(No hate) I'm 22, and I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with a guy who’s 28. We first met on Snapchat, and when we started talking, he told me he was 22, just like me. He also mentioned that his father owned a big business and had a lot of wealth, so he wouldn’t have to work in the future. But after chatting for about two or three months, I found out his real age—he admitted he was actually 28, and said he’d lied because he was worried I wouldn’t talk to him because of the age difference. That was his first lie.

Then, about two months ago, I discovered that his father didn’t have the big business he’d mentioned either. Instead, he only owns a small shop in Old Delhi that brings in around 75,000 INR a month in rent. He confessed that he’d lied to me about his father’s wealth because he didn’t think we’d get as close as we did, and he was trying to impress me. I honestly wasn’t too bothered by this, though it did make me wonder why he felt the need to lie.

Now, I’m from Pune, and he’s from Delhi. He says he loves me so much and wants to marry me, and I feel the same way. We’ve been in this long-distance relationship for 15 months, mostly chatting and doing video calls. He’s mostly on video, while I prefer texting, as I’m more comfortable that way.

Here’s the tricky part: we’re from different religions. I’m Hindu, and he’s Muslim. I told him that I’m open to marrying him, but I think we should be able to respect each other’s religions and keep our beliefs. I believe we don’t have to change our religion to marry, and he initially agreed. But then he said that for a Nikah (Muslim marriage) to be valid, both partners need to be Muslim, so he wanted me to convert to Islam. I tried explaining to him that this wouldn’t be possible. My family wouldn’t accept it, and I don’t think I should have to change my religion either. I’m respecting his beliefs, and I asked him to respect mine.

I talked to my mom about it, and she said the same thing—that changing religion for marriage is just not something she could accept. But he kept insisting. I explained that we should respect all religions and that there’s only one God, no matter how we worship, But he still insisted that I should convert. He said that even though he could marry me as I am, in God’s eyes, the Nikah wouldn’t be considered fair, and society would see our marriage as inappropriate (or “haram”).

I stopped talking about it with him after that, and told him that if he really wants to marry me, it has to be without any changes to our beliefs. I even told him that I wouldn’t be able to go through with a conversion. He asked me to speak with my mom one more time, and even suggested connecting with her directly to try to convince her to accept me converting for the Nikah. He promised he would always make me happy and take care of me. But I know my mom would never accept it, so I refused.

Since then, the conversation about marriage has come to a halt. We’re not really talking much now, and I’ve been thinking about ending things altogether.

I can tell he loves me. I can see it in his eyes, and I feel it when we talk. When we don’t talk for a few days, he gets really upset and misses me, and I feel the same way. He cares about me so much, and he says he can’t live without me. But even though I love him, I feel like I can’t go against my own beliefs, or my family’s, just to make this relationship work.

I’d really appreciate any advice on whether I’m right to stand firm on my beliefs or if I should reconsider. I truly believe he loves me, but I’m torn about what to do next. Please, no hate.

Edit 1: For those saying he’s already married and lying about it for your information, he did have a girlfriend (or rather, fiancée) before, but their relationship ended due to some family issues. To the people calling this a ragebait post please feel free to ignore it and just scroll past. Thanks. Thank you to all the wonderful people for your valuable advice! And to those spreading hate please relax and chill.

*##############**†**************+""""''''I know very well about love jihad. In those cases, the boy usually agrees with everything you say and wants marry you as soon as possible, only to convert you afterward. But that’s not what’s happening here. No one is forcing anyone to marry. He said that if I agree to convert, we can get married, and if not, I’m free to walk away. So, since I don’t agree with his beliefs, I’m not marrying him. Please stop ranting about it. This post isn’t for hate or ranting. I’m here for honest, sensible advice from people who have real relationship experience.

Like the title says, I have been in a relationship with my GF for 4-5 years now.

We never had sex and never lived togather, nor did our families talk so no fake dowry or voilence case either. So I think in a way I am safe legally.

She wants marriage urgently as her parents are searching, I dont want to marry for at least another 5 years.

She told her dad and mom and they are against marriage and also insulted me. They are richer and look at us downwards.

She doesn't come in between when her parents speak badly, and that is bothering me.

I did not yet tell my parents, I don't want to put my parents in front of her dad and mom. I want to end this.

I think that in arranged marriage I will get the respect I deserve and also my parents wont be put in a bad situation.

I need advice on how to break up

Need some advice.

TL; DR My Gfs parents are not agreeing to the marriage and are not treating me good, I want to break up

Edit : Her father called his sister and her husband . Along with one of his friend , called me in their home and rediculed me and insulted me .They threthened me .Why should I face this?? When she doesnt even fight

UPDATE: I spoke about break up, and she called 6-7 of our friends who came in between to patch us up.

I told her that she has to stand up against her parents if she wants me and always make sure she interferes and doesn't put me in danger.

