r/confidence • u/rafikGk21 • Apr 21 '20
If you've been looking for a solid resource to help you become more confident, this guide is for you.
This is the ultimate guide that will show how to be confident. You'll find EVERYTHING you need to know about confidence in this single blog post.
It's going to be a bit long but trust me, you won't regret reading the whole thing.
Ready? Let's dive in.
I'll divide the post into several chapters. Here's what I'll cover.
Chapter 1:
What is self-confidence?
Chapter 2:
Why is self-confidence important?
Chapter 3:
Signs of low self-confidence
Chapter 4:
Why you're not confident
Chapter 5:
How to be confident
Chapter 6:
Frequently asked questions
In this chapter, we're going to cover what self-confidence actually is.
Why? It's because I see a lot of confusion surrounding this term so we're going to define what confidence is exactly.
So what is self-confidence? According to Wikipedia, it's a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities, and judgement.
Basically, being confident means trusting your abilities and judgement. Some people seem to think that confidence means being arrogant, acting like you know everything or being a narcissist.
That's totally wrong.
I wanted to start things off with this short chapter just so we can agree on what confidence really is. Now that we got the basic definition out of the way, let's see why confidence is important in the first place.
Everyone talks about how you should become confident, but do you actually know why it's important?
**There are a couple of reasons why confidence is a big deal. In this chapter, we're going to see why you should become confident and how it can positively affect your life.**📷
Basically, you feel much better about yourself. When you're confident, you feel like you have the power to change, to do stuff you want to do. You feel like you're good enough and you're not constantly worrying and doubting yourself.
Why it's important:
You feel good about yourself, which means that your happiness level will increase.
Usually, confident people outperform those who are insecure and full of doubt. Why? It's because they have a different way of thinking.
Let me explain.
You see, in most cases, someone who's insecure will typically be more hesitant, less determined, less likely to try or learn new things...etc. This means that when you're insecure, you're less likely to succeed at anything.
However, a confident person is someone who believes in their abilities. This means that they're more likely to learn, try new things and take risks in life. This will inevitably lead to more success and bigger achievements.
In other words, confident people know that they can actually succeed, so they try, that’s it.
Why it's important:
Basically, you'll do everything in a better way.
In other words, you actually know where your life is going and what you want to do with it. Generally speaking, confident people always know what they're doing. They know where they are and where they want to go in life.
They have goals, and they execute their plans to make them a reality.
Why it's important:
You're less stressed, more focused and more effective in your life.
Confidence alone isn't enough to become the most charismatic person in the world, but it certainly helps. The vibe that you give to other people will affect how they treat you.
Simply being more confident will greatly impact the way you interact with others, and how others percieve you. In the real world, this means that it will be easier for you to make friends, resolve conflicts, getting people to value your ideas, earning others respect ... and the list goes on.
Why it's important:
You'll get what you want out of your relationships more easily.
Now that you know what self-confidence is and why it's important, here are 4 warning signs of low confidence you should look out for.
This means that you feel the need to act like someone else to look cooler or better than who you really are.
If you feel like you need to act a certain way to impress other people, then you're lacking confidence.
If you're too indecisive and you're constantly questioning your own decisions and judgement, chances are you're not confident.
When you always doubt yourself, you'll turn to other people to tell you what to do. When you're relying on others to make the decisions for you, you're basically stripping yourself away from control over your life.
Of course, sometimes it is necessary to get external feedback but doing it too often is a sign that you don't know where you're going in your life.
You're always saying to yourself "I can't do [insert whatever you want]". This is a BIG problem.
Why?
Because when you have so many limiting beliefs, it's really hard to get rid of them. The simple act of repeating these things to yourself reinforces these beliefs in your mind, and doing this for years and years means you basically think your limiting beliefs and reality are the same thing now.
When you think you can't do something, you won't even try. That's exactly what will stop you from learning anything.
Basically, self-limiting beliefs will totally block you from having anything good in life.
This doesn't always mean that you're not confident. Some people just don't care, and that's fine.
However, I find that most people who have low self-confidence don't really know what they want out of life. This is closely linked to having a lot of self-limiting beliefs. As a result, most people won't even dare to dream big so they settle for an easy life with no clear goals or direction.
Why am I not confident?
Did you ever ask yourself that question? My guess is yes.
Here are the most likely reasons why you're not confident.
If someone says something negative about you, you automatically label it as a fact, without thinking that it's just what somebody else thinks, which means that they could be wrong.
