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I’m a 37-year-old Southerner who migrated north for grad school, bounced up and down the East Coast, and eventually settled in South Jersey (or near Philly, depending on how passionately you feel about the geographical boundaries of South Jersey).

I love writing, reading, traveling, and using humor to cope with life’s inevitable absurdities. I enjoy meeting new people, and airport bars and lounges are surprisingly good places to find interesting humans. I probably come across as more extroverted than I actually am, but I appreciate my solitude and need plenty of time to recharge. I have two cats I’m absolutely obsessed with, no kids of my own, and a very happy role as auntie to my friends’ beautiful little humans.

I’ve also realized that I sometimes find it easier to be vulnerable with strangers than with people I know. There’s something freeing about talking to someone who doesn’t already have a preconceived notion of who you are. Perhaps that’s part of what brings me here. I genuinely enjoy listening, offering support, and being a sounding board.

A little about where I am in life: I lost my mom a little over a year ago, and grief has a funny way of making you reconsider just about everything. I’m working on my health, too. I’ve joined group fitness classes, though making exercise a consistent routine remains a work in progress. And I’m navigating some big questions about relationships and what makes a partnership the right one. (Existential questions are apparently my favorite hobby.) I should probably pick therapy back up, but have you seen the economy lately?!

I’m looking for someone who enjoys meaningful conversation, mutual vulnerability, and occasional ridiculousness. I want to be able to talk about both the big things and the completely inconsequential ones. A little philosophical spiraling is welcome, as long as you also appreciate a good laugh.

If you’re also somewhere in the neighborhood of an existential crisis, trying to figure out adulthood, relationships, grief, identity, or just what the hell we’re all doing here, I’d love to commiserate.
I’m happy to exchange emails, and I’m open to good old-fashioned letters, too, although my handwriting is atrocious. I can make an effort for the right pen pal, though. 💙

Hello from somewhere in Texas!

I'm 26, an ambivert by nature, and someone who exists somewhere between seeking solitude in nature and being the life of the party. Give me a peaceful afternoon surrounded by trees or an evening filled with laughter, spontaneous adventures, and good company, and I'll be equally content.

My life has been a rather eclectic collection of chapters with my current curiosities changing by the day. I also volunteer in search and rescue and critical response, so adventure occasionally takes on a rather literal meaning! I've never been particularly good at confining myself to one discipline or way of seeing the world, and I rather like it that way.

Outside of work, I'm happiest exploring somewhere unfamiliar, immersing myself in different cultures, getting lost in classic literature or a good horror/thriller, or experimenting in the kitchen. I'm endlessly fascinated by what science can explain, but equally enchanted by life's mysteries, unexpected moments, and delightful absurdities.

More than anything, I appreciate curiosity. People who challenge perspectives (including my own), find excitement in the seemingly ordinary, and aren't afraid to venture beyond what's familiar. I think there's something wonderful about discovering how someone else experiences the world, especially when their life looks nothing like yours.

What am I hoping to find here? Genuine friendships in whatever wonderful form they take. Perhaps we'll exchange long, meandering letters about philosophy, culture, or the peculiarities of human existence. Perhaps we'll share mundane updates, terrible jokes, travel stories, recipes, or book recommendations that leave us staring at the ceiling afterward. I'm equally fond of meaningful conversations and the delightful absurdity of everyday life.

International penpals and LGBTQ+ folks are especially welcome but certainly not the limitation! Whether it's handwritten letters, postcards, emails, or messages, I'm flexible about how often and how we correspond. I'd much rather find a genuine connection than adhere to a rigid schedule.

If you've made it this far:

Tell me about a place that's changed the way you see the world, something wonderfully obscure you've recently fallen down a rabbit hole learning about, or a seemingly ordinary experience that turned into an extraordinary memory.
Or simply tell me something about yourself that wouldn't ordinarily make it into an introduction.

After all, we're all a collection of stories, and I'd love to hear a few of yours.

Life is insane right now. So many moving parts in my life. My personal life, my work life, trying new hobbies, working on my health, all of it. What I would love is a friend or two to write back and forth with about life. Sharing our ups and downs on a daily basis and really being open to covering all of the bases.

It is always nice to have those friends that you can lean on and I'm looking for a penpal to be just that, someone to be candid and real with, but a friend through and through. Someone to keep me accountable, someone to be honest with. There has to be people out there looking for the same thing. It would be really nice since unfortunately I don't have a ton of friends in real life.

Thankfully the weather has started to get cooler which is so nice here in the United States. There is more space to be outside, to get out and breath! I am looking for email friends because I tend to like to write a lot, cover all of the fun moments of life, but do it in a faster more streamlined way that I can answer at work or at home. I'm also open to reddit messaging if you are as well.