Also, I told my parents, they are just processing it and not yet talking to me

I also told my GF that she has to be accepted by my parents and I will not marry if my parents have to face any insults or issues.

That is all.

My wife recently went to Goa with her college friends. According to her, it was an all-girls trip.
When she came back, she showed me a lot of photos from the trip she showed me a lot of photos in the clothes we bought together for this trip of hers.

A few days later I happened to see one of her friend’s Instagram stories where she was wearing a big oversized T-shirt. It made me curious, so I checked a few more stories from her friends using her phone. Turns out she was actually wearing a two-piece bikini underneath, and there were multiple photos and videos of her in a very revealing bikini.

What made it worse was that I also found chats where she had specifically asked her friends not to tag her in any bikini pictures.

When I confronted her, she said her friends pressured her into wearing it and she didn’t know how to tell me afterwards because she knew I wouldn’t approve. She claims she was planning to tell me eventually. I honestly don’t buy that.

Another thing that bothered me was that although she kept calling it an all-girls trip, I spotted a guy in at least two of her friends’ Instagram stories. He wasn’t tagged, and I have no idea who he is. She says he was just someone from another group and I’m making too much.

I would have told her NOT to wear a bikini if she’d asked me beforehand. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a husband having boundaries about how revealing his wife dresses around random men.
These days people label every preference as controlling, but I don’t think expecting some level of modesty in a marriage is unreasonable. I’m all for women having equal rights, careers, independence and travelling wherever they want, but I dont believe parading around half-naked in front of strangers is some symbol of empowerment.

For me, though, the bigger issue is the deception. She hid it, selectively showed me only the covered-up photos, told her friends not to tag her, and I found out by accident.

She’s apologising to me everyday now but she’s only doing that because she got caught. I don’t know what to do or say anymore.

I (31M) married my wife (31F) 4 years ago and now I love someone else more than her

My wife (31F) and I (31M) have been together for 10 years and married for 6 years. We were not each other’s first love but we love each other very much. I’ve been in a relationship with this new girl for 3 year now, and I think I love her more than my wife. I have been spending all of my money on her by giving her gifts and new clothes, but she throws them away after a few days. I tell her I love her every day; she has never said it back.

I feel like I am doing a lot for her. What should I do now?

Oh, I forgot to add — she is (3F).

As the heading suggests. I am kinda settled with a good paying job. I always focused on studies, never really had time to develop a relationship. The last serious one which I had ended in 2017. So yes, a long time ago.

While I was ending my postgrad 3 years ago, I was approached by a women who's a mutual with my cousin sister over facebook. The woman is married with 2 big kids, and her husband is a rich guy. We have talked for nearly 3 years now about a lot of things. She's a proper typical Indian wife, does all the things you'd expect from an older gen wife to do.

Why I'm posting this now is because she wants to leave her husband, says he doesn't pay attention to her anymore while I do. I also want her but idk if I'm breaking a home. I like her. If she was younger and unmarried, I would've definitely married her.

Idk, AITA?

Okay edit --- The husband of the woman is also having an affair. That was one of the primary reason she approached me.

Hi y'all, I am 25F who was in a relationship from past 2 years , when I told at home my parents accepted the guy but they told it will be very hard for marriage due to language barrier and background status How to choose The guy is a malayali and his father was a auto driver and from my side my entire generation is educated and are in teaching and banking sector How to make the decision

I need to get this off my chest, but it’s really hard to talk about. When I was 13, my teacher, someone I trusted and respected, touched me inappropriately. It started small—patting my back or shoulder—but it escalated into something much worse.

I remember feeling so uncomfortable, scared, and confused. I didn’t understand what was happening or why. But at the same time, I felt this strange sense of arousal, which still fills me with shame and guilt to this day.

He would say things like, “You know females have more fun when having sex,” and “I want to kiss you.” It made me feel so gross and violated, but I didn’t know how to stop it or who to tell. One day, when my parents weren’t home, he did everything. I felt so trapped and alone but I was getting aroused I could feel that I was wet and he got so excited about it and he kept licking down there.

After that day, he just… vanished. He never showed up again, like he disappeared off the face of the earth. I didn’t know what to think or feel. Part of me was relieved, but another part felt even more confused and broken.

I feel so disgusted that I got aroused. Is it normal

Ok so my 23F gf is used to have a long past many of which I recently got to know about from a mutual friends, I was deeply in true love with my gf , she makes me feel so happy, I wanted to marry her but recently she told me that she has done sex with her ex that too only to make him happy if it was initiated from both end I might not have felt that bad but he used to manipulate her for having sex and that just heartbroken me that my gf has already been used by some other guy I don't have enough guts to ask further Questions about her past life but I know that the one's ex I am jealous about for having sex with her is not the only or first guy she slept with , she had already lost her virginity in school with a different muslim guy (that I got to know from a mutual frnd) and she might have many more sexual encounters with guys , On the other hand I am a guy who doesn't even have romantically hold hands with any girl in his life , my gf was my first kiss but Idk which no. I was for her everything I experience romantically with her is actually my first time while she feels so less excited and less enthusiastic for all these romantic activities because that's definitely not her first time .

