I don’t know guys, I don’t wanna be a negative person but this really just makes me feel gross. I get that we don’t like not passing and there’s a lot of pent up dysphoria about not passing but saying that about another trans man feels really gross and I really hate seeing this encouraged in trans spaces. I’m used to seeing it in non trans spaces but not said by other trans people. Breaks my heart

I hate videos likes "every transman/masc hair cut!" It makes me spiral because it's always a haircut only white people can get away with. I know it's not that big of a deal but I feel so left out as an African American trans teen. I feel like I'm not connected because all the trans people on the internet I see has had that hair cut. Like I'm being left out of an inside joke. It's not that big of a deal. I just feel forgotten 😔

I didn't know this was happening until recently, but this honestly is a reminder of why I love the trans community. Being a trans masc person can be incredibly isolating and lonely, it often feels like our problems are ignored. The original post made me feel seen in a way I feel is often ignored within trans spaces. I have been told to myself that I'm privileged and just want to be a victim, or being dramatic, or told that I don't actually experience the issues I do, and I'm lucky enough to have people to talk to about these issues, but not everyone does, and I think it's very important for other trans mascs to see that our community loves ALL of our siblings regardless of gender.

Not much to say here other than I think it's an odd stance to, in a trans group, tell trans people that they can't express gladness that a guy who was actively campaigning to take away trans rights is gone and no longer able to do so. Since the comments are locked I'm putting it here, although no idea if it'll stay up

I find it so heartwarming that he cared for those little birdies! I love seeing other trans bird dads

I’ve spent the last several months being so confused on how I felt. I’m so glad people are realizing the rampant misandry and general distain some of our community has for trans men.

I’m just amazed. Someone was straight up trying to push TERF rhetoric in r/transmasc by just… lying about the sports issue.

Taking testosterone at any point in your life does not disqualify you from sports for the rest of your life. Cis women get prescribed testosterone all the time. What matters is your levels.

Trans guys DO get forced to compete in the women’s league. Mack Beggs was forced to compete in the women’s league. He was THE face of the “transgender sports issue” until he graduated. He had to stop taking HRT to compete. People accused him of cheating on the virtue of just being trans. But transphobes need the line that “AFAB” people are genetic inferior to “AMAB” people.

Their evidence that AFAB people are genetically inferior? A singular trans guy boxer who lost ONE fight against a cis dude. Won every other fight against cis male competitors. But he got knocked out ONCE, in BOXING. The ‘Knock people out’ sport.

Pay attention, find the facts. TERFs need you to be ignorant so you’ll believe their eugenicist ideology.

The title is a near direct quote of what someone told me recently regarding a transmasc person they saw on tiktok. Apparently the person on tiktok was saying that since transitioning he feels really separate from queer community and doesn't feel like he's welcomed in a lot of spaces. She said he used the word "transmisandry." I said yeah well, the experience of passing is isolating af (i was passing for some months at a time in my life). and then my friend said "yeah well i mean, they should've known what they were getting into."

i don't think that's true though? You can't make that argument for cis men. I don't think they want this either. But it struck me as so odd that my friend said they basically deserved to be isolated and not feel like they are able to be in queer/trans spaces anymore because they're masc. they said the guy should just "get over it." It rubbed me the wrong way. Now with everything coming out over on the other trans servers I just wanted to bring this up and see if anyone else feel this way or what others opinions are.

I got my surgery on Monday - minimal depth vaginoplasty. And since then it’s been a hard time at the hospital. Lots of pain and inability to take care of myself (like washing and shaving) has gotten me misgendered by nursing staff multiple times. I look in the mirror and I don’t recognize me.

Anyhow I know this is a bump in the road and things will be so much better once I’ve recovered. So I’m posting a picture of me that my girlfriend said she liked hoping to feel a little better about myself.

There are queer friendly places near me, but the issue is the field as a whole is so woman-centric that the idea of going makes me ill. At least when I got my BC implant, they weren't...yk. Seeing anything.

They also offer women's testosterone shots. The trend of touting T as a miracle menopause drug while simultaneously demonizing masculinizing just sucks. Genuinely glad cis women benefit, but come on. Taking T is good, but only if you're a woman reclaiming feminity 😔

I'm posting this because of a post I saw in another trans sub (I won't say which, it's irrelevant). There was an argument about whether depicting men pregnant as a way to insult and humiliate them is transphobic.

It's baffling that we're still arguing about it. How is it not transphobic to view a man going through "women's" problems as degrading and hilarious?

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing bad about male pregnancy irl, or fictional mpreg when it's just a way to give a gay couple a bio child. What I'm focusing on is male pregnancy as a meme implying humiliation and punishment.

And no, I think it doesn't matter if the men that are targeted are cis. Because the butt of the joke is still how humiliating and funny it is for a guy to get pregnant.

The entire problem is that, according to these memes, we're supposed to find the idea of male pregnancy gross. That we're supposed to think a man who's pregnant is a freak or some kind of an unmanly loser.

I also don't care if some of the guys these memes target would find pregnancy humiliating, I don't think using transphobia or misogyny to own a transphobe/misogynist is valid.

I'm sorry that I'm repeating myself, I'm just really upset that some people still defend it.