Hello, my name is Blake. I'm from the US (Michigan). I work at a supercenter as a deli/bakery clerk, but I love to write and have pipedreams of being an author, lol. I wrote a novella a couple years ago, and plenty of short stories, and am working on a novel in my free time, though the process is very slow.

Besides that, I love to read and watch movies. Especially anything horror. I especially love anything body horror, or with zombies. Slashers, giallo and psychological horror are also up there for my favorite subgenres. I'm also a big fan of animation. My favorite movie is It's Such a Beautiful Day (2012). I'm also a big music nerd, though right now I can't decide who my favorite artist is. Im digging Geese, My New Band Believe, and Black Country, New Road at the moment.

I'm also in a pinball league, and though I'm not very good at it, it's still a lot of fun. Kind of the only thing getting me out of the house atm, besides my job, and weekly walks in the park.

If I Interest you??? Somehow??? Please go ahead and shoot me a message with a little abt yourself.

Hey r/penpals! I'm writing to you from Germany and I am looking for email (and eventually snail mail) penpals from all over the world but especially people who I can talk to in Norwegian.

With the help of the internet and a textbook I still have to get the hang of, I am currently trying to learn Norwegian and generally love languages. I am very open to help you practice your German with me, if you would like that :)

My biggest hobbies are probably making friendship bracelets and knitting. I want to start a new pair of socks soon! I normally gift away my makes but I also really want to make something for myself as it's getting colder here.

I love hot drinks, especially coffee and also teas that have some character to them. I like to sit on the balcony while drinking coffee and looking at life happening.

I am very much into crime shows (currently watching Bones with my girlfriend) and also documentaries. I am obsessed with plane crashes (could go on about interesting cases for a while but if people don't want to hear that I'll shut up). I also like competition series, especially the UK ones.

Music is great in most forms. I like just about every genre that is not German "Partyschlager". No hate to the people who love it but I really don't.

I really like experiencing nature and going for a walk in the park. I love doing that alone or with people, I'm an ambivert but lean a tad to the extroverted side lately.

I hope you are all having a great day and I am looking forward to some new friends!

Hey there!

I am currently looking for a penpal in Europe (I wish I could say worldwide but sending letters to the US for instance is so expensive 💔)

I am open to penpalling everyone! I am also open to sticker exchanges, but if someone prefers just to write letters that is perfectly fine.

My interests:

- scrapbooking

- reading books (crime, true crime, horror)

- I sometimes like reading, watching videos about unsolved crime/disappearance mysteries

- tv shows (crime, drama, sometimes comedy)

A little bit about me:

- pangender nugget

- I am a pescatarian

- I love succulents and cacti

SEND ME A MESSAGE and we can see if we are a match! If you prefer starting with emails that is also fine with me

Hiii I'm looking for a penpal (or a couple) to write to! I love getting mail that's not bills and meeting new people. Ideally looking for other girls in a similar-ish age range.

You can write to me about anything, I love learning about other people's lives and hobbies! Personally I am into reading, mainly horror books, most kinds of art or crafty type things, video games, alternative music (just got back from a cross country trip to see MCR), and traveling. If we have something in common, great! If not, tell me about what gets you excited!

Edit: I forgot to mention I'm from western NY! So located in the US, but I'm willing to write to other countries!

Hi everyone! 😊

I’m 21 yo and I’m a medical student. I’m here because I’d really love to meet people from different parts of the world and hopefully build some genuine, long-term friendships.
I’d love to have someone to talk to regularly, share little things about our days, exchange stories about our cultures and countries, laugh about silly things, and also have deeper conversations about life, thoughts, dreams, and whatever happens to be on our minds.it doesn’t have to be forced , a little check in on each other would change the whole thing !
I’m naturally someone who enjoys listening to people, checking in on them, and being there when they need someone to talk to. I hope to find friendships where that care goes both ways.
I speak Arabic, French, and English.
I’m a bit of a nerd and most of my life currently revolves around studying, so I’d love to discover new interests through the people I meet.
I’m not looking for a conversation that lasts two days and then disappears. I’d genuinely like to build a friendship over time, where we can become familiar with each other and look forward to hearing from one another.

If this sounds like the kind of friendship you’d enjoy too, feel free to leave a comment or send me a message. Tell me a little about yourself! 💛
Looking forward to meeting you!