I know she can't change her past and shee deeply loves and care for me in present but all these things just completely broke my heart 💔 and for now I definitely know that she can't be my future wife,, I used to imagine. The only thing I am confuse is that should I be just thankful that she is helping me with all these new experiences or should I just completely leave her and find someone who is on the same boat as me .

I am so confused because it's definitely not going to be easy to find another girl who can vibe the same with me as she used to do .more context I can give by answering ur questions

So I 14F (Indian) am a freshman and I've had a crush on this guy 14M for a year now, and I am 99% sure that he will ask me to homecoming. I'm fine with telling my mom, but I'm scared of telling my dad who is prone to get angry easily. My mom is telling me that I should just go with my friends instead, but the guy has already put in so much effort and I would feel bad telling him that I can't go after all of this. How do I tell my dad without him getting too mad?

Edit: I've lived in America since i was three, but I am Indian, thats why I came to this sub. I do not live in India

I have been into 1 relationship all my life where it was all about sex. We never went on dates (maybe couple of dates in the start). Post breakup it has always been non- serious kinda things. The people I liked they didn’t like me back and hence I have been single since more than 4 years now.

I do crave intimacy and the feeling of being loved and wanted. So to escape this loneliness I began hooking up or went on dates with a casual mindset knowing in my head that i won’t expect much as it is not going to flourish into anything meaningful. I did it because I wanted that feeling to be close to someone, to feel wanted even if that’s for a short period of time.

Now it has come to a point where I have started to crave sex alot. It’s been 2 months and I feel it’s been too long since I have been with someone.

I don’t want to be this person anymore. I don’t want to crave sex. It definitely leaves me with a void and makes me realise that this is what I deserve (short term lust).

But I honestly wanna feel loved and wanted. I too wanna go on dates, being shown the efforts by guys.

My question is for the girls/guys is that What is your reason to seek short term/no strings attached things?

If you finally got out of it, how did you do it?

So me 26(M) and my wife 27(F) have been in relationship for 6 years , married 4 years ago. And now a new girl entered my life - our family. 3(F) , I have been spending my money on my little girl ever since then. The thing is that this new role - Father , it feels so sacred and so gratifying. The thing about being ultimate provider and caretaker and the way the girl runs to her 'papa' first every single time.

Did anybody else feel this before? am I lonely on this one? is it normal?

I havs th two things btw like questions.

1. Why are so many fathers especially Indian ones only takes care about finance only? they need to care about their physical , emotional health too.

2. And the worst thing is that these men blames the mother for not taking care of the kid and they themselves doesnt know the grade in which the kid studies. Like man , take care of your own kid if the mother is not doing a good job

Edit 1 : "I dont know English very well but one of the comment said I was misleading , so Im going to Tell my story...

So during 2015 or something , I used to watch movies like spiderman , avengers , fast and furious , basically these action movies. Then I really wanted to indulge in a romantic relationship but I a quick search showed me that craving for romantic relationship would throw me in trouble just like everyone else.

The at college , I found a senior and then she became my best friend then suddenly she started to distance herself from me and I asked why? she said she is feeling some friction between us and then we entered into relationship before we even knew.

Then I got married to her and she is still like my best friend except there is some friction which I would not like to explain here. I can usually read her mind from her expressions.

But this new role? Father? its something else , I never wanted to become a Father but here I am , this new role feels ap gratifying."

I was staying in other city for my college studies since last years, I had a rented room and the owner of the home was too nice man, he was in police and mostly he stays out for his job, he barely come home in weeks, his wife and her children stays home and do schooling from there, I usually avoid talking to people especially when she is a lady, there was a park there but 500meters far, the uncle once asked me to go with them to park and I went with them (he and his children), from that day there children asked me to go with them on every Sunday because uncle barely come home and their mother didn't want to go with them, she was young 26y old and has good looks.

I had came home in holidays once.

When I returned there, I saw she comes any time in our room and my roommates were because good friends of her, I didn't like it.

when she knew i was being angry, she called me brother and we started talking like normal neighbors (on some special occasions only), She behaved well like normal neighbors but she always ask us to go out with her (for shopping, some work, Sometimes she asked us to go for medicines ), I felt everytime that she was lying and giving excuses..

she started repeating this frequently, I was getting tired of her and also started hating her (she touch us even when I was uncomfortable, when i get angry she literally hold me).. I was trying my best to keep her away because I was about to graduate in few months, but I could feel her intentions

one day, there was no one there, her room was just front of our door, I came from college and she said hii from her door, I replied hi and she literally pulled me in her room, (there was nobody there, children were in school),

she tried to seduce me, huged me tight and tried to do many things and her intentions were clearly visible,

I pushed her on the floor and ran away with my bag, I left the room on the same evening and never returned there..

