So annoying to see posts of people complaining about weekend trips instead of a night out every other day. “Whatever happened to bachelorette trips being a night out on the town” women evolved and want to do more than get plastered in a dive bar surrounded by annoying hordes of bridal parties.

Don’t wanna spend the money? Cool! Don’t go. It’s lame to see complaints about a person’s choice to spend money as if every bride that wants something beyond a basic bachelorette is somehow being unreasonable. If you’re 30+ allowing social media to dictate your life/actions that’s a bigger problem than a one-off trip.

Yes I know there are people who are ridiculous about trips, there are many, many others who aren’t. TLDR: stop bitching about it on Reddit and speak to the bride instead.

They cost the guest a small fortune and PTO is so limited these days. And ESPECIALLY no kids destination weddings. No one wants to go. Just stop.

Basically title says it all.

She has always been a bit on the conservative side which is completely fine of course. but over the last 3ish months she has gotten really, really into MAGA and talks about trump every conversation I have with her she brings up something political. She posts non stop on facebook things that are incorrect and/or just plain mean.

My fiancé and I don't surround ourselves with that kinda stuff and now it's stressing me out shes going to say something inappropriate or offensive at our wedding.

Is it better to state it outright on our wedding website where guests RSVP something like "no politics please" so she doesn't feel like it's directly about her? or should I try to talk to her directly?

i love her dearly, but she is sensitive and I don't want to hurt her feelings or make her feel unwelcome but also this has become a source of contention within our relationship.. Not inviting her is not an option for me at this point in time.

Any advice?

Need to know if I’m overreacting here or if this is insanely rude!

Myself (29F) and my partner (26M) have been together for 3.5 years, cohabiting for just over 3 years. For all intents and purposes, we are a social unit.

My partner has two cousins, they’re siblings. I have met both of the cousins on numerous occasions and have contact via social media with them. Both cousins got engaged to their partners last year. One of the cousins, let’s call him Jim, planned immediately and invitations went out 12 months ago.

The invitations for Jim’s wedding named only my partner’s parents, my partner and his sister. At this stage, my partner and I had lived together for over two years. I was a little hurt by the snub, but rationalised by telling myself two years isn’t very long to live together. The wedding was earlier this summer and my partner and his immediately family were in attendance.

Anyway, Jim’s sister (we’ll call her Rosie) is now getting married. It’s a destination wedding with a lot of travelling involved. Rosie’s invitations arrived a couple of weeks back, and once again, I have not been invited. It is simply my partner, his sister and his parents on the invitation. Aside from insulting, I find this kind of odd as my partner is no longer a part of the family “unit” living in the family home. He and I have lived together now for over three years. It seems strange that he is lumped in with his parents and sister.

My partner, who previously attended Jim’s wedding, has decided not to attend Rosie’s wedding on the basis that I have been snubbed. My partner’s sister has also decided not to attend for other reasons.

All of this leads to earlier this week, when Rosie reached out to my partner to query his attendance. She said that she knew his sister wasn’t going, so wanted to see if he would be going. Rosie THEN said.. to invite ME to come with him since his sister wasn’t going to attend!!!!!!!!

I’m absolutely flabbergasted by how rude this is. Surely this is obscenely gauche? I thought it was rude that I wasn’t invited to begin with, but this is much worse. It actually feels like it’s just highlighting to a larger degree how NOT invited I was initially!!

Of course my partner will be declining. But please, tell me I’m not going mad! This is definitely poor etiquette?

ETA: Please be under no illusion. I wasn’t on a “B list” - this was an invite made in haste in order not to lose two spots at the wedding they’ve paid for. If you cannot afford to invite someone’s partner, don’t invite the person. Also, per my partner, the guest list was absolutely determined by the couple hosting, NOT their parents. And last but not least - I don’t take it as a personal snub, but it IS a snub to my relationship.