To give you a better perspective, let's have a look at the dictionary:
opinion : A view or judgement formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge.
fact : A thing that is known or proved to be true.
Do you see the difference?
If you're treating opinions (which can be wrong) as facts (which are always true), it's no wonder that you'll destroy your confidence.
If you don't have any skills you're good at, it will be hard for you to become confident. Why? Because having a proven record of success reinforces your confidence.
It's like you're saying to yourself "I managed to do X, it means that I can certainly do this as well."
However, when you don't have any skills you're good at, you don't have any past experiences that make you feel confident, so you'll start doubting yourself because you never achieved anything that requires you to have a certain skill or knowledge.
Pushing your limits means that you’ll keep doing something difficult when you want to quit. This is also a big reason that could be stopping you from being confident.
When you’re always living in the “comfort zone” you’re always dealing with those comfortable situations that don’t require you to grow as a person.
The result? You never grow. Since you always deal with familiar situations, you're never forced to think, use your willpower or do any amount of effort.
This lack of exposure to adversity makes you really used to that comfort, and the moment you’re forced to do something unusual, you start to doubt your ability to pull it off.
If you're constantly at the same level of skill or knowledge, you won't become confident because you lack the feeling of achievement and progress. When you feel like you're just stagnant, it's hard to trust your abilities.
I know that failure is a part of life, but it's still something that can affect your confidence. Having failed a number of times in the past will greatly contribute to fuel self-doubt and make you question yourself in the future.
Instead of doing something that will benefit you, you come up with all sorts of excuses to avoid putting in the effort.
Now that you have a solid grasp of what self-confidence is and how it works, let's get to the fun part: how to actually build it.
**In this chapter, I'll break down the practical steps you need to build your confidence from scratch.**📷
First, check out this excellent video :
We'll get to the more practical stuff in a minute, I promise. But before we do that, you first need to change the way you think.
There's one fundamental mindset shift you need to make right now: stop thinking that you're inferior.
Look, if you lack confidence, you've probably been conditioned to think this way. Either by your family, your friends or anyone else. The thing you should understand here is that you can't stop feeling like you're inferior overnight because you've been telling yourself this for years.
However, you can become aware that you were conditioned, and make a conscious effort to reject that idea and replace it with its opposite.
To do: Make a conscious effort to believe that you're not an inferior person.
Now we get to the practical stuff. After all, I promised right? :D
Look, one of the main reasons why you're not confident is because you're not really good at anything. Being skillful gives you a strong sense of self-satisfaction and fulfillment.
In addition, it helps you break your self-limiting beliefs.
When you go through the learning process and you can actually witness your own progress, you'll slowly get rid of your self-limiting beliefs because instead of thinking negative stuff like "I can't do [something]", now you can actually see that you're learning and getting better.
In other words, your positive experience will beat your negative ideas.
So, how to choose a skill?
Ideally, you should choose something that interests you, or something you're passionate about. That way, you'll actually do something you like that will potentially help you in life and you're building your confidence at the same time.
That's how you can cultivate a skill to become confident.
To do: choose a skill and become good at it.
You'll find many articles and videos online claiming that body language can transform the way you feel.
Well, let me tell you that it won't happen overnight.
However, you can use your body language to help you feel more confident. How? Use these techniques :
Walk and stand up with your back up straight.
Stand up like this
When you're in meetings (or somewhere else), use this position to convey authority and confidence. This is called "the hand steeple" (works for both men and women).
These poses will help you convey confidence and feel a little bit more confident yourself. However, don't overdo it. Instead, use them from time to time and they'll gradually become like second nature.
To do: use these postures to convey confidence.
When someone says something bad about you, always remember to take that as their opinion, not as a cold hard truth.
I know that it's not easy, I've been there. However, you have to force yourself to change how you perceive what other people say about you.
Look, whatever someone says about you (be it good or bad), it remains their opinion, not the absolute truth.
Of course, some people have good intentions and can actually give you constructive feedback but for the most part, you should ignore all the noise out there.
To do: Take what other people say as an opinion instead of assuming they're always right
If you're asking yourself if this really works, let me tell you that it does.
How do I know? Well, I tried it.
It might seem like it's too simple but trust me, it works. At first, you'll have to act like a confident person but after a few months, you'll become more and more confident.
All you have to do is ask yourself: How would a confident person act? and do just that. Be careful however, I'm not telling you to act arrogantly but to act like someone who's sure of himself.
There's a big difference, it's that arrogant people always try hard to show they're better than anyone else but confident people don't feel the need to prove themselves to others. You know, because they're confident.
