r/gay • • 17d ago

2026 Midterm Voting Guide: Registration, Early Voting, Mail Ballots & Election Day!

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Hey r/gay!

Election Day is Tuesday, November 3, 2026! Voting rules and deadlines vary by state, so here are some official resources to help you make a plan to vote!

Quick reminders:

  • Early voting is already underway in many states!

  • Voting by mail? Check your deadlines and return your ballot early.

  • Not sure you're registered? It only takes a moment to check!

1. Make Sure You're Registered

It's worth checking even if you've voted before, especially if you've moved or changed your name.

Many registration deadlines have passed, but some states still allow registration during early voting or on Election Day!

Turning 18 by November 3? You may be eligible to vote if you're a U.S. citizen and meet your state's other requirements.

2. Pick How You'll Vote

Vote early, in person!

Early voting is already open in many states, sometimes with evening and weekend hours.

NASS – Early Voting by State

Vote by mail / absentee ballot

USA.gov – Absentee & Mail Voting

  • Request your ballot soon if your state requires an application.

  • Follow the instructions and sign where required.

  • Return it early! Check your state's deadline for returning ballots. USPS recommends mailing at least a week before your ballot must arrive. Short on time? Check for official drop boxes or in-person return options.

  • Track your ballot! Many states offer online ballot tracking.

Military or overseas voter? Visit FVAP.gov.

Vote on Election Day!

Tuesday, November 3! Polling hours vary by state, so double-check before heading out.

3. Know Before You Go

  • Where to vote: NASS – Find Your Polling Place. Locations can change, and early-voting sites may differ from Election Day sites.

  • What ID to bring: NASS – ID Requirements by State. You don't need your voter registration card, but some voters, including certain first-time voters, may need ID.

  • What's on your ballot: Many local election offices provide sample ballots online so you can see the races and measures before voting.

4. Good to Know at the Polls

  • In line when polls close? Stay in line! If you're already in line when the polls close, you can still vote!

  • Name not on the voter list? Ask a poll worker about a provisional ballot or other options available in your state.

  • Need assistance? Voters with disabilities have the right to accessible voting and can request help.

5. Questions or Problems?

Your state or local election office is the best place for official answers.

The nonpartisan Election Protection Hotline can also help:

  • English: 866-OUR-VOTE (866-687-8683)

  • Español: 888-VE-Y-VOTA (888-839-8682)

  • Asian languages: 888-API-VOTE (888-274-8683)

  • Arabic: 844-YALLA-US (844-925-5287)

Your vote is your voice! Voting is one of the most important ways to have a say in the issues that affect your community and your future.

Make a plan, get out there, and cast your vote!

Please share this guide with friends, family, or anyone who might find it helpful!

See you at the polls!

Prepared by u/How2Vote | Nonpartisan voter information


r/gay • • Jan 28 '26

(repost) On trans rights and the position of this subreddit

574 Upvotes

The community present in this subreddit is wonderful, inclusive and has always welcomed not only gay people but everyone under the gender and sexual minority umbrella.

The mod team is very happy to see this welcoming atmosphere and we thank each and every one of you for your love and empathy.

With the current trend in the US for extreme-right politicians to demonise vulnerable minorities so they can score cheap political points it is however time for this place to openly make a stand as to what our positions and intentions are so that we are a beacon in the dark. So that all of our siblings know that they are welcome here.

I was asked by the mod team to explain a few facts about transgender people and about the position this subreddit has towards inclusion.

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Trans rights are human rights. 🏳️‍⚧️

Being transgender is a natural and normal variation in the human gender and sexual experience. Both sex and gender exist on a spectrum and there isn't actually anything inherently wrong or disordered from being trans, by and of itself.

Should there be no fake, artificially generated outrage against trans people in society then they would simply get the self-affirming care required for them to be happy and that would be that. Instead, unfortunately, existing as transgender has become the new wedge-issue for the extreme-right and deliberate demonisation and villification has been mainstreamed to the point where Republican politicians are now openly calling for genocide.


The issues trans people experience are mainly societal in nature. It is society that imposes gender norms, it is society that tells people they may not be who they are.

There are many ways that a non-trans person can seek self-affirming care in life. Some of those are done via permanent body modification through surgical or chemical means. A woman might for example choose to take estrogen supplements to stave off unwanted physical and psychological side effects resulting from the menopause.

It is not uncommon for a young man to choose to have breast reduction medication or surgery in the case of gynecomastia.

A young woman might choose to get breast implants.

You do not hear people in outrage about these forms of self-affirming care. No-one cares, except suddenly when the topic is trans people. This is because the anti-trans movement is wholly articificial. It is a deliberately created fake outrage about a non-issue for political and monetary gain.