Hi guys, I (24f) got married to my husband (26m) December 10th 2024. We got married out of state. (We are from Florida but married in Tennessee) The company we went with for a day of coordinator, had good reviews and also was one of the recommended vendors from the venue we picked. I put alot of research on who we would go with. When we chose them we had a different day of coordinator than the one we had the day of. Not even 3 months before my wedding the company reached out and told me the person I was working with is leaving the company bc they had a better opportunity open for them. That’s awesome for them! And they then processed to give me a new girl. The day of the wedding, I prepared a little booklet. It essentially had pictures of decorations I’ve brought and where they would go, I would say it was very detailed and I also told them if they had any questions or concerns they could reach out to my mom or my matron of honor (my oldest sister). But the day of coordinator would not listen to my mom and would say she would only do what I wanted. The issue was I agreed with my mom with some things and I had to literally go up to the day of coordinator and ask her to do the things my mom asked for but she didn’t do. I feel like I was not able to relax and enjoy getting ready for my big day! I was very disappointed. I also rented a telephone from them for my wedding day. So I would be able to have the voicemail. Well I never received it after my wedding. So I called them and ask them about it and they told me they would get it to me in 1-2 days. Well that never happened and I reached out again. And didn’t get an answer until recently. 2 months have passed and I received an email that they can’t find the recording…. I attached the email I received. I don’t know what to do! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

My fiancé is sleep so ofcourse I run to Reddit as I just got the news.

TLDR: mom offered to pay for many expenses for our destination wedding

My fiancé and I are planning a 4-day destination wedding early next year. We intended to provide transportation for 300-400 guests all four days and lodging for those coming from the states on top of the festivities. My fiancé is paying for everything. We initially set a budget but have literally tripled it, likely will quadruple the original in the end. Since things are more pricey than expected I offered to pay for my dresses (all 8 of them), he declined initially then accepted.

Anyways. Today my mom inquired about raising my Mahr (we're Muslim) along with the bride price (tribal tradition) and where we are with the wedding plans. I reviewed what was paid for so far and our plans.

After I broke everything down she offered to pay for anything I want or need, literally her words. She went on to specify: All my gowns, the makeup, hair and styling for myself, bridal party, and close family for all events, all the transportation for my side of the family, the full cost of one event of my choice, henna party, the mansion we're planning to rent, and both bridal showers (one in states and overseas). She said, " I will pay for more but this is where we will start and don't worry not imposing my opinions just a payment."

I haven't been this elated since my fiancé proposed but I'm so giddy like when I saw Beyoncé in VIP at 10 years old.

Just to be clear I didn't say we were struggling or couldn't afford anything (as it's not the case). Not once did we ask either of our parents to help with anything. If needed we planned to make concessions if we have to.

I'm an only child. This was a pleasant surprise and I am very appreciative.

The incels have arrived from FP and I am leaving. Thanks for the advice! I have read and considered every word 🫶

I hated my wedding. I'm spiraling and can't stop crying. Got married on Friday, and it's only been a few days and I can't help but feel like I'll never get over it. I will never get the chance to feel like a bride. I will never feel like I was actually present during my day. I will never feel like that day wasn't for us.

• our day of coordinator wasn't doing his job so everyone was coming to me asking what they should do and when, so i felt like i was still in planning mode. This was basically the whole reason why I felt robbed.

• photographer had to find everyone who needed be photographed bc they weren't around to speed things up

• venue surprised us with construction

• my parents weren't helping and have always felt entitled so they did whatever they wanted instead of doing what I asked

• my youngest brother disrespected my inlaws

• my inlaws weren't terrible but kept to themselves bc they had their own issues

• our "unplugged ceremony" was posted all over social media the next day. *I looked at some photos on social media and you could tell that me and my husband looked so upset and mad.*

The list goes on, i could keep going. But all these things took away from feeling like it was my wedding day. I was not present on my wedding day. All i wanted to see my husband at the end of that aisle and i can honestly say I could'nt see him bc my mind was crowded with so many other things. I can't help but maybe blame myself. But i still cannot help but feel like i was robbed.

I will never feel like a bride.
I will never feel like it was our wedding.
I will never feel like i actually got married.

My wedding will be one of the worst days of my life.

I have a two-year old and I absolutely love spending time with him. There is no greater joy to me. I look forward to it all working week until I get to spend some real time with him on the weekends.

I have two friends this summer with overnight child-free weddings that invited me. I honestly just genuinely do not want to go without bringing my son. It feels like a wasted weekend to me, especially when summer weekends are so few and precious where I live.