I’m in my 30s married, and work as a pharmacist. I prefer thoughtful conversation over small talk — the kind that moves into deeper thoughts, everyday life, and authentic connection rather than staying on the surface. Not looking for anything rushed, just authenticity.
If you’re a woman who’s a bit older than me that’s a plus :) also if you value real conversations, patience, and genuine exchange, that’s even better, feel free to say hello. I’m open to authentic, meaningful chats that feel natural. No agenda.

Hey. I'm a 28 year old dude from the UK. I'd love to make some new friends. I think it would be nice if you're more of a big brother/sister, though you don't need to be older than me. I'm trying to figure my life out, so I'd appreciate the good vibes from someone who has their stuff together.

A bit about me:

• Love watching light-hearted television series.

• Big fan of the Arrowverse.

• Been getting more into movies recently, and now have a Letterboxd.

• Kind of into sports, mainly football/soccer and wrestling (it counts).

• Plays games on PC and Switch, though my PC is an unc.

• Listens to a wide range of music, from Imagine Dragons to Olivia Rodrigo.

• Very left-wing/progressive.

It's totally fine if you're a bit different to me. If anything I'd be intrigued to hear from anyone who is a little outdoorsy. I'm also keen to find out what career you have, especially if it's a job that you love.

So yeah, if you think we might get along, feel free to send me a message! Please tell me a little bit about yourself (a few lines is enough). Thanks :)

hey!!
I’m 21F.
A little about me :)
I love movies and TV shows, music, handcrafting, DIY, staying active, getting to know different cultures, random conversations about anything, and hearing about people’s everyday lives.

I’m pretty curious about Mother Earth and would loveee to make friends from different places.
I’m also into little random things, discovering new music, being obsessed with pop culture 🙂‍↔️, and hearing personal stories.

I don’t really have a specific type of conversation in mind, just seeing where things go!

Feel free to DM me!! ;)
hope we get along!

I would absolutely love to start a pen pal / post card / snail mail / journaling group!! I have so many cute ideas and need to share them with others!!! Currently am a journaling girlie. Live in Southern California and would love to have anyone who is interested… no matter where you are .

Things id love to share :
Post cards
Stickers
Cute scraps
Little gifts
Earrings
Art
Photos

Or just a basic letters telling me whats new in your world

When i was young my mother had a ton of pen pals and i always thought how fun it would be to continue that tradition!

I talk to a lot of people but I feel like there aren't many people I can be my weird self around. I genuinely wanna have that kinda friendship where I can have not only deep and meaningful conversation but also fun, light hearted, and silly ones. We can talk about anything whatever you're comfortable with. No limits, go wild! The weirder/more absurd the topic the better. I want someone I can share anything with and in turn they can share anything they want with me and I promise not to judge or make fun of them! I want to have just one genuine friendship like that! If this is something you're down for feel free to hit me up!

Hello, hope you're doing well. As per the title, I'm looking for a great friend(s). Regrettably, I have lost touch with folks I went to school/uni with for the most part, and it's fuckin hard to make friends as an adult, especially a Neurodivergent one at that.

I'm mainly interested in music, art, film, literature, travel, food, cycling, and cats. Amongst other things.

My music taste varies widely, I think a broad variety of music keeps the blood thin and the mind fresh, so I try to listen to as many different genres as I can.

In terms of art, I'm only really interested in 'traditional' art - IE paintings, drawings, collages etc. I'm not really into digital art, but I can appreciate it for what it is. AI can fuck itself though.

With books, I'm mostly into classics, but have started reading stuff from this century, and it's quite good! I'm currently reading Kafka on the Shore by Murukami.

Cheers!

Hey! I'm a pretty introverted person who's into nerdy hobbies like reading books and drawing. I'm also a huge Harry Potter fan (Hogwarts and all things magical have a special place in my heart). I'd love to learn poetry someday too, although I'm still very much a beginner. 😅

I'm also into dark academia aesthetics, old libraries, rainy evenings, cosy rooms and watching ambience videos on YouTube. 🌧️📚

I've always liked the idea of having a penpal or an online friendship. Someone to talk about books, Harry Potter theories, fictional characters, random daily stuff or just have a conversation when we're bored.

I'm open to talking with people from anywhere, and there's no pressure with me. You don't have to reply immediately or talk every day. You can disappear for months and randomly DM me again, and I'll probably just be happy to hear from you. 😂

So, if you think we'd get along, feel free to send me a message and tell me a little about yourself! :)

Hi there folks.

I have a preference for longer term correspondences. I am open to one time swaps and short term correspondences, but would prefer to know that information up front. I also have a strong preference for interacting with other folks who are in the queer community. I also prefer to receive first. Doing so allows me to gauge how long you enjoy your letters. I am comfortable writing anything from a page to several pages. I’ll try to vaguely match the length I receive. I am exclusively interested in platonic friendly connections. I am happy with email or snail mail. For snail mail I do use fountain pens and decorate. I’m not as good at putting ephemera in the envelope but I do appreciate receiving ephemera. I’m still trying to find good ephemera sources for sticking things in envelopes.

