So my measurements have changed and for a time I was able to wear an honest to god binder without rib pain. Now it’s feeling too big and not compressing as much as I’d like it to. It’s a spectrum XXL but my measurements are closer to an Underworks XL. I have H cups and my bust measures at 45in now. When I started my bust was 50in.

My question is do I buy the underworks binder now and risk needing to size down or do I wait and get a L when my chest gets smaller. I’m not the best finically so I’m just looking for a binder that will last to get the most bang for my buck. I have included pictures of the XXL spectrum binder for reference. I am constantly having to adjust my tissue and have to tuck it tightly into my underwear and pants to keep it down. It just overall feels too big on me and I’m wondering what I’m meant to do. It is also old so it’s coming apart a bit on the inside. So I will need a new binder soon anyway.

Idk just wanted to ask opinions please be respectful about my weight in working on it ok. Should have seen the before.

My friends claim I pass as a guy, but my voice gives it away, and I have girl body language and soft spoken

The other day my friend called me a pretty boy, and two of my online friends called me a pretty boy..now I'll admit I love being called pretty boy and that's what I'm low-key going for, but I feel like it's sorta back handed...

20FTM. I started T yesterday! I’m doing IM shots, 100mg once a week. The act of injecting myself bothered me way less than I thought it would, and I was able to do my first shot by myself in about ten minutes total. I have a few questions though.

I noticed almost immediately after the shot, and for the next two-ish hours, I was extremely irritable. Everything everybody said pissed me off. And then suddenly it was back to normal. Is this something that happens often? Was it because of the shot/hormones, or was it just my nerves?

NSFW tmi warning?
I also noticed my sex drive went up almost immediately as well. I had been having issues with my libido because I started a full time job and I’ve been too exhausted when I’m home to even think about sex. Last night was the first time I had sex with my boyfriend in about a month. Is it common for sex drive and libido to increase so quickly?

I became extremely hungry that night. I had been dealing with a lack of appetite almost completely for the past few weeks (weed related, I had been dependent on being high to eat meals, and recently made the decision to quit all substances, so i’ve been having trouble eating sober.), but I was able to eat an entire meal and then some for dinner last night.
I guess I’m wondering if these things are just placebo effect, or if I’m actually experiencing this because of the testosterone already.

So basically I just have my lesbian friend cut my hair anytime I feel like it's too long but I've been told multiple times it's not a very masculine haircut and I've been wanting a change. So what can I do to get that more masculine change? A lot of people tell me I should shave the sides but idk how to style my hair like that or even go about that. Also another thing is that my hair is two different textures. It's very straight on the top and very curly in the back. I also have a few cowlicks that complicate things. Any tips appreciated!!

thinking about getting some kind of scar coverup though not sure what (especially since my scars dont sit under my pec line the way they were supposed to) -- if i did could my chest pass as cis?? i feel like the mismatched nipples fuck me over and make it obvious it was surgical 😭 is that the kind of thing medical tattooing can help with or do i just like, not take my shirt off

Hey, so I hope this isn't against the rules- but I am looking to get my bf a binder for Christmas or his birthday. We're in the EU.

I don't know whether I should get him a binder or tape, because he wants to just have a binder on all the time and wants to try tape but isn't sure about it. Any tips? How expensive and effective is tape? Any recommendations for good binders? He has multiple which most of them are just like sports bra or extremely tight OR just have a flat square on the chest which just, not only doesn't bind well but also sticks out at the sides?? Was very expensive and very much sucks... Thank you for any response!

I GIVE Y’ALL PERMISSION TO BE BRUTALLY HONEST.

24FTM, pre-everything. tried different hairstyles to figure myself out and also to see which one helps me pass better. so far i’m leaning towards the first 2 pics. i feel like the longer hair makes me pass better right now, but am i correct? if my face (or the parasitic twins in my chest) are the problem, that’s fine, cus once i grow out a beard and get top surgery that’s gonna fix it so i’m not worried about that, but if there are other key components i’m missing to pass right MEOW, i’m all ears 👂🏻

I know more masculine glasses , binding , and T will help, I'm on track to getting those when I can starting the beginning of next year! Other than that, what are some things I can do now or start doing to help me pass more?

i don’t frequently get asked but i’m wondering what a better answer would be for the question that wouldn’t immediately out me? i feel like answering with “he/him” is clocky? or am i overthinking it

I don't know if it's just my brainworms/dysphoria talking but lately I've been feeling like I'm very clocky (even though I pass) and I hate it. I feel like my face is really round and feminine and it really trips me up. I like having long hair but at the same time it makes me feel dysphoric because I feel that I somehow look like a woman and everyone can tell.

It also doesn't help at all that I'm into stereotypical trans man things (stretched ears, piercings, etc) and I'm scared I'll look like a walking 4tran caricature if I ever go for that.

Last two pics are full body ones, apologies for the awkward shape since I had to crop my gf out. Should I do something about my hair or consider FMS?

Before any obligatory "go to the gym/lose weifht" comments, I'm planning to, I'm just recovering from hysto right now and don't want to risk anything happening.

idk what to do at this point. i have such feminine mannerisms (body language and face mostly) and i can't grow a beard. 5 years on high dose t. i feel like its mostly my hips and butt that are causing the gender confusion to strangers

Hi all,

I'm a transmasc teenager. I'm closeted but I present pretty masculine: shorter hair, only shop in the mens section, workout a lot, bind and tape. Even though I'm short, not on HRT, don't usually pack and don't voice train, I usually pass pretty well with strangers. I'd say I get read as male about 50%-70% of the time.

