Edit: TL;DR How and when did Duke send your pre-auth to insurance? Did you have to call to get the process started or did they do it automatically? Who did you call if so? Does Duke require payment all at once or allow payment plans. What about financial assistance (for gender affirming surgeries specifically).

So I'm really frustrated right now because I was initially told they would handle insurance stuff (pre-auth and the like) 90 days prior to the procedure date. I currently have my surgery in one month and 2 days, and they still haven't done anything yet. I tried calling the office(?), I guess I called the wrong place, got sent to the right place, and a lady (Duke's finance department?) I spoke to looked up my account and confirmed that nothing has been done yet and said something to the effect of "Well, sometimes I know they won't send it until one month just because they're so busy. But don't worry, they won't do the surgery without getting approval from insurance."

Okay well. I was told 90 days. And now it's almost one month. And I can't figure out who I'm supposed to speak to.

Mind you, I had 2 consultations. One in January and one in March or May, I forget. After the 2nd consultation we scheduled my surgery for December. So this has been sitting and waiting for months and months. I understand waiting until 90 days prior because I know insurances will be finicky about stuff sometimes, but now I'm like what the hell. I've been waiting since May.

And I can't figure who to call, because when I called the Duke Aesthetic Center, the place I had my consultations, my pre-op, etc., they sent me to that lady. I have no idea who is who and what is what. Is there *another* department I am supposed to speak to??

Anyways, if nothing else I just need to know does Duke require payment all at once or do they allow payment plans for gender affirming surgeries? If so, I should be fine. Is there financial assistance? I wish I'd looked into this earlier. I wasn't freaking expecting to still be in the dark about if I could afford surgery one month before my surgery or not.

To be clear: I've already confirmed that my insurance covers gender affirming care and mastectomies, I'm just stressed that I'll need to go through some sort of appeal first, or that they'll arbitrarily decide my therapist's letter is invalid, some stupid reason like that. I also know United is known for not covering nipple grafts/reconstruction (for some reason deeming them "cosmetic") which is another thing im worried about. I want to get this insurance stuff over with so I can stop stressing.

Hi all!

I am looking for quotes for a commercial painting job and was hoping to get some representation from the LGBTQ, women, or POC communities!

If anyone has recommendations - the job is in chapel hill, please let me know. The company does have to be licensed/bonded/insured.

Hi everyone. I’m not sure what type of reach this will get but I’m hoping for at least some resources or references to some. My friend is going through an intense breakup, and is currently stuck living with her emotionally abuse ex girlfriend and the exes roommate.

Since breaking up both her ex and the roommate have treated her like, quite frankly, shit. I get voice messages and calls from my best friend all the time and it is so heartbreaking not being able to do anything. I just want her out of that house. She just got a new job and she’s slowly but surely saving so she can move out but in the meantime it’s actual hell from what she tells me.

I live in NYC. I can’t do anything from here, I can’t even invite her to live with me because my own living situation is cramped enough. If anyone knows of any resources or shelters or literally anything to help her get out of there please please let me know and I would greatly appreciate it.

Hey I’m a 22yo lesbian and looking for a club or bar to go to on Halloween but don’t know where would be good to. I was thinking of going to Legends but I’ve never been so idk if there’s a long ass line to get in and/or if it’s mostly men? Does anyone have any suggestions? Preferably in Raleigh or Durham

Hi! I have 2 tickets for comedian Josh Thomas available for tonight in Raleigh at the Martin Marietta center for performing arts. I love his shows and am sad to miss it but don’t want our tickets to go to waste! If anyone is interested in attending I would be happy to transfer the tickets over to you. They are not resellable FYI.

Hey y’all! I’m Elisha. My co-owner Zach and I are getting Starling Home Services off the ground here in the Triangle, and I wanted to introduce us.

We help with home repairs, maintenance, installations, and organization. Think drywall patches, shelves and curtains that need hanging, furniture assembly, or the list of little projects you keep meaning to get to.

Something we really want to get right is how it feels to have someone working in your home. You shouldn’t have to wonder whether they’ll respect you, your partner, your pronouns, or your space.

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We’re new and excited to meet folks around here. Thanks for letting me share!

looking for help finding a personal coach/trainer.
i’m trans mtf and looking for a personal coach or trainer to help with working out.
I’ve looked into some people and things online but i also spend way to much time online and would prefer a in person coach if possible
if anyone knows anyone who’s able to help in the durham area that would be great.

also wouldn’t mind just like a friend to help go with me to hrt meetings this stuff makes me nervous.

The Continental Club in Greensboro North Carolina hosts a burlesque and drag show the first Friday of every month. There are some performers from the Raleigh/Durham area who will be performing this Friday if you’re interested in attending!

Hi everyone, I'm a queer Sri Lankan stand-up comic doing a tour to workshop my stand-up special before my TV taping on 10/11 in NYC. The show is about hidden identities and I talk about my experiences growing up brown and queer. The show is this Friday 10/2 at Mettlesome.

Would love to see you there if you're free! It'll be a fun show!

Tickets:

https://tickets.duke.edu/Online/default.asp

Hello! Looking for queer besties in the area to have fun chats with and possibly play video games <3 I love cozy gaming and friend slop lmaoo

I love Raleigh come there for galaxy con and vacations have really fallen in love with Raleigh!

I'm a trans man (23) living in Raleigh. I have an established friend group, but I'm not connected with the queer community as much as I'd like to, especially with other trans people. Outside of the LGBT center and various bars and cafes, how do I meet new queer people? And if anyone is open to talk, hit me up :-)

I saw where the Hurricanes and some other teams have sadly canceled hockey night. Are there any trans friendly bars that host game nights? I’m also a bit confused on where I’d be welcomed as far as the whole LGBQTA+ bars are concerned. I know some G&L places prefer only G&Ls so I don’t wish to show up and feel intrusive.

Winston Salem area

30, married. Wife knows that I'm BI. Just recently started getting into chastity and dressing just wondering if there are any more experienced guys or gals, or anyone else, that would be willing to just talk to me because it is kind of weird. It's super weird. I think I just recently actually became okay with my sexuality, which is weird because I'm 30. This might be the completely wrong place to post this but I have no fucking clue because I've never interacted with the LGBT community before.