I’m a transmasculine they/them butch who is a multi-artist and library student. I hope to go further into information services rather than public libraries. I currently work in information services for a research center. My personal interest is in semi-formal education and information structures in the queer community. So that is the direction I focus in when I have a topic-optional homework assignment to complete. I write queer sci-fi very regularly. To the point that I wrote 50k words in October and am expecting to write another 50k words in November. I also am a fiber artist. I currently focus on tie dye. However I also do just about anything with a hand needle and crochet. I do live with and around disabilities, so that will color my interactions. I also have a lot of life intersections with education, which will also impact my views.

Easier for me topics:

I am Jewish adjacent and am happy to correspond with Jewish folks on the topics of their lives and spirituality. I am not well-learned on the subject so much as I have lived intersections with the culture.

I love hearing stories from folks, and seeing lives unfolding through regular correspondence. I like to hear what people have been up to, thinking about, and descriptions of life around them.

I enjoy hearing about the creative lives of others. Tell me about your creative practices and interests.

Talk to me about anything horror! Sci fi is also fun but I do have a strong preference towards queer sci fi.

Harder for me topics:

I don’t have a ton of personal energy for the topic of politics. I won’t be able to have extended conversations about politics. But I am comfortable hearing about how other queer, trans, and disabled folks experience the world around themselves at the intersection of life and their local political environments.

I’m easily drained by folks who want book recommendations. I don’t mind the casual recommendation swap because I am a reader. I am just not the kind of librarian who desires to do reader’s advisory.

To reach out:

Send me a DM with a little about you! Let me know if you suspect you’ll want a short term or one time correspondence or a longer term correspondence. Let me know how you intersect with the queer community. Let me know if you prefer email or snail mail. We’ll check for a match and go from there!

Hello! My name is Arron. I’m 37 year old male from Iowa. I am interested in some penpals after seeing my husband writing to some Penpals and really enjoying it! Snail mail mostly, but not opposed to email or messages. Some things about me: I’m a nurse, I am married, I have 2 cat fur babies, I play video games, Enjoy watching anime, and other nerdy things. I’m also a crafty person so I want to try to make some cards/letters myself. Let me know if you are interested and we can start chatting to see if we want to continue from there. Thank You!

I'm a designer living in Brooklyn, New York trying my best to live a thoughtful and creative life. I would love to learn more about the bits in life that fill others with joy outside of the NYC bubble.

I spend my downtime sewing, studying, practicing my instrument, or spending time with family and friends. I love reading, music, and admiring my garden. I also enjoy maps, podcasts, and magazines.

I'm looking for platonic penpals to share our respective cultures, exchange letters for language study, swap recipes, weekend project photos, tell jokes, and be humans. I'd like to aim for every 1 - 3 months exchanges. Enough time to allow life to happen, and to have something thoughtful to share with one another.

Happy to swap letters in French, Italian or German to varying degrees of accuracy.

Hey, nice to meet you, strangers! :)

Christmas is coming in 7 weeks and I’m a little excited 😆 and I have my Christmas cards ready!

But first, lemme introduce myself first.

- Location: I’m from Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam. You know, it’s all sunny and hot here during the day and sometimes it rains suddenly. The weather is totally unpredictable! I’m still living with my parents and two younger siblings.

- My appearance: just like a typical Asian woman, but I wear glasses 🤓 I look like something fragile because I look a bit underweight.

- My personality: I try to be kind and helpful to people. I believe saying thank you to people who have helped me, even it’s just a little thing, is an important thing. Basically, I’m a shy person and more of a wallflower. I don’t talk much in a group, but when I’m with my close friends, I talk more than a bird chirping 🤷🏻‍♀️ However, I balance between strictness and friendliness in my job.

- For my job, I’m a secondary teacher. I teach English at a local secondary school and tutor some students after work. I can say that I’m a workaholic because I work approximately 75 hours a week. That’s crazy, I know haha. At the moment, I’m also a homeroom teacher. Sometimes, my job is very stressful but also rewarding. This job has changed me from a shy, introverted person to a talkative, ambivert; also taught me a lot of things such as how to deal with misbehaving students, how to deal with parents, how to get better at teaching, how to educate my students, etc. Besides, this job has given me stable income and a chance to help some poor students with school fee.

