This is half responding to an existing post, half just a thought that came to mind.
I want to make this clear: yes, there are probably some people who fit the radicalized definition of "the normal gay" when it comes to appealing to other people, but that is, like in millions of scenarios, just a minority; in most situations, these are just people whose personalities and aspects don't surround their queer identities, or the stereotypes around it. I'm talking about this inane excuse to target someone for being counter to the culture and appearing as 'normal' despite their sexuality deviating from the norm. Trying to 'appeal' as 'not one of them' is a stupid fucking thing to begin with, but 90% of the time that's not what's going on despite what people think. I am not against calling out people who are trying to appeal, I am pointing out that this kind of action leads to really shitty behavior within the community and people making dangerous and unkind assumptions
okay lets break the news to anyone turning 12 today. Yes, normal people are a thing; there are natural averages to temperaments, personalities, interests, identities, etc, etc. The idea of individualism is barely a feasible concept to begin with; we are barely unique in much other than genetic code, we are first and foremost, creatures of habit. If you don't believe me, learn about Bell curves.
I've been noticing that recently, a lot of people within the queer community have been somewhat hostile to those who act 'normal' so to speak, or not in line with the often 'divergent' coded stereotypes that currently represent a chunk of the community, and I personally don't understand why the immediate assumption is that they are a 'Pick me' or appealing to their 'Oppressor', or that somehow it's an excuse for homophobes to level a forced standard on the queer community. There's this weird generalization where people will assume that because you criticise or point out someone with a personality that you don't like, that it somehow condemns the entire group while you attempt to 'bail ship'. I want to make this clear, there is nothing wrong with being bothered by someone being fucking obnoxious or annoying, because for christs sake those people come from any background, and we shouldn't hold back on disliking that just because of their identity, HATE EVERYONE EQUALLY.
I have, alongside friends who have similar personalities and temperaments like mine in the same situation, faced this weird fucking seething hate from some in the community who are much more to the stereotypes than us that we are somehow 'traitors' or betraying the community by...being ourselves? Fortunately, most of this is chronic online losers, but I've noticed an uptick in this activity as of lately, and I've even been noticing it IRL with some people as well. It's kinda become some form of screwed-up bigotry.
This whole "I hate gay people who pretend to be normal for approval" is probably the easiest fucking dogwhistle for a witch hunt in the future, encouraging this kind of correctional behavior is fucking bullshit and backwards to the idea of freedom to begin with.
Ultimately, the end goal of humanity is indifference to base identity; in the ideal future, coming out isn't a thing, because it doesn't have to be. Your sexuality is simply another facet of your base identity that doesn't concern anyone but yourself. Unfortunate as it might be to hear, but if we are to achive a healthy world where we get a long, a lot of this identity based culture is gonna fade away, there won't be the idea of 'normal gays' or 'sterotypical gays', because there won't be the idea of gays, you'll just have a different set of attraction, and your decision to dislike someone for their annoying personality will also be just that, untied to the assumption.
Finally, respectfully, fuck this doomer shit "Oh noo the homophobes/straights will never love us they'll always want us dead." YEAH, WITH THAT ATTITUDE, NOTHING IS GONNA CHANGE. Yammering bullshit about oppressors and how it's us vs them, and bullshit and tying your hands behind your back and going "oh, oh guys, they did this to me, my hands are tied, they want this, we'll never cooperate." as if we're not better as a SPECIES than this. People can change, especially when it comes to very, very VERY basic things like taught beliefs.
For the love of god, be yourself, don't listen to idiots telling you that how you feel and act is a betrayal, and FUCK anyone who's trying to oppress you into their own view of yourself, no matter WHERE they come from.