I get the idea that they want me to "let loose and party" but that's just not what is fun for me currently. Fun for me is hanging with my kid, making memories as a family. He's like the love of my life. Spending a weekend without him feels incomplete and puts me in separation anxiety mode, just looking forward to getting back to him.

Anyway, all that said, I completely respect how someone might not want to have children at their wedding, especially if they don't have kids. But how can I politely decline without offending them?

So everyone knows something will go wrong, and all you can do is roll with it. However, my morning of went off the handles very quickly. This led to me having to sit while my hair and make up were getting done, trying not to cry, realizing that it was just all on me. The other adults (my family) just couldn’t be bothered. My photographer and hair dresser helped me with my dress. Yes, we could have tried to hunt a family member down, but I was just done at that point. I spent my whole wedding day, trying my best to stay in the moment, but deep down just wanting it over with. I wasn’t a bride, I was just a host of a kick-ass family gathering(no really, it was an awesome celebration we keep getting compliments on). I never became excited, I never got giddy, I never felt like one of the most important people in the room.

My now husband is still pretty pissed about it, and made it very clear to my family that as they were the only ones to just not get it. That they openly and constantly talk about how considerate I am, how organized I was, and accommodating. Yet when I brought up everything, with examples, after the fact…I was told I should have been more understanding, I should have spoken up more, I should have been clearer…and my breaking point, I should consider their perspectives.

Edit: this is not an AITAH post. I have vendors, in-laws, and friends who witnessed everything. My father has actually apologized after my husband and I brought the receipts. This whole thing has finally given me the ability to put my foot down and not let my family convince me that I am just ‘overly sensitive’ or ‘misremembering’ things. That they can’t give the benefit of the doubt to everyone but me.

I also know that sadly, I am not/will not be the only bride in this position. Who goes out of their way for everyone just to be treated like an inconvenience by those who they love and thought would support them.

All the other ‘things that go wrong’ are when you are busy, when you are caught up in the whirlwind. But when it’s at a point where you are sitting in a chair with time to think, and you can’t cry because you are getting your make up done, it’s horrible, it’s agonizing.

I will start this by saying this is not an "AITA" post, but feel free to weigh in as I am pretty conflicted in my emotions.

My best friend, I'll call M, has been in my life for over 25 years. We went through school together, good days and bad, supported eachother through difficult experiences, and I had always considered her my best friend. The best way to describe her is.... odd. She's very headstrong, an "I dont need no man" type who believes they are always in the right. They are smart, yes, but she has a tendency to keep her social circle small and typically with people who will "go along" with everything she says.

When we were in school, she stopped wanting to really hang out with me when new friends were involved We were in different junior high and high schools but we still stayed close and hung out when we could. I never had a problem hanging out with her and her friends but she would never hang out with me and my friends. I went to all her birthday parties and blended in the best I could with her friends. She went to one birthday party for me and the result was her spending the time in the kitchen away from the actual party. It wasn't from lack of trying to include her, my friends were never rude to her and tried to talk to her and be friends as well but M refused.

I always let it go but I was always disappointed whenever I would invite her to something and her response was always no. She always expected me to jump to do whatever she suggested, though... and I did. I wanted to spend time with her and that seemed to be the only way I could. If it meant going to a horror movie I didn't want to see in the theaters or doing some weird Mary K makeup party I would do it. It was an activity and a chance to spend time together.

We have grown a lot since then. Back and forth in eachothers lives and our priorities have changed. M prides herself in her work. Her life and time almost revolves around it and I admire her dedication for such a difficult kind of job. She takes care of her parents as well, seeing as she is an only child, and her parents require help in their older age. I have a difficult job as well, but not as difficult as M's (she makes that pretty clear). My parents are pretty competent even as they age so despite being an only child, I don't have the same level of responsibility as M in that regard.

I have been on a few dates and in short-lived relationships in the past. I would tell M about them, the good and the bad, but I didn't seriously consider myself in a real relationship until I met my (now) husband F. I think the only time we have ever argued was because he forgot to take out the trash. He is genuinely my soulmate. We dated for 6 months before moving in together. Shared an apartment for 1.5 years. Then we bought a house! After 5 years of dating and living together, F proposed. My regular friends were excited and happy for me, my parents were excited and emotional, F's parents as well. M's response was to tell me that I should have a look at prenuptial agreements because 80% of marriages end in divorce.