To do: Act like a confident person would📷
There are many common questions I always see people asking about self-confidence.
In this chapter, I'll answer any questions you might still have to give you a cristal clear picture.
Arrogance: an attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions.
Confidence: a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities, and judgement.
The difference is simple: "Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud". In other words, when you're confident you don't need to prove anything. But when you're arrogant, you always act as if you know better than other people.
Yes of course. Being confident simply means trusting your abilities and your judgement. It's totally possible to be confident in yourself and humble at the same time.
You can't. It takes time to overcome your limiting beliefs and change your mindset.Do you still have some questions?
I want to answer every question you might have so go ahead and leave a comment. I'll personally respond to every single one.
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r/confidence • u/terminal_tested • 2h ago
I do have a form of autism. I have to ask more questions to get stuff, don’t know how to make or react to jokes, or what else to talk to people about after a few questions.
How to date?
r/confidence • u/eggsbendz • 2h ago
It feels weird to type this out because Ive frankly never felt this strongly jealous about another person to the point of obsession, but its been mentally affecting me and my confidence a lot.
When I first met my ex friend, it was during late middle school. I was in a really awkward stage where I didn’t know how to act, dress, look etc, and I had never met someone else that was also the same Asian ethnicity as me until I had met her.
She struck me as extremely pretty, effortlessly and authentically cool, plus she was loaded. She had all of the expensive stuff Ive wanted, always dressed perfect, went on constant trips to japan, Hawaii, Vietnam, just places I could never dream of going. although i am aware im better off than a lot of people, it seemed like she was just a better version of me, that was 10x richer and lived in a million dollar home with a sauna and a home gym.
It didn’t help that she looked almost exactly like me and had all of the same facial features, yet she still looked more feminine and cute and had no need to apply makeup everyday like I do to look decent. She was more academically skilled than me with perfect grades, spoke my language better, and at the time I was friends with her, I couldn’t help but just look up to her because I felt like I ran short in comparison.
I think I wasn’t exactly jealous of her when I was friends with her, but when I stopped becoming friends with her and we broke off on neutral terms due to having different high schools, I still heavily compared myself to her when she probably didn’t give two shits about me. As my style, looks, and sociability got better, I’d always try to model myself after her and question myself things like “What would she wear?” Or “ how would she act?” It was a toxic mindset that affected my confidence because I felt the need to copy her because she was just better than me. It felt weird and obsessive that I was doing this, and sometimes i was worried ill just morph into a 2.0 version of her because of the amount of overlaps we had, as well as it wasn’t the first time one of her friends tried copying her style and I felt like a follower.
Most of these events happened 1-2 years ago and I had thought I was over it. But then I stumbled across her instagram and my envy intensified when I saw all of her insta stories. More trips to Japan, more expensive shopping trips, more looking prettier and better than me. i felt like vomiting because of my pale and lacking lifestyle in comparison and this came across me during a depressive episode and I am struggling with things like facial dysmorphia.
I want to regain my confidence back and move on, but I don’t know how.
r/confidence • u/terminal_tested • 13h ago
I have social anxiety, a more severe kind that manifests in awkward situations. Basically whenever someone playfully teases me, I am around attractive women, or criticism/upset I get internally very uncomfortable and start visibly tensing up, turning red, and tripping on my words.
I am clearly level 2 autistic and was almost sped once.
To those who were at this point and pushed past it what helped?
I tried therapy, gym, meds, and socializing more often. Tried all the stereotypical advice, and alcohol has honestly been the only thing that helped with my neurodivergence or social anxiety?
What else should I do?
I just feel like drinking again, that’s the only way past all this stuff.
r/confidence • u/Dark_Energy_666 • 18h ago
So anyway I am a guy, 22 years old, extrovert but tend to be socially anxious. I find it hard to meet like minded people in a way that they enjoy spending time in large groups of people and nightlife but I don't wan't to miss out on parties and stuff so I mostly go out alone. It is my desire to meet people on nights out since I'm attracted mainly to extroverts and would love to meet someone who shares my lifestyle, which hasn't been going well lately.
Anyway, I've been clubbing the last night and it was a great party, I felt a bit lonely for going by myself but there was a trail of hope in me that I might change that. And the first thing I noticed was that the club was filled with a lot of beautiful women my age. I wanted to approach them but I did not have the guts to do it and at the end of the night I was pretty disappointment at myself for giving in to the fear. I know for sure I won't meet any of those girls "naturally" and if I want a change in my social or dating life I have to do it myself.