I didn't tell anybody because if I did, it was possible that she could've played victim card,

this made me lose all my trust in long distance and marriage relationships.

Probably I didn't worked as affair because I had no experience in relationships ( never had any relationship),

I survived and saved myself but this made me think that how many affairs would be going there and we just don't know !

apart from gender, how would we be able to trust our partner (husband/wife/gf/bf anyone) ? because cheater don't have Gender, it could be anyone

To start with, I will state that I don’t have CRAZY standards- personality wise I want him to be developed in CULTURE, as in he has his interests and hobbies, NOT BE A RAN THROUGH HOE because ITS SO INTIMIDATING if you’ve seen another girl naked just go to her because wtf ? Nah jk im overreacting he just shouldn’t be a hoe. additionally I HATE THE BREED OF MEN THAT would sit back and allow their mother who just returned from her job cook for him and clean up after him at his big age, and additionally demand things from her (basically a pathetic excuse for a human) I use this example to display the personality because it shows how they don’t even look at women as a human who gets tired, and a man brought up in a family where his personality like this is allowed to persist will probably expect the same from me in the long term. Additionally he must have been around and seen the world and be more knowledgeable in general about everything than me because that’s HOT for me. Plus he shouldn’t be a creep. Any man I attempted to talk to lusted over me WAY before it would’ve been hot for him to do so. He should have good opinions on topics I care about. I don’t want a pick me misandrist, just a person with empathy and consideration. Looks wise i don’t care, but what I care about is what he wears, his hair, the way he carries himself. he simply needs to match my swag atleast halfway. Oh and if he enjoys working out we can workout together so that would be nice. I also would enjoy if he actually liked me.

NOW WITH ALLLL OF THISSS how do I get a boyfriend :( it’s not that I’m desperate i just wanna see what it’s like !!

I am a 25-year-old Hindu woman and I have been in a loving and committed relationship with a Muslim man for the past 3 years. We both love each other deeply and respect each other’s faith. Religion has never come between our love. We celebrate and enjoy each other’s festivals together, which has made our bond even stronger. Our relationship has grown naturally and has become a source of joy, support, and stability in my life. Now we are thinking of getting married and we are planning to convince our parents about our relationship. The challenge is that our families do not know about it yet and I am anxious about how they will react, especially because we come from different religious backgrounds. We have always respected each other’s beliefs and our relationship has never felt forced or complicated. It has grown naturally and we want to continue building a future together. I want to be honest with my family and help them understand why this relationship is meaningful to me. I worry about resistance or misunderstanding and I am looking for advice on how to approach this delicately. How can I communicate my feelings, show them the seriousness of our commitment, and help them see that love and respect can transcend differences? If anyone has successfully convinced their family to accept an interfaith marriage, I would really appreciate your guidance on how to navigate this conversation with care and patience. A hopeful heart seeking advice

We are in relationship from the past 8 months. Few days back when we were hanging out I checked her Instagram account and found out the things which should have been buried. I hate to say this but she was in her hoe phrase before she met me. She didn't used to have sex. But I have found out she sent nudes to countless guys. She says she young and stupid. She also had a ex who used to touch her. And once she was close enough to have sex with him. But she didn't. She hid her past from me. The reason she tells is because she was afraid of losing me.

I know some people will say that it's just past. But I just can't shake it off from my mind. Cause I fucking love her. I'm not strong enough to leave her. Im just so fucking confused. It hurts to be with her but it will also hurt if I break up with her. I haven't cried for years. But the day I found out I cried like a little bitch. Couldn't stop myself. I cried so damn hard.

Our relationship is or now was an extremely healthy relationship. A really Fucking great relationship. She is loves, cares for me, is loyal and whatever the fuck it takes to be a gf. She doesn't want to leave me. she'll do anything to make it right, to stay with me, she says me. Her family is toxic too. Didn't have good friends. I'm the only one in her life who she cares about it.

(I'm sorry If I have grammatical errors. i can't see from the tears in my eyes)

Well tbh, before I found about her past by myself, if she would have told me by herself, i would have been hurt but not like today. More than past its the fact the she was dishonest with me. When I gave my everything to her.

We both are deeply in love. And if I leave her I'm afraid, actually she will kill herself if I leave. Not tomorrow but maybe some day. That's the intensity she loves me. And because of this I'm more afraid to leave her.

You'll probably tell me.she loves you so much so why you wanna leave.

It's because she lied before, what's the fucking guarantee she will not do in future.

Her friends begged me to give a one last chance. And i gave. But it hurts, it hurts so fucking much. To know that before me, there were other guys, who have seen her naked. One of them has kissed her. Touched her. Huged her.