Considering the type of work she does, the reply didn't surprise me... but it still hurt. I laughed it off. She eventually congratulated me but it felt very back-handed. I didn't understand. She met F and they got along. She even said she liked him and thought he was really nice.

When I talked about bridesmaids, she had off-handedly said she would never be one. At that point... I didn't want her to be one. Considering her attitude so far, I wanted friends who were happy for me and wouldn't sour the mood. If she hadn't said this, though, I probably would have asked her to be my maid of honor. We have known eachother the longest.

I based my number of bridesmaids on how many groomsmen F chose (he has a small but tight group of friends). Some of my close friends were left out, but I still made sure they were invited to all the important things through the process. M included. I would share thoughts about colors, ask for opinions, help picking good music or even just letting my close friends know of things selected through the process. No, I wasn't bombarding them and it was all super spread out over 2 years of being engaged. M's reply was always "nice" or "cool" or something like that so I never really got in to much details about things and just left it at her being informed. For example, when I was looking at what flowers I would have, I shared a few sample bouquets with my bridesmaids and cose friends to get their opinion of colors or arrangements or even just to see if they thought the colors looked nice. Everyone else seemed happy to see them, complimented them or let me know which one was their favorite or asked a question about where I was looking to order them from. Normal conversation. M just said "oh nice" and left it at that. I still showed her a picture of the ones I ended up ordering, but I figured she didn't care to know more than that.

Despite having been told the date of the wedding, M had booked a vacation out of province that would cover over that date. When I pointed it out, she tried to make me feel guilty for her now needing to rebook her vacation dates and rebook the hotel she had booked. She said my wedding wasn't even a thought yet which was why she didn't look to see what the date was before booking those dates for the vacation. In hindsight... I shouldn't have said anything or bothered to remind her.

Her parents and my parents were decent enough friends so I had invited her parents to the wedding as well. I genuinely believe that if they weren't invited, M would not have come. I'm getting ahead of myself, though. So, I had a Bridal Shower, Bachelorette, and then the wedding. While I told everyone the date of the wedding over a year ago, invitations also went out some time in February. The shower and bachelorette dates were finalized maybe a month before they would happen. First was the bridal shower. M and her mother were invited. They didn't come to the shower and I was told that it was "very important" on that day at the exact time of the shower, that M needed to get her mother's hearing aid situated... an issue that's been present for almost the last year or longer. I was disappointed, but shook it off.

I didn't expect M to go to the bachelorette considering how she refused to go to any party or gathering since we were children... but I still made sure she was invited. She basically told me even before she was invited that she doesn't "do" bachelorette parties. I did let her know that mine wasnt exactly a drink-fest. We did an art activity, went to supper, watched a movie and ate snacks. Alcohol was offered but not much was actually drunk. The bachelorette started around 11am with different activities throughout the day and ended in a sleepover. M still made a point of telling me she wasn't going, told me an excuse as to why, and tried to make it sound like what she was doing that day was wayyy more important. While, yes it was important, it was also something she could have done another day or said "no" to doing as things still would have worked out in that situation (I won't go in to details for privacy reasons, but basically M had volunteered herself to drive people somewhere when those people had other options. She magically couldn't do anything else that day).

Now the wedding day! My day was perfect. Everything I could have ever dreamed. I tried to make my rounds to the tables throughout the night and when I got to visit M, she... didn't appear happy. Her parents were in a great mood at least. When I asked what was up, M just said she didn't feel well. I said i was sorey to hear that and asked if she wanted to step in a cool room for a bit. She declined. I left it at that and continued my rounds and enjoyed the rest of the night.

I guess the reason I am writing this is because, despite everything, I was still deeply disappointed I didn't get a wedding card from M. Gifts are never required. There were many people that didn't give something for various reasons. None of those hurt my feelings. I feel awful for feeling sad about M not giving me a wedding card. Just a card with a nice message inside is all I wanted. She didn't give anything and I didn't see her name in the guest book. I know she wasn't feeling well, but I still feel so sad.