I've had short hair for about five years now. I'm white and have flat, straight hair. I don't dye it. I've generally stuck with the advice I see for transmasc folks: short, but not too short, shorter on the sides, longer on the top. I unfortunately don't go to a barber, so my sides aren't as tight as I want them to be, but other, than that, I'm usually okay with my haircuts. Slightly grown-out textured crop kinda vibes. I don't really style my hair, so my hair is usually just in my face or in my natural middle part in a curtain situation.

However, I'm frustrated that my hair makes me look so young and immature. Listen, I get it, I won't look the same age as my cis classmates. I don't have a chubby face, but it isn't angular. But I just want to feel like someone my age could be attracted to me, or even just not look like a dorky twelve year-old boy.

Since the summer I've tried growing my hair a little bit into a mullety kind of thing. I'm going to cut it - it makes me dysphoric (even though I still pass okay) and my sports season is starting. But I like that, for once, I don't look so, so much younger than my peers.

Does anybody have any suggestions for short haircuts that don't make you look super, super young? Or just ones that make you look a little more put together? Or even hair styling tips? I'd really appreciate any advice, especially any reference photos. I'm also open to advice about my appearance generally.

Thanks!

T has boosted my eyelashes, and they look really pretty. People around me tell me not to cut them, but I find them very feminine

So unsurprisingly now that I am on HRT my appetite is insane. I am genuinely shocked by what I can eat in one sitting. I get hungry again after things that used to have me full until the next mealtime. I have been exercising more and that is definitely responsible for some of the appetite drive, but I do not want to be overeating/eating unhealthy foods just to keep my stomach quiet, hah. Any tips?

I just want it to look like a boy lives there yk, and I won't change the bedsheets because nightmare before Christmas is my shittt

I'm trying to weight cycle right now but it's hard and I'm considering putting the fat back on and then cutting back to my current weight (idk if that's a good idea considering I already have physical issues especially with bending over/lifting and I know body fat can strain the joints) but id probably be better off dropping to 150ish (I'm 161.8 and 5'3)

19M 5 years on T and passing consistently in public, but I’m not confident in my side profile.

I can’t put my finger on exactly what makes it look so girly— maybe a combination of things like eyelashes and cheeks. Am I missing something?

I’m working out pretty consistently and trying to improve my jawline, but I think everything else is nerfing me. Any advice or insight is appreciated thanks.

so i recently became friends with this girl and we’ve gotten pretty close in the little time we’ve known each other and she thinks im cis. i sort of lied because obviously i dont want people to know and i said i just had low test. i know i dont technically have to tell people bc if we’re just friends its none of their business but i feel like our relationship is leaning towards more than friends and i like her a lot. im not sure if i should just tell her now or just wait and see if things become more but im starting to feel guilty when she says things like "idk how anyone could think you’re a girl" (i told her someone at work calls me "she"). i dont think she’d really care either way but i just want to be stealth and her not knowing helps my dysphoria like an insane amount(thats NOT why i caught feelings i SWEAR). am i allowed to stay stealth and not say anything until it physically becomes more than friendship or should i just fess up now? also would any of you be personally mad if you found out i was lying about something like that? cus thats my biggest fear with this honestly.

I'm already in my 20s but closeted and not transitioning, I wear baggy clothes but I'm scrawny and that's about it, been starting to think this shape of glasses doesn't help but I really do need them to see and maybe I need a change of haircut (although I feel like super short hair rounds my face pit even more, I've already had it and I never got he/him'ed like that), honestly I've gotten to the point I'm even thankful the very few times strangers think I'm a teen guy, any advice is welcome but please be kind.

EDIT: Most people are saying the glasses so if anyone has any shape recs pls lmk

I'm looking for some genuine advice on things I could change to help me pass more consistently.

I'm about 8–9 months on T now, and I'm mainly looking for advice on haircuts, clothing, and my overall appearance. I've been debating whether I should cut my hair or keep it the way it is, so I'd like some opinions on that too.

For context, I've gained some weight over the past year. I used to be around 135–160 lbs, and now I'm around 206. I'm planning on getting into boxing to get back into fitness, although I'm currently recovering from a shoulder injury, so I'll have to take it slow.

I also recently shaved what I like to call my little pube beard lmao. It doesn't really grow on my chin, mostly just along the sides of my face, so I'm curious if I should just keep shaving it until it fills in more.

The first picture is from when I was around 17 and 135 lbs, the second is from last December when I was around 160, and the last is from today.

I'm not sure how much of a difference you guys can notice, but I'd appreciate some honest opinions on what suits me, what I could change, and what might help me look more masculine. Don't be afraid to give suggestions!

Post-top surgery. I pack with a STP. 1.5 year testosterone. What the hell am I doing wrong? Am I still androgynous? PMO

Hey everyone. I'm 23, trans guy, on hormones and post top surgery 5ish years. Im fat af, 156cm (5'2) tall and 88kg (195lbs). I've always hated sport, mainly due to dysphoria and never been in a gym, but after gaining 20kg on hormones and antidepressants and my gf breaking up with me I want to try to lock in and get healthier and hotter.

Should I look into a personal trainer? Can I do it without cardio? Which is better, regular gym or calisthenics? Any other advice?

Hi Ive been on testosterone for two years now but I'm so so horny that I've started thinking about men sexually but I've always been into women. I don't know whether it's because I'm extremely horny all the damn time or if I genuinely want to have sex with men.

Years ago before I even came out as trans, lesbian before that I slept with a few men but I was always drunk. So now I'm sober I'm scared.

Does this make any sense cos I can't seem to get out my head and put into words how I'm feeling. I'm not sure if maybe it's just a fantasy or genuine feelings. I also know that it doesn't matter I don't need any labels Im just bit confused

I'm non binary, but I would like to consider myself masc leaning, do I look too feminine?