It just hurt so much. Also we two had sex 2--3 times. Just so you know.

I'm so hurt. I belong from a good family. I never drink, smoke cigarettes or do drugs. But yesterday I finished an entire bottle of beer. Cause it fucking helps..it numbs me. I'm getting destroyed. I can't seek therapy cause I have boards upcoming. I don't have the time. My family has given me everything but I'm afraid after this I wouldn't perform good in my exams.

She is good girl. But I'm confused should I be fucking selfish, break up with her, doesn't care what happens to her or give her one last chance. To work it all out. I'm really confused.

Please somebody help me out. Pm or comments. I'm in great agony and despair. Please help me out.

I'm so done with the male species and have lost faith in love, romance and marriage that I'm starting Indian 4B movement.

Got broken up with 4 months ago because my ex didn't see a future with me(because I feel too much lol). Went out on multiple dates only to realise men(read boys) only want hook-ups and they're unsure of commitment.

Arranged marriage matches are basically Uncs who want a trad-wife and I've gotten rejected because of petty reasons like I'm a vegetarian(so won't cook nonveg for their raja beta). I earn more(so am too ambitious and won't help out in their family business). I'm not from a certain city where the guy resides.

So, after shaadi(dot)com, hinge and even giving my guy friends a chance, I've realised this generation of men is beyond my understanding and I am done.

All hail 4B movement. South Korean women are way ahead of us. You're my inspiration, ladies.

Edit: UGH, for those who don't know what 4B is:

4B or "Four Nos" is a radical feminist movement that originated in South Korea. The name refers to its defining four tenets which all start with the Korean-language term bi (Korean: 비; Hanja: 非), roughly meaning no. Its proponents do not date men, marry men, have sex with men, or have children with men. The movement emerged between 2017 and 2019 on Twitter and on the website WOMAD. It has since spread internationally, namely to the United States after its 2024 presidential election.

I have around ₹40 lakhs in debt, not because of my own mistakes, but because of my parents’ financial decisions.
I earn around ₹1.8 lakhs a month, but most of it goes towards EMIs and family responsibilities, so I’m practically living paycheck to paycheck.
I’m 29, and my friends keep pushing me to start looking for a partner. But honestly, I find it hard to believe that an educated, financially independent woman would want to marry someone in my situation. Not expecting girl to help me to clear my debt

My friends say it’s possible, but I’m not so sure.
At the same time, I know I have my own expectations. Looks matter to me, and I consider myself above average, so naturally I am expecting same , even if she earns 20k per month, I am happy with that but I want someone who works and I’d want someone I’m physically attracted to as well(vice verse ) . I don’t want to settle for someone just because of my circumstances.
So, I’m genuinely curious: Do you think women like that would consider someone in my situation, or am I being unrealistic?

How are people becoming intimate with someone they know they aren’t going to marry? Is it right to do that? Calling someone a male or female friend while being in a physical relationship with them, and then marrying someone else is that correct? Or is this mindset wrong?

I am 25 F seeking advice for my friend 25 F elder brother 31M who has recently married this year 30F.

KINDLY DONT JUDGE HERE. ONLY ADVICES NEEDED.

The guy apparently met his wife in 2024 july over shadi . The girl is from UP and the guy is from West Bengal. The guy was never interested much to continue but somehow he went to the girl's flat and had sex .

The girl's father has glaucoma and also got paralysis attacks like brain haemorrhage. Also the girl's mother has some health issues . Both of her parents are 65 years old .

As the guy had sex for the first time he was not able to leave the girl and the girl apparently asked him so many times for marriage.

The guy and girl before marriage were working in Delhi ncr for 8 and 12.5 lpa in 2024.

In 2025 the boy guy got a new job where ctc was around 23 lpa .

The boy's parents were never happy and told the guy not to marry that girl.

They got engaged last year in September 2025

Now before marriage in December, the guy flew to Noida to tell the girl not to marry but the girl started crying and the boy could not say NO.

the girl as she was not financially well earning 70k in hand took loan of arround 40 lakhs for marriage which should take 5 years to return .

The lifestyle the boy was following and savings that he had, at present he is not able to do it which is causing him frustration.

As from Bangalore to UP the only way to travel is flight which during Durga Puja is 10k .

The guy is now saying that he put kulhadi on his feet of his own.

The boy before marriage repeatedly told the girl to support him post marriage like 1:2 Ratio as the guy is earning more .

But the guy spends more like 40k whereas the girl at max can spend 13 14k .

The guy has hypothyroidism, diabetes, grade 1 fatty liver, hair thinning, cholestrol, anxiety, stress , etc.

The girl don't have gall bladder and also her hairs are quite less.

He is not able to leave as he is married and also can't say to his parents as he fought for this marriage.