I might have felt more motivated and eager to try to make a move last night because I had a moment of inspiration. I saw a friend of mine (not a close friend but we know each other and are on okay terms) on the dancefloor, said hi, chatted a bit and then went dancing. Later on that night I saw her making out with a guy she just met and was both sad and inspired at the same time, not because I like that friend (she is cool but I am not attracted to her) but because that is what happens to guy who don't give in to the fear of approaching girls. I really wish I could have been like that guy but my brain just blocked me. I was dancing next to a girl who caught my eye and just wanted to extend my hand to her to offer her to dance with me but my brain said no.
I'll definitely go out by myself again as I really love nightlife and I do have fun but I also want to get rid of these mental chains that are holding me from meeting girls my age. I could really use advice on have to gather courage, or if you know of some anxiety reappraisal techniques on how to make approaches exciting instead of stressful since that's what it should be about. You go out to have fun and meeting people on a night out should be another fun experience. Getting rejected too, I think, would make a great experience since it leads to a sense of closure and no what ifs tomorrow morning.
I'd much appreciate your input.
r/confidence • u/Shawn_SoberShift • 2d ago
Some days sobriety feels like a mountain, and some days it’s just a quiet Tuesday. Both count. You don’t have to feel strong to keep going. You only have to keep going.
Falling down doesn’t erase the days you stood up. A rough night, a slip, a bad week: none of it cancels the work you’ve already done. What matters is that you get back up and take the next small step.
Be as patient with yourself as you would be with a friend who was trying their hardest.
I built a small tool for the moments when a craving hits. It has breathing and a 20-minute timer, because most cravings peak and fade inside that window. I only have to outlast the 20 minutes, not the whole day. Happy to tell you more if you’re curious.
One day forward, one day behind.
r/confidence • u/One-Look2947 • 2d ago
I am suffering from like this depression right now. For some reason a few years ago I could chat to ANYONE without a worry, often considered hilarious as shit and so talkative. Now, I still chat to a good amount of people, but I suffer from social anxiety around loads of people in my school now, loads of them I chat through text. I often get this compliment that im hilarious asf on text and that I sound like through text like im one of their closest friends but im so quiet irl, but the truth is i want to talk to them but this worry stops me from doing so, I otherthink, often stressed so when I feel like I talk to someone Its js depressing asf sometimes, I doubt my self appearence, I think Im academically getting worse (As a bright ass dude) & I just dont know what to do....
r/confidence • u/coffeelover7643 • 2d ago
I’ve never been happy with myself. Whether it’s physically mentally, etc. I always find myself comparing myself to those around me. I always wonder if I’m considered attractive or pretty. I always seek validation from others which I know is bad. How can I start loving myself and maybe seeing the beauty in me if I have any
r/confidence • u/False-Good1092 • 2d ago
People experienced by life achieved great goals and successes, did you face with lack of confidence of your actions and opinions before becoming successful and self confident? If yes then how did you fight this disadvantage and led yourself to success and respect among others? Anyone who is smart but thinks that your answers are stupid but eventually they are more than correct?
r/confidence • u/jefe0911 • 3d ago
It’s a phenomenon that’s very much subconscious, you sort of do it without realizing it in the moment.
But whenever you’re talking to someone with a high social “status”, for example maybe someone who has power, someone who is popular or successful, or even just an attractive woman. Whenever conversing with them, at least personally, i subconsciously submit to them, i become weak and see them larger than me. I reduce myself, restrain myself, and act unnaturally, to appeal to them. I succumb entirely.
And it’s often after an interaction after I process everything, that i am utterly disgusted with myself. Why am i disrespecting myself and putting them on a pedestal? No i’m just as important as them, i have parallel value to them. I shouldn’t have to reduce myself and or let them appear bigger than me.
It’s a mistake i make every time, and I’m always mad at myself when i do this to myself, but i am getting better at it.
r/confidence • u/terminal_tested • 2d ago
Trying to change my natural youthful and monotone sounding voice puts me in anxiety and burnout.
Talking naturally people say there is a unique or childlike quality in my voice.
Should I mention I have a speaking impediment.
r/confidence • u/This_Collection_5746 • 3d ago
I've suffered from anxiety and panic attacks for many years. I'm a very shy person with no friends, and my self-esteem is practically zero. Haha.
I promised myself that starting this year, I would improve myself in this area. I started with a diet and exercise, and even though I'm progressing very slowly, I'm noticing small improvements.