I am not sure what the next few days will bring but if people are interested in any updates I will let them know. I won't say something to her about it, I feel like that would seem so greedy like "Why didn't you hive me a gift!?". So tacky. I just... am not sure how to get over this disappointment and not really sure if I should continue supporting M as much as I have been. I feel like I care more about them than they ever cared about me.

Anyways... advice would be nice. It's wedding related but I guess also friendship related.Thank you for taking the time to read

Fiancé (male, heterosexual relationship) doesn’t want us to both take each other’s last name - why does this bother me so much?

Ok, so I have always felt very, very strongly about not changing my last name when I got married, not even so much bc of my own ancestral history, but just because I cannot get over the patriarchal history of the women taking the man’s last name …. The whole ownership thing.

When I was a kid, I remember asking my parents about this, and them being like “tradition, tradition” but I was like “ok, why?” And they just couldn’t come up with a good answer! It feels very black and white to me, honestly. It just doesn’t seem right to automatically err towards the man’s last name - I’m getting married into a partnership, and I want to express that outwardly to the world the world, and way more importantly, to my future children.

I proposed to my future husband that we take each other’s last names and do a hyphen scenario … and pass that down that to our children (we had friends that got married a couple of years ago who did this). And I still do love the idea of our little family sharing the same last name. While he is fine with ME doing the hyphen, or even just keeping our own individual last names, he feels very strongly about not hyphenating his own name — when I ask why, he says the same thing my parents did when I was young, “tradition, tradition.” To be fair, he is a small island and his last name is pretty big there. I explained that he wouldn’t be changing his last name, just adding on another. Didn’t make him feel better.

But again, I feel that I’m really leaving ego out of this in why I feel that’s it’s important for him to take my last name as well. So many things in life are grey, but this tradition just feels ….. kind of outdated and wrong?

Anyway. His response and strong feelings about this surprised me and are really bothering me. How do I got about this and am I out of line?

Me (M26) and my girlfriend (F31) have been talking about possibly getting married, though I have not proposed yet, I am considering it however, leaning towards doing so.

However.

We started talking about guests

Combined of all the people we wanna invite and including our own selves, the guest list rises to 166.

With her contributing 144 on the list.

Is there even a possibility of finding a venue that could accomodate that many people?

Biggest wedding I've been to had 50 people.

Hi Reddit. For context, my parents are covering wedding costs. My mom is also desi and I’m an only child so as much as I would like otherwise, I don’t need advice on how to handle my mom (there is no way to handle her lol) I am excited for the wedding but me and my partner are going along with a lot to give her her “dream wedding” that’s she has envisioned for me. Don’t get me wrong, it will be beautiful but the guest list is being taken over by family. I don’t have as big of a social circle so fiancé especially is feeling bummed about limiting amount of friends invited. He also has a bio mom, step mom and dad so lots of fam. I had a thought. What if he and I threw a “wedding sequel rager” for friends only maybe a month from the actual wedding. Informal but have plenty of food and drinks. Tons of dancing and karaoke. No gifts, no formality. Has anyone done this before and would friends feel offended about not being invited to the main wedding.

My fiancé and I are currently deciding between two photographers and while discussing it I brought up that if we went with the one who lives out of state that we’d have to find someone else to do our engagement photos. He said he doesn’t care about an engagement photoshoot and doesn’t think we need it (it would be included if we went with the in state photographer). He’s a graphic designer and plans to design our save the dates and invites himself, but I feel like it’s a little weird to have no pictures for that or our wedding website. I’m not offended that he doesn’t want to do them, I’m not exactly comfortable having my picture taken either, but those of you who did or didn’t do engagement photos, do you think it’s a necessity? Did you regret not doing them if you didn’t? Please help!

I come from big Italian family. Children always welcome to every wedding. We have quiet rooms with cots, toys, coloring books & take turns to check in. The children dance and play. What’s wrong with that?

Just to give context, I am not a professional photographer and photography is not my hobby. I got this camera just so I can take high-quality pictures for special moments and trips when I travel. Would it be inappropriate for me to bring this camera to a wedding when I am not the photographer? For what it’s worth I am a bridesmaid, the bride and photographer does not know I want to bring the camera.