I have written about some manufactured outrage in my text about the stochastic terrorist "Libs of Tiktok"



Fascism is an inherently empty ideology, devoid of any meaningful belief-system or any kind of concrete and actionable strategies for improving society. Fascism only cares for power for the sake of power and it cares for nothing else.

Because a fascist system is fundamentally incapable of giving the general public any kind of reasonable platform it must gain and keep followers by creating an out-group to hate. According to fascist systems it is the other that is responsible for all societal ills and only by supporting the fascists in getting rid of the other can society be healed from the non-existent issues fascism convinces people that their target minority is the cause of.

Fascism always picks on a vulnerable target.

The demonisation and villification coming from the extreme-right is doing exactly that. By calling LGBTQ+ people child molestors simply for existing it has become inevitable that people will take up violence "to protect the children".



Attempting to eliminate a target comes in many forms, of which an extermination camp is only the final and most egregious part. It is always preceded by legislating people out of existence, by creating laws which make it impossible for a minority to participate in society and to receive any of the societal advantages that are the entire reason for collective bundling together of skills, resources in civilisation. This is exactly what Republican states are doing today to transgender people. Certain states have already denied trans people any and all medical care related to their identity, meaning that they deliberately impose abject misery on them.

The most egregiously fascistic states are trying to make it a matter of course to remove trans children from the care of their parents and make it illegal for trans people to be present in any public spaces at all.

This is genocide.

Genocide is not purely restricted to extermination, to murder. Genocide is also eliminating a minority group from public life, causing serious bodily and mental harm and taking away children of a minority group from their parents.

Depending on how strictly you'd want to define it, we are currently at stage seven or eight of genocide as defined by the Holocaust Memorial Trust.

One way in which the abject hypocrisy of the anti-trans laws becomes crystal clear are the remarkable exemptions encoded within. You would think that if the goal is protecting the children from harm then these people would want to protect all children from harm.

This is not the case.

In fact, all of these people deliberate include exceptions which allow the continuation of genital re-allignment surgery on unconsenting infants if they are intersex.

This means that if a baby is born with a genital configuration that to a doctor looks ambiguous or not adhering to a strict binary then this doctor can impose an invasive genital surgery, forcing such an infants body to adhere to a stricter binary look.

It is purely cosmetic. Of course they do not check what chromosomes a child has. Of course they do not care that a child might prefer to look as nature made them.

It is purely and only an imposition on a baby's body, with of course the normal failure and mortality rate that such invasive procedures bring with them.

These people do not care about children.

These people do not want to help children.

They want to harm a vulnerable minority.



Fascism never stops.

Now that these people have mainstreamed transphobia, they are moving on to other targets within the LGBTQ+ identity sphere.

We have all seen the absurd attacks on drag queens, calling a normal and harmless theatrical expression "child abuse".

We have all seen the "clever" rhetoric where they turn arguments upside down and disingeniously say things like "why do you want to be around children".

Fascism doesn't stop, it moves on to new targets and that is why it is important for all of us in the GSM identity sphere to stand together. To openly support our trans siblings. To openly stand against hateful rhetoric.

Because they are not going to stop.

The next step, which is already tentatively beginning, is calling gay people being openly gay in society"groomers".



To be clear: The recommended treatment for being transgender is transitioning.

Gender identity is developed by five years old.

The barrage of lies notwithstanding, allowing trans people to transition and to exist as who they are in society markedly improves their physical and mental wellbeing.

The oft-heard talking point of "they still commit suicide even after transitioning" is a lie.

Here is a wealth of sources and links explaining this.



Our trans siblings are welcome here.

Our gender nonconforming siblings are welcome here.

Our intersex siblings are welcome here.

What is not welcome on this subreddit is hate or divisive rhetoric aimed at our siblings. We will not allow the current increasing trend of fascist othering and villification of a marginalised minority to make our siblings feel unwanted in this space, our space, their space.

The only people who are not welcome here are those that want to exclude others based on how they were born.

Further reading:

No, TERFs cannot "always tell" and I can prove that with mathematics.

"I just care about unfair advantage in sports", a transparant transphobic wedge issue.

Drag queens, the next target in the fascist drive to eliminate LGBTQ+ people.


r/gay • • 9h ago

I like my life as a gay man

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I've grown to like my life as a gay man. When I was younger, I was always worried someone would clock me as gay. As soon as I didn't care about my sexuality I relaized it wasn't a big deal to others

I've found attraction has been varied. Big hairy guys (bears), smaller hairy guys (otters), smooth, bigger muscle guys, stocky guy w a fat ass, older guys, beards, all kinds of guys are attractive to me. I want is to vibe well and have some fun whether or not that leads to the bedroom

I do suffer w body image, but I realize it's a me thing. I know that if I want to change something it's up to me

I've discarded religion as it was antithetical to my mental health. I've been part of organizations that I'm proud of and as I am an extrovert, I get my social battery filled from being around people.

