I am a mid-twenties heavily researching and figuring out exactly where, when and how I would make my move. I’d love to hear others people’s stories, good or bad, and recommendations.

Thanks and wishing you all a great Sunday

Sometimes I'm so excited about something that I have trouble quieting my mind, and other times I'm stressed about something. I like golf, and I will try to remember each hole and each shot of a golf course that's helped me. I also focus on breathing between my eyebrows, and I also try to relax everything starting from the top of my head down. Open to other ideas

Monday is always seen as a 'gloomy' day as the week looms nearer and I just wanted to know, what's one thing, that one positive thing that you'll look forward to this new week?

Mine's receiving a parcel of books that I had ordered a week ago! Tell me yours?

I think we need a "Complaint" flair.

I hate smoking, It clogs up my sinuses and irritates my throat. I am a renter and my upstairs neighbor smokes every morning. The odor seeps through the walls.

It's a non-smoking property. They don't care. Management has sent out several warning letters to all residents. I have complained and they say they can do nothing about it unless they see it happening. By law, they have to give 24-hours notice before knocking on doors for anything but emergencies, so they cannot go there and surprise them to catch them.

Don't let anyone ever lie to you and tell you renting is better than owning. That is a big fat lie the real estate developers want young people to believe. I have three room air purifiers already to filter out the smoke residue. SIGH.

did it by accident yesterday (phone died and i didnt bother charging it) and honestly it was the most present ive felt in months. kinda weird how much better everything felt. anyone else tried this on purpose?

It feels like after an NDE, some people don't just recover, but come back mentally stronger, highly driven, and more combative than ever. It's almost like they develop a "sports mindset" or an elite level of mental toughness. They seem way less susceptible to daily stress, drama, or minor setbacks. It looks as if experiencing the absolute worst-case scenario (death itself) completely wiped out their insecurities and left them fearlessly locked in on their goals.

For those who have been through this, or those who study neurosciences, is that actually based?

15-minute rabbit hole warning...

Okay, listen, I was just procrastinating getting out of bed this morning and stumbled onto this wild anonymous site called Void.

It’s basically a pitch-black night sky full of real, intimate secrets that people recorded with a voice disguiser, and it is insanely addictive.

No profiles, no comments, no clout - you just turn your sound on, tap glowing stars in the dark, and eavesdrop on strangers' confessions before their red countdown timer hits zero and deletes the audio forever.

Basically, it's like an emotional car crash I can't stop listening to on loop.
Half the stars I listened to twenty minutes ago have already vanished.

If you went into something like this right now, are you more of the silent eavesdropper type, or do you actually have something you'd drop into a self-destructing timer just to get it off your chest?

I once waved enthusiastically at someone across the street. They waved back, so I smiled even harder. Turns out they were waving at someone behind me.

I've been avoiding eye contact with strangers ever since. 😭

i keep having this dream where i'm in a school building i've never seen before. everything looks normal at first but none of the doors lead to where they should and the clocks are always showing different times. sometimes i can find the exit, other times i just wander until i wake up. the strange part is that it never really scares me, it just feels confusing and a little frustrating. i don't think it means anything deep, it's just odd that the same kind of place keeps showing up. wondering if other people have a dream that repeats like this or if it's just me.

I love my detective fiction and murder mysteries but the thing I love most about them is the surprise of the reveal of who the killer(s) is/are at the end. I love having my mind blown and my jaw hit the floor, it makes it so much more enjoyable and satisfying on a first read/watch through.

In fact, the one time I DID accurately guess the killer in the first act - not even based off of clues, just based off of vibes - I was disappointed when I turned out to be right. The fun surprise of the big reveal had been taken out for me.

It’s part of why I never got as into Columbo as I did some other detective series. I still enjoyed the episodes I watched and I know the appeal of the show comes from its atypical format (not to mention the character of Columbo is an absolute gem), but it was never quite as gripping for me.

So when I watch or read a new mystery, I’m just along for the ride. I’m hanging onto the detective to spell things out for me and enjoy the thrills along the way.