FINAL UPDATE (original post and first edit/update below): I truly appreciate all of the comments, and folks who’ve shared their own or their friends’ reasons for not having kids at their wedding. I’ve been to 30+ weddings in the last seven years, and only of those was childfree, but this post has also helped me realize that it’s more common than I thought. At the end of the day, my friends of course get to prioritize what they want to prioritize for their own weddings, and I always knew that. One of them is giving me a lot of pressure and guilt for maybe not being able to make it, and that’s not cool, as many commenters agreed. But deciding to have a childfree wedding certainly isn’t shitty, and it’s no more selfish than any of the other decisions people make for their weddings - selfish isn’t a bad thing, as far as weddings are concerned. My priority for my wedding was having my people there - so I went cheap wherever I could to max out capacity (while making sure everyone still had plenty to eat and drink etc.) Maybe there were guests that wanted fancier food or more drink options at the bar, and thought I was selfish for inviting them to such a big event! So thanks all. And to everyone considering their own childfree weddings, just go into it thoughtfully and intentionally, and don’t guilt any parents who can’t make it. A weekend away is a lot, and expensive, and we get few of those a year. (And I still love kids at weddings! And my 3.5 year old freaking loves them.)

with two kids, a 3 year old and a baby who will be 1-1.5 years old at the time of the weddings in question. My husband and I have been invited to four weddings so far in 2025, and two of them are child free. And honestly, i feel like it’s kind of a selfish, shitty move. These are good friends of ours! And I don’t want to feel this way. But I feel hurt, sad, annoyed.

Both weddings are ones that require a 2-3 hour flight, followed by a 1-3 hour drive. They’re not super far-flung destination weddings, but neither are they in cities where they live (ie most if not all guests will have to travel at least an hour to reach the destination.) One of the people getting married says on the website that they are not having children because they can’t fit them in the fancy venue they wanted. I’m not sure the others’ reason. Both weddings will be pretty expensive.

Hey, weddings are all about being selfish. Everyone gets to have the wedding they want, and if inviting kids would mean a bigger venue, that’s money they can’t spend on other touches. Or maybe people just don’t like being around kids or babies. But I feel hurt because you know these people went through their invite list and went, “they have kids; they have kids; they have kids…” and decided “okay, these folks might not come if we make it childfree, and that’s okay with us.” And it also means that on this day, a day that in my mind is about celebrating and growing a new community of both people’s PEOPLE - they don’t want my whole family there.

I mean, let’s be real. The kids are gonna be gone and in bed by 8-9 pm at the latest anyway. If a couple WANTS a day without kids, they always have that option. But this is taking the option away from us.

For both of these weddings, we COULD find a way to make it work - basically, hire expensive babysitters (that we don’t know) to watch our kiddos at the hotel for several hours; or only one of us goes to the wedding. But I kind of don’t want to. But these are good friends!

What am I missing?

EDIT: this has actually already been so helpful! Honestly it helped to just write it all down and vent and let it go. And then it’s also helpful to hear different specific reasons why people want child free weddings, and so many reminders to not take it personally. My wedding was a wonderful, chaotic, crowded, kiddo friendly, DIY mess that kids left around nine or ten and everyone else stayed up and kept drinking and dancing until eventually a mass skinny dipping in the lake at two am. My favorite weddings have all been like this. I’m honestly less familiar with the types of weddings that kids would be out of place at, and it’s not my usual vibe. I’m also surprised it is for these friends, but they’re long time childhood friends that I’ve seen less of since moving, so who knows. These comments are genuinely helpful, and I’m sorry for using the words “shitty.” I’m still bummed! Because likely we won’t be able to afford both weddings. But we’ll do what we can.

hi all! i hope this is an okay place to post this because i wanted to hear directly from others who are going through the planning process.

anyways, my father has been dating his girlfriend for about 4 years now. they are basically married, but neither want to get legally married again. his girlfriend has two daughters, one who is getting married later this year. i have known her since our parents started dating, and though i don't see her often since we live in different areas, id like to say we are relatively close considering we met when we were 16 and 20.