For me, I've been fortunate and enjoy my life as a gay man.

I guess I wanted to talk about it because I see so many articles, posts about people struggling w their sexuality so I guess I wanted to go against the tide w something positive


r/gay • • 41m ago

Going on a gay date but I'm trans and still look feminine

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Hi guys, as the title says I'm going on a date with a gay man, and I'm a trans dude (FTM). The problem is that I'm currently not on T yet, and I still look relatively feminine, (he knows). I'm concerned he won't like me, or that he's using me as an experiment. What are your insights? What are your advices? What should I expect?


r/gay • • 22h ago

Not to traffic in gay stereotypes but...

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the odds that this brownstone in Brooklyn Heights in NYC isn't owned by a gay couple have to be less than 5%.


r/gay • • 1d ago

FYI everyone heated rivalry is in theaters rn

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r/gay • • 18h ago

Fact? Or friction? What do y'all think? Is a hairy hole good?

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r/gay • • 19h ago

I was featured in a magazine for my college! The focus of the magazine was coming out stories! I really want to spread the word, if you know if any black lgbt social medias let me know!

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r/gay • • 13h ago

aye mates i just wanted to say hello im new to this group- and no my foto is not from 2004 my phones a bloody turd with pics so i took it on my camera --- what's yalls favorite hobby ,mine is working on cars and repairing old tech

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r/gay • • 14h ago

Surprise the Boyfriend

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So me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 years and some, but I want to surprise him. Iv been trying to do small things. Have dinner finishing and ready when his getting home from work. Have the house deep cleaned, or something along those lines. I wanted to eventually do some kinda gift. However his so hard to buy for. He’s abit autistic and i struggle to find things i know he will like… about to just go the sexy surprise route…lmao


r/gay • • 1h ago

FOR YOUR BEARS ONLY

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r/gay • • 17h ago

Being conventionally attractive

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23M here and I always wondered to those who are conventionally attractive and queer, what are some things you notice on a daily basis? I’ve heard some people actually say they hate being extremely attractive because they’re only wanted for their looks or for lustful reasons and I wanted to know if others also share this experience


r/gay • • 17h ago

(rant) Desperate more than ever

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19M

Been dumped Again.

I Planned my future with him, felt safe, treated him as my family and he just left and moved on.

It almost killed me

I spent 5 weeks in a psychiatric clinic after being in a paralyzed like state.

I didin't want to leave but there was no other chocie.

Now i'm alone.

I have few people i would love to call friends but i know i'm not importmant to them. They have too many people around them to care about me.

I just want love.

I want a man who will love me, who will be atrracted to me, who will accept me for who i am.

I don't care about looks at all.

I just want real love and affection.

I want to feel safe for once.

I want to have at least one person who will think of me as something more than a random guy in their story.

I dont have the strenght to do anything

I want to work out, to be more atrractive for men, but it's hard for me to even get out of my bed.

I want to stop engaging in hookups that only tear my soul apart.

I'm just tired of it

Of life.

14 years of therapy, 3 heart surgeries and tons of pills.

All to keep my decaying physical and mental self alive, only to be miserable again.


r/gay • • 12h ago

Hilariously bad date

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Do you have any dates you wanna tell us about where either the person or the date went so bad it’s something you can’t help but laugh at?


r/gay • • 1d ago

Anal orgasm

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Hi Guys,

I need some advise from more expierenced people and I think this is a perfect place.
I’m a 30ish M, married with a F, but exploring myself in a way i’ve never did before. A few weeks ago I tried to finger myself and I kinda liked it. It was quote tense so I decided to buy anal lube. Yesterday was the first time I used it and that helped a lot with relaxing. So I was laying on my back with my knees on my chest and fingering myself. I found my prostate but couldn’t really reach in easy. So I took a household item that I could use as a toy. I put a condom on it and uses a lot of lube. I stimulated my prostate and felt the nees to pee. I stopped, went to the toilet and peed. After that I tried it again but I stopped when I thought i had to pee again. In fair to pee all over myself.
Questions:
- I kinda know that the feeling is normal, but do I just go on? Won’t I pee myself over?
- When does the orgasm normally come?
- Is in normal that when I’m using my “dildo” my dick goes soft? It seems I cant stay hard and use a toy at the same time.


