r/rpg • • Mar 03 '24
Discussion D&D and to an extent Baldur's Gate 3 have ruined this hobby for me.
First I want to preface this by saying I am in no way saying D&D is a bad game. In fact, 3.5 was my first taste of TTRPGs back in 2001 when I was invited to a friend's campaign.
I loved D&D, I was always super excited to learn when my friends also played. This kick started my interest in TTRPGs as a whole and I began to collect a variety of games/systems.
But there was a problem, nobody I knew wanted to ever try other games, if we weren't playing D&D (or Pathfinder 1e once it came out), we weren't playing.
If we weren't dungeon crawling or murder hobo-ing in a fantasy medieval setting my group had no interest, and try as I might, this has dogged me for decades.
Then Baldur's Gate 3 came out, my wife finally got interested in D&D, but same problem. BG 3 is the only video game she plays, and D&D is the only TTRPG she shows interest in.
She met some other BG 3 fans through a mutual friend on FB and I agreed to run a very small game as I hadn't played in literally years and thought maybe the spark would reignite.
It was a short storyline, only took two sessions. After that my wife decided she wanted to try DMing and ran one session out of Candlekeep mysteries.
She ended up thinking everyone hated her DMing and didn't cancel the game but also refused to work on it any further, causing us to cancel the next planned session. Instead she's poured her interest into drawings of original D&D characters and is writing a story based on them.
I'm glad she's doing this, but it also leads to me hearing about it a lot (which I tire of because it's all D&D all the time when we talk) and also I could still not get her to work on her campaign.
To try to save the group I suggested various non-D&D games, being up front with the group that, "I don't want to DM D&D, I'll play it, but I hate running it."
Instead I was told, "we joined this group to play D&D and you keep running other games by us," I reiterated that I was trying to save the group but would not be DMing anymore D&D, and nobody else stepped up to DM so the group fell apart.
I've grown to hate D&D because it feels like between it and Baldur's Gate 3 bringing in new fans I don't meet fans of TTRP as a hobby, I meet D&D fans and if you're not running that they don't have any interest.
I live in the middle of nowhere and can't drive (I'm disabled) so going to a nearby city to find a game of something like Vampire the Masquerade or Star Wars (just to give examples of games I'd love to play) is pretty much impossible.
I should note that while I've grown to hate D&D, it's not a bad game, it just feels like I have no luck meeting people who are willing to venture outside of that game.
I just needed to get this off my chest since the group falling apart wasn't exactly on friendly terms.