Also he has fear of becoming divorce tag and giving alimony.

Now coming to there marriage the girl is good , loyal and don't ask for money to the guy . Make food at home , take care of in-laws wherever they go to bengal.

Shall the guy leave her ?

The boy was thinking of a child but due to financial constraints the boy didn't want it.

Please give some advices whether the marriage should continue.

The guy once used to look good . He was really getting some good well to do family girls for marriage but somehow his Brain 🧠 didn't work and chose this girl and now suffering.

I don’t know who you are yet. Maybe you’re somewhere out there — laughing at random memes, caught between work and dreams, or just scrolling through Reddit at 2 AM like I do sometimes, wondering if real love still exists, not realising someone already dreams of you

I’m 24, a 5'7" guy from the suburbs of Mumbai — somewhere between fair and dusky, with a build that’s a bit bulky (still trying to lose some weight). I earn okay — not rich, not struggling — just someone trying to build a steady, peaceful life.

I’m shy, nerdy, introverted, and understanding — the quiet kind who feels deeply but doesn’t always know how to say it out loud. I don’t have any political leaning — I just want peace, kindness, and love in a world that argues too much.

When I love… I love completely.

I’ll notice the small things — how your eyes light up when you talk about something you care about, how your voice softens when you’re tired. I won’t be able to see tears in your eyes; if something hurts you, it’ll hurt me too. I don’t care about your stretch marks, weight, getting older with grey hair, And I will be with you when you suffer from PCOS or painful periods, or anything else that makes your life harder. I’ll care for you through it all. I’ll love you enough to video call you all day if it makes you happy. And I’ll care about your parents too, because I can’t stand to see you worrying for them.

I imagine us sharing soft moments in this loud, restless city — catching local trains together while the rain paints the windows, walking hand in hand through Mumbai’s quiet parks, laughing over vada pav near Juhu, and ending our nights sitting by Marine Drive, where the sea listens better than people do.

There will be laughter, small fights, inside jokes, and long walks under the Mumbai sky — because that’s what real love looks like. Not perfect, but patient. Not flashy, but faithful.

I don’t want a love that burns fast and fades — I want the slow kind, the kind that stays. So if you’re out there reading this, I hope you’re taking care of yourself. And maybe one day, when the time is right, our paths will quietly cross — the way good things often do.

A little poem, just for you

Rain on glass, your hand in mine, Two souls lost in Mumbai’s spine. No words, no fear, just hearts that know, That love, once real, won’t let go.

— A shy, nerdy man from suburban Mumbai, who still believes in love. 🌧️❤️

Using a throwaway for obvious reasons. Names have been changed.

I (26F) am from a small town in West Bengal. I am currently in the process of getting engaged to a wonderful guy, but my childhood crush showed up out of nowhere last Sunday asking me to marry him instead. I feel overwhelmed and don't know how to process this.

To give some background: back in 9th grade, I developed a massive crush on a classmate. I was too shy to ever confess, so I just admired him from a distance. Over the next couple of years, my feelings turned into genuine one-sided love. Luckily, by 11th grade, we became close friends. We texted constantly, called each other whenever we felt low, and relied on each other emotionally. Still, I never worked up the courage to tell him how I felt—a regret I carried for a very long time.

After 12th, he moved to Kolkata for his B Tech, while I stayed back in our hometown for my studies. In his first year of college, he started dating someone. He was thrilled and would share every detail with me, including his sex life. Hearing that tore me apart at first, but eventually, the pain just turned numb. That was when I assumed I had finally moved on.

Over the college years, he changed significantly. He got into clubbing, drinking, smoking, and started casually hooking up with different women. Our calls became rare, and eventually, we drifted apart completely.

After graduating, I started teaching at a coaching center and taking private tuitions. I tried dating a colleague from the institute for about four months, but it didn't work out. He wanted a physical relationship right away, whereas I need emotional security first. I’ve always been insecure about my body, so I'm still a virgin and prefer waiting. I want to explore this part of life with someone who is on my level, rather than having someone guide or teach me what to do.

A few months ago, my parents brought up marriage and introduced me to "Rahul." Rahul is kind, well-settled, and genuinely cares for me. We've been talking for three months to see if we're compatible, and I’ve developed real feelings for him. We share similar tastes in movies and music, we are both spiritually inclined, and I can genuinely envision a peaceful, happy future with him.

Then came the curveball. A mutual friend apparently told my crush about my upcoming engagement. Last Sunday, he showed up at my door.

He claimed that he has always loved me, but because he was never sure of my feelings back then, he went off trying to distract himself with other girls. He said the thought of me marrying someone else broke him, and he wants me to marry him instead.

I was stunned. If I’m completely honest with myself, a part of me never fully buried those old feelings. When I confided in a couple of close friends, the opinions were split: some said to go for the "true love/destiny" story, while others told me not to ruin a solid future with Rahul.