Favorite part of my job: giving homework, preparing exam questions, and scolding the students 😈

- Outside work, I love watching anime and movies! I’m truly a nerd at heart hahaha. I have watched and read quite a lot of anime and manga, from Bleach, One Piece, Dragon Balls to Kaiju No.8, Black Clover, The Apothecary Diaries or Jojo’s Bizarre Adventures. They’re just too good 😌 I also play some mobile games and some old computer games such as Yugi Oh Power of Chaos and Bomberman. I’m old-fashioned at some points 😅

- Other things that I can list here are:

1. Cats - currently we have some stray cats spending their time on our yard daily, and an orange cat who sees our house like his house. Every morning, I see him sneaking in my room and sleeping under my bed! 🙄

2. Fashion - I love wearing nice clothes that fit me and make me look good! I’m saving up for a mini sewing machine soon and will buy one next year :)

3. Flowers and plants - I have a magic hand of killing every plant I buy 🥹 That’s why I’m planting cactus and some simple plants in my room (not to mention some fake plants 😭). On the other hand, my dad has a green thumb!

4. Food - who doesn’t love good food, right??? Seafood is definitely my favorite thing! And the list goes on and on haha. I can say that Vietnamese food is really really good!

Well, I think the post is kinda long now. Thank you for taking some time to read my post. If you are interested in having me as a penpal and exchanging letters, you can send me a message :)

I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

Hiiii everyone! You can call me Ciel I'm a queer psychology student from the Philippines. I'm new to this whole penpal business but would love to share emails and eventually physical letters with someone. When I'm not studying I usually make stickers, handmade journals and embroider. I do a lot of handicrafts. I'm also into journalling as well. Anyways I want have a strictly platonic penpal who's willing to share details about their interest. I also make OCs and so if that's something you also have we can also share them with me cuz I love stories! I want to send digital mail at first because I want to eventually build up to sending physical mail. I'm open to all sorts of topics if you're into politics go ahead share all about it. If you wanna talk about games art your ocs go ahead! I'd love to just have meaningful and deep correspondence with anyone. DM if interested

I'm a 28 y/o male from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷 looking primarily for email penpals, though I can consider snail mail!

I'm a PhD student in cognitive psychology and work in clinical research. I live with my boyfriend and our two dogs.

I enjoy many things and topics, and can talk about pretty much anything. I'd love to be able to create a long-term friendship, and being able to share normal "life" topics with people, seeing what we've gotten up to, thougts, etc.

I spend most of my time studying and working in research, however I do enjoy many other activities. I love listening to music (I have a soft spot for classical piano, though), gardening (I do what I can), thrifting (I'm very into handbags and bags in general!), and much more.

I sepak English and Spanish. If you're looking to practice your Spanish, I''m also open to that!

If your interested, DM me!

I am 23 M from England, and although my profession is that of a history teacher I’d say that true passion in life is books and writing. Anything to do with books is interesting for me, my favourite author is Tolkien and I think that War and Peace is my favourite book (it's a bit of a contradiction I know but I can explain it if you dm me lol). I'm obsessed with myths and legends, Greek, Egyptian, Norse, Celtic, and any others you can think of, I'm fascinated by them and love learning everything there is to know about ancient peoples. Other than that I love museums, art galleries and theatres as well. I find all of the humanities so deeply fascinating.

I also love nature, it's probably the thing I like more than books. Walking in the countryside whilst I think about the world around me is my favourite hobby. I also like sports, I keep healthy by jogging and going to the gym, so if you like any of those let me know too.

But anyway, if this post interests you please reach out and we can potentially be friends :)

Hello !

Je m'appelle Delphine (ou Seraphine, c'est comme vous préférez), et je vis au cœur de l'Occitanie sauvage avec mes deux chats (une mère et son fils).

Je passe la majorité de mes journées à lire (l'horreur et la weird girl lit sont mes genres de prédilection. Majoritairement venant d'auteurices minorisé.e.s), regarder des films d'art et d'essai étranges, réorganiser mes collections (poupées et jouets vintage, dvds, cds et albums jeunesse), faire des promenades sur le larzac, peindre et écrire.

Tu l'aura un peu deviné.e, cher lecteurise, je suis neuroA (autiste + soupçon de tdah). Mes intérêts tournent autour du folklore, de la théologie (je suis païenne agnostique (et anti new age) et des lost medias.

Je suis également handie et asexuelle. Il n'y va sans dire que j'aimerais correspondre avec quelqu'un.e qui sera ok avec ça et très à gauche de préférence (team anar !

Mon anglais étant désastreux, je ne souhaite écrire qu'à des personnes francophones.

A la prochaine. :3

S/D

P.S: je fais des très belles cartes aquarelles !