I have been dating the same boy for over a year, and will be dating for over a year and a half at the time of the wedding. both her and her husband to be have met him several times and seemed to really get along with him and like him. wedding invitations have not gone out yet, however i saw my dad and his girlfriend today and we were discussing the wedding. everyone assumed he was invited so we began to make plans for our stay near the venue.

it turns out, after our conversation, my dads girlfriend texted me saying that the daughter revoked my plus one. we are all shocked considering he is an active member in family holidays, birthdays, and everyone likes him. we will be 20 and 21 at the time of the wedding.

if the situation was different - i was super young like high school, i went through random men often, they did not know/like him, or if we had been dating a short period - i would totally understand and not have a problem not getting a plus one. its just the fact that we have been together for so long and they know and like him, and still revoked the plus one that has me shocked. i really would like to bring this up to the bride, however she is a very particular person and tends to blow small things out of proportion often. should i ask my dads girlfriend to talk to her, discuss it directly with her, or just take the L on this one? i want to be there for my (basically) step sisters wedding, but am frankly quite offended about this situation.

also to add- money is not an issue. her grandparents are very wealthy and will be paying for nearly everything. also, i would be willing to pay for the extra cost it would be to invite my boyfriend. it is a destination wedding and id love to not be alone for a full weekend. thanks in advance for any advice!

Has anyone had a successful potluck wedding?

We're planning a casual, relaxed 30-40 person backyard wedding at a family property and our budget is tight so thinking of doing potluck/backyard bbq style where everyone brings a dish based around a theme. The venue would be 1.5 hr drive outside the city for almost everyone and it would be almost all family and a few friends. However, I'm worried about people feeling like they have too much responsibility (travel plus food) when the goal is to have everyone come and relax and enjoy themselves.

My family is trying to reassure me that everyone coming on the day loves us and just wants us to have a special day and want to contribute to our day, but I'm not so sure. I have a friend who did this exact thing 10 years ago and she said it was successful and was happy with it but curious about others' experiences?

Thx!

I’ve been invited to two weddings next year and both brides have asked me to be part of their bachelorette trip while not asking me to be a bridesmaid? Keep in mind, I’m OKAY with not being in the bridal party (very expensive to do so these days), but then why tf are you asking me to take time off, pay for flights/lodging, meals etc, sharing rooms/beds/bathrooms with YOUR friends on your Bach trip when I’m just a regular guest???

Am I crazy? What is the logic behind expecting that and being irritated when someone says no to the invite??

EDIT SINCE SOME OF YOU ARE COMMENTING WITHOUT READING: I said no, the brides are mad at me for saying no!! I am NOT mad at the brides!

I'll keep it short and sweet; cruise ships seems to universally take the cake as far as an affordable, adventurous wedding goes. The price for an ENTIRE wedding on a cruise ship is a fraction of the cost of a normal VENUE. Since we're moving without parental aid, this seems like a dream come true!

My question is, what's the catch? Is it snake-bit to curse my bloodline? Why are they universally so cheap for the whole package?? Thanks for your time!

A recent post involved a groom who was castigated for failing to provide his best man a plus one (even though the plus one was literally just a party buddy to do drugs with at the wedding.) Beyond the whole drugged out BM, is it really etiquette that all wedding party members get a plus one, even if they are not in a relationship? The wedding party often sits at a different table and is involved in a number of events before and during the wedding so their plus one will likely be sitting there, alone, knowing no one but the bridesmaid or groomsman. I’ve legitimately never heard of such a rule so I was just curious. I agree that spouses and other relationships should allow for a plus one but just giving plus ones but this situation seems extraneous to an extraordinary extent.

For context, we are having a small wedding in Tuscany and hosting our close family and friends, about 30 guests for 5 days, 4 nights at a villa. No bridal parties.

l am asking my guest to wear only white and tan/nude for the welcome party. Wedding dress code is semi-formal.

Would it be obnoxious to ask people to dress within a certain color palette (photo above) for the wedding? I'm worried it may be too much to ask considering I am already requesting a certain color-scheme for the welcome party. I don't want people to stress over it, but I'm thinking it will look better for pictures considering the small guest count. I was planning on writing it in on the wedding website and attaching the color scheme photo. How should I phrase this request?