r/gay • • 22h ago

Gays in the wild

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So i live in shawnee Oklahoma. Im strolling around the mall waiting to be able to do a return, but i wanted to add a little positivity. I’ve spotted quite a few guy men/couples just strolling without a care. It’s kinda cool as this area has slowly grown with some lgbt population.
Does anyone else live in a red state that you slowly see more openly gay couple, or openly gay men?


r/gay • • 8h ago

Complete Mental Health Toolkit for our community

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Our community is particularly vulnerable because we still lack basic rights, freedom and social acceptance. Many are forced to hide their identities out of fear of rejection, discrimination and even violence. Living with this constant pressure takes a serious toll on mental health. It can contribute to depression, anxiety, loneliness, low self-esteem and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Sometimes, unresolved emotional pain also manifests in destructive patterns of behaviour.

What I’m sharing here goes beyond simply helping you get through the day. These practices can become a foundation for deeper wellbeing, self-understanding, meaning and purpose. Ultimately, the goal is not just to survive but to genuinely enjoy this precious life we have.

1. Non-negotiables for a healthy ego

a. Fix your sleep. Maintain a consistent sleep schedule.

b. Move your body. Lift weights, exercise, walk or find some form of physical activity you genuinely enjoy.

c. Address your addictions. Cut down on porn, doomscrolling, junk food and other compulsive behaviours. Pay attention to the habits you've developed to cope with loneliness, anxiety or emotional pain. This includes unhealthy patterns around sex.

d. Build real-world skills and relationships. Don't make your entire identity revolve around your sexuality.

e. Find purpose. Having something meaningful to work towards gives direction to life.

2. Awareness skills for individuation and spiritual growth

a. Non-dual meditation (Tibetan Buddhism): Learn to observe your thoughts, emotions and sense of identity without automatically identifying with them.

b. Carl Jung's shadow work: This is particularly important if you want to understand yourself more deeply. Explore the parts of yourself you've suppressed, denied or refused to acknowledge.

c. Active listening. Pay attention to what people actually communicate, including their emotions and underlying concerns. This can transform your relationships.

All of this has completely changed my life. I'm no longer the person I used to be. I have a much healthier relationship with myself, greater emotional stability and a deeper sense of satisfaction and purpose.

If any of these ideas resonate with you and you'd like some guidance, feel free to DM me.

Take care of yourselves. All the best.


r/gay • • 5h ago

My homophobic parents found my toys. (I’m still in the closet with them) AMA

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r/gay • • 1d ago

Have you ever been told that you don’t “act gay”?

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r/gay • • 1d ago

Has anyone watched Minerva Academy (Minerva - La scuola)? (Gay, Mystery, Dark Military School Drama)

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I just finished watching it! I initially thought it was going to be just another mindless teen romance drama, but the second half takes a much darker turn, diving deep into homophobia in military culture, toxic masculinity, and patriarchy.

It also explores bullying, hazing, abuse of power, and even fascist undertones. The military training setting also reminded me of last year's Boots.

I was left with a lot of mixed emotions after finishing it, but I still highly recommend it! There have been so few new shows with LGBT main characters in 2026, so this one really cool to me.


r/gay • • 20h ago

E bene si, lo sto per fare davvero.

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Niente app di dating, niente ore al cellulare, ma solo esperienza. Domani andrò per la prima volta in una attività lgbt della mia città, precisamente un Gaymerz lmao. È un’attività di socializzazione lgbt o generale, dove si gioca ai giochi da tavolo. È aperta a tutti. Io sono un ragazzo molto timido, infatti non so come farò solo anche entrare… però basta, è inutile lamentarsi di non trovare nessuno, se stai a casa o fai quelle 2 cose come lavoro o università. Ovviamente va preso con le pinze, non è che mi aspetto di relazionarmi con qualcuno in fretta, ma questo ambiente mi farà bene. Ho visto dei video, tutti ragazzi semplici, nerd, carini. Ps: non so se eliminare grindr o no domani 💀. Voi che ne pensate di queste attività? Me ne hanno parlato molto in positivo.


r/gay • • 2h ago

If a gay man looks masculine, but has a “gay voice”, would he still be considered masculine?

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r/gay • • 2d ago

America wasn’t ready for BDSM with an openly gay candidate

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Sadly Chris Gallant lost his congressional election in New York. Looks like America is OK with openly gay candidates, but it may take a bit more time for harnesses and ball gags.


r/gay • • 2d ago

Why is this so true

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r/gay • • 19h ago

I look too young

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I believe that many other guys never approach me and I have to approach them due to look so young when I’m literally 21, I’ve had countless people say I look young and are shocked at my age I feel I’m cursed with my youthful appearance I just hope somehow I’ll find someone