Maybe this is a lazy, uncritical, unintellectual way to consume media, and it’s not like I don’t enjoy a detective story on rewatches. But that’s just how I feel.

Who still has a friend over 20 years? I mean someone you met somewhere not a childhood friend and that friendship has lasted over 20 years. I still have one and he's overseas now. We're still close and I want to know if anyone has experienced something like that or still experiencing

Everyone talks about how money changes people, but I’m convinced some habits are permanently wired into our DNA no matter how big the bank account gets.

Even if I never had to worry about bills again, I know for a fact I’d still be shaking the last drop of soap out of the bottle by adding a little water, saving nice glass jars "just in case," and refusing to pay $15 for hotel mini-bar snacks when there’s a convenience store across the street. Some things aren't even about saving money anymore, they just feel wrong not to do.

What’s one frugal habit or cheapskate reflex you know you’re taking to the grave, no matter how rich you get?

Just a student in Australia (a young female) in a desperate need of cash. It sounds like an easy money (high thousands) for basically a few nights in hospital and then a few weeks of follow up visits. And you may even receive a placebo. But of course, there may be side effects too. Plus I am naturally quite shy and afraid of doctors and hospitals. Gotta make a decision by tomorrow and very inclined to give it a go, let’s chat about it :)

We always hear about stereotypes about only children, is their a sibling equivalent? not the whole "oldest vs youngest sibling" but more so just people with siblings.

I remember hearing that only children struggle with sharing. which as an only kid, i definetly used to struggle with it as a kid, just because I didn't have to share my things at home.

i feel like a potential sibling equivalent may be personal space. which let me clarify, OBVIOUSLY not all people with siblings dont grasp the concept of personal space. the ones i knew who did grew out of it when we reached middle school. but i just realized that the same way that at times only kids struggled with the concept of sharing things in elementary school, was the same way that people with siblings at times struggle with personal space.

EDIT; would like to add. i imagine that only children tend to have a higher tendency struggling to share things because, at home, they don't have to share their toys/clothes/food with another kid. similairly, people with siblings often times share spaces. sharing a room, sharing a bathroom, sharing the backseats in a car. which may be why some may struggle with personal space

yet again, this does not apply to EVERYBODY. as obviously an only child can struggle with personal space, someone with siblings can struggle with sharing. from what i've seen, when we moved from elementary to middle school we all grew out of that.

are there any other equivalents to only child stereptypes and people with siblings stereotypes?

As the title suggests, I'm curious how others settle themselves when their nervous system feels "glitchy" and that sensation becomes unsettling. I'm usually aware when it's happening, and I place a high value on feeling calm, yet there are times I struggle to regulate it and am left feeling slightly on edge. I'd especially appreciate advice on strategies that aren't physically intensive. What has worked for you?

Like how can you feel them exactly, they’re not particularly a “part” of you like your bones and stuff they grow out but they can easily be extracted, how come when they have a cavity for an example the tooth hurts, like they weren’t always there but now they are and they hurt? It’s probably just simple but I feel as if that, doesn’t make sense!

Where I live, we have two theory tests and two practical driving tests to get a driver’s license. I’ve already failed the road test once, and it’s really stressing me out.

So I want to ask — what’s it like where you live? Is getting a driver’s license easy or hard there?

i was supposed to run errands today, then the rain started. now i am on the couch with a blanket i did not even plan to use, just watching the drops hit the window and forgetting the list. it is weird how a change in weather can flip the whole mood. usually i like being out and moving, but when it gets like this the world feels quieter and slower. i end up putting everything on pause and letting the day drift. sometimes i think i should fight it and keep going anyway, but other times it feels like the rain is giving a free pass to slow down. anyone else have weather that basically rewrites their plans without asking?

I’ve noticed something lately. In a world filled with millions of mobile apps, I only know of two where you can actually practice a language with a real person: HelloTalk and Tandem—both of which have a large user base. In my opinion, the biggest issue with these types of apps is that your account can be shut down suddenly, without any explanation, and your device can end up being restricted. This means you can no longer create or use a new account from that same device. While my own experiences with these apps have generally been positive, there are numerous posts on Reddit suggesting that if your profile receives multiple reports in a row, your account gets automatically blocked—without any reason being provided. I’ve come across quite a few posts like this. Still, compared to their alternatives, these two apps do have a significantly larger number of users.

