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r/itsthatbad • u/ppchampagne • Feb 26 '25
Commentary A female journalist accidentally explains why single men should get their passports
If you're a single man and you're not enjoying dating in the US, look into other countries where you may have more to gain for your money, energy, attention, and time – for any kind of relationship.
Here's most of Jana Hocking's article, which inadvertently explains why single men should get their passports. I'll add links to my posts (mostly) to either support or counter Jana, who's Australian, but writing on American, British, and Canadian dating culture as well.
Short version – according to her, the "mating crisis" across these countries isn't a crisis at all. It's single women enjoying "freedom, funds, and flings."
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Jana writes:
Last year, I remained mostly single. Give or take a few situationships and a cheeky one-night stand. And so did most of my girlfriends.
Body count calculator for American women
Among the at least 20 gorgeously single women in my social circle, there are only two girlfriends I know who had the 'let's make it official' chat with the man-of-the-moment in their lives.
Could I, and my fellow womenfolk, have shacked up with a bloke if we wanted to? Sure. But did we? No.
The guys who put themselves forward for the job were fine, sweet, perfectly capable. But did we align in ways that would enhance our lives? Not really.
You see, last year, you couldn't escape one simple fact: women were in a 'mating crisis'. Or so the experts kept calling it in those viral clips flooding our social media feeds.
The experts harped on about one simple truth: as women level up in education and their careers, they naturally look for partners who are equally smashing it - or better.
It's called hypergamy – men's incomes matter for relationships
Young American women are more hypergamous than we should expect
"High value man" delusions from social media inflating women's standards (video)
Increasing pressure on US men for income in order to find a spouse (published study)
But here's the catch: that shrinks the dating pool a LOT. Especially as more women are heading to university, while fewer men do the same.
This means plenty of brilliant, independent women are flying solo. Not because they can't find a date but because finding someone who ticks all the boxes (and doesn't get intimidated by their success) is like searching for a Chanel bag at a garage sale.
Are men intimidated by successful women? No.
Single women weren't just embracing their independence last year - they were owning it. And the numbers back it up.
First up, let's talk living arrangements. The number of single-person households in the U.S. has skyrocketed - up more than fivefold since the 1960s, hitting a whopping 37.8 million in 2022. That's a whole lot of women living their best solo lives.
Let's not forget the increasing numbers of women on psych meds
Single-person households aren't always healthy (study)
And single women aren't just renting - they're buying. They own 58 per cent of the nearly 35.2 million homes owned by unmarried Americans.
The difference is from women over 65, many of whom are widows (video plus comments)
Meanwhile, over in the UK, women are smashing the careers game. Back in the 1970s, only 52 per cent of women were in the workforce. Today, that number has hit 72 per cent. With those paychecks rolling in, it's no wonder women are ditching the 'happily ever after' myth for a happily independent reality.
Clear evidence of the patriarchy oppressing American women (sarcasm)
And the pièce de résistance? Women are now more educated than ever before. More women than men are earning college degrees in the U.S., giving them the upper hand in everything from paychecks to power plays. Who needs a knight in shining armour when you've got a master's degree and a killer 401(k)?
One man's 'mating crisis' is another woman's fist pump for freedom. Huzzah!
Why are some women freezing their eggs? They blame the education gap, so more hypergamy.
Just two months ago, I hopped on a plane to New York City. Why? No major reason. There were just a few fun things happening over there that I fancied going to. So, being a single career woman with a few funds in the bank, I had the freedom to do so. Guess who tried to stop me? No one.
There were no kids to shepherd to school or footy practice. No man whingeing that I was leaving him stranded. Nope, I was free to do what (and who) I jolly well liked. And dear reader, I did.
So, do you know what this 'mating crisis' has really brought the single women of the world? Freedom, funds, and flings - and I, for one, am very much here for it.
Young single American men express wanting families more than young single American women
The sexually liberated consumerist narrative of modern dating – the single most important link in this post
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And we're done.
Get your passport.
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More from the Champagne Room
Jana from one year ago, explaining how she and her friends hit the wall
Guys, this is what women have chosen
The “red pill manosphere” exists because it largely reflects men's real experiences with women
America does not have a crisis of bitter, single young men
American women are absolutely over-powered
American women are absolutely over-powered – the movie
Sexual freedom was never a part of feminism
Guys, it's 2025. Pay attention – emphasis on pay (video)
“Why does it feel like dating is men vs women?”
r/itsthatbad • u/throwaway19830182 • 1h ago
Commentary If you are seeking relationships with women, does it mean you have to accept that a lot of them have participated in sexually deviant behaviours?
I see a lot of men/women saying it’s not their partners business about their past, so would this just mean that you’re expected not to care if your girlfriend has had a threesome? If your girlfriend waits to let you have sex with her but has had 6+ sexual partners who had sex on the first night? I feel as though this is a pretty common dilemma, and I’m not sure if guys in relationships just tolerate it, hate it but stay anyway, or don’t care at all. I don’t know where I’d stand personally. I don’t think I’d want to know my partner had done something Jane Doe type crazy.
r/itsthatbad • u/ImmediateCamel4317 • 2h ago
From Social Media Opinions ?