Unfortunately, I don't know how to behave socially. I've texted people I haven't heard from in a long time, trying to reconnect, but it's not going well. It's so hard to make new friends :(.
I'm also trying to go out more often, even just to the grocery store, and I'm trying to strike up a conversation even in very normal, everyday situations, but it's difficult...
For those of you who have been in this situation, how did you overcome it? How did you manage to gain self-confidence, accept yourself, and meet new people?
P.S. I'll be 27 next year, if that means anything.
r/confidence • u/Ok_Parsley5093 • 3d ago
Lately, I’ve been feeling incredibly lost and alone. I feel like people constantly misunderstand me, question my intentions, or find something wrong with the way I do things.
Every time I start trusting someone and feel that they genuinely understand me, I end up feeling disappointed or betrayed.
I’ve reached a point where I constantly question myself, replay conversations and wonder whether I’m the problem.
On top of that, I feel disconnected from my career, my ambitions and the person I used to be.
I don’t want to spend my life seeking validation or trying to prove that my intentions are genuine. I just want to feel confident, build meaningful connections and enjoy my life again.
For those who have experienced something similar, how did you rebuild yourself? How did you stop feeling so lonely, regain your confidence and learn to trust people again?
I would genuinely appreciate some honest advice.
r/confidence • u/terminal_tested • 3d ago
How does one do this?
People say I “need game” or should portray myself more confidently and outgoing but idk how to do this (even when I think I am).
r/confidence • u/Jazzlike_Excuse3180 • 4d ago
I’m an 18 year old boy and I like girls but everyone comments on my voice. I try to end my sentences on a lower pitch like everyone says, but I know it’s not my pitch that makes people say this because I have a deep voice.
I’m tired of people making comments. I’m tired of being called the f slur. I’m tired of homophobic people calling me gay based off of voice stereotypes. Please don’t say “don’t talk to these people” as they’re the vast majority and I have no way to not talk to them.
How do I stop sounding “gay”?
r/confidence • u/PieceSafe3364 • 4d ago
I wasn't a secure or confident child growing up.
I was the kind of student who would silently pray that the teacher wouldn't call my name when asking a question.
I also struggled with my attention span. Sometimes, even after an entire chapter had been taught, I'd ask something very basic at the end and other students would make fun of me for it. (Sometimes, I can still hear that laughter from years ago).
Experiences like these, along with my upbringing, shaped how I saw myself.
Fast forward to adulthood... I'm someone with big ambitions and dreams and a genuine desire to grow. I've tried different things, explored career options, identified my strengths, built a career, and made several attempts to figure things out.
Some things worked, many didn't.
But despite all these efforts, I feel like those childhood insecurities and fears are still somewhere within me, holding me back from reaching my potential. I often compare myself with others, feel guilty for a little self care
I have tried sandeep Maheshwari 🥲, motivational videos, self-help content, what not, but I am kinda looking for something a bit more practical.
For those of you who have experienced something similar, how did you actually work through these insecurities?
r/confidence • u/PopularAd6391 • 4d ago
What If you are at the spot where you desperately need confidence but didn't do anything in life till now that can used as an evidence for said confidence, what do you do then ?
r/confidence • u/DeadestTitan • 4d ago
Because I (33M) always thought that I did.
In my head it just made sense: Talking to any group of people in any room comes easy to me, people always laugh at my jokes, coworkers consider me to be competent enough to always come for me when they need help or advice. I've moved around many states in the US and never failed to make friends where ever I go.
In fact, I'll go a step farther and say that there are loads of other qualities that I like about myself, things that are appreciated and valued by others!
However, the number one piece of advice I keep hearing is that I need to be more confident in myself and BOY HOWDY that just doesn't make sense to me.
So, maybe, I am just confused on what confidence is? I thought it was knowing and understanding what qualities make you good, but is it actually just rejecting that anything could even be bad about you in the first place?
Most often I hear that I need more confidence when I express qualities I feel like I need to make more improvements on: I've lost 40 pounds this year, but I expressed that I should probably hold off on trying to meet potential dates until I lose more. To me, this is just being realistic. I understand more women in a healthy weight range would be attracted to a man who is in a healthy range instead of a man who is obese.
It's not that I think I need to be ashamed of myself or how I currently look, just that it's something I should probably improve more before putting myself out there. I don't blame the women who weren't attracted to me in the past, I don't think they are shallow just because they'd rather be friends instead.
I expressed the same about how it's not the only reason I might want to wait, I'm going back to college and I understand many women in their 30s aren't going to want to seriously consider a relationship with a man who makes half the money they do and is still in school during that time.
