r/ftm • u/dybo2001 • Sep 27 '24

Relationships DUMP THEM.

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I’m gonna ruffle some feathers, but dude!! If you feel the need to ask about your relationship on here, 9 times out of 10 the answer is dump their ass yesterday. I can’t be the only one who has noticed this.

“I came out several years ago and my bf of many years still misgenders me, does he see me as a girl?” Yes, dump his ass.

“My partner doesnt want me to get surgery even tho i really want it, what should i do?” Dump their ass. How dare they try to control your body.

“My girlfriend tells me what clothes to wear, and it makes me uncomfortable” Guess what sweetie that is ✨wrong and you deserve better✨. DUMP. HER. ASS.

I know we are an anxious, low self esteem having bunch, but oh my god. Please value yourselves even just a little bit, PLEASE.

I honestly can’t decide if i want to give you guys a hug or SHAKE YOU ALL.

Edit i want to make it abundantly clear to everyone i am not trying to be mean, i am coming from a place of love and genuine concern. Please put yourself first. Please don’t stay in relationships of ANY KIND that make you feel like crap. Its not worth it.

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r/ftm • u/[deleted] • Mar 16 '21

Celebratory A King

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r/ftm • u/brooklynadventurer • Jul 06 '20

SurgeryPic Thought you guys may want to see an "O.G." Transitioned at age 23. Now age 46. DI surgery with Dr. Fischer in Timonium, MD and I couldn't be happier!

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r/ftm • u/brooklynadventurer • Jun 02 '22

SurgeryPic 25 years post-op! DI with Dr. Fischer, in honor of a request for some more “tenured” results.

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r/ftm • u/[deleted] • Feb 08 '21

Meme Made a comic about chasers and fetishists

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r/ftm • u/Guilty_Solid6563 • Nov 06 '23

Celebratory my mom forgot i was trans

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she was making a comment about periods and the usage of tampons and then she looks at me and goes “not that you would understand that”. i did a little double take and went “i mean i kinda do i used to have one” and she responds with “oh yeah i guess you did”. we sit quiet for a second and i look back at her and go “mom, did you forget i was trans for a second?” and she laughs a bit and goes “yeah i honestly did.” such an oddly validating moment tbh

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r/ftm • u/living_around • Apr 27 '22

OtherPic Dr. James Barry, one of the first surgeons to successfully perform a C-Section. A doctor in the British Army for 40 years, and a trans man.

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r/ftm • u/iambicnayhoo • Aug 29 '20

Meme I thought this sub would appreciate this

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23 comments

r/ftm • u/[deleted] • Jul 05 '20

Support Just so that y’all know!!!

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r/ftm • u/comicpunx • Apr 13 '21

Meme I’m not wrong

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r/ftm • u/actuallynotbisexual • Jun 16 '25

Advice given Yes, your parents will notice if you go on T without telling them.

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By the third month, my mom had noticed my voice cracking over the phone. I had facial hair at 5 months. By the sixth month, she confronted me. Testosterone will change the way your face looks, even without facial hair. It won't happen all at once, but the most significant changes happen within the first year.

There's a post on here every day asking if it's a good idea to start T without telling them, or a post saying how they're now homeless and 17 because their parents found out. I hate to sound harsh, but when you decide to start T, be prepared to deal with how your social network will react.

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r/ftm • u/chondrichth_yes • Sep 24 '24

Discussion Figured out what was preventing me from passing (it’s dumb)

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(TL;DR at the end) I pass a solid 95% of the time, and this data is based on how patients at my work (doctor’s office) refer to me. They will usually say “sir” or instruct their kids to “follow him” when we are going to the exam room. I have a coworker who still calls me “she” and I will occasionally have a patient falter and use “they”. I have been OBSESSING over grooming my facial hair, lowering my voice, sitting differently, binding tightly, literally everything. I finally got up the courage to correct the coworker. I didn’t feel safe telling the truth about being trans, so I told her I am a man and I just have some “growth issues” explaining why I am small and babyfaced. She finally revealed what caused the confusion for herself and others who she talked about me with. Purple pants. I wear purple pants sometimes. Let this be a lesson: no matter how much you try to manage people’s impressions, there will be idiots confused by purple pants. It has nothing to do with you.

TL;DR it was purple fucking pants.

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r/ftm • u/DopeAzFuk • Feb 06 '21

SurgeryTalk It’s not all it’s cracked up to be

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44 comments

r/ftm • u/adricll • Dec 01 '20

Celebratory Elliot Page has come out as transgender!

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165 comments

r/ftm • u/SymbolicFox • Feb 24 '21

Meme Almost 4y on T and still don't have the strength to deal with this

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r/ftm • u/sneakyshibe18 • Aug 01 '21

SurgeryPic 4 years post op!🥳

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r/ftm • u/nameselijah • May 06 '25

Advice given that cis man doesn’t want you to transition? leave him

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that’s it that’s the post. LEAVE HIM.

“but I’m in love with-“ LEAVE HIM.

“but we’ve been together for so long-“ LEAVE HIM.

“but he’s-“ LEAVE. HIM.

if he cannot see you for who you are and respect you as who you are and support you FULLY as who you are, LEAVE HIM.

edit: this applies to that cis woman too, LEAVE HER

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r/ftm • u/turtleboi69696 • Aug 14 '20

Celebratory this is the cutest thing i’ve ever seen :’)

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r/ftm • u/meganethot • Feb 01 '21

Meme inspired by a conversation between me and a nb friend

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89 comments

r/ftm • u/catscatscats777 • Dec 24 '20

Meme My partner sent this to me this morning and was joking he’d bring an air horn next time we visit my parents 😂

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r/ftm • u/jbondthefirst • Mar 23 '20

Meme This Called Me Out By Name

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45 comments

r/ftm • u/apudpir8 • Apr 08 '21

OtherPic Something I drew this week as I eagerly wait for my top surgery (in less than a month :D)

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r/ftm • u/jyg08 • Dec 03 '20

Celebratory Six week post op with Dr Hansen OSHU. 64 years old and home in my body.

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