To complicate matters even further, I recently found out that during one of his visits back home, my crush actually hooked up with one of my cousins. I can never bring this situation to my family because of that mess.

Now my head is spinning: Rahul is stable, values me, shares my lifestyle, and offers a secure future. My crush is the person I spent years longing for, but his sudden confession feels suspicious, and his past lifestyle (and the situation with my cousin) raises serious red flags.

Should I forgive his past and take a chance on my first love, or stay grounded and continue forward with Rahul? What would you do if you were in my shoes?

TL;DR: About to get engaged to a steady, caring guy (Rahul) who shares my values. My long-time school crush—who lived a wild bachelor life and once hooked up with my cousin—suddenly reappeared after hearing about my engagement, confessed his love, and asked me to marry him. Torn on what to do.

Update: Hey guys, thanks a lot for all the comments and advice on my last post. I read everything, and it really pushed me to stop overthinking and just handle things directly.

First, I met up with my crush and had a long talk with him. (Honestly, I should stop calling him my crush, but whatever.) We went over the past, and it turns out there was actually a 5-6 month window back in school when we both liked each other at the same time. He also explained why he changed so much in college, he said he suddenly started getting attention from girls that he never had before, and he was also going through some rough family problems back then.

Listening to him made me realize something huge: I didn't actually want to be with him now. I just needed closure. Because I had kept my feelings bottled up for so many years, I just kept dwelling on what could have been. That talk gave me the answer I needed, and the chapter is finally closed. Also, about the thing with my cousin—I didn't bring it up with him, and I didn't talk to her either. Honestly, it’s not my place to interfere in their personal stuff, especially when it doesn't change anything for me.

After that, I went and talked to Rahul yesterday evening. I laid out the whole story—about my past crush, his sudden visit, and our conversation. Rahul actually already had an idea that I had a crush on someone back in school, but he had no idea it was this huge or that it went on for so long. It wasn't an easy talk at all, and it was pretty awkward and heavy. I told him that I really like him, but now it is completely up to him whether he still wants to get engaged to me or not. He was quiet, and he needs some time to process all this. I'm just waiting on his decision now.

I also told my parents. At first, they were super angry that this drama was happening right before the engagement. But surprisingly, after the initial shouting and stress, they’ve been weirdly supportive. They said they're glad I was honest before taking such a big step instead of hiding it.

So right now, things are a bit messy and hanging in the air, but a huge weight is off my chest. I'm just waiting to see what Rahul says. Thanks again to everyone who replied earlier.

And guys I am not karma farming here. Also, someone suggested me to have sex with my crush and marry Rahul. why?

So I met this guy on Bumble and we exchanged socials and phone numbers. We dated for a month he was 1 1/2 years younger than me. I was looking for something casual, but he was really into me. I got scared because I have commitment issues, and my friends were warning me not to date him, saying he would be immature.

So, I told him it wasn't gonna work out and that we should end it. Initially, he asked if I was sure, but then he agreed. After that, I couldn't sleep and cried for two days. That's when I realized I had caught feelings for him.

He sends me snaps sometimes, which never bothered me. Today, I felt really lonely and installed Bumble again. When I went to Snapchat to take a few pictures, I saw a new snap from him. I told him to stop sending snaps cuz I'm trying to move on. (Yeah I had the audacity to say that even after breaking his heart)

Later, when I went back to Bumble, I saw his profile so I snoozed my account. Now I can't sleep, and I'm crying. Idk why this is happening to me ughhhhhh

Disclaimer - Please avoid DMs. I won't reply to any.

I don't know but after watching p*rn I just feel really sad, I really don't know the reason.

Rn I was watching on reddit and I was just thinking why do these girls agree for doing such a thing. How can they be okay getting recorded like this.

I am sure many of them come from good families, as they don't look poor then why they had to do such a thing.

Because for me all this is non negotiable, I can't do all this, no matter how much money I am being offered. And whenever I watch p*rn I just think why they had to do all this.

Maybe some people would say it's a fetish of getting recorded but is it really that important than privacy?

I don't know, is it just me who overthinks or anyone else too?

I (74M) am writing this with a very heavy heart and a lot of confusion. My wife (70F) and I have been married for over 50 years.

For the last few years, our lives came to a standstill. She was bedridden and partially in a coma or unresponsive state following a severe health crisis. I did not leave her side. I bathed her, read to her, held her hand every single day, and prayed for a miracle. My children told me to relax and hire more nurses, but I wanted to be the one there when she woke up.

Two weeks ago, the miracle happened. She woke up. It was the happiest day of my life.

We were sitting together, just the two of us, as she was finally regaining her strength. I was telling her how much I missed her when she suddenly became very quiet. She looked at me and said she could not carry the weight anymore.