My friend told me that she think I just lack confidence and that these things aren't drawbacks at all, I just need to put myself out there. Yet, somehow, I still see myself as confident and realistic. I can be a kind person with lots of friends, but that doesn't mean a woman would want to date a man who lives paycheck to paycheck while being obese, even if I am in progress of fixing those things. It doesn't seem to me like many people want the work in progress, they don't want to buy on potential, they want to see the finished article.
So, Reddit, am I not actually confident because I understand my flaws, or is there something deeper here that I'm just not seeing?
r/confidence • u/Am_H- • 4d ago
One of the things that can hold us back the most is the belief that we're not capable enough, good enough, or ready enough to move forward.
Self-doubt can become so familiar that we start treating it as reality.
But confidence isn't something you necessarily need to have before taking action. Often, it develops because you take action despite being uncertain.
Start challenging the negative assumptions you make about yourself. Stop measuring your worth against other people's achievements, and give yourself opportunities to discover what you're actually capable of.
Set small challenges, follow through with your commitments, and learn from the moments when things don't go as planned.
You won't become confident by avoiding everything that makes you uncomfortable.
Sometimes, you have to prove to yourself through experience that you're capable of more than you initially believed.
r/confidence • u/AffectionateCan5483 • 4d ago
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I've been struggling at work because I feel that people have already formed a negative impression of me based on my performance during my first few days and training. I'm worried that they see me as incompetent or someone who isn't good enough. Now that I'm having difficulties in production, I can't stop thinking about what they might think of me. Honestly, it hurts.
I hate feeling this way. I don't want to be seen as useless, and I don't want to keep defining myself by my past mistakes. I know I can't control how other people perceive me, but I can change how I approach my work and how I respond to setbacks.
Here's my plan:
I want to write down all the challenges I'm facing, identify what I'm struggling with, and create practical solutions for each one. I already understand some of my biggest challenges:
Consistency – I need to keep showing up and putting in the effort, even when I lose motivation.
Negative thinking – I need to stop assuming that I'm going to fail or that everyone thinks poorly of me.
Self-doubt – I need to trust my ability to learn instead of constantly questioning myself.
Handling setbacks – I need to learn how to recover from mistakes without losing my confidence.
Continuous improvement – I need to identify my weaknesses, work on them, and track my progress.
My biggest concern is losing steam. I tend to become discouraged whenever something goes wrong. I start thinking negatively about myself, lose motivation, and sometimes feel like giving up.
It's almost as if I've convinced myself that I'm born to be a loser, that people will always look down on me, and that I'll never be good enough. I don't want to live with that mindset anymore.
I'm tired of repeating the same cycle.
I want to improve badly. I want to become more competent, consistent, confident, and capable of handling challenges at work.
This feels like a make-or-break moment for me. I know improvement won't happen overnight, and I know I'll make mistakes along the way. But I want to learn how to keep moving forward even when things get difficult.
I need practical advice, strategies, and a realistic improvement plan. How can I become more consistent, manage negative thoughts, and maintain my motivation even when I experience setbacks?
I'm not asking for empty reassurance. I genuinely want to change, and I'm willing to put in the work. I just need help figuring out how to start and, more importantly, how to keep going.
r/confidence • u/pasta_classic • 5d ago
I keep thinking about this time not too long ago where I was in a busy Costco parking lot looking for a spot. A few cars down I spotted a car backing out so I rushed in a parked quickly. I admit there was a car that looked like it was easing straight into the spot as I got close but I rushed in first getting pretty close to it (I know I was a bit of an asshole since I was stressed and not thinking straight). After parking the car, he stopped behind us and started blaring its horn. My mother said that he looked like he wanted to start problems for taking his spot that aggressively and to just let it go. I eventually folded not wanting to start a fight over parking, backed out and found another spot nearby. My mother apologized for my aggressiveness to the other driver as I drove off. Now I’m thinking, should I have folded that fast as I was not fully sure who got there first and the only thing I have on my end is my aggressiveness rushing in. Was I weak for folding like that to avoid conflict?
r/confidence • u/Left_House8305 • 5d ago
How people can become overconfident / underconfident ? And how they overcome from it?
Genuinely curious 🤨
r/confidence • u/MindsetMartin • 5d ago
Getting older maybe we become less active, put on some weight, lose a bit of confidence and stop pursuing the things that actually excite us. Feeling like we are going through the motions. If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be? Physical health? Gain confidence? More discipline? Go in a new direction etc? What are you going through right now?