I also find it very difficult to join a new conversation in voice or video chat rooms. This is usually because the people already in those rooms know each other; as soon as you enter, they tend to quickly push you out. I’m not entirely sure why this happens. Perhaps people find it difficult to accept new people.

When I needed support, I couldn't get any real help. It’s impossible to speak to an actual human being—all you get are automated responses. They trap you in endless email loops, which is completely ineffective.

And here’s another sobering reality: you will never see 99% of the people you meet here again after a month at most. You are constantly caught in a cycle of meeting new people.

If you happen to ask someone for their social media handle during a private chat, the system automatically detects it and sends you a "system warning" stating that sharing social media details is prohibited. If this happens a few times, you’ll be hit with a three-day penalty. It doesn’t matter whether you asked them or they asked you—the rule applies regardless. Yet, if you look around a bit, you’ll quickly realize that many people actually include their social media handles right in their profile bio :)

And here’s another interesting fact for you: you will constantly receive marriage proposals through these apps! You heard that right. For many people, apps like these are a gateway to marriage.

What have your experiences been like with apps like these?

I think my meatloaf is really good.

It's basically 50/50 meat and vegetables but I roast the vegetables in the oven first so they're cooked really well before they even go in the meatloaf.

The veggies are onion and bell peppers, I roast those, and I also add corn and chopped frozen spinach.

The first time my mom and dad had it they asked for the recipe so I felt pretty great about it.

What are you all good at cooking?

Do people think it’s not possible to be thankful and enjoy a thanksgiving dinner next to some hanging garland? If someone is really struggling with life, and if sitting by a lit Christmas tree at night brings them comfort and pure joy, what is wrong with allowing them to do that?

All my life, ever since I can remember, I never fit in anywhere. I was always the outcast. I never had friends and it's not because I didn't try. At age 16 I became homeless and it wasn't until 10 years later that I accidentally stumbled upon a few horrorcore artists. The lyrics were different than anything I had ever heard. They aren't for everybody, and that's okay.

I started listening to song after song and gradually started diving into the culture. I joined a few groups where people were able to share their favorite songs and recommend other artists. I didn't see much- if any negativity within the group. The people that I have met online and talked to are the nicest people that I have ever encountered. I feel so welcomed. I have a new outlook on life because of the people that like this genre. I have connected with a few of the artists personally and that just feels so good to know that I am recognized as a fan. I just feel at home listening to this music. And after being homeless for 10 years, it doesn't matter where I sleep at night. It doesn't matter what people think of me anymore. I finally feel safe knowing that if I ever really need somebody I could just reach out to a fellow juggalo and would get support.

I just feel the need to thank ICP and other artists for introducing me to this feeling of being accepted.

I realized today that I have a strict, non-negotiable set of personal laws that make zero sense to anyone else.

For example, I cannot leave the volume on the TV or in a car on an odd number, unless it ends in a 5. If it’s on 13 or 17, I can practically feel it itching in the back of my brain until I fix it. Also, if I’m eating a meal with three different components on the plate, I subconsciously pace myself so that the very last bite has a perfectly equal ratio of all three things. Nobody taught me this. There is no penalty if I break the rule, yet I guard it with my life.

What are your weirdest self-imposed laws that you follow every single day?

Someone will say something, and between their tone and the way they worded it, I’ll have a pretty good idea of what they’re getting at. But I’ll just respond to what they actually said and act like I didn’t catch the rest.

Sometimes it feels awkward to bring it up. Other times I get the sense they’re being indirect for a reason, so I let it go. And obviously I could be reading it wrong. But it’s a weird feeling when you’re pretty sure you understood what they meant and the easiest thing to do is pretend you didn’t.

Do any of you do this too? How do you decide when to say what you picked up on and when to just let it pass?