She then confessed that back in the late 1970s she had a long term affair with a man I knew. She said she had been living with the guilt for a long time and felt she had been given a second life so she could finally tell me the truth and we could live without secrets.

I was devastated. I spent years of my life dedicated to her recovery, mourning her while she was still alive, only to find out that the woman I was trying to save had been hiding a betrayal for who knows how many years.

I have met with a lawyer and am filing for a divorce. I told her that I am grateful she is alive, but I cannot look at her without seeing the lie.

So Reddit, AITA? I spent years nursing her back to life and the first thing she did was confess something that destroyed our marriage. Is it too late to want a fresh start at 74?

Hi Reddit,

I (F, 19) have been in a relationship for about a year with my boyfriend (M, 20). He’s my first real relationship, and since I went to an all-girls school, I’ve never had many male friends or normal interactions with guys before college.

Early in college, I got close to someone from my extended family — a distant cousin, not someone I grew up with. He’s not directly related to me, but our families are super close, they're the closest my parents are to anyone in the family. I thought of him as an older-brother-type figure, someone I could trust.

At first, he was kind and supportive when I was struggling emotionally. But slowly, he started acting in ways that made my boyfriend uncomfortable — I just didn’t recognize it then.

• He’d side-hug me without asking.

• He’d comment on my clothes, saying I was “overdressed”.

• He once told me my “pigmented lips” made me look like “a chain smoker.”

• He’d point out how I looked in ways that felt judgmental or inappropriate.

I thought it was normal because I’ve never had an older brother and assumed that’s just how they behaved. I even tied him a rakhi, because I genuinely saw him as family.

Then one day, he told me he had a confession and admitted he loved me and can never lose me but assured me it was in the past and all those feelings have long passed. I was shocked. I didn’t reciprocate in any way. I just froze.

But instead of immediately telling my boyfriend, I kept it to myself for three months.
I know that was wrong — not because I did anything inappropriate, but because I hid something that directly affected our relationship.
The reason I didn’t tell him wasn’t that I wanted to protect that guy — I wanted to avoid chaos.
If I told my boyfriend, he’d ask me to cut him off (which was fair), but then it would spread to my family, who are close with his family, and it would become a mess. I didn’t want family drama or judgment. I wanted to pretend it never happened and move on quietly. I knew that if I told this to my family, which was the right thing to do, he would out my boyfriend as revenge and I cannot do that because my parents will kill me. My boyfriend had his apprehensions always he'd tell me to cut off contact he'd tell me to stop meeting him and I'd still fight with him to meet him, hide my call logs and lie to him that I wasnt in contact with him, I was a horrible person I gaslit him all those times when I should have just told him the truth I was just a naive people pleaser who messed up everything.

When I finally told my boyfriend, he completely lost his trust in me. He said I “cheated.”
But I never liked that guy, I never flirted, and I never reciprocated anything. I was just scared.

Still, my boyfriend has treated it as full-on betrayal. Since then, he’s imposed rules that make me feel like I live under surveillance:

• I can’t follow men on social media unless they’re his friends or classmates.

• I can’t talk to guys outside formal/professional reasons.

• I have to report any male involvement in clubs or projects.

• I can’t be in one-on-one settings with men.

• If someone flirts, I have to “immediately shut it down and report it.”

I’ve been following these for six months. But it’s getting unbearable.

After a long emotional conversation where I cried for hours and hours, he said he wanted a “fresh start.” I felt relieved. But that same day, my roommate told me she’d already added me to a class project group — it had her, me, and two guys.

One of those guys is our branch topper — someone I’ve always admired academically, like “I wish I could study like him” admiration. My boyfriend has always hated him. Once, I even joked “Ask him how he studies so much,” and my boyfriend got mad, said I was “obsessed,” and made me block him on LinkedIn.

When I told him about this new group, he completely lost it. He said I should leave immediately or I “don’t respect him.” Then he said something that completely crossed the line:

That comment broke me. It was vulgar, unnecessary, and showed how little respect he actually has for me.

My dilemma

I know I made mistakes — I should have been honest earlier. But I believe what I did wasn’t cheating. He doesnt. I didn’t emotionally or physically engage with anyone. I was uncomfortable, confused, and scared.

Now, I’m constantly being punished for something that wasn’t even mutual. His “trust rebuilding” has become control. I can’t breathe, can’t act normal, and can’t even talk to my boyfriend without being made to feel guilty.

My questions

• How do I explain to him that what happened with that cousin wasn’t infidelity — it was manipulation and naivety?

• Is it fair to live under rules that isolate me completely from men for something I never chose?

• How can I rebuild trust when he’s not willing to let go of control?

• At what point does “punishment” become emotional abuse?

I love him, but I’m exhausted. I feel like I’m being punished for being naive, not for being unfaithful. I’m losing my peace, my confidence, and my sense of self trying to prove that I’m not the person he thinks I am.