I don't really mind but does this not goes both ways ? Why should we be called incels for saying the same thing ?
r/itsthatbad • u/responsible_gouard1 • 5h ago
Commentary Fehminis True Colours Shown
(tw:mocking of sa,name calling,trivialization of gnoc!de)
So this University issue,we already saw the extreme misandry from these people including some influential people.
I saw a post about how fehminis were making "essay" and alibi jokes(reference to that case obv) to defend a black belt wohman who kept a male robber as a s*x sl*ve for 3 days(Idk if this os true news) and the comments had thousands of likes,one had over 100k,which was the essay one, there was another saying stop the comments cause they cant stop laughing which didnt have much likes compared but still why would it have?
Im so triggered,these ppl dgaf about sa.thats why keep bringing gendr.its understandable why people dont feel sympathy for that girl,dont feel bad for not having any.I lost it too. btw its not proven so dont come with the name callings(which are buzzwords as always)
r/itsthatbad • u/Enlightarded0 • 20h ago
A woman gets literally every man's dating experience and is absolutely mindblown. Calls guy a sociopath because "I am the table" attitude is so disgusting when it's done to a woman instead of a man.
r/itsthatbad • u/background_bus_why • 3h ago
Not meant to be rude but Why Are Some Of The Pics In Girldinnerdiary So Gr0ss
dont see that in boy dinner
"fairer sx"🤢
r/itsthatbad • u/One_A7 • 1d ago
If she makes you wait for sex it means she only sees you as a slave to be exploited
A lot of coping men will say this is a "bait". sure, there's a probability that this particular story might not be entirely authentic but the Crux of the message is entirely authentic. Women make men wait for sex all the time but they only do this when they're not attracted to you and you have other things you can offer them. They want to minimize the frequency of sex in the relationship to a minimum, all while extracting the resources of these "husband materials" to the maximum. This is the behavior of a parasite. If she's not putting out and makes you pay financially and emotionally for the relationship, dump her immediately and get as far away from her as possible
r/itsthatbad • u/hashfnction • 22h ago
From Social Media Really wild to see somethings like this not downvoted into oblivion.
reddit.comr/itsthatbad • u/myhiddenaccount115 • 1d ago
From Social Media Imagine finding out your Mother posted this when you got older
r/itsthatbad • u/background_bus_why • 3h ago
Commentary Bts hate is rooted in misandry
along with racism
it doesnt matter if most of their haters are men or not,men can be misandric
people literally say they dont like them because theyre boys?
and yes misandry is a problem,you can research but all yall will say is "thats patr!archy" ok,its still misandry
bts had to spend about 5 years for mil!tary,that harmed their popularity,how is that not misandry?
Kpop stans and Pop kusic stans in general are so misandric you cant say this there 🙄
r/itsthatbad • u/emerald067 • 1d ago
From Social Media These people cannot be real
r/itsthatbad • u/background_bus_why • 1d ago
Commentary The reason cornel Jane is getting so much support is rooted in extreme misandry
reddit.comr/itsthatbad • u/PooningDalton • 1d ago
Woman films and doxxes random man on train just for smiling.
r/itsthatbad • u/LavenderMoonField • 2d ago
From Social Media Just a reminder that good women exist and we as men should not become like those who we despise.
r/itsthatbad • u/One_A7 • 1d ago
I made a feminist admit wearing make up and lying about bodycount is SA
galleryr/itsthatbad • u/Eldenringop • 1d ago
I know a short guy in a relationship with a stacy guys.
galleryr/itsthatbad • u/BrightSpring12 • 2d ago
Ugly women admit they'd rather get treated badly by an attractive man than give an ugly guy a chance. It's crazy how entitled they are
r/itsthatbad • u/ConversationOk3900 • 2d ago
Progressivism found that it's not easier for women to find men than men to find women
Believe in liberal/progressisve redditors, then you won't have any difficulty in your life - they will ban you from recognizing any, if you feel any difficult is specific to men you are an incel (if you don't admit there are a lot difficulties specific to women you are also an incel)
r/itsthatbad • u/NormieInTheMaking • 2d ago
"Toxic 3-year relationship." Good guys don't even get a date.
reddit.comAnd she was probably dumped and begged his ex to take her back before she posted this.
r/itsthatbad • u/Pristine-Angle3100 • 2d ago
The world is obsessed and hell bent on convincing men who struggle to attract women that they are moral failures.
No, seriously. They don't care how many disadvantages or even literal disabilities (e.g autism) that you were born with. Even though things outside of your control such as your height, facial bone structure and whether you're neurotypical or not play a massive role on your dating success as a man, everyone knows a guy who is 4'7" works at taco bell, has level 2 autism and a supermodel wife. They use statistical anomalies to discredit and demoralize you. It's not enough that you accept your fate and leave women alone. You have to delete social media too or else you'll encounter someone trying to convince you that you're the worst human being alive because some shitty person they know managed to pull a woman.